slkmommy
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Post by slkmommy on Sept 24, 2018 16:32:25 GMT
I have 2 part time jobs working for two separate (and unequal) churches near my home. One job I have had for nearly 14 years, the other less than a year. The newer job is affording me more stability going forward, and thankfully, medical benefits and retirement aren't an issue for me.
The old job has been reduced to 16 hours a week, and my take home pay per month is less than $1K. My husband's job is stable, he's a teacher, and he has 5 years to retirement.
The issue is in our local area, churches are in process of consolidating down, it's a 2-3 year process in both places I work. In the original job, my likelihood of maintaining a position after that happens is close to zero per cent. The church is in financial downfall, and ultimately, I believe it will close; there will be one central office for the four consolidated churches, and more than enough staff to fill positions. In reality, when I took the second job, it was to establish a place where, going forward, I would have more security.
My DH and I have lived on far less money in the past, and that was even when the kids were involved in expensive things, but of course, as our income grew, so did our lifestyle. And if it's any help, both of our children have boomeranged back home, and are way beyond willing to contribute.
Please tell me that my mental health isn't worth waiting the 2 years to receive less than $2500 severance pay (yes, I've checked) and that increased budgeting will help make up the difference (at least until I can get a car paid off in March).
Sorry, I know this is long, and I don't post much, but advice is welcome!
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Post by christine58 on Sept 24, 2018 16:40:27 GMT
Please tell me that my mental health isn't worth waiting the 2 years to receive less than $2500 severance pay (yes, I've checked) and that increased budgeting will help make up the difference (at least until I can get a car paid off in March). It is not worth waiting. Have your kids who are now at home pay rent or something . You'll be ok and you know what--you might find a better part time job. |
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Post by mom on Sept 24, 2018 16:48:01 GMT
I have 2 part time jobs working for two separate (and unequal) churches near my home. One job I have had for nearly 14 years, the other less than a year. The newer job is affording me more stability going forward, and thankfully, medical benefits and retirement aren't an issue for me. The old job has been reduced to 16 hours a week, and my take home pay per month is less than $1K. My husband's job is stable, he's a teacher, and he has 5 years to retirement. The issue is in our local area, churches are in process of consolidating down, it's a 2-3 year process in both places I work. In the original job, my likelihood of maintaining a position after that happens is close to zero per cent. The church is in financial downfall, and ultimately, I believe it will close; there will be one central office for the four consolidated churches, and more than enough staff to fill positions. In reality, when I took the second job, it was to establish a place where, going forward, I would have more security. My DH and I have lived on far less money in the past, and that was even when the kids were involved in expensive things, but of course, as our income grew, so did our lifestyle. And if it's any help, both of our children have boomeranged back home, and are way beyond willing to contribute. Please tell me that my mental health isn't worth waiting the 2 years to receive less than $2500 severance pay (yes, I've checked) and that increased budgeting will help make up the difference (at least until I can get a car paid off in March). Sorry, I know this is long, and I don't post much, but advice is welcome! Are you saying they will help? Sorry, I am confused. Assuming they will help, have them pay a small rent payment. You're looking at it about 6 months of tightness in your budget (til March an the car is paid for). You can do this. Tighten your belt and get on a beans & rice budget. It isn't forever. Its for a few months. AND You will find a new job. I am sure of it. No way would I have this hang over me for a couple of thousand dollars. Your peace of mind is worth more than that. |
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Post by malibou on Sept 24, 2018 16:50:15 GMT
So not worth waiting.
Start looking at gas, car maintenance, lunches, the things you contribute to the job - parties for each other, potlucks, the times you pick up takeout for dinner because of work stuff and you will soon see you are working for next to nothing.
In return, you get the pleasure of enjoying your children, who are willing to help, as the lovely adults you helped them become.
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slkmommy
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Post by slkmommy on Sept 24, 2018 16:52:14 GMT
WOW...so quickly the first responses came in and made me smile.
And yes, my boys are VERY willing to chip in!
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Post by dewryce on Sept 24, 2018 16:52:18 GMT
You don't say why the job is affecting your mental health so I can't comment on that. But I strongly feel mental health is a priority. Seriously, life is short.
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Post by unknown pea on Sept 24, 2018 16:55:05 GMT
It isn't worth waiting.You can do this!
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Post by littlemama on Sept 24, 2018 16:57:54 GMT
If each child pays $500 in rent, then you have already made up the amount that you were taking home!
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Post by papersilly on Sept 24, 2018 16:59:51 GMT
my mental health isn't worth waiting the 2 years to receive less than $2500 severance payand that increased budgeting will help make up the difference i think you already answered your own question. it's seem pretty clear. i'm not being snotty. i think deep inside, you already know what your gut instinct is about this. so go with it.  |
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slkmommy
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Post by slkmommy on Sept 24, 2018 17:07:47 GMT
You guys are great....sometimes it's hard to see where true loyalty lies. When you've truly "owned" a job for 13+ years, it is hard to see clearly...
Oh, and did I mention that becoming certified in the job I just started requires two years of classes and a field project, and in addition to that I have enrolled in a program for an associate degree in that field as well.
I know the answer is to quit sooner rather than later, simply because I feel like I am walking on two sides of the fence, and in all fairness to my new job, that really shouldn't continue.
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mvavw
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Post by mvavw on Sept 24, 2018 17:12:31 GMT
I've been in a similar situation with two part time jobs and let the second one go. Financially, it wasn't as bad as i thought it would be because I was able to get more hours at my better job. In my case, i was only making $50-70/week from the second job, but it did help with groceries and gas. It also saved me gas and lunch money by leaving.
I don't know how bad your job is, but if it is a time/busyness thing only, I would see if I could stick it out another month and put the money aside just for the car payment. If it is a stressful work environment (nasty people, stressed at work) I'd leave as soon as possible.
I know that the holidays are a very busy time at churches and add their own stress, so definitely keep this in mind when you plan your exit- you'll probably want to leave long before the prep for the season gets in full swing.
Good luck!
Maria
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slkmommy
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Post by slkmommy on Sept 24, 2018 17:13:30 GMT
I've been in a similar situation with two part time jobs and let the second one go. Financially, it wasn't as bad as i thought it would be because I was able to get more hours at my better job. In my case, i was only making $50-70/week from the second job, but it did help with groceries and gas. It also saved me gas and lunch money by leaving. I don't know how bad your job is, but if it is a time/busyness thing only, I would see if I could stick it out another month and put the money aside just for the car payment. If it is a stressful work environment (nasty people, stressed at work) I'd leave as soon as possible. I know that the holidays are a very busy time at churches and add their own stress, so definitely keep this in mind when you plan your exit- you'll probably want to leave long before the prep for the season gets in full swing. Good luck! Maria I hadn't considered the holiday thing!!!!!!!! |
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Post by busy on Sept 24, 2018 17:18:33 GMT
Staying at a job you're miserable at is NOT worth it. It's just not. I've done it twice and both times, the only thing I regretted was not leaving sooner. As long as you can pay the bills and save without that income, leave. Your mental and physical health with thank you, and it will benefit your family as well when you remove something that's probably affecting you more than you realize.
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Post by mikklynn on Sept 24, 2018 17:28:50 GMT
It seems to me you have made up your mind to leave job #1 and just want validation. I validate you - quit.
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Post by 16joy on Sept 24, 2018 17:32:06 GMT
Have your boys pay the amount of your car payment in rent since that seems to be your biggest concern.
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Post by scrappysurfer on Sept 24, 2018 18:15:47 GMT
It's only money. Your boys can contribute and more than make up for the lost income. Your mental health is absolutely more important. Quit and move forward! 🤗🤗
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Post by mygigiscraps on Sept 24, 2018 18:21:51 GMT
You would be amazed at how little you even want to shop when you are happy. Absolutely, you should go ahead and quit if you can.
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hannahruth
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Post by hannahruth on Sept 25, 2018 5:11:51 GMT
All of the above - quit sooner than later!
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Post by hop2 on Sept 25, 2018 11:20:19 GMT
If you don’t need the money, benefits or anything then quit. If you don’t need the job, work where you enjoy it! Seriously. Your mental health is worth way more than that ( spoken as someone who has paid therapy bills ) trust me way way more.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Sept 25, 2018 14:37:03 GMT
If the church is in a financial downfall, I would not count on receiving the severance pay anyway. Move on.
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