Ever realized that someone you really like DOESN'T like you?

Yes and it still bothers me to this day. We were both in our late twenties, having our kids who were all close in age. We liked the same things, we lived close , our kids had play dates, we carpooled to preschool. Then one day she said our. "Friendship" wasn't 't working for her and she wouldn't tell me why. It was a shock to me but as time went on I realized by her actions with other mutual friends, she thought her family was better than mine.

Oh well........

I'm pretty sure my mother-in-law doesn't like me. She used to, but I think somewhere along the way that changed. She doesn't act ugly or anything, but it is just a strong feeling I get.

And I know for sure that my oldest son (age 27) doesn't like me. Well, he says he doesn't feel anything one way or another. The only credit he gives me is for being a good grandma.

In both cases, and especially with my son, it is impossible not to be hurt about it.

isnt this a sad thread

my SIL and i had an altercation

she thinks i did something...that i did not do

there is no convincing her otherwise

i thought that this was our only issue

i found out recently that she pretty much hate me, everything i am, everything i've done

i had always thought that, with enough time and distance, things might improve

i am pretty sure now that will not happen

it's not a good feeling

gina

Yes, years ago when I was dating this guy I was crazy about. I'd met his parents several times and had been to their house and we'd also gone and done things with them. We always got along great and when we broke up about a year later, I found out his parents couldn't stand me because they wanted him to get back together with his ex- girlfriend from high school.

I was shocked and sorta hurt by the whole thing. We got back in touch with each other about three years ago and I laughingly told him his parents would be rolling over in their graves knowing we were friends.


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I had a similar situation at a previous job. I worked in a different school each day of the week, so it was hard to feel like you were part of the group at times. One school was particularly bad. At lunch I would sit by some teachers and I would feel like I was in junior high--I would sit down and they would give you that look and stop
Talking like you were the plague. So, I just started eating in my office. I had two people that I worked closely with in that school. We met for an hour each day to discuss things that has happened over the week, etc. They were friendly and did not express any concerns to me. However, they called my boss and said that I was too introverted and not attempting to be part of the team, among other things. I was really hurt, because I felt that things with those two were great and was totally taken by surprise by their complaints. The way it was handled made me really question myself and my judgement of situations. I really wish that if they had concerns they would have talked to me first. After that, I said I would not go back to that school the following year because I did not trust that they were being genuine with me. I still feel bad about this situation but try to move on when it gets to me.

My boss doesn't like me. It bothers me to no end and I just don't get why he doesn't. Everyone else at work adores me.

I had almost the same thing happen except dh and her husband are best friends ... even now, years later, they still are but we no longer hang out as couples because the wife doesn't like me   

I'll admit that I run a meetup group that has a couple of ladies that I'm not crazy about as members ... I'm nice to them and would never let on that I wouldn't be sad if they quit coming ... they have weird social skills   

I had a girl tell me she can't be my friend because of what my DH does for a living LOL! I have her credit at least she was honest and didnt just pull away leaving me to wonder.

Oh yes, several times. I'm at the age & stage in life that I don't let it bother me. If my conscious is 100% clear, and I know there's nothing that I've done, then it's their issue not mine. I can easily cut people out of my life. If it's someone with whom I have to work (school committee, mutual friends, etc) I tolerate them and accept that we'll never be friends.




Recently I walked away from a group of friends due to the behavior of two. We've all been friends for 15 years; however, I finally found their pretentious, nasty behavior toward me unacceptable. They always felt that I was beneath them. It was time to remove them from my life, even though I lost a few good friends in the process.

I came to realize long ago that not everyone is going to like me and there is not much I can do about it. I definitely have my preferences as well.

I'm having a university reunion next weekend with a group of women and I'm very excited. This one lady will be there who was in my friend group. She's not keen on me . She was beautiful in university and did some modelling. She used to tell me after a few drinks that I was very unattractive LOL. No one has ever told me that in my life. I'm not gorgeous bit I'm not ugly either. In our big friend group, we had a full spectrum of people in various shapes and sizes. Some were attractive, some not and I think I was in the middle so I'm not sure why she picked on me. I dated a guy who was reasonably attractive and she told me that she didn't know what he saw in me ?

Later on, she friended me on FB. Okay, whatever. Most of our friend group had connected online. Then she unfriended me LOL. I thought she got rid of FB but apparently , it was just me. Whatever.

Interestingly enough, she married a not-so-attractive guy which surprised me because she was so "looks" conscious. She had a dd in her early 40's and the dd looks to have facial deformities. This must have been a very humbling experience for her. I'm sure that she's a great kid but given her judgements on the appearance of others, it was probably a shock to her.

It will be interesting to see her next weekend. Glad we have a big group going and some of my favourite old friends will be there. BTW, she's no longer model thin. She has an average build with aging skin, just like the rest of us

I did a few posts under my original one. He is a cop.

Oh wow- you win!!! I can't even imagine, hope it's become a fun story to tell!