14u14me
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Post by 14u14me on Jun 30, 2014 11:28:14 GMT
with his NIECE.
WHAT?!?
yeah. backstory he is the youngest of 5.. his next oldest sibling is 17 years older than him. so he has nephews and nieces his age.. he was bragging to the kids in the neighborhood yesterday that he had sex with his niece (who is also 11) i can't even wrap my head around this insanity. He is a kid who has no supervision (obviously) -- I don't know if it is true or not but the parents right around us are extremely concerned and trying to assertion more info.... but I'm speechless.
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TankTop
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Post by TankTop on Jun 30, 2014 11:34:44 GMT
CPS.....now!
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M in Carolina
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Post by M in Carolina on Jun 30, 2014 11:35:08 GMT
Please, just call the police. An 11 year old can NOT consent to sex, no matter who is doing it to her/him. I'm telling you, both of these poor kids are victims. This is the sort of issues that kids commit suicide over.
Just call. Right now. You don't need all the facts. Too many people just turn a blind eye because they don't have enough evidence. This protects the guilty, not the innocent.
I have a friend who was repeatedly raped by the older brother of a girl that babysat her. My friend's father was a pastor, and this family were leaders in the church. Nobody would have thought that this young man would do such a thing to this girl. It started when she was 6.
My friend is drop dead gorgeous. She's incredibly talented--her music is amazing, and she's an incredible businesswoman.
She doesn't see any of those successes and questions her abilities all the time---
just because a troubled boy told her it was her fault for being so "sexy" and she deserved it, and she was ugly and she should be so thankful someone paid attention to her like he did.
IF this were your kid, how many times would that have to happen before you said something?
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Post by scrappinghappy on Jun 30, 2014 11:59:01 GMT
Just call the authorities and let them do the ascertaining.
What was the community going to do? Ask the niece? Please let the right person ask her in a safe place so she isn't terrified to tell the truth.
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Post by hop2 on Jun 30, 2014 12:00:38 GMT
Hmmm when I was younger I'm pretty sure 1/2 of the things guys 'bragged' about were untrue. Not sure why but they always made it bigger, better and more. If they kissed a girl that bloomed into 'all the way' stuff like that. I'm not sure it dawned on me how true or untrue that stuff was until someone said it about me. It would have probably been very very hurtful to me if the idiot had not picked a time when I was definitely, verifiably elsewhere. ( school trip with 30 other people none of them Him ) So he just looked foolish.
However, the other half is true. Which is scary. Especially since you don't know what is or isn't true.
What you described I would classify in my mind as a 'rumor' and I would not repeat it or tell anyone. I'm not going to be part of spreading things that I have no knowledge if it's true. If I were close to his parents and I heard it directly from him I'd say something to them. But hearing it from other kids I would not. Things can grow a life if their own and mutate as they run around a community. And I would advise my kids not to be conversing about it as well.
2 11 year olds would give me pause, it really would, perhaps if I knew either parent really well I'd mention that there were rumors amongst the kids about their child. But as you say, the child has no supervision , so they seem to have already made the decision that it doesn't really matter to them what he's doing so they may not care.
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Post by anxiousmom on Jun 30, 2014 12:05:37 GMT
My question would be how or why does an 11 know enough about sex to brag about it? The fact that he thinks it is okay for him to do so would make me wonder about HIS background. Is he safe? Does he, himself, need help?
It is well known that early sexualized behavior is an indicator of abuse. Maybe he isn't have sex, maybe he has forced himself on a girl, maybe he is fantasizing-but I would worry about him as well.
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jun 30, 2014 12:11:52 GMT
Make the call. Let those better qualified to assess the situation do just that.
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Post by pierkiss on Jun 30, 2014 12:16:18 GMT
Good lord. Don't tells us this. Tell the police this! Even if it's all fake and the boy is just bragging about nothing to his friends, he needs to be told to stop. And if it is true, . Seriously call the police. I wouldn't even bother with CPS.
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Post by hop2 on Jun 30, 2014 12:17:58 GMT
Ok after seeing other replys, I guess I'd call CPS because you actually know HE is not supervised at 11 years old.
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Post by CeeScraps on Jun 30, 2014 12:36:51 GMT
Ughhh........that's horrible, however, and it's not your concern....I wonder what the boy's definition of sex is.
Make sure to call!
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Post by Zee on Jun 30, 2014 12:39:28 GMT
No normal 11 year old would brag about having sex with a family member, whether it was true or not. It sounds like they both need help.
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Post by I-95 on Jun 30, 2014 12:50:11 GMT
I just want to reinforce the idea of calling CPS. As others have said, even if it isn't true, he needs to quit doing that and a visit from the authorities might be a wake up call for the family.
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tiffanytwisted
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Jun 30, 2014 17:10:50 GMT
I agree - CPS. They'll investigate and be able to determine what steps, if any, need to be taken.
Good luck.
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Post by cannes on Jun 30, 2014 17:14:13 GMT
WTH? I agree that a call to CPS is in order - let them ascertain if there is truth to this or not.
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stellalou
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Post by stellalou on Jun 30, 2014 17:29:46 GMT
I agree- if its true or not true it all is signs of problems that need professional attention. Call.
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Post by freecharlie on Jun 30, 2014 17:35:35 GMT
My first semi-sexual experience was with a cousin who was my age. If they are hanging out a lot and are unsupervised, I could see it happening. I'd make the call to make sure that all the adults and the authorities know.
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Post by cropaholicnora on Jun 30, 2014 17:59:24 GMT
I agree with the PP who said that this kind of early sexualized behavior can be indicative of abuse. Regardless of whether or not his statements are true, it sounds like this is a young person who needs the help of a qualified professional. The best way to ensure that he gets it is to call CPS so that they can investigate.
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Post by dulcemama on Jun 30, 2014 18:02:34 GMT
I think that somebody needs to sit down with this kid and find out what he really is talking about. Our society is so hypersexualized that he may be using words that he doesn't really understand. Kids hear this stuff on T.V. and all over the place but may not understand the context. Or the real meaning. Then call CPS if it's warranted
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Post by Dictionary on Jun 30, 2014 18:08:13 GMT
Lord, I really would hope this is just a kid bragging about something he didn't do but like the other refugeePeas..call CPS, this is so wrong on more than one level.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 30, 2014 18:08:50 GMT
WTF? I would hope that someone in the neighborhood is actually acting like a responsible adult and contacting CPS/DSS/whatever it's called in your state instead of just running around and gossiping.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 30, 2014 18:17:59 GMT
I'm with ilovecookies. The "adults" in your neighborhood do not need to be gossiping about sexual activities of 11 year olds, nor do they need to be playing flippin' Encyclopedia Brown.
Someone needs to be an actual adult and call the authorities so it can be investigated properly. NOW.
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Post by marianne on Jun 30, 2014 18:22:10 GMT
Someone needs to be an actual adult and call the authorities so it can be investigated properly. NOW. really - NOW.
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Post by tidegirl on Jun 30, 2014 18:32:18 GMT
I will agree with all the pp ^ that a call to child protective services is in order. It doesn't sound like anyone that has heard this rumor feels comfortable approaching the family. Someone (meaning an adult) needs to make sure these children are protected and their voices heard. If there is anyone that has heard this rumor and is a mandatory reporter-they should know that this is one of those gray areas that are "a better safe than sorry moment."
Please update this post if/when there is more to share. Thanks.
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Post by kluski on Jun 30, 2014 18:37:56 GMT
agreed CPS
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Post by peabay on Jun 30, 2014 18:40:38 GMT
ITA with this. I have an 11 year old. I know a lot of 11 year old boys and girls. Whatever is going on, it's unhealthy. Call authorities.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jun 30, 2014 18:46:03 GMT
It's never to late to report this. You might be saving one or both lives. If it turns out he was telling tall tales then so be it, but let CPS investigate this. Children need advocates and you are in that position to be one now.
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Post by Miss Lerins Momma on Jun 30, 2014 18:46:56 GMT
When I was in middle school, I knew kids were having sex. And they were the ones who's parents were never around and left to do as they pleased. I hope you make the call.
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Post by Outspoken on Jun 30, 2014 18:48:29 GMT
Chiming in to say please call the authorities. And then let us know you did!
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Post by my2apps2 on Jun 30, 2014 18:49:09 GMT
I agree with the others, someone should report it. If nothing is really going on, he learns a very needed lesson about lying and the consequences of it, and if something IS going on, reporting it may just save a child's life. Either way, the adults need to do the grown up thing and say something.
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14u14me
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Post by 14u14me on Jun 30, 2014 19:55:07 GMT
yup turns out one of the other parents is a mandatory reporter .. she made the call a few days ago.
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