When is your mental health more important?

Start looking...your mental health is VERY important

Do you want me to tell you what a break down feels like? You are getting close if not all the way there.

If you had a broken arm would you be able to do your job? You have a PhD in adolescent psychology, don’t you? Dude, you are smart smart. You are better than this. You can stay there, but really, healthy workplaces do not make employees cry. They just don’t. You cry at work and at home. This is neither healthy nor normal. I suspect you have PTSD and whatever else leftover from the concussion. Not surprising nor unexpected.

We have a lawyer friend who told us there are awful workplaces everywhere. You know you need to get out of there. Make it happen.

I agree.

I think that the answer to the interview question of “why only 1 year at current job?” should be “I discovered that it was not a good fit for me.  In fact, it was a poor fit. I was not able to work up to my potential, nor have any level of job satisfaction due to __________?”

You need to sit down alone, or with a career counselor, and make some lists: what exactly and concretely is unsatisfactory to you at the current job.  Even if you choose not to share all of it in a future job interview, and you may reword some of it to be more politically correct, be specific.  Next, now that you know what makes you miserable and have some ideas from your previous job, list what specifically and concretely YOU want/need to be satisfied at your job.  What is it that they have to offer - in terms of work environment, benefits, whatever else - in order for the new job to be a good fit/more satisfying.

It is appropriate to say a past job was a poor fit in an interview, as long as you show the interviewers that you learned from the experience and are now seeking our specificate work environment factors to lessen the chance of that happening again.  Just keep the focus on how/why it wasn’t a good fit for you, and stay far away from bashing the current job you have.  

You also need to be proactive during the interview process and seek out an environment that fits you and your style and needs better than where you are currently.  You are a professional and that is always a strong way to interview for a professional job.

Does that make sense?

Get out. Don't worry about your resume; don't worry about "how it looks."

You need to take care of yourself. No one else will. You need to make sure that you are physically healed from the concussion and emotionally ready to tackle a new job, where you feel respected, cared for and appreciated.

GO.

My opinion is, you gave it a good try, not all of our choices are a good. I would say it’s time to move on. Maybe you will always be unable to heal from what has happened in the past, there is not reason to torture yourself.
Weight what options you have moving forward and take the time to find the best fit for you in the future.
I would also stay on the meds for a while and see if they help with the feeling overwhelmed.
I hope you find just the right place for you.

Why be loyal to a place that isn’t loyal to you? This isn’t our parent’s career path where you can expect a life long career from one place. It isn’t going to look bad if you leave because the job wasn’t a good fit.

I have two jobs on my resume where I was only there a year or less. I have had no issues at all with that hindering me getting a better job. I was only asked about one of the jobs that I was at 6 months. I explained that I was unable to work to my full potential and that position just wasn't a good fit for me.

It must have been the right answer because I did get the job I was interviewing for that asked about it. That job made me so much happier and my mental health really improved!

Always chose mental health! Start looking for a new job now, don't wait a minute longer.

Well, you got great information from the meeting about why you are so miserable there.  Now you know what to ask about in future interviews. If their response to the team was they weren’t willing to make group suggested changes, then find a job that will, or already has those things in place. 

OK, I have a slightly different answer than everyone else....when did you start your meds (I assume they are anti-anxiety meds)? If it was recent, you may want to give it a couple of weeks to kick in and see how you feel about things then. I know when my anxiety is showing itself, things that are really not that big a deal, make me absolutely miserable. With my meds, I can handle things much better.

eta:  I don't remember the details of your previous issues, so feel free to ignore if I'm off base here. 

I’ve had awful, soul sucking jobs before. It just isn’t worth it to stay when things get that bad. Your health is always more important.

If you're feeling that horrible, then it's time to leave. Not sure what your speciality is, but there is nothing more important than your mental health. Some jobs look good, but end up not being a great fit. Move on. Life's too short. I'm sorry your in this position.

I didn't read your post, because nothing will change my answer to the question posed in the title.

Nothing is more important than taking care of you and that absolutely includes mental health and wellness.

Be well. Take care of yourself. I wish you well.

Your resume is not as important as your mental health. I can't even begin to imagine you think you can survive 2-5 years in that job! And by survive I mean survive - you will not have a shred of sanity left. The fact that you are still there amazes me. You have more strength than I would. To be honest, I'd give notice today and get the heck out!!

Mental health ALWAYS comes first!!!