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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2018 3:59:59 GMT
We had a hail storm this afternoon. It started with just a few hits os small hail on the deck, so I started moving my plants to cover. I got hit in the kidney (area) with a tennis ball sized piece of hail. If it had hit my head, I would have been out. Ran back inside and watched it hail on and off for 90 minutes. Our local zoo that is close to my house lost a duck and two vultures to the hail (killed). Eight people ended up at the hospital and a majority of the vehicles in the parking lot were left undrivable. They were bussing out the people and towing all of the cars out. Crazy. This is our third really good hailstorm of the season. Our roof was totaled from the last one. Thankfully cars were in the garage or at work where there was not even rain. Glad you're ok. My BIL just lost the windows in his car due to hail tonight out in Denver. |
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Post by sues on Aug 7, 2018 15:50:57 GMT
I needed this thread too. Sorry to everyone dealing with 'stuff' this week.  I have two major sources of irritation this week- both in my immediate family. DH is driving me nuts. He took a ten-day 'guys trip' that he had been saving up for all year. In reality- the money he was setting aside was for running around while he was there, souvenirs, etc. The basics and the prep came out of household money and amounted to $1000+ I wasn't planning on. Now we're dropping DD off at school next week and he's been talking about extending the trip for an extra couple of days for a little just-us road trip. I didn't think it was going to be the best timing, but I hated to disappoint him. Now that his guys trip is over and I've realized the real expense of it all - I said we just needed to come right home. He started arguing the point and when I brought up the reality of the trip he was 'saving up for' and the impact on household expenses, he dropped it. But he's acting a little dejected. I told him I was glad he got away and he surely needed the break - but he has to also realize we can't do it all. He does not seem to get it though and it's frustrating me to always be the one putting the brakes on. Adding to my frustration is his inclination to treat me like his personal assistant - appts, ebooks from the library, package mailing, errand running, favor-doing. Before you tell me to stop doing those things- I do it to lessen his stress (high-stress job) and I'm happy to help. But I really dislike when it feels like I'm working an unpaid, underappreciated, job. My other source of worry/irritation/disappointment is DD. And I'll have to be vague here - forgive me. There was a situation I have been concerned about for a while now. I found various ways to bring it up without sounding accusatory and caution her about the inevitable consequences. I was always met with 'Mom- you're such a goof. That's not happening.' Still, I had a bad feeling. I continued with the cautionary tales, the concern, and the inevitable consequences. But sometimes, you just can't penetrate that 'I'm smarter than everyone else. Nothing bad will happen to me' delusion teenagers often have, no matter how smart they are. After all- what do I know? I'm old and surely I was never as smart as she is. Yesterday- she turned herself into a cautionary tale. It's everything I warned her about- to the letter. Honestly, it's like I had a crystal ball. And though it could be worse, for sure, there will be consequences to deal with. I have felt sick ever since she told me - and angry, disappointed, and worried. (I just re-read this paragraph and it sounds like it's sex/pregnancy related - but no. Not that.) I did not want to spend her last week or two arguing about laundry, cleaning, prepping to leave for school - and I definitely did not need this wrinkle added to the mix. There's nothing to be done now but ride it out and hope for the best - but I feel like quite the failure as a mother, I have to say. |
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Post by AmandaA on Aug 7, 2018 16:07:04 GMT
I would get the hell out of Kentucky... the Bluegrass state does not sound like a safe place for someone with severe grass allergies! I have an ENT vent too... my ears have been under pressure for almost 2 weeks. Saw the NP a week ago when vertigo hit with it. The dizziness is pretty much gone but I still have pressure, ringing, and misery in my ears after doing everything they asked of me. Going back to the PCP in the am to beg her to do something before I take matters into my own hands (just kidding...barely). [ I have had a VERY similar ear issue. Mine started on July 24 (the day we got home from Hawaii). I've completed a Z pack (saw a NP on last Monday), then had a solu-medrol injection (saw an MD on Wednesday) and have two doses of prednisone remaining. I'm hoping it's fully resolving, but I still feel pressure bilaterally. I hope you feel better soon! Well I came home with a Z pack as well, to cover the remote possibility of an atypical ear infection. And I talked her into a steroid burst to see if it would help get the swelling down in my eustacian tubes 🤞🏻 To add insult to injury, I have a whopping migraine too. And other than that... just give it more time 🙄. |
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Post by M in Carolina on Aug 7, 2018 16:08:08 GMT
That is nice that he cuts the grass for you. Can you tell him that while you truly appreciate it, could he please do it on a day when you are working? I’ve tried. He don’t believe in allergies. I take several daily meds plus shots and carry an epi pen. He still don’t get it. I think you need to sit down with your mom. Tell her that she can't just keep coming in and out and tracking the allergen into your house. Take a video of you afterward for your parents. If you have to, change the locks. I hope you keep the epipen and your phone right beside you. I also keep Benadryl liquid caps on hand because they work so much faster than the regular tablets. Personally, I'd rather piss off my parents than die alone because they're idiots. Or have a reaction so bad that you need a ventilator and hospital stay. Good luck getting your dad to pay for that bill. My mom didn't 'get it' until I had an anaphylactic reaction when I was shopping with her and my hysterical ex-nurse aunt. I tried on a lip gloss at Ulta that must have had orange oil in the 'natural fragrance'. Epipen, ambulance, and hospital. My heart rate is already low, and I take a beta blocker for my tachycardia. So the epipen can tank your heart rate. The EMTs take that very seriously. My aunt was hovering about 5 feet off the ground and freaking my easy to freak mother out even more. I was fine after a couple hours in the ER. They just monitored my heart rate. The epi pen also gives me muscle spasms because of my MS, so they also gave me some pain med for it because I was crying it hurt so bad. Now the only problem is that every time I go out to eat with my mom she goes on and on and on about how serious my allergies are. If I'm also with my aunt, it's even more histrionic. I'm an adult and know what I can eat and can clearly communicate that to the restaurant.  |
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Post by M in Carolina on Aug 7, 2018 16:33:53 GMT
I'm sorry. My mom still doesn't believe I actually have sleep apnea. Even after being diagnosed by a pulmonologist and using a CPAP for six years. It sucks when no one believes you. It still hurts when I breathe hours later, like there’s something sitting on my chest. My mom is pissed at me because she thinks she has MS (I'm adopted) because her new primary care physician listed that as a reason why she might be feeling exhausted. Y'all know all I went through to get diagnosed and the symptoms I've had. My mom wants me to do what she wants when she wants and doesn't lift a finger to help. She's 73, works to pay off her insane legal bill from suing my stepmom for 5 years, and now feels exhausted sometimes. I hope it isn't anything serious. I don't want to not believe her if she's really sick. She doesn't have any weakness or tingling or any pain outside of age and stubbornness related arthritis --she won't rest when her joints hurt. I just don't have any sympathy for her the sky is falling histrionics after the hell she's put me through. I'm in a good place and don't feel guilty with her antics. Reddit's JustnoMIL (stories about moms are allowed as well) and BDP subs have really helped me cope with reading their stories. I feel ya. It sucks. A lot. The freedom from strings was worth her being pissed off at me. Texting is awesome, and I live 'too far away' for her (20 minutes from work) |
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Post by peabrain on Aug 7, 2018 17:34:50 GMT
Well I came home with a Z pack as well, to cover the remote possibility of an atypical ear infection. And I talked her into a steroid burst to see if it would help get the swelling down in my eustacian tubes 🤞🏻 To add insult to injury, I have a whopping migraine too. And other than that... just give it more time 🙄. I hope you get to feeling better! |
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Post by Really Red on Aug 7, 2018 17:41:42 GMT
sues I hope the cautionary tale isn't a permanent issue, rather one from which she is able to become stronger. Sometimes these lessons are good for your kids and heartbreaking for you. My vent: people who call themselves single parents because their spouse works third shift or is away during the week. I am NOT including those parents who parent solo while their spouse is on active duty. That involves an entire other difficulty, but man. Single parenting sucks. It sucks for my kids and it sucks for me. And the money worries that often come with that are hard, too. But the hardest part of single parenting is not having someone who has your back right there with you. I know that people are in sucky marriages, and that is yet another issue. Just don't call yourself a single parent to a person who is really a single parent. I don't mean to be mean to people who are going through marriage difficulties. I think that's awful and I have tons of sympathy. I guess I sort of liken it to someone who says they are "poor," because they can't buy a new car or go to Hawaii or something, but still has a car to drive and takes vacations. Maybe the vent should be: Know your audience!
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Post by whipea on Aug 7, 2018 18:29:50 GMT
Summer in South Florida and our main AC died. We bought this house less than four months ago, knew the AC was old and hoped we could squeeze a little more time out of it before died. Five ton unit, with the price I could have bought a decent used car. The up side our electric bill should be lower.
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 7, 2018 19:45:06 GMT
mlana You can't care more than he does. This sounds harsh, but keep his life insurance paid up and let him deal with the consequences of his poor choices. If my DH did not follow doctor's orders, I would not jeopardize my own health trying to police him. He's a grown man. sues BTDT with DS at age 19. He wouldn't listen, did what he wanted, and paid the consequences. His response was "How did you know?" AARGHH!!! I feel your pain.
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Post by yivit on Aug 7, 2018 21:18:37 GMT
sues btdt too. DS is having to wait on a waiver to join the USAF because of being stupid when he was 19. At 25, he's realized mom was right even though he refuses to say those magic words lol! My vent: My landlord is getting laid off so he's selling his house that's too big for him now and has huge property taxes and is going to move into the house I'm renting from him. I hate moving (been here 8 years, 19 years in the place before this one). The upside is the house next door is where I'll be moving (no it's not his). The downside is that it may not be ready by the end of the month. Upside again is landlord is good with me staying an extra couple of weeks in this house since I've been so good to him over the years (handling all but the most major of repairs including recently replacing the master bath toilet, willing to pay rent early when asked, etc). Another upside is that the new place is less rent. Downside AND upside is that the new place is a little smaller (part of my evil plan to downsize my adult kids away permanently lol, but that means purge time). No garage for the kayak and camping gear that's stored, but there's a shed in the back that should suffice. Two car wide driveway instead of the single wide now, so no more musical vehicles or parking Nazi (for parking even an inch into the sidewalk). I just hate moving. I keep telling myself that moving next door is practically not moving, it's just rearranging. Then I look at the 110-plus-years-old piano that has to move too.
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 7, 2018 22:31:02 GMT
I keep telling myself that moving next door is practically not moving, it's just rearranging. Then I look at the 110-plus-years-old piano that has to move too. Not to add to your stress, but we move 3 doors down when we had our new house built. We thought it would be easy, but it was actually worse. We didn't prepare as much as we should have as we were just moving 3 doors. The only thing that was easier than a longer move was that we just put the washer and dryer on a dolly and rolled it down the street, no lifting into and out of the truck. |
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 7, 2018 22:34:24 GMT
Ds's car windowbw9nt roll up. It needs a part that is 2 days out. It is raining every afternoon around here and that makes me nervous that it is going to French the car if it stays at the dealership instead of in our garage.
We had an appointment for this morning. They lost the appointment and then didn't get back to us until late this afternoon to let us know they are waiting on a part (this after both calling and being put on hold or given the run around and texting).
Argh...will never take it back to these people.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Aug 7, 2018 23:04:42 GMT
Someone hit my car at Costco. It needs to be repaired. I am really overtired and don’t want to deal with it today. I am really tired after being up all night last night.
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Post by yivit on Aug 7, 2018 23:15:25 GMT
I keep telling myself that moving next door is practically not moving, it's just rearranging. Then I look at the 110-plus-years-old piano that has to move too. Not to add to your stress, but we move 3 doors down when we had our new house built. We thought it would be easy, but it was actually worse. We didn't prepare as much as we should have as we were just moving 3 doors. The only thing that was easier than a longer move was that we just put the washer and dryer on a dolly and rolled it down the street, no lifting into and out of the truck. I fully realize that, but I'm choosing to ignore it. 
Move from apartment to house of 19 years: Measure house, draw scale floorplan, make 2D scale of all furniture etc and plan out where everything went, labelled all boxes for not only room but section of room. (this was with a 6-week-old)
Move from that house to this house: Pack, move whether it was packed or not. (did I mention we made this move because previous landlord - who also loved us because we made all non-major repairs - decided he didn't need to pay the property taxes) Move from this house to next door: Hopefully somewhere between.
The main hurdle will be (besides coordinating transfers of utilities, because this house will transfer to landlord and new house will transfer from that landlord to me, plus I'll have to get ATT out to do an install) fitting a 4BR with garage and BR-sized laundry room full of stuff into a 2BR (3rd BR had wall taken out and expanded the LR, so yay plenty of room for piano) plus bonus room (where garage once was) and a shed.
New place has a humongous kitchen with enough cabinet space to hide Jimmy Hoffa in jar-sized pieces. But I'll have to relearn how to cook with an electric stove. But I'll have enough counter space to get an InstaPot to go with my crockpot, toaster, toaster oven, microwave, KitchenAid (whose name is Lucy Van Pelt), coffeemaker, and whatever else I can think of (and there's enough outlets for ALL of them) |
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Post by M in Carolina on Aug 8, 2018 0:04:23 GMT
Summer in South Florida and our main AC died. We bought this house less than four months ago, knew the AC was old and hoped we could squeeze a little more time out of it before died. Five ton unit, with the price I could have bought a decent used car. The up side our electric bill should be lower. At least a new unit should last for several years and will definitely be more efficient. One thing to double check is what kind of filters to use. Those HEPA super duper filters can make the condensing coil freeze solid. Which if your A/C doesn't stop cooling drastically or completely, your energy bill will skyrocket. That's not a great bill to open. I just saw an article in one of those local magazines about the Tesla whole home battery unit and a construction company that was installing them. They store energy from solar panels. If you live in an area with strong sun, you can power 100% of your home needs off of the Tesla. If I had a house, I'd definitely put one of those in if I had the $$$. The energy savings would be substantial. I think the solar panels also last longer. There's also a lot of states that give you tax deductions for installing them. Not sure how that works, but I know I've read that. I still try to keep up on Interior Design/Construction trends so if I ever feel like going back into ID, I'm not so far behind the curve. I'm sure you're not in the market for one right now, but it's something to think about to save you money later. Plus it puts the incredibly hot sun days to a great use. My great aunt had solar panels back in the 70s. They weren't expensive to install, and all their hot water ran off it. Even in the winter. I thought that was really cool and very forward thinking. |
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Post by M in Carolina on Aug 8, 2018 0:19:31 GMT
Not to add to your stress, but we move 3 doors down when we had our new house built. We thought it would be easy, but it was actually worse. We didn't prepare as much as we should have as we were just moving 3 doors. The only thing that was easier than a longer move was that we just put the washer and dryer on a dolly and rolled it down the street, no lifting into and out of the truck. I fully realize that, but I'm choosing to ignore it.
Move from apartment to house of 19 years: Measure house, draw scale floorplan, make 2D scale of all furniture etc and plan out where everything went, labelled all boxes for not only room but section of room. (this was with a 6-week-old)
Move from that house to this house: Pack, move whether it was packed or not. (did I mention we made this move because previous landlord - who also loved us because we made all non-major repairs - decided he didn't need to pay the property taxes) Move from this house to next door: Hopefully somewhere between.
The main hurdle will be (besides coordinating transfers of utilities, because this house will transfer to landlord and new house will transfer from that landlord to me, plus I'll have to get ATT out to do an install) fitting a 4BR with garage and BR-sized laundry room full of stuff into a 2BR (3rd BR had wall taken out and expanded the LR, so yay plenty of room for piano) plus bonus room (where garage once was) and a shed.
New place has a humongous kitchen with enough cabinet space to hide Jimmy Hoffa in jar-sized pieces. But I'll have to relearn how to cook with an electric stove. But I'll have enough counter space to get an InstaPot to go with my crockpot, toaster, toaster oven, microwave, KitchenAid (whose name is Lucy Van Pelt), coffeemaker, and whatever else I can think of (and there's enough outlets for ALL of them) I suggest calling a music store or whoever tunes your piano to get a referral for someone who moves pianos. That's definitely not something you want to do yourself, and even professional movers don't know how to move one. If something shifts, you'll wind up having to pay the tuner to tweak it anyway. I loved our huge professional kitchen in our house in Michigan. I never did use all the cabinet space, and I had 4 huge sets of China in them, too. Downsizing into an apartment after that was a chore. Especially because I'd just had my stroke and heart surgery procedure thingy and wasn't allowed to do anything other than supervise. I still have some of the china boxed up. 6 moves later. I wish you had more time. A good declutter/cleanse during a move is the best time to do it. If you wanted, you could get one of those pod storage things that go in the driveway. Non essentials and the kids stuff could go in there instead of going into the house just to come right back out as you sell and donate. (LetGo, Nextdoor, Offerup, etc. are great for selling local stuff--Nextdoor is like Facebook groups but an easier app to use, imho.) If you put the kids' stuff in the Pods thingy, they'll have a deadline to move it. If they don't, they can rent a storage unit. You know if you move it into your place, they'll never get around to it... |
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Post by M in Carolina on Aug 8, 2018 0:27:23 GMT
mlana You can't care more than he does. This sounds harsh, but keep his life insurance paid up and let him deal with the consequences of his poor choices. If my DH did not follow doctor's orders, I would not jeopardize my own health trying to police him. He's a grown man. sues BTDT with DS at age 19. He wouldn't listen, did what he wanted, and paid the consequences. His response was "How did you know?" AARGHH!!! I feel your pain. I agree. You do a crap ton of stuff for him. He needs to have a better attitude and be appreciative. Yeah, he feels bad, but 1. he doesn't have to take it out on you/be an ass 2. if he took better care of himself, he'd feel better. I hate having to act like a mother to Rob. We've had to have a few talks about taking better care of himself. I'm feeling better and am able to do more meal planning, shopping, and cooking. I know he's under stress, but the attitude doesn't help. (US Insurance companies are reducing the amount and types of pain meds they're paying for--it's so opiate use as a whole looks like it's gone down. So both of us have had to switch and go down. That was hell for dh, but it's over. He did the meds that addicts use to taper down. That helps your tolerance level drop. Rob really needs the amount of meds he was on. It was horrible. The rotten mood was torture. My tongue is still sore a month later from biting it all the time. I knew getting pissed would just make it worse, but I have more health issues. So my taper wasn't exactly a walk in the park, either.) I think you've earned yourself a vacation. Go on strike for a week. He can eat healthy freezer meals you prep ahead of time. You're a saint. He's damn lucky to have you. |
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Post by hop2 on Aug 8, 2018 0:40:40 GMT
I'm so sorry you're feeling sick. Allergies are so annoying (understatement I'm sure). My vent: fuck you 90% humidity week 3. My entire life has been take the bus. Rush to my office. Leave my office. Sweat like a moose to the bus stop. Then take the train ONE subway station because it's too hot to walk. Every day for weeks. It was supposed to break on Thursday. Now? Monday. my job is %60 outside. I have had to change clothes everyday for the last 3 weeks. It’s been gross |
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Post by tracyarts on Aug 8, 2018 2:42:14 GMT
Family members who choose not to believe that my stroke deficits are "real".
Neuro-fatigue caused by my brain injury isn't "real". Everybody gets tired, and I need to suck it up and push through it. Or drink a cup of coffee. I'm so tired because I allow myself to sit on my ass all day. Must be nice...
Which leads to the weakness on my left side and balance issues. I just need to start working out. The weakness is because I need to build my muscles back up. And the balance issues can be "cured" by doing yoga. Or just concentrating harder. Mind over matter. And I stagger because I'm not paying attention to where I'm stepping. And drag my left foot because I'm too lazy to pick it up.
And speaking of mind over matter, I need to pay attention to my speech. If I thought my sentences out carefully before speaking, I would make more sense. I need to focus.
And it's been over a year since the second stroke, why aren't I better yet? If I had put the proper amount of effort into pushing myself to recover, I'd be driving and working again already. I'm using it as an excuse to give up.
And speaking of giving up, how dare I use a wheelchair to go out. Why that's the height of laziness! They injured their back and the pain was so excruciating that they cracked a tooth from gritting their teeth so hard while walking around, but they didn't "give up" and use a wheelchair. That's for REAL disabled people, who can't move their legs. Not for people like me who just want to take the easy way out. They have TOO MUCH PRIDE to be caught dead in a wheelchair. I'll never get better if I don't force myself to endure the discomfort.
Anyway, just ignorant pieces of shit being ignorant pieces of shit... And then they act fake concerned and ask why I never come visit anymore.
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Post by hop2 on Aug 8, 2018 2:50:22 GMT
Family members who choose not to believe that my stroke deficits are "real". Neuro-fatigue caused by my brain injury isn't "real". Everybody gets tired, and I need to suck it up and push through it. Or drink a cup of coffee. I'm so tired because I allow myself to sit on my ass all day. Must be nice... Which leads to the weakness on my left side and balance issues. I just need to start working out. The weakness is because I need to build my muscles back up. And the balance issues can be "cured" by doing yoga. Or just concentrating harder. Mind over matter. And I stagger because I'm not paying attention to where I'm stepping. And drag my left foot because I'm too lazy to pick it up. And speaking of mind over matter, I need to pay attention to my speech. If I thought my sentences out carefully before speaking, I would make more sense. I need to focus. And it's been over a year since the second stroke, why aren't I better yet? If I had put the proper amount of effort into pushing myself to recover, I'd be driving and working again already. I'm using it as an excuse to give up. And speaking of giving up, how dare I use a wheelchair to go out. Why that's the height of laziness! They injured their back and the pain was so excruciating that they cracked a tooth from gritting their teeth so hard while walking around, but they didn't "give up" and use a wheelchair. That's for REAL disabled people, who can't move their legs. Not for people like me who just want to take the easy way out. They have TOO MUCH PRIDE to be caught dead in a wheelchair. I'll never get better if I don't force myself to endure the discomfort. Anyway, just ignorant pieces of shit being ignorant pieces of shit... And then they act fake concerned and ask why I never come visit anymore. oh dear god you know some shitty people! Hugs. |
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Post by Delta Dawn on Aug 8, 2018 3:06:38 GMT
Family members who choose not to believe that my stroke deficits are "real". Neuro-fatigue caused by my brain injury isn't "real". Everybody gets tired, and I need to suck it up and push through it. Or drink a cup of coffee. I'm so tired because I allow myself to sit on my ass all day. Must be nice... Which leads to the weakness on my left side and balance issues. I just need to start working out. The weakness is because I need to build my muscles back up. And the balance issues can be "cured" by doing yoga. Or just concentrating harder. Mind over matter. And I stagger because I'm not paying attention to where I'm stepping. And drag my left foot because I'm too lazy to pick it up. And speaking of mind over matter, I need to pay attention to my speech. If I thought my sentences out carefully before speaking, I would make more sense. I need to focus. And it's been over a year since the second stroke, why aren't I better yet? If I had put the proper amount of effort into pushing myself to recover, I'd be driving and working again already. I'm using it as an excuse to give up. And speaking of giving up, how dare I use a wheelchair to go out. Why that's the height of laziness! They injured their back and the pain was so excruciating that they cracked a tooth from gritting their teeth so hard while walking around, but they didn't "give up" and use a wheelchair. That's for REAL disabled people, who can't move their legs. Not for people like me who just want to take the easy way out. They have TOO MUCH PRIDE to be caught dead in a wheelchair. I'll never get better if I don't force myself to endure the discomfort. Anyway, just ignorant pieces of shit being ignorant pieces of shit... And then they act fake concerned and ask why I never come visit anymore. You survived two strokes. Eff anyone who says anything. I am glad you are alive. There is no time in your schedule for that kind of BS. Life is too short and you need to find a way to enjoy it again on your terms. Two Peas is always open! |
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Post by yivit on Aug 8, 2018 3:25:17 GMT
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Post by cade387 on Aug 8, 2018 5:39:39 GMT
People on Facebook suck. Even worse when a friend from awhile ago who is now more of a FB friend only posts something dumb. Just damn it for reading the comments and getting sucked in. Ugh.
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Post by my3freaks on Aug 8, 2018 5:49:09 GMT
Family members who choose not to believe that my stroke deficits are "real". Neuro-fatigue caused by my brain injury isn't "real". Everybody gets tired, and I need to suck it up and push through it. Or drink a cup of coffee. I'm so tired because I allow myself to sit on my ass all day. Must be nice... Which leads to the weakness on my left side and balance issues. I just need to start working out. The weakness is because I need to build my muscles back up. And the balance issues can be "cured" by doing yoga. Or just concentrating harder. Mind over matter. And I stagger because I'm not paying attention to where I'm stepping. And drag my left foot because I'm too lazy to pick it up. And speaking of mind over matter, I need to pay attention to my speech. If I thought my sentences out carefully before speaking, I would make more sense. I need to focus. And it's been over a year since the second stroke, why aren't I better yet? If I had put the proper amount of effort into pushing myself to recover, I'd be driving and working again already. I'm using it as an excuse to give up. And speaking of giving up, how dare I use a wheelchair to go out. Why that's the height of laziness! They injured their back and the pain was so excruciating that they cracked a tooth from gritting their teeth so hard while walking around, but they didn't "give up" and use a wheelchair. That's for REAL disabled people, who can't move their legs. Not for people like me who just want to take the easy way out. They have TOO MUCH PRIDE to be caught dead in a wheelchair. I'll never get better if I don't force myself to endure the discomfort. Anyway, just ignorant pieces of shit being ignorant pieces of shit... And then they act fake concerned and ask why I never come visit anymore.   I hope you are feeling better, you deserve better! Damn. I got nothing. Those people suck ass. |
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 8, 2018 11:50:58 GMT
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Post by Really Red on Aug 8, 2018 11:56:10 GMT
I am flabbergasted. What is WRONG with people and these are people who supposedly "love" you. I wish I could come up with a good response for you tracyarts but it's so egregious I cannot. Sorry you're going through this when all you need is love and support. |
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Post by jesslee on Aug 8, 2018 12:14:35 GMT
So sorry about the allergies. I feel your pain.
I just got home from a family vacation in Vermont. My mother (who has allergies) still doesn't get that heavy perfumes set off my asthma. No matter how many times I tell her. I can no longer have candles, perfumes, scented soap, heavy chemicals or those scented hand sanitizers from Bath and Body Works. I have told her that so many times. So before the trip she bought everyone their own B&BW sanitizers for the car! Are you kidding me! So I immediately take them from everyone in my car and put them away. You can wash your hands when we stop for a pee break. So during our stay we take a small trip to a cute town to go shopping. We take one car. After a half hour into the ride she starts offering people the sanitizers. I told her no I can't have those heavy scented things especially in this small space. What does she do? Yup squirts a huge amount in her hands and uses it. "Oh doesn't that smell nice?" Nope it smells like I need my inhaler. Thank you.
She on the other hand is allergic to coconut. I respect that. I don't use it in anything I cook that she would eat. I don't put it on desserts if she is coming over. I do this because of her allergy and I don't want her to have a problem. Though I know she really isn't allergic to coconut she just doesn't like it. lol. She does have allergies to other things but not that.
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