Appliance as a Christmas gift....??

DH and I habitually give ourselves a major appliance as a gift if we need one. We’re at the point in our lives that we’ve raised our kid and saved for retirement. Most of our spending is discretionary and we buy what we want when we want it.

Oh, NO!!! We may cut back on gifting or buy each other less expensive gifts, but I do not receive items needed to run a home as a Christmas gift.

The only way that would make that right is if the stove was a top of the line, fancy pants stove above and beyond what we would have normally bought. And we would probably tell others that it was my gift, but it wouldn't be wrapped or a surprise for me. Plus, there is no way I'd let my DH pick up my stove that I use daily.

This is pretty much where I sit - although I have to say that DH just bought a new stove that's fancier than I would have chosen, and it's for US, not for ME.

I was at first horrified that he went ahead and ordered it without consulting me (we had talked about some features but had not come near to deciding on any), but he quickly said that he did it "just to get it done" and that I could take a look and cancel the order if I didn't like it.

It's coming next week. Stay tuned... LOL

Heck no! 

Funny but we just bought all new appliances - told my hubby Merry Christmas (as it's his kitchen not mine).
He was thrilled.
Sadly not so much when the huge Instant Pot arrived LOL

He doesn't know about the Fanchest box I got him so that's my little surprise.

I learned as a kid that appliances do NOT a Christmas gift make in order to have a happy home.
I still remember Dad buying my mom a vacuum, huge Thrifty Drug Store sized bottles of Jean Nate (OMG, my Mom was SOOOO ticked), cookwear, etc. He even bought her Frank Sinatra albums (his favorite singer). Every Christmas was a huge blow-out argument.

Funny though that she says "oh we had the most wonderful Christmas Days as a family". Uhhhh no we didn't! LOL

If she 'loves to cook' then she should be picking out her own stove whether it is considered a gift or whether it is just him replacing what he broke. Actually if she does most of the cooking whether she likes it or not, she should pick it out. I wasn't clear if this was a surprise or she was getting to choose her stove. Now if he wants to kick it up a notch and get her a much nicer stove than the one they had, then it is a gift.

My first husband gave me an iron for our first wedding anniversary. Even at 23 years old, I should have seen the writing on the wall with that one.

A stove is only an appropriate "gift" if there is a diamond bracelet or a new handbag hidden in the oven.

If it is an AGA, it's a Christmas present. Anything else, no.

That said, I need a new stove so we are skipping gifts and buying appliances instead this year. It won't be an AGA (sigh) but I am happy to pick it out myself at least!

Same here - I would LOVE a new stove or refrigerator for Christmas but in the instance above - I wouldn't be happy.  Plus, I wouldn't want my DH to pick out a stove, I'd want to pick it out myself.

If it's an item that someone wants, asks for, you are 100% they would love....then that's acceptable.

If it's an item that is not requested, wanted, or falls in the  "random gift" category...then not acceptable.

I would love to receive a mini/small air fryer in the color that matches my home decor.
I would not like an item that I don't want or won't use. 
I most especially do not want any "as seen on tv" type gadget/appliances.

I am a firm believer, that gift receipts should accompany all gifts.
Just because one person loves something, doesn't mean another person will like it.
The same goes for...some love to receive gift cards, some don't. To some, receiving a gift card is the best gift ever! To some receiving a gift card...it's impersonable and not thoughtful.

With anything in life >> Giving and receiving, is in the eye of the giver and the receiver. To each, their own.

We just bought a new fridge and freezer. In no way, shape or form am I considering them to be my Christmas gift!!

In certain circumstances I’d would be fine with an ‘appliance’ as a gift. Usually an unattached appliance though. I requested a kitchen aide for mother’s day and was over the moon when my dad gifted me 4 new tires installed in my car for my birthday & Christmas. So I’m not advers to practical gifts.

Generally a stove is for the whole family not just one person. Even if one person does the majority of the cooking they all eat it in most common circumstances. PLUS it is attached to the house and belongs to the house when you sell it, not really a gift. Attached appliances seem less like a gift to me.

BUT must annoying part if your scenario is that he broke it and it’s for all of them but it’s ‘her’ gift? Yea no doesn’t seem right.

If money were tight and the stove is needed and has to be a gift then it’s everyones gift in that household. It would be a family gift, meaning his gift too.

In the end it fine if it’s fine with her. I’m not her, so it doesn’t really matter what I think. What will matter is what she thinks. He better hope he knows her well.

I wouldn't mind one that I wanted. I would not be ok with getting a replacement stove that my husband broke!

If we were having a hard year cashflow wise and our stove stopped working I would have no problem purchasing a new stove and saying "this is our Christmas gift this year". Actually even if we weren't in a tight cash situation, we would make the decision to buy a new stove together and we would both say "this is our Christmas gift". But DH and I stopped buying presents for each other several years ago. If I were to be "gifted" a major appliance I would be pissed and hurt.

That said, before we stopped buying Christmas gifts in various years I received a KitchenAid stand mixer, a KA FoodPro, a KA hand mixer and a Le Creuset french oven. I had no problem receiving any of those items because they were all something I wanted.