Post by brina on Oct 31, 2018 17:15:25 GMT
For many years I have dreamed about traveling to Vietnam and the surrounding area. I had suggested it as a honey moon destination, but dh wasn't interested. When my dh and I were looking to adopt I seriously explored it as an option, but it was just about the time inter country adoptions shut down. In grad school I had a chance to go but it was only going to be a one week trip and didn't seem worth the jet lag. Time and again, it just didn't happen.
About 5 months ago dh and I had dinner with some friends and the wife shared with us that she had an opportunity through her job to go and work in Laos for 6 months. DH mentioned that I had always wanted to go there and Vietnam and my friend invited me to come visit her. DH encouraged me to go. He has quite a few health issues and long flights are not good for him, plus he really cannot do much by way of hiking, climbing, kayaking, thus he would not be traveling with me. Working with my friend and our kids schedules I found a time that would work. I booked my flights, my hotels, intra, and inter country travel, including time with my friend and time traveling on my own since she is working.
Not quite three weeks ago dh and I were dressing to go out to dinner. He felt something go snap near his ankle and could not walk. He ruptured his achilles tendon. It was a friday night, so off to the ER we went, but could not get in to see a specialist until Monday. Because of his various health issues we had to see a number of specialists before he could have surgery, but at the same time, it is not a surgery they like to put off very long. He finally had his surgery last Thursday. I was supposed to have left on my trip two days earlier. The trip has been cancelled rather than postponed because the timing was based upon my friends schedule, plus my kids' schedules.
His right foot is in a very large cast so dh cannot drive. He cannot easily get up and down stairs. He cannot travel due to risk of blood clots, so now I have to go to my daughters out of state tournament. This was supposed to be the first tournament he had attended for any of our kids in over 3 years, again, because of his health. I am feeling resentful as hell because all of his health issues are due to his ignoring his health for many, many years leading to the crisis that occurred a few years ago.
So right now, I should be in northern Thailand. Instead I am here and packing to go out of town to someplace not nearly as fun. I also found out that for whatever reason most of the team dads are coming to this tournament rather than the moms.
Oh, and its Halloween, which is my mother-in-laws birthday. She doesn't get trick or treaters by her house so for the last 18 years she has been coming here to give out candy. Which worked great when the kids were little and I would take them trick or treating while she manned the door. The last few years it has just been awkward - it does not take three adults to hand out candy (mil, her aide and me). She has been increasingly frail the last few years and has developed dementia. But she wants to be the one to answer the door. Which takes her aide helping her to stand up and walk to the door - by which point the kids think nobody is home and start walking away. I had heard nothing about her coming this year so was really hoping with dh being injured that we would skip it - but no.
About 5 months ago dh and I had dinner with some friends and the wife shared with us that she had an opportunity through her job to go and work in Laos for 6 months. DH mentioned that I had always wanted to go there and Vietnam and my friend invited me to come visit her. DH encouraged me to go. He has quite a few health issues and long flights are not good for him, plus he really cannot do much by way of hiking, climbing, kayaking, thus he would not be traveling with me. Working with my friend and our kids schedules I found a time that would work. I booked my flights, my hotels, intra, and inter country travel, including time with my friend and time traveling on my own since she is working.
Not quite three weeks ago dh and I were dressing to go out to dinner. He felt something go snap near his ankle and could not walk. He ruptured his achilles tendon. It was a friday night, so off to the ER we went, but could not get in to see a specialist until Monday. Because of his various health issues we had to see a number of specialists before he could have surgery, but at the same time, it is not a surgery they like to put off very long. He finally had his surgery last Thursday. I was supposed to have left on my trip two days earlier. The trip has been cancelled rather than postponed because the timing was based upon my friends schedule, plus my kids' schedules.
His right foot is in a very large cast so dh cannot drive. He cannot easily get up and down stairs. He cannot travel due to risk of blood clots, so now I have to go to my daughters out of state tournament. This was supposed to be the first tournament he had attended for any of our kids in over 3 years, again, because of his health. I am feeling resentful as hell because all of his health issues are due to his ignoring his health for many, many years leading to the crisis that occurred a few years ago.
So right now, I should be in northern Thailand. Instead I am here and packing to go out of town to someplace not nearly as fun. I also found out that for whatever reason most of the team dads are coming to this tournament rather than the moms.
Oh, and its Halloween, which is my mother-in-laws birthday. She doesn't get trick or treaters by her house so for the last 18 years she has been coming here to give out candy. Which worked great when the kids were little and I would take them trick or treating while she manned the door. The last few years it has just been awkward - it does not take three adults to hand out candy (mil, her aide and me). She has been increasingly frail the last few years and has developed dementia. But she wants to be the one to answer the door. Which takes her aide helping her to stand up and walk to the door - by which point the kids think nobody is home and start walking away. I had heard nothing about her coming this year so was really hoping with dh being injured that we would skip it - but no.
If your MIL does come, can you put a chair closer to the door for her or stick a sign on the doorbell saying you are giving out treats, but to be patient while someone answers the door? 
