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Post by librarylady on Dec 20, 2018 18:39:32 GMT
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Post by Pahina722 on Dec 20, 2018 18:46:59 GMT
Holy crap! That’s me.
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Anita
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Post by Anita on Dec 20, 2018 18:47:53 GMT
Very good. I find that I absolutely must have a major goal in my life, or I slide into that state of overwhelming despair. I can never rest mentally. People think I'm very driven, but really I'm just running from the darkness.
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Post by malibou on Dec 20, 2018 19:04:51 GMT
Very interesting. Definitely some food for thought.
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Post by Really Red on Dec 20, 2018 19:16:58 GMT
It made me sick to read that article and think of someone I love who is exactly that. What do you do? That article did not hold hope  |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Dec 20, 2018 19:26:23 GMT
It made me sick to read that article and think of someone I love who is exactly that. What do you do? That article did not hold hope Whoa! That was a strong reaction. What do you do? You take medication to lessen the problem. You go to CBT so you can learn how to play good tapes in your head and twist the negative into the positive. You accept your limitations and do what you can with the things you prioritize as important. You learn to fight through the problem and be the best person you can be anyway. You let go of society's expectations for what it looks like to have a successful life and you learn to set your own goals. You stop apologizing for being "broken" when you're not, your brain just works different. And when you can't take control at all, you have someone you trust to help you to a hospital for emergency care. *That* is what you do. ETA: All of this didn't really come through my head as snarky as it may sound. It really wasn't intended that way. More of a shock, like you implied living with depression/mental illness isn't doable and it absolutely is. |
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Post by scorpeao on Dec 20, 2018 19:30:00 GMT
That article is my life. After work I just want to be alone where I don't have to pretend anymore. I've been with my SigO for 13 years and even he doesn't know....we don't live together. Somedays I fantasize about being single just so I can exist in solitude outside work.
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Post by librarylady on Dec 20, 2018 19:36:32 GMT
It made me sick to read that article and think of someone I love who is exactly that. What do you do? That article did not hold hope What you do, as the friend or SO? You encourage the person to get Rx and possible therapy to help fight the depression back.
For me--I find a walk outside in nature helps a great deal.
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Judy26
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Post by Judy26 on Dec 20, 2018 19:39:44 GMT
That hollow feeling, the feeling like your heart actually aches, the constant low grade stomachache... all of these things are constant reminders to keep up or you will fall deeper into your depression and not be able to climb out. And yet most of my family, friends and coworkers think I am outgoing and funny. Little do they know that when I’m home I practically become a hermit and hate to even answer the phone.
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Post by shevy on Dec 20, 2018 19:45:17 GMT
This is me. My outward signs include things like inability to make a decision, noises are 'too loud' so I wear noise cancelling headphones at work.
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Post by myboysnme on Dec 20, 2018 20:49:55 GMT
I have taken antidepressants to survive for more than 25 years. They are my lifeline between living and dying.
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Post by Really Red on Dec 20, 2018 21:43:04 GMT
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Mystie
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Post by Mystie on Dec 20, 2018 21:55:48 GMT
I can relate to most of what she wrote, except that I am NOT a high achiever, because of my depression. It derailed me in college and I never was able to go back. But I can put on a good face and yet be in despair at the same time. And that feeling when you are able to be productive and feel pretty good, and you think "Is this how normal people feel?"--yes, I totally get that. Throw in some crippling anxiety and it is very hard sometimes.
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Post by mom2rjcr on Dec 20, 2018 23:14:33 GMT
It is exhausting pretending on the outside that everything is all right. I go home and I can't cope. I am on medication and therapy hasn't really helped. I am really glad that I have the next two weeks off so that I don't have to pretend for a while.
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Post by laureljean on Dec 21, 2018 1:17:51 GMT
I totally relate to this
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kelly8875
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Post by kelly8875 on Dec 21, 2018 3:01:25 GMT
Very relatable. Things I know about myself, yet don’t like to let others see. Only a couple have ever seen that. This week is a funk, and no one knows or sees it, But I’m a mess inside.
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Post by cindytred on Dec 21, 2018 3:04:55 GMT
Yeah - I got that. The part where she describes going thru day-to-day life with a mask on and then being able to come and take it off - that is so me. It is so exhausting wearing that mask all day.
Cindy
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Post by Delta Dawn on Dec 21, 2018 3:25:42 GMT
Mine is more difficulty breathing because there is a weight of another human on my chest and I cannot inhale any longer. I wonder what normal people feel like.
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