PrettyInPeank
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Jul 18, 2018 22:08:59 GMT
(Update at bottom)
I have a large, almost new sectional I inherited right before we moved. This thing was like 4k when my relative purchased ut last year. We held onto it a couple months while house shopping in case we could use it. When we realized it wouldn't fit well in the home we ultimately bought, we offered to give it to my husband's good friend, we'll call him Chad. One of my movers asked to buy it. I said it was spoken for. Chad picks it up Friday.
On Monday Chad asks if we could use this brand new vanity set he has that ended up not fitting into his new home. It is the exact measurement we need, so we say yeah, it would work. A little back story, he is a big manager of a big box hardware store, and gets incredible deals on returns or scratch and dents, etc.
Anyway, he asks how much it's worth to us, and that it was originally $900. I told my husband to text back, I don't, how much did you get it for? He says, "enough." My husband is a little surprised here. Is he trying to make money off us? If he got it for cheap, why wouldn't he pass those savings onto his friends? I've known him since high school, too, so not aquaintances or anytging. My husband says, "I'll think about it." A couple days have gone by, and his friend keeps asking, so you want it??
Is this awkward or what? If I absolutely loved the vanity I'd offer a few hundred bucks. But I am nuetral towards it. Not to mention, what if $300 is insulting? Plus I know he probably wants to unload it since he doesn't need it, so buying it could help him, too. WWYD?
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Update: Not surprisingly, Chad asked my husband about selling us the vanity again when he came for the sectional. I had a feeling he would because he has literally zero use for it, can't return it, and we happen to need one that exact size. My husband was straight with him: we like it, we'd like it, but of course we don't want to overpay you, nor do we want to insult you with an unwittingly low offer. Chad said, well I paid $150, does that work for you guys?
We said no problem, so we are now the new owners of the vanity. It works out for both of us. Even though it's not my first choice, it is nice, and we will be renting this in a few years so it's not a big deal. Regarding the couch, I told him twice that if for some reason it doesn't fit, or he finds some flaw, etc, LET US KNOW and we will pick it up and sell it. He said absolutely. Glad that's over and everyone is satisfied.
It may still seem like an unfair transaction, but I later remembered that Chad let us use him and his truck for an hour each way for two trips for this sectional when we had intended to keep it for ourself, and even though we filled the gas tank on return, that counts for something, too. In other words, I'm not keeping score here, but it's important I remember the non-financial ways friends can help, too.
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The Birdhouse Lady
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Jul 18, 2018 22:11:45 GMT
Did you GIVE the sectional to Chad or did he buy it?
If you gave it to him, I would think that he would give you the vanity.
I will wait to hear your answer.
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Gennifer
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Post by Gennifer on Jul 18, 2018 22:12:24 GMT
Honestly? I’d probably respond with something like, “Let’s just call it an even swap for the sectional.” and see what he says.
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Post by rodeomom on Jul 18, 2018 22:14:16 GMT
Wait, Chad is getting a almost new sectional from y'all for free and wants you guys to pay for the vanity?
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Post by myshelly on Jul 18, 2018 22:14:38 GMT
If he’s a friend, I’d tell him the truth.
I could use it, but I don’t love it enough to pay for it.
I might add in something snarky like
Well, how much is that couch worth to you?
Or
Let’s call it a trade for the couch.
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Jul 18, 2018 22:14:39 GMT
You're giving him the sectional and he’s being coy in negotiations for the vanity?
Ugh, I think I’d turn it down. Probably curtly. And then maybe I’d even be too busy to help when he comes for that huge sectional. Yeesh.
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Post by busy on Jul 18, 2018 22:19:45 GMT
If he didn't pay for the sectional, I would not expect to pay for the vanity. There's a huge mismatch in value between the two, but I'd be fine calling it an even trade. I would NOT be fine paying him for the vanity. I'd tell him as much.
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Post by workingclassdog on Jul 18, 2018 22:28:31 GMT
Honestly? I’d probably respond with something like, “Let’s just call it an even swap for the sectional.” and see what he says. exactly this... what a friend??!
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jul 18, 2018 22:34:44 GMT
I'm assuming your relative didn't charge you for the sectional - if they did my answer changes. You had a free sectional that you passed on to your friend. If your friend BOUGHT the vanity and it's as you say brand new, I wouldn't have a problem with him recouping his money. I would have a problem with him trying to make money off you as you were nice enough to gift him a used sofa. While the sofa was worth more originally, it's not worth anything close to the $4k it was new. It's actually really hard to resell soft goods for reasonable prices.
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Post by papersilly on Jul 18, 2018 22:34:48 GMT
i'd take a hard pass on the vanity only because it seems like he's trying to make money off you after you GAVE him a sectional. what a turn off.
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Post by GiantsFan on Jul 18, 2018 22:34:58 GMT
I would tell him no thanks on the vanity. And I would not give him anything again.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2018 22:56:17 GMT
Pass on it if you want to stay friends.
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Post by Judy26 on Jul 18, 2018 23:04:30 GMT
I’d text back and say “it’s worth about one big sectional to us. Do we have a deal?” Then the ball is in his court to either take the deal or not.
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Post by JustKim on Jul 18, 2018 23:16:29 GMT
I think the price of the sectional just went to $3000. I would probably laugh and say "you are so funny" and see what happens. But if he is serious, I would not give sectional and I would pass on the vanity. The friendship would take a turn to acquaintance status.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2018 23:58:58 GMT
I'd pass on the vanity. Otherwise, I think you would always look at that thing and be reminded of the sectional you generously gave away for free.
ETA: I have a feeling Chad feels he took an old sectional off your hands that you couldn't fit in your new home and had no use for, but is offering you a new vanity that he can resell/return. While that may be the case, it's odd that he's asking you to come up with a price. Why not just be upfront and ask if you want it for what he paid for it?
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Post by gritzi on Jul 19, 2018 0:06:51 GMT
If I read correctly the sofa was given to your friend. My response would be that I think we're squared away trading a $4k like new sofa for a like new vanity,or something to that effect. No way would I pay him after gifting him the sofa.
ETA....Since you've known one another for many years, and are friends, I would find a way to say in a joking, but serious manner, about an equal trade.
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PrettyInPeank
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Jul 19, 2018 0:08:24 GMT
Did you GIVE the sectional to Chad or did he buy it?
If you gave it to him, I would think that he would give you the vanity.
I will wait to hear your answer. We are giving it to him.
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Post by christine58 on Jul 19, 2018 0:14:00 GMT
Did you GIVE the sectional to Chad or did he buy it?
If you gave it to him, I would think that he would give you the vanity.
I will wait to hear your answer. We are giving it to him. I would NOT be giving him any $$ tell him you're even
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2018 0:18:57 GMT
Did you GIVE the sectional to Chad or did he buy it?
If you gave it to him, I would think that he would give you the vanity.
I will wait to hear your answer. We are giving it to him. Oh no! I would just reply to him and say " Yes I'd like it and we'll call it quits for the sectional. Deal ?"
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PrettyInPeank
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Jul 19, 2018 0:19:18 GMT
I'm assuming your relative didn't charge you for the sectional - if they did my answer changes. You had a free sectional that you passed on to your friend. If your friend BOUGHT the vanity and it's as you say brand new, I wouldn't have a problem with him recouping his money. I would have a problem with him trying to make money off you as you were nice enough to gift him a used sofa. While the sofa was worth more originally, it's not worth anything close to the $4k it was new. It's actually really hard to resell soft goods for reasonable prices. That was our line of thinking. We did not pay for the sectional. He likely paid something for the vanity. We figured we'd pay what he paid, but now the whole thing makes us uncomfortable.
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Post by mrssmith on Jul 19, 2018 0:30:07 GMT
I'm assuming your relative didn't charge you for the sectional - if they did my answer changes. You had a free sectional that you passed on to your friend. If your friend BOUGHT the vanity and it's as you say brand new, I wouldn't have a problem with him recouping his money. I would have a problem with him trying to make money off you as you were nice enough to gift him a used sofa. While the sofa was worth more originally, it's not worth anything close to the $4k it was new. It's actually really hard to resell soft goods for reasonable prices. That was our line of thinking. We did not pay for the sectional. He likely paid something for the vanity. We figured we'd pay what he paid, but now the whole thing makes us uncomfortable. Just pass on it then, esp. if you don't love it.
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Post by janskylar on Jul 19, 2018 0:33:37 GMT
This is why I get mad every time I shop for a car. Just tell me how much you want me to pay FFS!!!
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Post by sunnyd on Jul 19, 2018 0:35:41 GMT
Ugh! This reminds me that people suck! He is an opportunistic taker and I hate people like that. I'd rather pay full price for the damn vanity than give him a penny for it.
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Post by Really Red on Jul 19, 2018 0:38:44 GMT
Wow. I can't believe that. If you want to stay friends, I'd just say you changed your mind. Seriously can't believe he's charging you for it.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 19, 2018 0:57:08 GMT
I'm assuming your relative didn't charge you for the sectional - if they did my answer changes. You had a free sectional that you passed on to your friend. If your friend BOUGHT the vanity and it's as you say brand new, I wouldn't have a problem with him recouping his money. I would have a problem with him trying to make money off you as you were nice enough to gift him a used sofa. While the sofa was worth more originally, it's not worth anything close to the $4k it was new. It's actually really hard to resell soft goods for reasonable prices. That was our line of thinking. We did not pay for the sectional. He likely paid something for the vanity. We figured we'd pay what he paid, but now the whole thing makes us uncomfortable. Yes, if he had told you what he had paid for it, you could make a decision. The fact that he wants you to make an offer, makes him sound like he is out to make a buck.
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Post by iteach3rdgrade on Jul 19, 2018 1:00:54 GMT
I'm assuming your relative didn't charge you for the sectional - if they did my answer changes. You had a free sectional that you passed on to your friend. If your friend BOUGHT the vanity and it's as you say brand new, I wouldn't have a problem with him recouping his money. I would have a problem with him trying to make money off you as you were nice enough to gift him a used sofa. While the sofa was worth more originally, it's not worth anything close to the $4k it was new. It's actually really hard to resell soft goods for reasonable prices. That was our line of thinking. We did not pay for the sectional. He likely paid something for the vanity. We figured we'd pay what he paid, but now the whole thing makes us uncomfortable. Did you have to buy a new sofa? If so, giving him something still cost money, so I think it should be a trade.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Jul 19, 2018 1:04:07 GMT
honestly, after all that, I'd feel like calling back the mover and finding out how much $$ he wanted to offer for the sectional! giving a very expensive sectional to him, and he wants you to PAY for the vanity? and you don't really love it, on top of all that?!? nope.
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Post by Rhondito on Jul 19, 2018 1:19:22 GMT
honestly, after all that, I'd feel like calling back the mover and finding out how much $$ he wanted to offer for the sectional! giving a very expensive sectional to him, and he wants you to PAY for the vanity? and you don't really love it, on top of all that?!? nope. Along that same line of thinking, you actually turned down money for the sectional and instead are giving it to him for nothing. So yeah, it cost you something.
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Post by annabella on Jul 19, 2018 1:24:26 GMT
You don't give him a sectional and then pay for a vanity. You set a price for the sectional.
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PrettyInPeank
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Jul 19, 2018 1:53:37 GMT
I value our friendship (hence the free sectional) so I think walking away is best thing. Although he seems eager to get rid of it since he doesn't need it. Any advice on walking away if he gets insistent?
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