How do you handle DH forgetting your birthday? Sweet Update!

First of all, Happy Birthday 🎂🎉🎊

Since you are stuck at home today, I would do some online shopping with his credit card.

Happy birthday! DH (and the kids) forgot my birthday this year, and I felt (still do) immensely sorry for myself, hurt, unappreciated....Honestly, I was so upset, that burning a hole in his credit card didn't even tempt me. They remembered the next day (I think DS was on FB and realised it was my birthday the day before and then told the other two), but I'm not going to lie; it hurt. Bad. Next year, I'm 50, and if they forget that, I'm going away for a week someplace nice. On my own. With DH's card.

Happy birthday!

I would have a very hard time if my husband forgot my birthday, I’m so sorry he forgot. Maybe he has something planned for later today? Or at least I hope he does!

I give my DH a big pass on my birthday and realize I have the best chance of him remembering if I make plans and tell him something specific I want for a gift. The kids have been very useful in keeping him on track, but I don't hesitate to remind him a few times as the date gets closer. He also forgets his mom's every year.

He grew up in a culture where birthdays are NOT celebrated and it really isn't something that he gets. He is much better at remembering our the kids' birthdays but I'm not sure he would do anything other than taking them to dinner if I wasn't around.

I'm sorry you are hurt. 

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This happened on my fortieth.

About 8:30 pm, after waiting for my husband and sons to give me a card or something, and it was now time to get the boys to bed so too late for any cake or anything (which we did not have—-nothing!) , I just wiped away tears that I could not hold back. My son noticed and asked what was wrong. Then it turned into this big thing about how I plan everything so they all thought I would plan this too (My husband had always at least gotten a card for me every year. This was the first time in 22 years that he had not remembered my birthday AT ALL). Even an empty handed “happy birthday” would have been nice on my birthday.

My husband and one son both have ADD and executive functioning deficits.

So, since then I start about a week before and tell them. I buy a Pepperidge Farm cake and put it in the freezer. And I expect nothing and hope they at least remember. My husband now has a reminder set on his phone, and his work colleagues now remind him.

I have never been one to make a huge thing out of my birthday, but it’s nice to at least have it acknowledged. I still get a little sad over that birthday even though I know it was not really their fault. The fact is that I AM the planner, and I should not have left this to chance.

Happy Birthday!

My 50th got forgotten. I was mad, I cried, and I don't speak poorly of DH, but I called my two best friends and cried to them about it. And have since made sure to get myself something I really want on my birthday. I do this at Christmas too. Just in case.

He also fucked up my first Mother's Day.

Happy Birthday! Sorry that it seems that you were overlooked by your husband but hopefully, since it is still early, that he will be calling or walking through the door with flowers or a card. I have experienced the same thing along with others who have shared and it still stings a bit.

I'm sorry they forgot, that stinks! I hope you can find some happiness on your birthday. Have a good day!

My son and I are five days apart on our birthdays. Add in Mother's Day to that and you have three things to celebrate in a row. My birthday is the last one and I usually buy my own gift, but my husband will get me a pretty plant for the deck. We always do dinner out on our birthdays, so I will mention a few days in advance where I want to go. It helps with remembering.

OP, since you know he could forget, help him out. Tell him what you want in advance or suggest something for dinner that night that he could bring home. I am a forgetful person for some things and get how it could happen and I would love for someone mention it to me if it had happened before. It isn't about how much they love and appreciate you as much as it isn't on their radar. I can see how it would make you feel awful though. Hugs.

You can PM me his phone number and I will make a courtesy call for you.

Hi, this is a reminder for allipeas husband. Is there a birthday monkey in your house today? If you answered yes, and have it covered, please just hang up. If you answered no, you forgot. Consider yourself flicked on the forehead and beat feet at lunch to find away to make up for this error. Flowers and cake are a good start. A gift card will likely suffice this late in the game, but make it a good one. Also, since you have kids, and they may have also forgotten, you'll need to have a plan for them. Buying a birthday card for them to write heartfelt sentiments on is a dandy idea. Throwing in an extra gift card might help keep you out of the doghouse.
This message has been brought to you by Peas. Oh, and so you don't find yourself in this predicament again, please set up your reminders now. Yes, right now, while it's on your mind.

I’m hoping he is working on a surprise for later today. Happy Birthday!!!

My own mother forgot my birthday one year. It bothered me. I told her that I felt sad when she didn’t call me on my birthday or anything, and she said she was busy and hadn’t had a chance. Not much I could do then but move on. She did not do it again.

I acknowledge your feelings.

Hope you have a happy birthday anyway.