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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Dec 31, 2018 3:57:40 GMT
Leftovers. Who do they belong to?
I just ran to pick up take out for New Years/next couple evenings. There was a young couple coming out.
As I was entering, I overheard her say "this time don't eat my leftovers" to which he replied something like >> "I paid for dinner and I pay the bills, I won't be told what I can and cannot eat in my own home". When I left, they were standing by their car arguing about the leftovers.
Made me wonder, are leftovers fair game to the payer of the restaurant bill? Fair game because they are in the fridge?
I am of the belief that individual restaurant meal leftovers belong to whomever ate that particular meal. If someone else wants to eat it, they should ask first.
Shared/Group food (Chinese, pizza, bucket of chicken, etc..) is first come first served in regards to leftovers....unless it has been designated by an adult >> Mom and Dad that it is meant for "name here" to take for lunch the next day. Same thing with home cooked Family meal. Unless it's been designated for "name here" next day lunch then it's first come first served.
If I were in a relationship, my restaurant leftovers are not a battle I would choose to fight. If your hungry or want to take them for lunch then help yourself. I do appreciate a "I'm eating this" comment, so I know to plan on something else for myself.
How do leftovers work in your household?
What's mine is mine? All leftovers are fair game? Parents designate the leftovers?
Quite honestly, As I was leaving the restaurant I thought "young people fight and argue over the silliest things".
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Post by johnnysmom on Dec 31, 2018 4:01:37 GMT
He sounds like a peach 🙄
More often than not the teenage boy (who ftr pays for none of the restaurant bill nor any of the house bills) gets the leftovers. If it’s something I actually want the next day I’ll tell him to keep his grubby mitts off. Dh would ask before eating my leftovers (and do the same, though I rarely get a chance).
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2018 4:03:26 GMT
They belong to the person who ate the meal. Shared stuff like pizza and Chinese are fair game unless someone claims it ahead of time. Leftovers from family dinner are usually DH's as he's the only one who will eat them. If I brought home a box from a restaurant, the leftovers are mine unless we agreed he could have them. We get Chinese sometimes. DH will claim the leftovers. Leftover pizza gets claimed by the teenagers. I claim the leftover taco meat.
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Post by ExpatBackHome on Dec 31, 2018 4:03:27 GMT
We have the same rules. Whoever’s meal it was, it’s their leftovers. If it’s a shared leftover, it’s whoever gets there first. Although I have been known to say don’t eat something because I was packing it for one of the kids lunches. Or don’t eat it because it would be my lunch the next day.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2018 4:05:24 GMT
If it was not on your plate inside the restaurant, it’s not yours at home.
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Post by librarylady on Dec 31, 2018 4:05:46 GMT
Restaurant leftovers belong to the person who originally ordered the meal. However, if my partner wanted them, I would not raise a stink---unless I had counted on it being my lunch and found it missing.
Considerate thing to do would be to ask before eating it, if it did not belong to you.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Dec 31, 2018 4:06:31 GMT
Leftovers are for the person whose meal it originally was.
It sucks so much to purposely only eat half of what you ordered, so that you can enjoy it again the next day, and find that someone else scarfed it all down.
Now, if my kids ask first, I'd share. But please don't hork and run.
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Post by holly on Dec 31, 2018 4:10:45 GMT
Yep, whoever’s meal it was generally gets the leftovers. Sometime’s I’ll offer it to kids or DH. Definitely not worth arguing about. DH eats most home leftovers. My mom thinks they are fair game. My kids lived with her for about 6 mos last year when we built our house and a couple times my DD came home to find her leftovers eaten by my mom. She didn’t think it was a big deal.
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Post by AmandaA on Dec 31, 2018 4:13:04 GMT
We generally follow the same etiquette you described in the op.
Two things I know for sure though....
1.) If DH ever claims ownership of or first right to the food in our home because he “pays” for it all, shit would hit the mother loving fan immediately.
2.) (back when I worked) The leftovers in the break room fridge belong to the person who brought them!!! I might still be a little bitter about the food thief on my unit many years ago 😂
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Post by freecharlie on Dec 31, 2018 4:15:49 GMT
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I agree with this.
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Post by IAmUnoriginal on Dec 31, 2018 4:19:45 GMT
What a jerk.
In our house, restaurant leftovers belong to the original meal eater first. If I bring home leftovers from lunch that I’m not interested in, I will offer them up to DH to take to work as his lunch that night (he works 3rd shift). He would never take them without asking, though. If we have pizza leftovers or similar, we have containers we use for our lunches that we put our reserved leftovers in. Everyone knows those are designated lunches and leaves them be. Otherwise, it’s a free for all and first come, first serve.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2018 4:22:43 GMT
I give the leftovers to husband.
Son eats everything on his plate so there isn’t leftovers for him.
Daughter would probably gag if she had leftovers.
So husband gets whatever.
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Post by annabella on Dec 31, 2018 4:26:01 GMT
So I used to never take leftovers home from restaurants, part because I almost always cleaned my plate and part because I was raised that doggy bags were just a no. So a long time ago I went on a date and didn't finish my meal and the guy said he would take my leftovers. I was so weirded out by this! lol
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Post by milocat on Dec 31, 2018 4:30:01 GMT
Leftovers belong to who ordered them but usually the DDs and I don't want them and DH eats them. But the orderer has first dibs. Agreed shared pizza or Chinese is first come first serve, which would probably be DH again.
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Post by RobbyKay on Dec 31, 2018 4:31:05 GMT
I've had this discussion many times in my house; and I call it the Pizza 15.
So as an adult, you have a spouse or SO, and you go out for pizza. You're fortunate that A) you like the same kind of pizza, or B) You get half and half so you each get your favorite, but neither of you is repulsed by the other's favorite. Maybe a large is a great deal, or you have a coupon, so that's what you order, even though you know you don't want/need half a large pizza for dinner.
You and SO are munching away, and you've had your fill. Part of you says STOP - pack up the leftovers and save them for another day; but another part says KEEP GOING, because you know that either SO will polish off the rest of the pizza, and there will be no leftovers, OR if you do take leftovers home, you might get half of them if you get up just after midnight and polish them off in front of the fridge. The only way to get your fair share is to eat it at the table NOW - if you wait, you can hope the SO is sensitive to your leftover pizza needs, and will keep his hands off the pie - but reality says that cold pepperoni puts off some sort of pheromone signal that draws SO to the fridge to polish the leftovers off before you're even hungry enough to think about them.
And it gets worse; add a teenage boy to the mix, and you might be trying things like labeling the leftovers as KALE SALAD, or hiding them under the broccoli in the crisper.
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Post by chaosisapony on Dec 31, 2018 4:31:06 GMT
Left overs belong to the person that ate the meal at the restaurant. That guy sounds like a jerk.
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Post by busy on Dec 31, 2018 4:32:55 GMT
They're fair game in our house and usually the person who didn't order the item eats the leftovers because neither of us likes to repeat meals that close together.
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Post by workingclassdog on Dec 31, 2018 4:35:22 GMT
Leftovers belong to the person who was eating that meal. Unless that person gives someone else the right to eat 'said' leftovers.
That said, my DH is notorious for trying to eat anyone's leftovers and if we don't put our foot down he will sneak it out. BUT if we really say don't eat it, he won't. He'll beg for it but no he normally would not.
Something shared.. whoever at the restaurant says I want to take it home... gets it.... Or if it is like Chinese food, whoever gets to it first... it's fair game for whoever gets it next.
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Post by Basket1lady on Dec 31, 2018 4:41:35 GMT
Leftovers. Who do they belong to? I just ran to pick up take out for New Years/next couple evenings. There was a young couple coming out. As I was entering, I overheard her say "this time don't eat my leftovers" to which he replied something like >> "I paid for dinner and I pay the bills, I won't be told what I can and cannot eat in my own home". When I left, they were standing by their car arguing about the leftovers. Made me wonder, are leftovers fair game to the payer of the restaurant bill? Fair game because they are in the fridge? I am of the belief that individual restaurant meal leftovers belong to whomever ate that particular meal. If someone else wants to eat it, they should ask first. Shared/Group food (Chinese, pizza, bucket of chicken, etc..) is first come first served in regards to leftovers....unless it has been designated by an adult >> Mom and Dad that it is meant for "name here" to take for lunch the next day. Same thing with home cooked Family meal. Unless it's been designated for "name here" next day lunch then it's first come first served. If I were in a relationship, my restaurant leftovers are not a battle I would choose to fight. If your hungry or want to take them for lunch then help yourself. I do appreciate a "I'm eating this" comment, so I know to plan on something else for myself. How do leftovers work in your household? What's mine is mine? All leftovers are fair game? Parents designate the leftovers? Quite honestly, As I was leaving the restaurant I thought "young people fight and argue over the silliest things". These are all our rules. I’m sure at some point as a young couple, we had a fight about leftovers. That’s how you figure stuff out. Well, a disagreement, not a fight, fight. I’m a small person and DH is a foot taller and weighs 70 lbs more than I do. I want to enjoy my entire meal! If it’s that big of a deal, order more so that you have leftovers for everyone. |
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Post by used2scrap on Dec 31, 2018 4:46:26 GMT
Generally the leftovers in this house belong to whoever ordered them. After a day or so if they are still around, it’s ok for someone else to ask if they can have them. Sometimes I will write one of the kids’ names on mine if I don’t want them so they know they can take them for lunch.
Yes young couples can fight over silly things, but someone saying “I paid they’re mine” is a red flag and a marriage headed for trouble.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Dec 31, 2018 5:03:57 GMT
Leftovers are for the person whose meal it originally was. It sucks so much to purposely only eat half of what you ordered, so that you can enjoy it again the next day, and find that someone else scarfed it all down. Now, if my kids ask first, I'd share. But please don't hork and run. This!! I know I won’t eat a full restaurant meal so I plan on taking the second half of my meal for lunch the next day. So we are a, leftovers belong to the person that ordered it family. If you want them, have manners and ask. Community served leftovers belong to all. |
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Post by mom26 on Dec 31, 2018 5:23:24 GMT
Leftovers. Who do they belong to? I just ran to pick up take out for New Years/next couple evenings. There was a young couple coming out. As I was entering, I overheard her say "this time don't eat my leftovers" to which he replied something like >> "I paid for dinner and I pay the bills, I won't be told what I can and cannot eat in my own home". When I left, they were standing by their car arguing about the leftovers. Made me wonder, are leftovers fair game to the payer of the restaurant bill? Fair game because they are in the fridge? I am of the belief that individual restaurant meal leftovers belong to whomever ate that particular meal. If someone else wants to eat it, they should ask first. Shared/Group food (Chinese, pizza, bucket of chicken, etc..) is first come first served in regards to leftovers....unless it has been designated by an adult >> Mom and Dad that it is meant for "name here" to take for lunch the next day. Same thing with home cooked Family meal. Unless it's been designated for "name here" next day lunch then it's first come first served. If I were in a relationship, my restaurant leftovers are not a battle I would choose to fight. If your hungry or want to take them for lunch then help yourself. I do appreciate a "I'm eating this" comment, so I know to plan on something else for myself. How do leftovers work in your household? What's mine is mine? All leftovers are fair game? Parents designate the leftovers? Quite honestly, As I was leaving the restaurant I thought "young people fight and argue over the silliest things". Who eats whose leftovers isn't a hill I would die on, either. The attitude that 'I pay the bills so you have no say' most definitely WOULD be. I don't think this was a silly thing to argue about at all. I hope that guy wises up and if he doesn't, I hope the girl does and puts him to the curb and like yesterday. As for how leftovers are handled here at home, we all label ours. If one of us doesn't want theirs, we let it be known they are up for grabs to whomever may want them. |
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Post by Chinagirl828 on Dec 31, 2018 5:27:42 GMT
They're fair game in this house but if I want to take it for lunch the next day I'll let DH know as he has been known to snack on them overnight.
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Post by rahnee on Dec 31, 2018 5:36:46 GMT
Fair game in our house.
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Post by dald222 on Dec 31, 2018 5:59:23 GMT
our meals go to the person who ate them.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2018 6:00:56 GMT
My leftovers from my two favorite restaurant meals are sacra-sanct but everything else is pretty much fair game.
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Post by bc2ca on Dec 31, 2018 6:34:29 GMT
DH used to consider anything in the fridge fair game until the kids transitioned to ordering from the main menu. He learned quickly not to touch their leftovers. I usually give my plate to DH or DS to finish in the restaurant and rarely bring anything home.  |
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Post by mrst on Dec 31, 2018 6:44:29 GMT
I'm stunned at all these left overs! The portions must be huge. Why not order less?
I've never brought food home from a restaurant..ever. With take away we share a dish if we know it's large. Having said that there are few take always in Spain.
The only left overs we have are home made when I have done enough to either freeze or have twice.
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Post by AussieMeg on Dec 31, 2018 6:58:08 GMT
Whoever ordered the meal that did not get eaten and is taken home gets first dibs on the leftovers. If anyone else wants to eat them, they need to ask the person whose leftovers they are. I would be pretty peeved if I brought home leftovers and someone else in the house ate them without asking. And as for this comment: "I paid for dinner and I pay the bills, I won't be told what I can and cannot eat in my own home". The guy is clearly a prick, as well as a left-over-pilferer. |
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Post by mom26 on Dec 31, 2018 7:14:41 GMT
I'm stunned at all these left overs! The portions must be huge. Why not order less? I've never brought food home from a restaurant..ever. With take away we share a dish if we know it's large. Having said that there are few take always in Spain. The only left overs we have are home made when I have done enough to either freeze or have twice. Serving sizes are pretty huge but that's the best part of eating out. We very rarely go out to eat (maybe 4 times a year?) so the bonus of having leftovers to eat the next day or two is very much a part of the treat. The restaurant I always choose for my b-day, the portion is big enough that I can only eat 1/4 of it. That gives me 3 lunches over the next 3 days. And no, I do not get sick of it. I only allow myself to order this very waistline destroying dish on that one day of the year and I stretch it out for all it's worth. Yes, I do. |
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