georgiapea
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Post by georgiapea on Dec 31, 2018 8:17:35 GMT
Leftover Chinese belongs to the person who had that meal. If the other person wants it they ask. Leftovers from a meal we made is fair game unless one of us called dibs on it. My leftover steak is offered to the Hubs that night for his breakfast the next morning.
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Post by KelleeM on Dec 31, 2018 12:05:26 GMT
Leftovers at home are fair game unless otherwise designated. I’ll sometimes plan to eat leftovers the next day for lunch or dinner and will tell dh and dd. Pizza is always fair game. Chinese is usually designated by who ordered it as we tend to get plated dinners as opposed to separate entrees, rice, etc.
Many years ago my kids and I lived with my ex for a few weeks while waiting for our apartment to be ready (moved early so kids could start school in new city). He had a roommate at the time and the kids and I went out to lunch with my then boyfriend. We brought home leftover pizza, part of a dinner and rolls and when I went to heat something up for the kids it was all gone. Ex said he didn’t eat it so I knocked on the roommate’s door and there she was eating away...she said ex had told her she could eat anything in the fridge. 😮 I would never eat a stranger’s leftover food!!!
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 31, 2018 12:33:54 GMT
Leftovers belong to the person who ordered that meal.
That guy is a jerk.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Dec 31, 2018 12:42:36 GMT
I'm not passing judgment on a third-party overheard partial conversation of total strangers with no context. But I will share how leftovers get handled in our house. We often order in restaurants planning for leftovers and we cook extra at home for the same reason. My husband takes leftovers to work everyday. If there's something I had that I particularly want, I'll speak up. Otherwise, it's just generally a given that he can pick anything he has a taste for out of the fridge. The only exception is leftover Indian food - we've been known to fight over that and hide it from one another. Ha.
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Post by SockMonkey on Dec 31, 2018 13:11:24 GMT
In my house whoever ordered the dish gets the leftovers, but we will usually ask the other person if we can have them if we want to eat them. We share, but we always ask.
Also in my house, that man from the OP would be newly single because that’s be the day a man would talk to me like that. Fuck you, dude. And your leftovers.
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Dalai Mama
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Post by Dalai Mama on Dec 31, 2018 13:13:59 GMT
I live in a house of voracious boys. Leftovers are mine because one, I made the order and 2, they probably had way more than their share at the first sitting.
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psiluvu
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Post by psiluvu on Dec 31, 2018 13:16:54 GMT
He sounds like a peach 🙄 More often than not the teenage boy (who ftr pays for none of the restaurant bill nor any of the house bills) gets the leftovers. If it’s something I actually want the next day I’ll tell him to keep his grubby mitts off. Dh would ask before eating my leftovers (and do the same, though I rarely get a chance). This is our house too. Our 15 yr old vaccuum eats pretty much anything and everything unless he is told not too.
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Post by MZF on Dec 31, 2018 13:27:55 GMT
We have the same rules. Whoever’s meal it was, it’s their leftovers. If it’s a shared leftover, it’s whoever gets there first. Although I have been known to say don’t eat something because I was packing it for one of the kids lunches. Or don’t eat it because it would be my lunch the next day. ^^This is same in our house.
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Post by Patter on Dec 31, 2018 13:47:02 GMT
If it was not on your plate inside the restaurant, it’s not yours at home. Ditto, that's how it works in our home. However, a lot of times we offer it to other family members if we know we are not going to eat it.
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Post by jenb72 on Dec 31, 2018 13:58:18 GMT
Mine work like you described. For example, if DH and I go out and one or both of us has left overs from our individual plates, then those belong to the person who ordered the meal, regardless of who paid the bill (sometimes he does and sometimes I do). Sometimes, if one of us doesn't feel like cooking, that person will stop by the local greek place and get a pound of gyro meat and sides so we can fix our own gyros at home or maybe a bunch of chicken fingers or hamburgers or something so we can pick and eat from those. In that case, if there are any leftovers, they're communal - first come, first served - again, regardless of who actually bought the food.
We have four people living in our house at the moment - DH and I, my younger DD (19), and DH's brother. We have a dinner rotation schedule so that no one person is responsible for dinner every night. Everyone is assigned certain nights and is responsible for buying the ingredients and cooking the food. If there are leftovers from those, they're also communal.
What you described in your OP sounds like my ex - a controlling, manipulative narcissist of a man. It made the hair stand up on the back of my neck.
Jen
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Post by jenjie on Dec 31, 2018 14:04:12 GMT
Devil’s advocate - What if they’re not in a relationship? What if they’re siblings or something? Would that change the dynamic? Although I agree with the rest of you, whoever ordered their meal gets to finish it.
Leftover pizza is another matter. Although I was really proud of ds20 the other day. There were only 2 pieces left of the kind he and ds14 like. He ate one and saved the other for his brother.
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Post by SockMonkey on Dec 31, 2018 14:06:14 GMT
What if they’re not in a relationship? What if they’re siblings or something? Would that change the dynamic? Although I agree with the rest of you, whoever ordered their meal gets to finish it. Leftover pizza is another matter. Although I was really proud of ds20 the other day. There were only 2 pieces left of the kind he and ds14 like. He ate one and saved the other for his brother. If they’re siblings, he’s still an asshole and I’d be looking for my own place to live. And it’s shitty to speak to your sister like that.
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Post by jenjie on Dec 31, 2018 14:08:35 GMT
What if they’re not in a relationship? What if they’re siblings or something? Would that change the dynamic? Although I agree with the rest of you, whoever ordered their meal gets to finish it. Leftover pizza is another matter. Although I was really proud of ds20 the other day. There were only 2 pieces left of the kind he and ds14 like. He ate one and saved the other for his brother. If they’re siblings, he’s still an asshole and I’d be looking for my own place to live. And it’s shitty to speak to your sister like that. I don’t disagree! 👍
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Post by jenb72 on Dec 31, 2018 14:10:07 GMT
Although I was really proud of ds20 the other day. There were only 2 pieces left of the kind he and ds14 like. He ate one and saved the other for his brother. You've raised a good man there. And yes, leftover pizza would be communal in my house, also. To answer your other question, if they were siblings and not in a romantic relationship, it doesn't really change the dynamics a whole lot for me. I would be really disappointed if DS17 said something like that to DD19. And honestly, I'd be surprised because they both still think the other has cooties, lol. So I don't think they'd want to eat leftovers off of each other's plates. Jen
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Post by Really Red on Dec 31, 2018 14:25:20 GMT
I completely agree with OP.
That said, in most circumstances I, as the parent, am just glad that people are eating leftovers and not piling up more! If I really want something, I'll put a note on it and say "This is only Mom's!!"
Otherwise, fair game.
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Post by just PEAchy on Dec 31, 2018 14:42:13 GMT
This is generally how leftovers work in our house. Person who ordered food takes leftovers with intention eating within a day or two. What actually happens-I end up throwing away on day 4. . Leftovers just seem to get forgotten here. However, we are of the mindset that they belong to whomever ordered the meal, but it's not something we'd ever argue over. Pizza is open game. The guy on the OP is an asshole, those comments are out of line.
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Post by LisaDV on Dec 31, 2018 14:51:53 GMT
I am of the belief that individual restaurant meal leftovers belong to whomever ate that particular meal. If someone else wants to eat it, they should ask first. Shared/Group food (Chinese, pizza, bucket of chicken, etc..) is first come first served in regards to leftovers....unless it has been designated by an adult >> Mom and Dad that it is meant for "name here" to take for lunch the next day. Same thing with home cooked Family meal. Unless it's been designated for "name here" next day lunch then it's first come first served. This is how it should be. Not my reality. I say good for her for sticking up for her leftovers. If I were in a relationship, my restaurant leftovers are not a battle I would choose to fight. If your hungry or want to take them for lunch then help yourself. I do appreciate a "I'm eating this" comment, so I know to plan on something else for myself. I didn't fight over this but wish I had so that dh knew the errors of his ways. He never asked, even after the millionth time of me saying "it was my leftovers; I was going to eat it/take it to work for lunch." It really made me mad, but I didn't like confrontation at that time. DS16 is now educating him on proper leftover etiquette. He started with the this is mine comments while putting the leftovers in the refrigerator, to hiding food when the comments didn't work, to lectures about the food he was hiding when DH asked where it was/couldn't find it. Of course, DS did have me and dd backing him up. DH now asks me if X is for anybody or if he can eat it. He's even gone so far as recognizing prized leftovers a few times and after my initial no, it's fair game, has sought out ds to ask him if he wants it. You can teach an old dog new tricks.
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Post by J u l e e on Dec 31, 2018 14:55:21 GMT
Eating someone else's leftovers is like sharing salsa when someone has been double dipping. Nope.
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Post by peano on Dec 31, 2018 14:59:10 GMT
I'm stunned at all these left overs! The portions must be huge. Why not order less? I've never brought food home from a restaurant..ever. With take away we share a dish if we know it's large. Having said that there are few take always in Spain. The only left overs we have are home made when I have done enough to either freeze or have twice. Why not order less? Well, because when I go out, I like to sample different things on the menu. I purposely order more than I can eat at one meal. Unless I'm at a tapas restaurant, this means leftovers, which I enjoy, often for two or three more meals. Our leftovers always belong to the person who ordered them, even with pizza and Chinese because DH and I order half and half pizzas (we each like ingredients the other abhors) and our own Chinese, again because our tastes are so dissimilar. DS we don't have to worry about because he doesn't like anything.
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Post by bigbundt on Dec 31, 2018 18:26:26 GMT
I'm stunned at all these left overs! The portions must be huge. Why not order less? I've never brought food home from a restaurant..ever. With take away we share a dish if we know it's large. Having said that there are few take always in Spain. The only left overs we have are home made when I have done enough to either freeze or have twice. The portion size of a dish is dictated by the restaurant, you don't have a choice to order less unless they are willing to give you a lunch portion (at the dinner price). Portions are usually large and I almost always have left overs these days and will happily eat them for lunch the next day. Don't see what the big deal is, why not get two meals out of it if I can. It will just be thrown away otherwise. Leftovers in our house goes to the person who ordered the dish although my DH usually doesn't eat leftovers. My exH used to eat my leftovers all the time even though I would specifically not finish a meal so that I could enjoy it for lunch the next day. Even if I would tell him to not eat it or write it on the container, it was generally gone by the time I woke up the next day in a midnight snack. We were young and poor so, it was doubly disappointing to go to the fridge to get the leftovers and see them gone because we rarely had money to eat out. He was a very, very selfish person and I was too inexperienced to realize this was a red flag. Unless the guy was joking, I hope that young lady takes heed.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Dec 31, 2018 18:33:29 GMT
Fair game here!
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Dec 31, 2018 18:40:18 GMT
Leftovers are pretty much fair game around here, especially pizza. Nothing worse than leftover pizza to me. DH and DD can fight over that. If I do bring something home, DH is always nice enough to ask if I want it the next day, even though he knows I'm going to say go for it. I'm just not a fan of leftovers in general. I want fresh food each meal.
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Post by monklady123 on Dec 31, 2018 18:47:11 GMT
Chinese ordered for takeout belongs to whoever ordered that particular dish. If it's something general, like pizza, then it's fair game except that we all do ask... "can I eat the last piece of pizza?" etc. When my son is home I'll often say "if you're looking for something to eat you can finish my Chinese" but he would never just take it. I've usually had a second meal when I tell him that so I'm not interested in eating it a third time. (you know how much they pack into those boxes).
For leftovers of a meal I've cooked if I or dh want to take it for lunch we package it up that night with a sticky note on it "Monklady's lunch!" or "Dh's lunch!" including exclamation point if my kids are home. If no kids are home then we'll just put our initials on it.
If we've been out to eat and brought home a doggy bag that belongs to whoever ordered it in the restaurant.
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RedSquirrelUK
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Dec 31, 2018 20:05:08 GMT
If a couple have the sort of partnership where one works to pay the bills and the other does the housekeeping, then the bill payer's role in the household is equal to the housekeeper. If he employed a housekeeper, he would expect to pay wages, insurance, etc. Couples bring equal amounts, although unquantifiable, into the relationship, and that should be a given.
A bill payer in my life who couldn't see that, would very quickly need to employ his own housekeeper or save his money by doing the damn second job himself, because I certainly wouldn't be sticking around to eat his leftovers.
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Post by chlerbie on Dec 31, 2018 20:06:08 GMT
Our leftovers are definitely for the person who ordered it, though often, if I'm the one with leftovers, I'll share with him. With leftover pizza, we usually split whatever is left evenly.
And I would never stand to being talked to like that. What an ass.
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Post by schizo319 on Dec 31, 2018 20:07:07 GMT
Restaurant leftovers belong to the person who ordered the meal, household leftovers are fair game. That guy sounds like a first-class asshole. I'm stunned at all these left overs! The portions must be huge. Why not order less? I've never brought food home from a restaurant..ever. With take away we share a dish if we know it's large. Having said that there are few take always in Spain. The only left overs we have are home made when I have done enough to either freeze or have twice. American restaurants are notorious for gratuitously over-sized restaurant meals, and there is often no "small portion" option. That said, I TRY not to go to restaurants that don't have small portions because restaurant food is never as good warmed up as it was the first time. Thankfully, our small local restaurants serve much more reasonable portions than the larger chain restaurants.
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Post by NanaKate on Dec 31, 2018 21:44:52 GMT
If a couple have the sort of partnership where one works to pay the bills and the other does the housekeeping, then the bill payer's role in the household is equal to the housekeeper. If he employed a housekeeper, he would expect to pay wages, insurance, etc. Couples bring equal amounts, although unquantifiable, into the relationship, and that should be a given. A bill payer in my life who couldn't see that, would very quickly need to employ his own housekeeper or save his money by doing the damn second job himself, because I certainly wouldn't be sticking around to eat his leftovers. For sure. And if that is the guy’s attitude about the whole thing, I can’t help but wonder if he feels free to just eat what he wants off her plate at the restaurant since he pays the bills at home and paid for the dinner? SMH
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Post by 950nancy on Dec 31, 2018 22:36:00 GMT
We go out to eat every Friday night and often there are leftovers. We pay for four meals and I have never eaten any of the leftovers from another person's meal.
That guy is a jerk. I have a friend who has a husband who thinks leftovers are for anyone. She said she purposely doesn't eat it all so she can have a meal for lunch at work the next day and he takes it to work since he leaves earlier than she does. She also buys cookies and has to hide the box because he will eat an entire box in one sitting.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Dec 31, 2018 23:27:01 GMT
If it was not on your plate inside the restaurant, it’s not yours at home. ^^^ that. Unless there's discussion between the people involved; I may have leftovers from my meal that I decide I don't want to eat later- then DH is free to have them. But if it was my meal at the restaurant, it's understood that the leftovers are mine unless otherwise noted. the guy from the OP sounded like an as$ to me.
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Post by AussieMeg on Dec 31, 2018 23:40:10 GMT
I'm stunned at all these left overs! The portions must be huge. Why not order less? I've never brought food home from a restaurant..ever. With take away we share a dish if we know it's large. Leftovers are the best! When we have dinner at my MIL's house she always cooks more food than we can eat, and I always get the leftovers. Sometimes I go home with 4 (!!) takeaway containers of food, which I will have for lunch over several days. I'm sure she deliberately cooks more so she can give me leftovers. There is a pasta restaurant that we sometimes go to, and their portions are HUGE. I could easily eat the entree size and be full, but I always order the main meal size, specifically so I can have the leftovers for lunch or dinner the next day - saves me making lunch/dinner. We went for Vietnamese a couple of nights ago, and I was disappointed that we ate everything and therefore didn't get to take any leftovers home. Darn it, that was going to be my lunch for work the next day.
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