casii
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Post by casii on Apr 10, 2018 18:45:47 GMT
They are going in this afternoon for a frozen transfer. As those familiar with infertility treatments know, this was after a long succession of different treatments and disappointments.
I've been eating ALL the food today. Threw in the towel on productive work and am doubtful I will be much use to lead running group later. I can only imagine how they're really feeling!
I can't talk about this with a lot of family because they are against fertility treatments. And against adoption. Well, they are not in the struggle, so they can keep their yaps shut says this Mama Bear. Send prayers and positive thoughts for a successful transfer!
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 10, 2018 18:46:54 GMT
Keeping your family in my thoughts for a successful transfer!  |
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Apr 10, 2018 18:48:50 GMT
Prayers said.
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Post by destined2bmom on Apr 10, 2018 19:22:48 GMT
Prayers sent to your family and your daughter for a successful transfer.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 10, 2018 19:23:48 GMT
I agree - they should keep their yaps shut!
I wish your DD the very best of luck.
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Apr 10, 2018 19:23:50 GMT
Hoping for the best! hang in there Momma!
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Post by pudgygroundhog on Apr 10, 2018 19:29:00 GMT
Hoping it works out for them. *fingers crossed* and ((hugs)).
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Post by peasapie on Apr 10, 2018 19:33:17 GMT
I'll give you the lingo -- sending sticky thoughts to you!!
My daughter went through this and eventually succeeded. It's stressful all the way through, and all you can do is be there and be supportive. Their hormones and feelings swing back and forth, and moms of the couple are often the recipients.
We had family members who didn't approve also, and I didn't share info with them. I don't need their input.
Come talk to us (or pm) whenever you need to talk!
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casii
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Post by casii on Apr 10, 2018 20:12:14 GMT
All done, so now we think sticky thoughts (thank you Peasaspie!) and wait! DD feels fine and everything went smoothly.
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Post by cakediva on Apr 10, 2018 20:40:08 GMT
Sending all the positive sticky thoughts I can your way!
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Post by paperaddict on Apr 10, 2018 20:43:19 GMT
Sending sticky thoughts her way too.
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Post by scrappert on Apr 10, 2018 20:43:52 GMT
Sending sticky thoughts!!
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Post by River on Apr 10, 2018 20:45:21 GMT
Sending my sticky vibes her way! I'm so glad she has you in her corner while she goes through such a difficult and long process. My mother was completely against me doing IVF to conceive and it was hard not to have that support.
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Post by KelleeM on Apr 10, 2018 20:47:22 GMT
Sending all good sticky wishes!!
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Post by alexa11 on Apr 10, 2018 20:48:43 GMT
Sending prayers!
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Post by malibou on Apr 10, 2018 20:54:57 GMT
Wishes for a sticker.
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Post by dewryce on Apr 10, 2018 23:34:10 GMT
Lots of sticky thoughts coming her way! So, what marathons of the Netflix variety will you be participating in for the next 10 days to take your mind off of the results?
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Post by ellen on Apr 11, 2018 0:11:58 GMT
I hope it all goes well for her.
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Post by bc2ca on Apr 11, 2018 0:16:43 GMT
Lots of positive vibes heading your way.
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Post by kate on Apr 11, 2018 0:19:23 GMT
Oh my goodness, how exciting! Hoping you'll be back soon with happy news.  |
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Post by PNWMom on Apr 11, 2018 0:56:13 GMT
Sending sticky thoughts your way. I've been there/done that. Unsuccessful FET a few years ago, successful a few months ago. It certainly is a rollercoaster of emotions either way it goes. It sucks when family is not supportive. I've been pretty lucky, but we used a donor egg and there was a bit of drama over that idea at first, too.
I hope she's lucky on her first transfer and gets her take home baby!
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Post by Really Red on Apr 11, 2018 2:15:20 GMT
Hope things go well!! It sucks when your family is judgmental. Glad she has you on her side!
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Post by ~Sherri~ on Apr 11, 2018 2:25:50 GMT
Sending prayers for a sticky baby for your DD and SIL!!!
My youngest DD and SIL are finally expecting a baby after almost 3 years of trying. They were finally referred to a specialist and now DD is almost 8 weeks pregnant. She is dealing with constant nausea but so happy to be pregnant that she is grateful for the nausea.
I will keep you in my prayers also. I can only imagine how hard the next days will be for you. It is so hard as a Momma to watch your child go through infertility. I went through 3 miscarriages and am terrified that I somehow passed it on to DD.
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Post by AussieMeg on Apr 11, 2018 2:31:15 GMT
I hope the transfer is successful for your daughter - sending you all sticky thoughts as well! Can I ask casii and peasapie, what is the reason that your family members are against fertility treatments - is it a religious thing? That must be so hard. And what happens when a baby is born from fertility treatments into that extended family - do the objectors accept the baby? I just can't imagine.  |
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Post by peppermintpatty on Apr 11, 2018 12:17:29 GMT
I hope everything went well!! I know the feelings all too well so it is wonderful that your DD has her mama to lean on. The rest of the family can suck it |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Apr 11, 2018 12:56:22 GMT
Sticky baby thoughts for your DD.
I remember the days of treatments. Then DH's family had fertility super powers and it was not fun to be around them sometimes! There are now 29 cousins on his side alone!
His mom had the "ballls" to tell him that some members of the family felt like they had to walk on eggshells around us.
There is a national support group called "Resolve so they may want to reach out to.
Infertility can really take a toll on the marriage. They need to be supportive of each other.
A Youtuber I follow "Rachelle and Justin" is pregnant after a transfer so she may want to follow her. There are tons of supportive Youtubers out there that have shared their journey to help others.
Good luck to them.
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Post by lemondrop on Apr 11, 2018 13:37:00 GMT
Sending positive, sticky thoughts!
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casii
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Post by casii on Apr 11, 2018 14:06:16 GMT
I hope the transfer is successful for your daughter - sending you all sticky thoughts as well! Can I ask casii and peasapie , what is the reason that your family members are against fertility treatments - is it a religious thing? That must be so hard. And what happens when a baby is born from fertility treatments into that extended family - do the objectors accept the baby? I just can't imagine. I can only answer for my side of the family. DH's family are notoriously private people. Heck, we don't find out about divorces until they're done! But yes, my side of the family has religious objections to both fertility treatments and adoption. I've had 2 cousins, sisters, who both were vocal about fertility treatment. One adopted and later had surprise triplets. The other had one son and then twins and then a surprise daughter years later. Their brother married someone who had breast cancer in her early 20's, so they ended up adopting twice. My middle sister did fertility treatments, but because of reaction from family, chose not to share with our parents or any of the older generation. The older people still grouse, but the actual grandparents of my cousins adore their grandchildren now. More than once, I've had to argue the case the the entire Bible is one big adoption story, so their objections to that are invalid. One could even argue that passing off a handmaiden, twisted and wrong as that is, was a fertility treatment. I think in my DD's case, as far as I know, she's the first to do a frozen embryo transfer which family might argue is playing God. This is all new to me and I'm still on a learning curve, but at the end of the day, it's not my decision. It's hers and her DH. My job is to love and support them through this, good or bad. Which brings me to this, sorry to the Peas who did not have supportive family! I'm such a Mama Bear in supporting my children, I can't imagine. I think some family is now half afraid to express their disapproval to me after I went into protective mode when my grandmother and mom cornered my youngest DD to preach to her about interracial relationships. That soured my DD on ever wanting to go back to visit my side of the family. Thank you again for the sticky thoughts and suggestions. As for Netflix, I'm at a loss. I did just finish Season 2 of Hap & Leonard. Loved it. I imagine I'll be antsy and DD & DSIL will be freaking out for the next several days. |
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Post by mrssmith on Apr 11, 2018 14:39:03 GMT
All done, so now we think sticky thoughts (thank you Peasaspie!) and wait! DD feels fine and everything went smoothly. Great news! The next two weeks are the most nerve wracking. I did 3 IVFs that resulted in 2 children. FWIW, I also did acupuncture for fertility. I wish her the best. Sorry to hear other family is not supportive. |
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Post by auntkelly on Apr 11, 2018 14:48:03 GMT
I wish your daughter the best and I will say prayers. It's been over 20 years since I was struggling w/ fertility but I remember those painful days all too well.
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