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Post by cmpeter on Dec 9, 2018 19:25:55 GMT
We had a party at our house last night. One of the guests brought an appetizer served in a large shallow wooden bowl (30” long, 17” wide and about 3-4” deep). They left it here because there was still quite a bit left in it when they left for the night. Dh plays soccer with the husband and was going to bring it to him next Saturday.
Unfortunately after we cleaned it, dh dropped it and it shattered. We’ve been looking online and can’t find anything similar. They are either smaller, deeper, skinnier, etc. There were no markings on the bowl indicating who made it.
If we broke your bowl, what would you want us to do?
Dh is thinking buy a replacement that is the closest match we can find. Give them that with a gift receipt and an offer to find someone that could repair it. I don’t think it’s repairable.
Thoughts?
Update - DH found a semi similar replacement and a wood worker who would attempt a repair. He went to soccer with the new bowl, a generic GC and the offer to attempt a repair. His friend refused everything...said they wouldn’t think of accepting anything. He said the guy was very gracious. So, all ended well. I told dh he shouldn’t be surprised, that’s the same reaction he would have had if the friend had broken our bowl.
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Post by freecharlie on Dec 9, 2018 19:28:01 GMT
Call and ask where they got it. Maybe you can find a replacement.
Honestly, I don't take dishes I can't replace/are sentimental with me places. Hopefully they are the same.
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Post by KelleeM on Dec 9, 2018 19:30:06 GMT
Ugh. I would have transferred the leftovers and sent the dish home with the owner but that doesn’t help now. I’d contact the person and offer reimbursement or ask where you can buy a replacement. My dh hates to bring plates, pans, bowls etc to other people’s homes and I often get a bit aggravated because food looks better in nice serving pieces but after having our SIL “steal” a nice bowl we brought there I get his point.
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Post by gsquaredmom on Dec 9, 2018 19:32:02 GMT
I don’t take things I care about, so if you called me and apologized and offered to replace it, I would tell you not to worry about it.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 9, 2018 19:33:30 GMT
Post a picture here. Maybe someone will recognize the maker.
ETA: Just read that the dimensions are 30" x 17". That sounds more like a serving tray. Like other peas said, call them and tell them you insist on replacing it. If they say no, then I'd give them a GC to some place like Pottery Barn or a local restaurant or even give them a nice bottle of wine.
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Post by trollie on Dec 9, 2018 19:33:40 GMT
Ugh. I would have transferred the leftovers and sent the dish home with the owner but that doesn’t help now. I’d contact the person and offer reimbursement or ask where you can buy a replacement. My dh hates to bring plates, pans, bowls etc to other people’s homes and I often get a bit aggravated because food looks better in nice serving pieces but after having our SIL “steal” a nice bowl we brought there I get his point. We need to hear this story. Maybe start a thread?!  eta - Hoping for a good outcome for you OP. |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Dec 9, 2018 19:38:09 GMT
I would call and confess first. Ask about how you can replace it. They will probably insist that you don't. Ignore that. Use the clues you got from the conversation about where the bowl came from to buy the closest replacement you can. Then deliver it to them along with some 'treat' inside it.
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Post by lurkyloo on Dec 9, 2018 19:38:55 GMT
I would want you to tell me first, because it’s possible that bowl was gifted to me by my ex MIL and I’d get rid of it already, except The Children would weep at me tossing grandma’s bowl—-so I keep it in frequent and precarious use hoping for a serendipitous fate such as what happened after your party.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 9, 2018 19:39:30 GMT
I wrap up the dish and ask the owner to take it to their car if it is cold out. I don’t keep other people’s leftovers. (And I am not washing their dish)
Disclaimer: I don’t ask for people to bring food if I ask them to dinner.
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Post by mom26 on Dec 9, 2018 19:40:33 GMT
What you are describing sounds like a dough bowl. There are a lot if you Google, but finding one with those specific dimensions might be a challenge. The closest I found was This one |
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Post by trollie on Dec 9, 2018 19:42:49 GMT
Was the appetizer good? You didn't say in your OP. I'm a tinge hungry right now.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 9, 2018 19:44:21 GMT
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Post by alsomsknit on Dec 9, 2018 19:47:47 GMT
Yes, inquire about replacing the bowl.
I have dishes and serving pieces that I use for this purpose or sending food to friends. If they don’t come back, I don’t care.
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Post by johnnysmom on Dec 9, 2018 19:48:00 GMT
I would call and confess first. Ask about how you can replace it. They will probably insist that you don't. Ignore that. Use the clues you got from the conversation about where the bowl came from to buy the closest replacement you can. Then deliver it to them along with some 'treat' inside it.  But I wouldn't put anything in it (except the gift receipt) just in case they decide to return it. Hopefully they'll at least tell you what they usually used it for or what their favorite part of the bowl was (the length or the depth is perfect for XYZ food) that will at least give you direction. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 9, 2018 19:50:48 GMT
Those ugly arsed bowls are expensive! I'd call and ask them what they'd like you to do about it.
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Post by ~summer~ on Dec 9, 2018 19:57:13 GMT
I would NOT try to replace it -- for all you know maybe they didn't even like it and/or need it, and then it is a waste of time and money. If you want to replace it, I'd give them a gift card to crate and barrel....
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Post by stingfan on Dec 9, 2018 19:59:51 GMT
If it were my bowl, I'd want it replaced. I wouldn't want the hassle of having to shop for a new bowl. If it were close enough to the original, I'd be happy.
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Post by cmpeter on Dec 9, 2018 20:03:28 GMT
Those two linked dough bowls do appear the closest match, thanks for those links. I had previously only found skinnier/shorter versions. Size wise those are a great match, although her bowl was smoother and more oval, vs. rectangular.
DH doesn't want to call and ask because he's afraid they will refuse the replacement and he really wants to replace it.
This couple is engaged, and dh plays soccer with the guy. It was our first time meeting the gal. The party started at 6:00 and it was potluck...so everyone brought something. They arrive at 10:00 pm. She was pretty tipsy when they arrived. But, they brought this huge bowl filled with smaller bread dough bowls of spinach dip with lots of veggies and other bits of bread, crackers, grapes included. Presentation was very nice. But, it was 10:00 pm...we had eaten appetizers, dinner and dessert already and were playing games. So, I didn't actually taste the appetizer. Lots of other folks did, but it was just too much food too late for most of it to get eaten. I tried to insist multiple times that I wash the bowl and let them take it home, but she insisted we keep it and return it later (and she was very tipsy...I couldn't win an argument with her). After they left, we dumped the dip (it was midnight by then, so out too long for me to keep and eat any later.)
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Post by mom on Dec 9, 2018 20:03:45 GMT
I would call and admit what happened, and ask them how they want you to right this.
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Post by StephDRebel on Dec 9, 2018 20:03:53 GMT
I would want you to tell me first, because it’s possible that bowl was gifted to me by my ex MIL and I’d get rid of it already, except The Children would weep at me tossing grandma’s bowl—-so I keep it in frequent and precarious use hoping for a serendipitous fate such as what happened after your party. This. Call them and give them the opportunity to celebrate. If I take a nice dish somewhere I'm usually hoping for someone to fall in live with it so can say "excellent, keep it" I enjoy decluttering but would prefer to pass things along |
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Post by mom on Dec 9, 2018 20:07:42 GMT
Those two linked dough bowls do appear the closest match, thanks for those links. I had previously only found skinnier/shorter versions. Size wise those are a great match, although her bowl was smoother and more oval, vs. rectangular. DH doesn't want to call and ask because he's afraid they will refuse the replacement and he really wants to replace it.
This couple is engaged, and dh plays soccer with the guy. It was our first time meeting the gal. The party started at 6:00 and it was potluck...so everyone brought something. They arrive at 10:00 pm. She was pretty tipsy when they arrived. But, they brought this huge bowl filled with smaller bread dough bowls of spinach dip with lots of veggies and other bits of bread, crackers, grapes included. Presentation was very nice. But, it was 10:00 pm...we had eaten appetizers, dinner and dessert already and were playing games. So, I didn't actually taste the appetizer. Lots of other folks did, but it was just too much food too late for most of it to get eaten. I tried to insist multiple times that I wash the bowl and let them take it home, but she insisted we keep it and return it later (and she was very tipsy...I couldn't win an argument with her). After they left, we dumped the dip (it was midnight by then, so out too long for me to keep and eat any later.) I mean this in the nicest possible way (really!) but it isn't about what your DH doesn't want to do or what he is afraid of. It was their bowl and they should get to make the call. They can refuse for it to be replaced, they can agree to whatever replacement bowl you find. Its up to them. If they do refuse a new bowl, I would send a bouquet of flowers, apologizing and thanking them for their friendship. |
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Post by cmpeter on Dec 9, 2018 20:10:04 GMT
Here's a photo...it's a really nice bowl...I'd buy one for myself if I could find it.
Dh is going to head to Cost Plus and see if they have anything like it. If he can't find a duplicate there, he'll most likely order the dough bowl linked above.
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Post by mom on Dec 9, 2018 20:13:01 GMT
Here's a photo...it's a really nice bowl...I'd buy one for myself if I could find it. Dh is going to head to Cost Plus and see if they have anything like it. If he can't find a duplicate there, he'll most likely order the dough bowl linked above. This photo reminds me of a wooden tray from Pottery Barn. Check there. I remember it having a smooth wood vs. a more rustic dough bowl). |
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Post by cmpeter on Dec 9, 2018 20:14:02 GMT
Yeah, I see this too. I know if it were me, I would want them to call and I would refuse to let them replace it. But, if they did replace it and I didn't care for the replacement, I'd still accept and feel bad about it.
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Post by cmpeter on Dec 9, 2018 20:17:24 GMT
They have some that are similar in style, but much smaller in size. I wish there was a manufacturer stamp on the bowl, that would help. Dh is afraid it's a family heirloom of one of a kind piece they bought at a craft fair or farmer's market. He's saved the broken bits and seems convinced a woodworker could repair it.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Dec 9, 2018 20:27:59 GMT
I hate to sound uncaring, but if it was an heirloom or much loved one of a kind item, you don't take it to the pot luck of people you've never met and leave it there. I agree your DH needs to stop making this about his feelings. The owners need to know the trencher or whatever it is was damaged when you washed it and ask them if they want the pieces back and offer to pay to have it replaced or repaired. If they say no biggie, then you buy them an appropriately nice apology gift and let it go.
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Post by littlemama on Dec 9, 2018 21:49:41 GMT
Your dh should call his friend and tell him what happened and ask qbout replacing it. If they decline, thank them and let it go.
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Post by KikiPea on Dec 9, 2018 21:54:06 GMT
I'd call them and tell them what happened, then get ideas from them on what they would prefer you replace it with.
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Post by femalebusiness on Dec 9, 2018 22:04:29 GMT
Those ugly arsed bowls are expensive! I'd call and ask them what they'd like you to do about it.
Yeah, who thought that was a good idea to bring a hundred dollar bowl to a party? |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 9, 2018 22:08:16 GMT
Here's a photo...it's a really nice bowl...I'd buy one for myself if I could find it. Dh is going to head to Cost Plus and see if they have anything like it. If he can't find a duplicate there, he'll most likely order the dough bowl linked above. Please don't order something similar just to replace the bowl. That platter/tray that broke looks like a unique piece based on the size and I don't think getting something smaller or narrower would be the same. Call them and be forthcoming. You can offer to try and repair the piece or buy them a replacement of their choosing. If they refuse, give them a gift certificate or take them out to dinner.
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