redrubies
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Post by redrubies on Dec 26, 2018 7:23:29 GMT
I never thought I'd be one to say that the Christmas season is hard.....but that's me this year for sure. My Mother was in hospice at Christmas in 2016 and passed on 12/29/16. Last year being the first anniversary of her death and this year, my DH was diagnosed with rectal cancer and is undergoing treatment. Just too many tough Christmas's in a row and I'm having a really hard time.
My sympathy to all who have had a tough journey this Christmas too.
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Post by gar on Dec 26, 2018 10:16:37 GMT
My Mum has Alzheimer’s and she and my Dad are staying with me for 4 days to give him a bit of a rest but she’s disoriented and unsettled in less familiar surroundings so we may take them home today instead. Very hard to watch her deteriorate 😔
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Post by Patter on Dec 26, 2018 11:13:03 GMT
It was hard for me because my neighbor (directly behind me) lost her husband yesterday. He was just a couple of years older than me. I was up at 4:30 a.m. Christmas morning, and she was heavy on my heart. I texted her at 8 a.m. and told her if she needs me, to call. Then a friend at church texted me an hour later and told me he died. I had NO idea when I was up with her on my heart. He was diagnosed with ALS earlier this year but we didn't expect him to go THAT fast. Every time I look out my back windows, I am just saddened for the family!!!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 26, 2018 11:39:03 GMT
Yes, very tough. I sat on my own for most of the day, did the laundry and succeeded in not losing my shit with my mother. She gave me nothing for Christmas, not even a card.
I'm so sorry for those experiencing loss. gar sending you lots of love.
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Post by gar on Dec 26, 2018 13:49:09 GMT
Thanks lainey - to you too ((hugs))
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Post by Suziee2 on Dec 26, 2018 13:52:46 GMT
Very bittersweet Christmas for us. Oldest DD died unexpectedly on 4th of July (DS died in 2009.) Youngest DD is having her first baby today.
Lots of hugs, prayers and special thoughts for all of those in need.
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Post by candygurl on Dec 26, 2018 14:12:04 GMT
Yes definitely. My sister passed away in October after a lifelong illnesss. It’s been super hard. She loved any holiday but especially Christmas and having her family together. We did okay but definitely felt like something was missing. She would’ve wanted us to celebrate and while we did, our hearts weren’t 100% in.
Just getting through day by day...
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Post by Deleted on Dec 26, 2018 16:40:25 GMT
Yes it has been a tough Christmas. My mom died on the 4th and she was so missed yesterday.
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Post by wezee on Dec 26, 2018 17:59:37 GMT
This last year has been the worst of my life. My DFIL is now in the last stages of death from cancer. Our DS is just hanging on. So so much crap has happened this year. I don't drink but this year is driving me to start. You know it's been a crappy year when your BFF sends you a poop emoji tree topper! LOL. "having a star or angel doesn't seem right, you've had one crappy year"
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Judy26
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Post by Judy26 on Dec 26, 2018 18:30:52 GMT
My heart goes out to all of you who are missing a loved one or going through difficult times. I never realized the depth of pain losing a parent can bring. This was the first Christmas without my beloved father and I have been in a foggy depression for weeks. Be gentle with yourselves dear hurting Pea friends.
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Post by joteves on Dec 26, 2018 18:53:42 GMT
I'm so sorry for everyone dealing with the loss of a loved one this Christmas. Makes me realize how petty my complaints about difficult relatives are.
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Post by pennyscraps on Dec 26, 2018 19:00:36 GMT
I hear you and understand. I'm sorry. 12/25 was my first Christmas without my dad, my mother-in-law, and without my oldest son at home. I tried to focus on finding joy and staying grounded in gratitude all season long, but sometimes those remembering emotions just leak out your eyeballs before you know it.
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julie5
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Post by julie5 on Dec 26, 2018 19:12:50 GMT
Yes. I’m in Texas for my brothers funeral. It’s awful. I have no words for how awful it is.
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inkedup
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Post by inkedup on Dec 26, 2018 20:18:28 GMT
This was my family's second Christmas since my mom died in October 2017. Our grief wasn't as raw, but it is deeper in some ways. I miss my mom so much more profoundly now.
We started a new tradition because my dad said he couldn't stand to host Christmas Eve alone. We always had a huge feast and opened gifts at midnight. Once we had children of our own, the time moved up, but we always spent Christmas Eve at their house. I totally understand my dad's choice, and I offered to host brunch on Christmas Day.
It turned out wonderfully, except for the mom-sized space in our home and hearts. I'm sure the bloody Mary and mimosa bar helped.
I hope that you were able to share happy memories of your MIL, and that there were at least as many happy moments as there were tears during yesterday's holiday.
My love to all of our peas who are struggling with grief and loss this season. My heart goes out to all of you.
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Post by snugglebutter on Dec 26, 2018 20:40:17 GMT
Very bittersweet Christmas for us. Oldest DD died unexpectedly on 4th of July (DS died in 2009.) Youngest DD is having her first baby today. Lots of hugs, prayers and special thoughts for all of those in need. I'm so sorry. Will you post a birth announcement thread so we can celebrate your new grandbaby with you?
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inkedup
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Post by inkedup on Dec 26, 2018 20:43:16 GMT
Yes. My mom was diagnosed with leukemia two weeks ago, and has been hospitalized ever since under intensive chemo. She’s so sick and in so much pain she can barely talk. I’ve had to work all week, including tonight, but my kids and I are flying to Utah Friday to see her. We can only stay two days though because they all have to be back for school Wednesday, and I have work again. My husband is still in Afghanistan and I’m just feeling so overwhelmed by everything right now - kids, home, work, my own health, and now my mom. There’s been very little cheer here this holiday season. I’m so sorry for everyone who is grieving and going through hard things right now . My love to you. Of course you are overwhelmed. I'm so sorry for everything you're going through.
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inkedup
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Post by inkedup on Dec 26, 2018 20:47:19 GMT
This last year has been the worst of my life. My DFIL is now in the last stages of death from cancer. Our DS is just hanging on. So so much crap has happened this year. I don't drink but this year is driving me to start. You know it's been a crappy year when your BFF sends you a poop emoji tree topper! LOL. "having a star or angel doesn't seem right, you've had one crappy year" What a great friend! That is a hilarious and awesome acknowledgment of the hard things you're enduring. I'm sorry for all of your family's hurt.
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Post by ToniW on Dec 26, 2018 20:55:36 GMT
Hugs to you all grieving and dealing with loss.
My mom passed away Thanksgiving Day last year and my younger brother left to go back home before Christmas as he couldn't stand staying any longer. He hasn't been back since. We (7 of us) had Christmas dinner out (same place as last year, which might be our new tradition), which was nice but there was still that void. Today also marks 19 years that our Dad passed away.
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Post by Lovebug2867 on Dec 26, 2018 21:02:30 GMT
It was tough for me. We lost dad in June so this is my first Christmas without him. I hugged on his dog a lot and slept most of the day.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Dec 26, 2018 21:05:42 GMT
I’m sorry for everyone missing someone this year Our Christmas morning started out rough. When my nephew and his gf were driving to my parents house a dog ran out in front of him and he hit it He was able to find the owners and the dog was breathing when he left. But both he and his gf were very upset. She had to leave the family celebration early because she was so upset. They are such good and caring kids.
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Post by bklyngal62 on Dec 26, 2018 21:06:33 GMT
It was a hard day for me yesterday. Christmas was my sons favorite holiday and I have so many memories of him and I decorating, baking and getting ready for the holidays. It was a quiet day for us at home.
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