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Post by twistedscissors on Aug 6, 2018 20:33:33 GMT
I wish my dad would understand that I have a deadly allergy to grass. But he’s old and thinks allergies are made up. He insists on mowing my yard on my day off. My mom comes with him and runs in and out the door 54322244 times talking to him. So now even inside my house smells like grass. I used to pay to have my yard mowed while I was at work and he complained that I was spending money. I’m spending more money now on meds and dr visits.
I’m sitting here an hour later gasping for breath, nose stopped up, eyes watering and throat all scratchy.
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Anita
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Post by Anita on Aug 6, 2018 20:37:56 GMT
Can you go somewhere while he mows? Take your mom out with you.
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Post by JoP on Aug 6, 2018 20:38:07 GMT
Oh no, I’m sorry sending you
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Post by AmandaA on Aug 6, 2018 21:04:06 GMT
I would get the hell out of Kentucky... the Bluegrass state does not sound like a safe place for someone with severe grass allergies!
I have an ENT vent too... my ears have been under pressure for almost 2 weeks. Saw the NP a week ago when vertigo hit with it. The dizziness is pretty much gone but I still have pressure, ringing, and misery in my ears after doing everything they asked of me. Going back to the PCP in the am to beg her to do something before I take matters into my own hands (just kidding...barely).
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Post by twistedscissors on Aug 6, 2018 21:11:11 GMT
Can you go somewhere while he mows? Take your mom out with you. I was here less than 10 minutes while he was actually mowing. But inside my house smells like grass where my mom was in and out so many times. They were gone almost an hour before I got back, walked straight inside the house with a shirt over my nose and mouth. I’m having a reaction just sitting in my living room.
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Post by georgiapea on Aug 6, 2018 21:15:41 GMT
It doesn't matter what your father thinks, but surely your mother understands how her going in and out of the house affects you. You're not a child so either go back to hired lawn care or have him do it on a day you work. A serious allergy IS life threatening.
My vent is about grass too The hubs says our wheeled weed whacker is broken. The repair place said they aren't worth repairing. The replacement cost is over $200.00. The hubs does nothing and the grass is close to knee high. I've been cutting it with scissors but can only work outside after the Sun goes down. That's when it usually rains.
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Post by disneypal on Aug 6, 2018 21:19:00 GMT
That is nice that he cuts the grass for you. Can you tell him that while you truly appreciate it, could he please do it on a day when you are working?
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Post by basketdiva on Aug 6, 2018 21:46:11 GMT
Solutions: a) change the grass over something that is not deadly to you. b) hire a yard service- let your Dad complain about the cost-it's your money to spend and your life to live as safely as you can.
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Post by julieb on Aug 6, 2018 21:52:10 GMT
Poisin Ivy/Sumac - you suck and you really itch!
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Post by twistedscissors on Aug 6, 2018 22:10:12 GMT
That is nice that he cuts the grass for you. Can you tell him that while you truly appreciate it, could he please do it on a day when you are working? I’ve tried. He don’t believe in allergies. I take several daily meds plus shots and carry an epi pen. He still don’t get it.
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Post by twistedscissors on Aug 6, 2018 22:12:07 GMT
Solutions: a) change the grass over something that is not deadly to you. b) hire a yard service- let your Dad complain about the cost-it's your money to spend and your life to live as safely as you can. We priced something similar to Astro turf. Costs more than my house. My allergy dr basically said never go outside. But I can’t stay inside if mom won’t leave my door shut either.
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Post by papersilly on Aug 6, 2018 22:13:33 GMT
i was weeding in the garden yesterday. of course the weeds are growing in between rose bushes and prickly scrubs. my arms are covered in so many scratches that it looks like i fought a cat and the cat won. i, too, am allergic to grass and by the time i got up from being on my hands and knees, i was itching like crazy.
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Post by kkrenn on Aug 7, 2018 1:08:16 GMT
I am so sorry!
My vent is this: My last surgery was on 7/23 and I am beyond thrilled that my pain doc uses surgical glue to close my incisions as I couldn't tolerate having stitches removed and the dissolving ones don't work with my body. The down side is that it takes FOREVER for the surgical glue to go away and it is pulling on the surrounding skin something awful.
I just want this incision healed so I can go back to wearing normalish clothes.
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Anita
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Post by Anita on Aug 7, 2018 1:14:27 GMT
I think you should hire a service to come over the day before your day off. Then it's done when he shows up, you avoided it, and he can't do much about it.
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Post by quiltz on Aug 7, 2018 1:25:05 GMT
That is nice that he cuts the grass for you. Can you tell him that while you truly appreciate it, could he please do it on a day when you are working? I’ve tried. He don’t believe in allergies. I take several daily meds plus shots and carry an epi pen. He still don’t get it. Ask him if he wants his daughter alive or dead - seriously. MAKE him watch you take your injections. Show him the medications. If he still doesn't "get it", lock up your lawnmower and tell him you prefer to live than die because of his inconsideration.
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 7, 2018 1:26:43 GMT
We had a hail storm this afternoon. It started with just a few hits os small hail on the deck, so I started moving my plants to cover. I got hit in the kidney (area) with a tennis ball sized piece of hail. If it had hit my head, I would have been out. Ran back inside and watched it hail on and off for 90 minutes. Our local zoo that is close to my house lost a duck and two vultures to the hail (killed). Eight people ended up at the hospital and a majority of the vehicles in the parking lot were left undrivable. They were bussing out the people and towing all of the cars out. Crazy. This is our third really good hailstorm of the season. Our roof was totaled from the last one. Thankfully cars were in the garage or at work where there was not even rain.
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Post by GiantsFan on Aug 7, 2018 1:52:48 GMT
I'm sorry. My mom still doesn't believe I actually have sleep apnea. Even after being diagnosed by a pulmonologist and using a CPAP for six years.
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Post by lgr4 on Aug 7, 2018 2:07:06 GMT
I have had a shot and a prednisone pack and still have new spots of poison 'something' showing up!
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Post by Skellinton on Aug 7, 2018 2:08:25 GMT
I hate allergies, rarely do people who don’t ha e them understand how awful they truly are.
My vent is about the freaking heat. I live in an area where it typically gets hot for one week (over 90) per summer, maybe 2 weeks total, but with a separation between them. This summer we have had only a few days below 90 most days it has been 95 and above, I am not made for heat. It makes me tired and cranky. No a/c at work and I spend a fair amount of time outside. I am ready for summer weather to go away.
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Post by twistedscissors on Aug 7, 2018 2:08:51 GMT
I'm sorry. My mom still doesn't believe I actually have sleep apnea. Even after being diagnosed by a pulmonologist and using a CPAP for six years. It sucks when no one believes you. It still hurts when I breathe hours later, like there’s something sitting on my chest.
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Post by Kerri W on Aug 7, 2018 2:21:37 GMT
You poor thing. Oldest DS has severe allergies to cut grass so I get it. My vent-I seriously dislike our new employee. I've tried repeatedly to be nice and helpful but she's simple awful to work with. She's very defensive if you ask her anything and uses a very rude, condescending tone of voice. I just don't like her.
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Post by Zee on Aug 7, 2018 2:28:03 GMT
I'm sorry, I know how miserable allergies can be though mine are nothing as severe as yours!
My vent: DH packed away the power cord to my monitor somewhere separate from any of my office things and my entire house is a jumble of boxes and crap and nothing is organized yet... class starts in less than a week and I just want one neatly organized area of the house. I want my damn computer up and running. IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK
Yes, I can use a laptop, but I hate typing on those. I'm so incredibly irritated right now.
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Post by scrappyesq on Aug 7, 2018 2:30:20 GMT
I'm so sorry you're feeling sick. Allergies are so annoying (understatement I'm sure).
My vent: fuck you 90% humidity week 3. My entire life has been take the bus. Rush to my office. Leave my office. Sweat like a moose to the bus stop. Then take the train ONE subway station because it's too hot to walk. Every day for weeks. It was supposed to break on Thursday. Now? Monday.
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Post by mlana on Aug 7, 2018 3:06:27 GMT
I was hoping someone had started a vent thread - I need it tonight.
My DH is driving me crazy.
I am working 8 hours a day from home - he is working 3 to 4 away from home, maybe. By the end of the day, it’s all I can do to move. My joints and legs and feet swell really bad and my back has been hurting from the chair I sit in. After work, I still have my normal house work to do and meals to cooks. Special meals because DH had CKD. Last week, I just couldn’t and we had take out more than we should have.
Weekends are not and never have been days off for me. I do my food prep n the weekend so I can keep up with DH’s dietary needs. I also try to cook at least twice a day so he is getting safe food when he’s home to eat it.
Here’s why I try so hard - when he eats my cooking 2 out of 3 meals, his kidney function goes up and his K and Phosphorus go way down, which is good. He’d been eating breakfast and supper at home and his Phosphorus dropped way down, well into really good territory, at his last bloodwork. He also walks every night up and down our hallway 59 times if I count , less if he counts. He knows that missing 1 night of walking means his BP goes up 5-8 points the next morning. Missing 2 nights in a row means his BP goes up 10+ points the next morning. Missing 3 days in a row means he goes right to the edge or over his goal and it takes as long as a week to bring it down again.
This weekend, Asshat decided to be rude about my cooking. This after I had to sign out of work early Friday because I was sick from a drug reaction. He decided that the special treats I’ve learned to make with sourdough rather than baking powder were not sweet enough, not moist enough, too wet, no flavor, etc. Do you know how FUCKING hard it is to cook without baking powder or cream of tartar? To keep protein down, low sugar and carbs (diabetic too!) and still be palatable?Last week these same recipes were just awesome, couldn’t eat them fast enough.
This weekend I spent Sat in bed recovering from Friday. We ate takeout, no choice. Before bed Sat night, I went downstairs and made the sourdough batter for pancakes. Sunday I got up early and made pancakes and fresh strawberries. DH made a plate, ate everything, then said those were actually good for a change. ??@#%%$@@$% asshat. He went to pick up groceries for me at Kroger’s Clicklist and ran really late getting back. When DD checked to see where he was, he was at Taco Bell. @#$%^^%$#
I asked him to do his laps earlier so I could get to bed earlier. when I started working, he started coming home from working a couple hours and nappping for several hours. Then he took his time doing his laps and got irritated when i asked him to please get them done so I could do my nighttime routine. He also started cheating when he could and even pretending to lose count on how many sets he’s done.
Tonight I had enough. I asked him yesterday and this morning to please don’t nap but a half hour and then get his laps done by 10 so I could go to bed. While I finished the bookkeeping for the company, he took a long nap. Then he insisted that he had until 11 to get his laps done. I told him he had as long as he wanted because I’m done. No more. Walk don’t walk. Live or die. I’m done. He wants to pee out his arm via dialysis, go for it.
I told him years ago after begging on my knees for him to manage his diabetes that if he allowed himself to become ill by not taking care of himself, I would stay until I saw myself becoming bitter, and then I’d leave. My vows were for better or worse, not dumber and dumber.
I’m done.
Marcy
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 7, 2018 3:17:46 GMT
mlana that sounds rough. I'm sorry
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Post by Delta Dawn on Aug 7, 2018 3:22:41 GMT
I went to a local lake and four bugs landed on me. One of the four I think has bit me on my neck. I don’t get mosquito bites but I do get spider bites and they make me itch. I am not sure what this is just yet.
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Post by mlana on Aug 7, 2018 3:23:20 GMT
mlana that sounds rough. I'm sorry Thank you. I just needed somewhere I could blow off steam and not have to be judged. LOL ‘Cause the Peas never judge, right? . Not like my momma, anyway. Marcy
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Post by Skellinton on Aug 7, 2018 3:28:36 GMT
I went to a local lake and four bugs landed on me. One of the four I think has bit me on my neck. I don’t get mosquito bites but I do get spider bites and they make me itch. I am not sure what this is just yet. Rub a glue stick on it, it should help stop the itch.
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Post by moodyblue on Aug 7, 2018 3:29:48 GMT
mlana, the reality is that you can't care more than he does about his health without it causing you major stress.
My brother is on dialysis because an autoimmune disease caused kidney failure. He is the rare patient at his dialysis center who can walk in and out on his own steam, AND who really tries to follow the diet and keep his numbers in the necessary range. I think some figure they will take what pleasure they can get (from eating what they want) because their situation means they have little else to live for. My brother chooses to do what he can to live as if he has many more years and to take pleasure and appreciate what he has and can do.
Sounds like your husband just doesn't want to take responsibility for it, and he's like a teenager who rebels against being told what to do. It's anyone's guess if he'll "see the light" before doing even more irreparable damage to himself.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2018 3:51:49 GMT
I would get the hell out of Kentucky... the Bluegrass state does not sound like a safe place for someone with severe grass allergies! I have an ENT vent too... my ears have been under pressure for almost 2 weeks. Saw the NP a week ago when vertigo hit with it. The dizziness is pretty much gone but I still have pressure, ringing, and misery in my ears after doing everything they asked of me. Going back to the PCP in the am to beg her to do something before I take matters into my own hands (just kidding...barely). [ I have had a VERY similar ear issue. Mine started on July 24 (the day we got home from Hawaii). I've completed a Z pack (saw a NP on last Monday), then had a solu-medrol injection (saw an MD on Wednesday) and have two doses of prednisone remaining. I'm hoping it's fully resolving, but I still feel pressure bilaterally. I hope you feel better soon!
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