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Post by KelleeM on Jan 5, 2019 17:44:59 GMT
Ask for guidance. Don’t do something just because you’re expected to without an end goal. That degree isn’t worth a damn if you don’t know what to do with it.
Save money.
Don't marry him him just because he asked, you’re so much better off alone.
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Post by Really Red on Jan 5, 2019 19:00:16 GMT
I love this advice.
Mine is "Trust yourself. There is only ONE person you can change and that is YOU." You see the red flag, BELIEVE the red flag. Don't think things will change. They may, but they may for a short time. Trust yourself. Believe what you see.
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Post by jumperhop on Jan 5, 2019 19:49:56 GMT
Pay off the house before the kids go to college. Jen
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Post by jcm28 on Jan 5, 2019 19:59:02 GMT
Use a condom Janet
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 5, 2019 21:09:20 GMT
I am totally seeing a theme here
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Mary Kay Lady
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PeaNut 367,913 Refupea number 1,638
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Post by Mary Kay Lady on Jan 5, 2019 21:26:28 GMT
Save more money for retirement. Get into the habit of daily exercise. The boyfriend you had at 21, don't marry him. He's an alcoholic and you won't be able to fix him.
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Post by volunteergirl on Jan 5, 2019 22:05:32 GMT
Know what you want before you act.
Know when to pull the plug and when to pull the trigger on something.
Relax. Not everything is a big deal.
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moodyblue
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Post by moodyblue on Jan 5, 2019 22:23:13 GMT
Don’t be so hard on yourself. Take more chances and don’t worry about being bad at something the first time. People really aren’t paying as much attention to you as you think because they are focused on themselves. Start saving money at a young age. Make physical activity part of every day. Get control of your weight and don’t let yourself regain when you lose weight.
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Post by AnimalRescuePea on Jan 6, 2019 1:04:01 GMT
Keep your distance from the people in the rescue. Your initial suspicions are true. Don't waste your time trying to pick up their slack because they don't care, don't appreciate it, and will stab you in the back when you stop trying to do the right thing.
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Post by callmenutz on Jan 6, 2019 5:48:36 GMT
Don’t be a people pleaser. Please God first, then yourself and then your family.
Be an individual and don’t worry about what anyone thinks of you. If you’re happy with yourself, that’s good enough. (I’m still working on this one!)
Learn the difference between wants and needs. Don’t try to keep up with the Jones’s.
You can use charge cards but only if you can pay them off in full every month. Use cards with cash back. Don’t get caught up in interest payments.
If you are a two income family, learn to live on one income and save the rest. Buying a lot of stuff won’t bring long lasting happiness but having savings in the bank can buy peace of mind during the hard times.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Jan 6, 2019 16:09:43 GMT
Get yearly blood work. Find a great doctor, and make it a priority.
Buy stock in Apple.
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mallie
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Post by mallie on Jan 6, 2019 17:15:40 GMT
1. Go for the money in your career.
2. Do not take that job/quit that job when the boss told you a week in that a job requirement was being his friend. A nightmare could have been averted.
3. Go for the money in your career.
4. Do not buy your first house.
5. Do not buy yourself/allow your husband to buy collectibles.
6. Cut back on the toy purchases for your kids by 50% at least.
7. Insist on husband being more aggressive about job search at this one point so we didn't spend 25+ years living in a place I hated.
8. Go for the money in your own career.
9. Stop being nice and be "selfish" and insist on doing things you want to do and not being so wiling to compromise.
Yup, most of mine are about money. Because if we had more money right now, I could retire.
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Post by Pahina722 on Jan 6, 2019 17:36:42 GMT
Bad boys make bad husbands. Don’t be blinded by the hurt puppy act; it’s just a ploy to get you to support him.
Do what you love even if you won’t get rich. No amount of money will make up for being miserable for 40+ hours a week.
That tan might look great now, but the age spots later are far less attractive. Don’t you have something better to do than bake in the sun?
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azredhead
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Post by azredhead on Jan 6, 2019 18:18:43 GMT
Trust your instincts, gut, spidey senses base your relationships on just them not other people and their opinions..
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Post by heathers on Jan 6, 2019 18:21:39 GMT
Sell your beanie babies during the height of the craze 😆
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MsKnit
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Post by MsKnit on Jan 6, 2019 19:23:13 GMT
When you turn 18, leave and don't look back.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jan 6, 2019 19:33:54 GMT
I'd tell my younger self to be more foolish and take more detours. I was very 'nose to the grindstone' in my younger years. I wish I had taken a year off to have backpacked across Europe. Or moved to the beach and waitressed for a year.
If I understood then what I understand now about life, I might have made some different choices. I guess we all would!
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Post by ~summer~ on Jan 6, 2019 20:17:41 GMT
Don’t sell your Amazon stock
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Post by mustlovecats on Jan 6, 2019 21:08:02 GMT
It’s okay if you don’t make as much money as the people you will compare yourself to. Do what you love.
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Post by librarylady on Jan 6, 2019 21:27:01 GMT
Don't do it!! Don't marry him!!! Just, DON'T!!
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Post by MichyM on Jan 6, 2019 21:36:55 GMT
Don’t sell your Amazon stock Right?!? My grandparents bought Microsoft when it was an IPO. They never sold any of it, even after it split a gazillion times. They were so smart! I, on the other hand, bought Infospace when it was initially offered, thought it was the best thing ever, then watched it completely tank. I had to write off that loss for as many years as the IRS allowed. Then I got smart and got a financial planner.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 6, 2019 23:22:51 GMT
Sell your beanie babies during the height of the craze 😆 I know someone who was offered $40,000 for her collection. She thought she would make more. I am very glad she is stuck with that worthless junk. She deserves it.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 6, 2019 23:24:48 GMT
When you turn 18, leave and don't look back. This a thousand times.
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pridemom
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Post by pridemom on Jan 7, 2019 0:02:39 GMT
Comparison is the thief of joy.
Your pimple faced boyfriend turns into a silver fox who loves you dearly. You will be glad you married him.
Those high school kids who seem like they have it all together? At your 20th reunion, half are a complete mess.
You are not obligated to be nice to your mother who verbally abuses you.
Finish college when you’re young, it’s much harder at 37 with four kids!
You should go to law school.
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inkedup
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Post by inkedup on Jan 7, 2019 0:48:42 GMT
Hang on. It will get better.
Love your body. Appreciate it. Honor it.
Fight with mom less. Forgive her more. You will miss her with a fierceness you could not have imagined.
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Post by keesha on Jan 7, 2019 1:00:39 GMT
Sorry in advance -- with what I am dealing with now--- more Kegels!
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sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Jan 7, 2019 1:00:59 GMT
Force yourself to learn to disagree with others and deal with confrontation logically and calmly. The dynamics that your parents model were not healthy. Tell people when you don't like something.
Teach yourself about mental illness so that you can better help others.
Recognize that you can't control your parents and that their behavior isn't your responsibility.
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Post by lisae on Jan 7, 2019 2:34:42 GMT
Move away, build your career in a higher cost of living area where you make more money and have more opportunities. Then move back here to retire where living is cheap and the money you get out of your house will go a long way.
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Post by internetmama on Jan 7, 2019 4:36:39 GMT
This thread is so great!
Establish your career before you get married and have kids. Do grad school. Don’t waste your talent! Don’t be so desperate for a guy. Stand on your own two feet. Pick a partner who really wants kids the way you do. Hike. Camp. Be physically strong. Stay fit. Sunscreen and hats! Enjoy yourself, don’t be so serious and don’t be so religious. Stay near family. You will and you won’t regret the choices you have made as a young woman. Give yourself grace. Be happy with what you have.
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Post by theroadlesstraveledp on Jan 7, 2019 5:05:17 GMT
1. Make better financial choices. 2. Spend more time with grandparents- and other fam members there will be a day that you will wake up and they won't be here anymore. Can you tell that I miss them? 3. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does! 4. Five to ten years from now those things you worried about won't matter anymore. That MA Degree that you worked your butt off for? It matters today because you stayed the course, but the angst it brought could have been avoided. 5. Take the State & Local Gov't Internship it made a difference and would have helped sooner. It was a great learning experience and opened lots of doors.
6. Choose your battles wisely.
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