iluvpink
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Post by iluvpink on Dec 4, 2018 14:02:08 GMT
Just curious what most budget for Christmas gifts for their teenagers and young adults (college age).
Also do you mostly give them one or two big gifts or many smaller gifts or some other arrangement?
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Post by gar on Dec 4, 2018 14:07:20 GMT
I hope anyone who isn't able to spend tons of money on their kids won't be upset by this
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Post by iluvpink on Dec 4, 2018 14:20:50 GMT
I hope anyone who isn't able to spend tons of money on their kids won't be upset by this Sorry, I don't want that either. I know many can't spend a lot. I also know many CHOOSE not to for philosophical reasons. We all know that loving your child and being there for them is the most important thing. I'm just curious if we are overdoing it or not. We can afford what we spend but I want to keep it realistic.
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Post by seaexplore on Dec 4, 2018 14:25:36 GMT
I’m all about spending less. We can afford more but my kids already have soooooo much! I cap it at $100 per kid for Christmas specifically.
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Post by gar on Dec 4, 2018 14:25:45 GMT
I'm just curious if we are overdoing it or not. We can afford what we spend but I want to keep it realistic. Obviously those terms are subjective so I'm not sure you'll get an answer really but hey, I'll bow out of this one now
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Dec 4, 2018 14:27:03 GMT
I don't really have a set amount. My kids have been asking for primarily sports equipment and clothes the last few years so they get that (stuff they need anyway). I would say that it ends up being around $150-200 for each between us, Santa and stockings. This year might be less because they haven't asked for much and I am going to really try not to buy extra stuff just to buy it. Those things end up sitting around unused and taking up space.
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Post by workingclassdog on Dec 4, 2018 14:27:55 GMT
I put $100 but it is usually a over that but not $250... probably the most is $200.. Usually $100 cash and some presents to open...
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Post by leslie132 on Dec 4, 2018 14:33:24 GMT
Typically we would be at about $250. This year he is getting a cellphone. We finally caved. We didn’t get him a IPhone X though, just the 6SPlus. It’s what I have and he really likes mine.
It has been on his list for 3 years. This 3rd year is the charm and he is going to have a terrific Christmas!
My 5 year olds are getting about $125 each.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 4, 2018 14:36:02 GMT
My child is younger so I didn’t answer the poll, but I think that a lot depends on what the kid needs at that stage of life and what the family’s means dictate. We tend to save up the big stuff our kid wants or needs for either her birthday or Christmas, but we don’t spend a lot on random gifts throughout the year either. So if my kid was in high school and needed a $500 laptop of her own to do schoolwork or a new cell phone for us to keep tabs on her vs. a hand me down phone, that might be something we wait to get for her until Christmas or her birthday and it would be her main gift vs. just buying it for her randomly and handing it over. My mom never was able to spend more than maybe $100 tops on any of us, $50 would be more likely. There were eight of us and the budget just didn’t stretch that far. My birthday is early in the year and I got a lot of combo birthday/Christmas gifts. DH’s parents typically spent (or gave cash gifts) way more than that per kid, but they also had only two kids and were financially comfortable enough to do so. After his dad died, his mom would give everybody a whole bunch of little junk gifts but then she would usually give us a check too. DH never realized it until his dad was gone that dad was the more generous parent, LOL.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Dec 4, 2018 14:38:18 GMT
I'm just curious if we are overdoing it or not. We can afford what we spend but I want to keep it realistic. The only person who can decide what realistic is would be you and your DH. I have found I am much happier with my life when I don't compare what I do to what others do. Mine is 30 now so I won't answer your poll, but will just say that we have always fallen into the category of what many consider "overspenders". Many have felt free to share their thought on it, but it's none of their business. We have the money and we share the money with our child, our family and friends. As long as it makes you happy and your child isn't turning into a greedy, whiny teen then you are most likely good.
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Post by julie5 on Dec 4, 2018 14:38:49 GMT
I marked $250, full retail value. But I never pay that. I find nice gifts on sale or with rebates. This year I cashed in a ton of credit card points. So i didn’t actually spend anything except for paying the credit card payment which is for business. The bonus points we spend on us.
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Post by julie5 on Dec 4, 2018 14:39:42 GMT
I hope anyone who isn't able to spend tons of money on their kids won't be upset by this I was that person several years ago. I’m constantly trying to decide if I’m over doing it now.
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Post by tiffanyr on Dec 4, 2018 14:40:10 GMT
We have 3 kids so spending $250 per kid is more than I like to spend but we do spend more than $100...probably closer to $150.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Dec 4, 2018 14:46:37 GMT
I agree that what people spend is their business. I would also encourage those that spend a lot to teach their kids that not everyone is able to spend that much, and that posting what they got for Christmas online (or bragging in person) is tacky at best. Last year my kids were reporting all of the expensive things that their classmates were getting for Christmas and I asked how they knew what the kids got. The kids were posting about it online.
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Post by iluvpink on Dec 4, 2018 14:49:44 GMT
I'm just curious if we are overdoing it or not. We can afford what we spend but I want to keep it realistic. The only person who can decide what realistic is would be you and your DH. I have found I am much happier with my life when I don't compare what I do to what others do. Mine is 30 now so I won't answer your poll, but will just say that we have always fallen into the category of what many consider "overspenders". Many have felt free to share their thought on it, but it's none of their business. We have the money and we share the money with our child, our family and friends. As long as it makes you happy and your child isn't turning into a greedy, whiny teen then you are most likely good. I'm not terribly concerned about it. Just kind of curious. We probably should tone it down a bit over the next few years. DD is 18 and our only.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2018 14:50:18 GMT
We what we can afford and think is appropriate each year, some years it is not so much, another he might need a computer.
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Post by jumperhop on Dec 4, 2018 15:05:40 GMT
I keep a spreadsheet of what my kids got got Christmas and the cost. Just so I can keep track of purchases and make sure it’s even I generally spend around $230. This year my DD needs a new cell phone. So my budget is already shot. Jen
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Post by gmcwife1 on Dec 4, 2018 15:12:35 GMT
We are all over the place depending on need or want. Sometimes our now grown kids didn’t need or want anything expensive and sometimes they did. We tend to give bigger purchases as a birthday or Christmas gift. One year we might give a laptop or gaming system and another year it might be clothes or shared gifts. We only have one child living at home while she is going to school. She just bought herself a laptop and she is asking for a sleeve and laptop bag for it. Dh’s love language is presents though, so he always goes overboard. Two years ago we gave our oldest dd and her boyfriend a Kitchen Aid mixer, which was in the $250 range itself. So it just depends on the year
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Post by psiluvu on Dec 4, 2018 15:13:50 GMT
My kids are 15 and 19 and pretty much have everything they need so this year we are taking them to Florida with a promised shopping spree at the outlets. Ds who is outgrowing a lot of his clothes and needs clothes anyways, so we are using Christmas as an excuse. With everything all in this year I would guess it will be on the higher end of your scale.
I almost forgot we are going to a Magic/Raptors NBA game while in Florida so definitely blowing the budget. Dh and I both get a large Christmas bonus. Some years we save it or put it towards something in the house. This year it is all going towards our trip.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Dec 4, 2018 15:15:12 GMT
I'm not terribly concerned about it. Just kind of curious. We probably should tone it down a bit over the next few years. DD is 18 and our only. We are in the same position with an only child. We also say every year that we are going to tone it down. At 30, that hasn't really happened yet! Now the focus has shifted from fun things to things for her apartment and work wardrobe since she has been promoted to the management track. Good luck figuring out what your happy medium is. Merry Christmas!
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Post by myboysnme on Dec 4, 2018 15:17:42 GMT
Every year I tell myself I am spending like $200, and then it quickly goes over. This year I am spending about $300 on DS2 because I am sending him his gifts in a box. He asked for a Lakers ticket and I told him to buy it and I'll pay for it.
DS2 and fiancée I am spending more because they will be with us for Christmas and I want to have gifts to open. They each got a big gift in the $100-$150 range and then I am buying smaller stuff.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2018 15:18:21 GMT
It honestly depends on what dd(15) is asking for on her wish list.
This year it is...
$100 @ world wildlife foundation to adopt 4 at risk animals
$180 @ American Girl for Tenny, outfit x 2
$20 @ Costco for AG pet
$60 for H.P. pjs, scarf, and sheet set
$40 for 2 Dinosaur books
$40 @ Target for O.G winter sleigh for her A.G. dolls
And then we got a family gift for all 4 of us (Nintendo Switch)
Oh and hopefully this isnt tacky. Just a break down showing it depends on what the kids ask for. We have a santa account and put money away. Then we use our visa card and in Jan pay off what we spent. Last year we spent $240 on DD because of what she asked for. Her Logan AG doll was the most expensive item. Our kids dont get stuff really throughout the year unless they save for it and of course birthday which is 1 gift and an event of their choice. Dd has saved up to buy her own AG doll and other WWF adoption animals. We also each buy 1 gift and donate it to the Fire station for the community. Neither has bragged about what they got (well ds has Autism, dd has aspergers) but she does talk about her AG doll because she collects them. My friends and I wohld share what we got. No one ever felt bad...?
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Post by mom on Dec 4, 2018 15:22:19 GMT
We don't usually have a 'set' budget - but we look at their lists and get them things they will use. DS2 has a $1700 laptop on his list. He won't be getting this and he knows it. But we do try to get most of their list for them. Both boys aren't really spoiled through the year so I tend to do some spoiling at Christmas.
We have a family rule that whatever we spend on our two boys is the amount we donate to someone else. Usually we adopt a family or something like that. We take the money we would spend on our daughter and put that towards someone else.
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Post by scorpeao on Dec 4, 2018 15:43:13 GMT
I only have one child, so I typically spend more than I would if I had more than one.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Dec 4, 2018 15:44:27 GMT
We don't usually have a 'set' budget - but we look at their lists and get them things they will use. DS2 has a $1700 laptop on his list. He won't be getting this and he knows it. But we do try to get most of their list for them. Both boys aren't really spoiled through the year so I tend to do some spoiling at Christmas. We have a family rule that whatever we spend on our two boys is the amount we donate to someone else. Usually we adopt a family or something like that. We take the money we would spend on our daughter and put that towards someone else. That's beautiful.
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Dec 4, 2018 15:49:03 GMT
It completely depends on the year. I often give large gifts at Christmas when it is something I will be buying shortly anyway. Might as well make it a gift so that I don't have to also buy gifts. This year is a huge one - an instrument. But last year, I don't remember buying much (which probably means I spent too much on junk).
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2018 15:52:18 GMT
I don't really have a set amount, but I do try to keep things equal as I go. This year my shopping is already done and I ended around 300 euros per kid.
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Post by myshelly on Dec 4, 2018 15:53:39 GMT
We don’t really choose a set amount before hand.
Based on the shopping I’ve already done, I guess I need an option between 500 and 1000...that’s a pretty big range for poll options.
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Post by jenjie on Dec 4, 2018 15:55:04 GMT
My child is younger so I didn’t answer the poll, but I think that a lot depends on what the kid needs at that stage of life and what the family’s means dictate. We tend to save up the big stuff our kid wants or needs for either her birthday or Christmas, but we don’t spend a lot on random gifts throughout the year either. So if my kid was in high school and needed a $500 laptop of her own to do schoolwork or a new cell phone for us to keep tabs on her vs. a hand me down phone, that might be something we wait to get for her until Christmas or her birthday and it would be her main gift vs. just buying it for her randomly and handing it over. My mom never was able to spend more than maybe $100 tops on any of us, $50 would be more likely. There were eight of us and the budget just didn’t stretch that far. My birthday is early in the year and I got a lot of combo birthday/Christmas gifts. DH’s parents typically spent (or gave cash gifts) way more than that per kid, but they also had only two kids and were financially comfortable enough to do so. After his dad died, his mom would give everybody a whole bunch of little junk gifts but then she would usually give us a check too. DH never realized it until his dad was gone that dad was the more generous parent, LOL. Is it possible that mom doesn’t have a less generous spirit, but she’s got less money now? The past couple of years I gave my kids over the top extravagant gifts. The older one knew it was special for that moment. Does mil work? Do you know how much $ she has and what her expenses are? Whether or not it’s realistic, she may be concerned for her future or ability to pay bills. My income has been cut drastically now that they’ve both reached 18. Not only do I want to bring gift giving into a more reasonable price range, I also need to be more thoughtful with my budget. Their gifts are in the $200 price range.
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Post by bethany102399 on Dec 4, 2018 15:58:20 GMT
We do rule of three. We believe the baby Jesus received three gifts, therefore that's what my kids get. More to keep me from going overboard than anything else. I've found I go overboard on stockings to compensate, and have really tried to rein that in this year. We spend what we can afford, but I don't have a set dollar amount for each kid. I can tell you DSs much wanted Nintendo Switch is not going to be under the tree this year as 300 is still to high for me. I try to catch deals where I can and honestly, gifts start showing up as early as October if I can find a good sale.
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