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Post by epeanymous on Jul 19, 2018 13:49:09 GMT
“Hey, Chad, we appreciate the offer, but it isn’t exactly what we want, so we’re going to keep looking.”
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Jul 19, 2018 14:03:41 GMT
Also, naming him Chad is probably hurting him.
Apologies to wives of Chads and all Central Africans.
(No, not wives of all Central Africans.)
(Brits, are you paying attention? This is why your lot should use more commas.)
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Post by jennyap on Jul 19, 2018 15:02:51 GMT
Also, naming him Chad is probably hurting him. Apologies to wives of Chads and all Central Africans. (No, not wives of Central Americans.)
(Brits, are you paying attention? This is why your lot should use more commas.)Why exactly are we getting the blame for your lack of clarity? I wasn't aware that we are comma-deficient...
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Jul 19, 2018 15:11:27 GMT
Why exactly are we getting the blame for your lack of clarity? Because you’re there. ~George Mallory (That’s the quote, right?)
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Jul 19, 2018 15:18:54 GMT
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Post by moodyblue on Jul 19, 2018 15:19:17 GMT
I would have assumed that he was giving it to you free, since you gave him a nice couch that you could have easily sold. I can see why it would be awkward. At this point, I would say something like, "Oh, sorry. I thought you were offering it to us free as kind of an exchange for the couch. If we are paying for a vanity, I would rather find the exact one that I am looking for." This! Perfect, diplomatic, and to the point. I like this. And I would not be paying hundreds of dollars for something I didn't love. And honestly, I'm wondering if he's going to keep the sofa or try to sell it, making money off of a gift given to him. That would kind of bug me, because you could sell it yourself, and even had an offer.
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Post by jennyap on Jul 19, 2018 15:47:52 GMT
Huh. Fortunately for me, the only style guide I'm supposed to follow is not - at all - strictly enforced. It tends to err on the side of more commas, except in the case of the Oxford comma, which it prohibits. I'm a fan of the latter so I disregard that particular piece of 'guidance'. Given the shockingly poor grammar I see in some reports that make it to print, I don't feel too guilty about it! "Apologies to all wives of Chads and to all Central Africans." could also have worked... PS Sorry (not sorry) for the hijack PrettyInPeank - FTR I think iamkristinl16 has it dead right
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Post by mallie on Jul 19, 2018 15:56:23 GMT
It doesn't matter to me how much the seller of an item paid for it. That's irrelevant to me as a buyer. What's relevant are three things:
1. The selling price. 2. My budget. 3. My desire for the item.
So it doesn't matter that the OP got the sofa for free. She is still giving Chad something of significant value. It's not like she gave him a carrot or a popsicle. She is giving him a sofa of good value.
It doesn't matter what Chad paid for the vanity -- he needs to set a price and the OP can determine if she wants to pay that given #2 and #3. If he's playing coy about the price, then I would just be done with it -- ain't nobody got the time for that foolishness.
I will say I would be shocked if someone wanted me to pay for a vanity when I am giving them a sofa for free. I would probably say, "Oh, I thought we would trade." If he says no, then I have to think about the friendship given that he was very willing to take a piece of high value from me but expects me to pay him. Seems unequal there. Seems like he values money over the friendship.
I would also be concerned that he's one of those friends who takes something for free and then turns around and sells it. And then wonders why the giver is annoyed at that.
I think I might take this as a learning opportunity about the friendship. And maybe call back the mover and ask if he's still interested in buying it. If Chad has no problem charging you for a vanity, then he should have no problem accepting that you decided to sell the sofa in the end. It's all about money, right.
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Post by Gennifer on Jul 19, 2018 16:17:44 GMT
Also, naming him Chad is probably hurting him. Can confirm. My ex boyfriend was named Chad. He was a dick.
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Post by J u l e e on Jul 19, 2018 16:25:42 GMT
I am so annoyed at Chad. (at Chad?? with Chad.)
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Post by lucyg on Jul 19, 2018 18:27:19 GMT
I vote for the Oxford comma.
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Post by camanddanismom on Jul 19, 2018 18:33:28 GMT
If he is a friend, he should call it even. The sectional is way more than his vanity is worth. I would have to question this friendship. He is not behaving like a friend.
No matter how you slice it, he is making out on the trade.
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Post by melanell on Jul 19, 2018 18:37:22 GMT
I'd just pass on it. The whole thing is so weird that I think eliminating the entire transaction over the vanity is best.
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Post by scrapnnana on Jul 19, 2018 19:07:08 GMT
After reading the entire thread, I was shocked at his behavior, and I am wondering why you can't be upfront with Chad?
I would say, "Chad, the sofa we agreed to give you is like new, hardly used, and was a very expensive couch. We were shocked that you seem to expect us to pay for a vanity that is worth far less than the couch that we were willing to give you for free. If you are willing to trade us the vanity for the couch, we have a deal. If not, we are keeping the couch. Someone else has offered to buy the couch, and we can use the money to buy a vanity that we like better. Don't come over on Friday for the couch. We don't like being treated like a Craig's list deal."
He's playing hardball and proved that he is not really much of a friend, no matter how long you have known him. I think you should bargain with him the way he has been doing to you. Call the mover and see what he will give you for the couch. You do not need to give Chad the couch considering the circumstances. Keeping a promise is important, but when you are being treated like a carpet, it's time to reconsider. He is trying to take advantage of your friendship, but he is not treating you like a friend. He is being a jerk. It is obvious that he expects to get all the advantage here.
It would be deal off for me. Completely.
Yes, it would be uncomfortable and awkward, but it has already gotten to the point that you are probably not going to be comfortable around him for a very long time, if ever. Be honest and upfront with him. He needs to know that taking advantage of a friend is just not the way to keep a friend.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2018 20:50:26 GMT
I would pass. I don’t like to involve money with friends.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 19, 2018 21:21:00 GMT
I vote for the Oxford comma. I heard my son tell his girlfriend that they might not be compatible because of the Oxford comma. The only other thing I have heard him mention about their relationship problems dealt with her not reading/watching Harry Potter.
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Post by breakfastattiffanys on Jul 19, 2018 21:41:37 GMT
I vote for the Oxford comma. I heard my son tell his girlfriend that they might not be compatible because of the Oxford comma. The only other thing I have heard him mention about their relationship problems dealt with her not reading/watching Harry Potter. Priorities! And I love the side commentaries here. Such a witty bunch!
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Post by lucyg on Jul 19, 2018 21:44:14 GMT
I vote for the Oxford comma. I heard my son tell his girlfriend that they might not be compatible because of the Oxford comma. The only other thing I have heard him mention about their relationship problems dealt with her not reading/watching Harry Potter. oh hell no, that's a deal breaker.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 19, 2018 21:54:26 GMT
I heard my son tell his girlfriend that they might not be compatible because of the Oxford comma. The only other thing I have heard him mention about their relationship problems dealt with her not reading/watching Harry Potter. oh hell no, that's a deal breaker. He took a picture of two people wearing their HP capes while holding hands at Universal Studios (from the back) and sent it to her with the caption relationship goals. I am thinking I should tell her if she watches the movies the ring will come. He also said the only problem with marrying her would be that their kids would be Muggles. He cracks me up.
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Jul 19, 2018 21:57:51 GMT
He took a picture of two people wearing their HP capes while holding hands at Universal Studios (from the back) and sent it to her with the caption relationship goals. I am thinking I should tell her if she watches the movies the ring will come. He also said the only problem with marrying her would be that their kids would be Muggles. He cracks me up. Ha! Well, now *I* want to marry him. (Saving grace: Their kids might be Mudbloods. Some of them have damn impressive skills.)
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Post by lucyg on Jul 19, 2018 22:34:02 GMT
oh hell no, that's a deal breaker. He took a picture of two people wearing their HP capes while holding hands at Universal Studios (from the back) and sent it to her with the caption relationship goals. I am thinking I should tell her if she watches the movies the ring will come. He also said the only problem with marrying her would be that their kids would be Muggles. He cracks me up. Actually, watching the movies = not good enough. Must. Read. Books. And AmeliaBloomer, I'm shocked. Such language!
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Jul 19, 2018 22:41:57 GMT
Livin’ on the edge here today.
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Jul 19, 2018 23:17:56 GMT
This thread is cracking me up. 😂 And yes, I'll update! 😁
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Post by SockMonkey on Jul 19, 2018 23:47:30 GMT
I would just like to say that feisty AmeliaBloomer is my favorite AmeliaBloomer.
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Jul 21, 2018 18:34:45 GMT
Update
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Post by christine58 on Jul 21, 2018 21:36:58 GMT
Perfect update....
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Post by mikklynn on Jul 21, 2018 21:40:16 GMT
I love the update and your attitude.
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Post by anniefb on Jul 21, 2018 21:42:01 GMT
I love the update and your attitude. That ^^
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Jul 21, 2018 22:10:52 GMT
I was never in the Don’tPayAnything camp, so I think this couldn’t have turned out better.
Bonus points if this nudges Brock Tab Rock Lance Chad toward negotiating with friends differently next time, huh?
Enjoy your dirt cheap vanity.
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Post by lucyg on Jul 21, 2018 22:16:10 GMT
Good update!
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