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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2019 21:46:57 GMT
Since the Peas are so wise and usually have such good advice and of course we love giving it ... what advice would you give to your younger self?
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Post by mom on Jan 4, 2019 21:53:43 GMT
Love yourself move than you love him.
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TankTop
Pearl Clutcher
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Jun 28, 2014 1:52:46 GMT
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Post by TankTop on Jan 4, 2019 21:54:30 GMT
Don’t be in such a big hurry. Adulting isn’t as fun as it looks.
Don’t waste tears or time on boys who do not treat you like the most precious thing in the world. Hold out for a love that you can truly be yourself.
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Post by beepdave on Jan 4, 2019 21:56:09 GMT
Quit buying crap to fill a void.
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Post by birukitty on Jan 4, 2019 22:05:02 GMT
It really doesn't matter what everyone else thinks of you. What matters is what you think of yourself. And you are wonderful just as you are. (I had a huge lack of self esteem in my teen years and young adult years).
Don't worry so much about trying to fit in. Find others like you or have fun just by yourself. You're an introvert-embrace it.
You don't need a boy/man to make you happy. And when you do find one make sure he loves you for who you are.
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peabay
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Jun 25, 2014 19:50:41 GMT
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Post by peabay on Jan 4, 2019 22:08:11 GMT
140 pounds isn't fat.
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Post by katiescarlett on Jan 4, 2019 22:10:09 GMT
Don't ever start smoking and stay out of the sun!
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Post by NanaKate on Jan 4, 2019 22:12:14 GMT
These are all so good. I’d like to add “chill - everything is going to be okay. Even when there are bumps in the road.” And focus more on today instead of worrying about things in the future that may never happen.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2019 22:15:37 GMT
Save every cent you can find. Hide it. Get a job. You can always stay at your aunt’s house. If you can’t get a ride home. Don’t believe or trust any of your family. Don’t talk to them. Don’t play with them. Stay away from them.
Quit violin/orchestra. The grade you get will drag your gpa down.
Study harder. Learn how to write reports and get a math tutor.
Change your address to your aunt’s house. Have nothing mail to your parent’s House.
Go to a good dentist.
I would absolutely tell myself that Cornell is tuition free for qualifying students.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 4, 2019 22:15:57 GMT
Getting married to get away from your mom is not a good idea. Be brave and fight for your independence.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jan 4, 2019 22:22:01 GMT
You’re not fat. You’re cuter than you think. That goofy guy who likes you is going to make an awesome husband and dad. Don’t worry so much, everything will work out fine.
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 4, 2019 22:26:40 GMT
Spend more time with your mom.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jan 4, 2019 22:34:00 GMT
Wear the bikini!
Never start smoking.
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Post by tinydogmafia on Jan 4, 2019 22:34:33 GMT
Spend more time with your mother, you will lose her too young.
Be kind and patient with yourself, you are your harshest critic. You will learn from your mistakes.
Love yourself, embrace your flaws, don't worry about what anyone thinks about you.
I think these are the big ones for me.
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Post by papersilly on Jan 4, 2019 22:44:23 GMT
Sunscreen every day.
Denim shirts and dresses are not a good look on you.
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Post by quietgirl on Jan 4, 2019 22:49:34 GMT
To love myself, he patient with her, and never, ever worry about what anyone thinks of you. Be independent of others. Stop playing the "please love me, please love me" game. It will be disastrous to me, and my mind.
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ellen
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Jun 30, 2014 12:52:45 GMT
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Post by ellen on Jan 4, 2019 22:53:00 GMT
Wear sunscreen and stay out of tanning beds.
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Peal
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Jun 25, 2014 22:45:40 GMT
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Post by Peal on Jan 4, 2019 22:56:02 GMT
Rebel, just a little bit. You'll wish later that more (any) of your youth was misspent.
Take art classes.
Wear sunscreen. Every day.
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Post by psoccer on Jan 4, 2019 22:57:50 GMT
Find guy that loves you, not a guy that needs you. Don't get perms. Spend more time with family, ask more questions about their lives, travel more.
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Post by padresfan619 on Jan 4, 2019 23:15:09 GMT
It is all really fun right now, but you won’t believe that a night on the couch with your husband and take out will end up being the most fun of all. You’ll be happy to get the partying out of your system early.
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Post by femalebusiness on Jan 4, 2019 23:20:41 GMT
Don't smoke ciggarettes...pot is fine. Other than that follow your gut, you make good choices.
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Post by femalebusiness on Jan 4, 2019 23:21:39 GMT
😂🤣😂 ETA: That quote was “Don't get perms”
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peabay
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Jun 25, 2014 19:50:41 GMT
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Post by peabay on Jan 4, 2019 23:34:01 GMT
You’re not fat. You’re cuter than you think. That goofy guy who likes you is going to make an awesome husband and dad. Don’t worry so much, everything will work out fine. I tell my daughters that all the time: the nerds will be the best husbands and fathers. Pay more attention to them.
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Post by stacmac on Jan 5, 2019 0:08:46 GMT
You're more than capable - go for it! Don't let your lousy self esteem hold you back from what you want to achieve in life because you will regret it. Don't worry so much about what others think because they're all worried about themselves as well! Save some money for gods sake.
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Post by ShesaRenegade on Jan 5, 2019 0:24:15 GMT
Lose weight while you are still young. It gets much more difficult as you get older. Don't sunbathe. Don't start smoking.
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Post by freecharlie on Jan 5, 2019 0:28:49 GMT
Start the kids' college accounts earlier and put more into them. Put as much into retirement as you can at am early age. Don't use those credit cards
Honestly, I would be afraid to change some of my bad decisions as they are probably directly or indirectly responsible for the family and life I have, which I quite enjoy most of the time.
Better financial decisions is where I'd go
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Post by leftturnonly on Jan 5, 2019 0:29:55 GMT
Strap in, you're in for a bumpy ride!
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leeny
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Jun 27, 2014 1:55:53 GMT
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Post by leeny on Jan 5, 2019 0:33:43 GMT
Don't listen to what they are saying, you will be just fine.
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PrettyInPeank
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Jun 25, 2014 21:31:58 GMT
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Jan 5, 2019 0:36:44 GMT
Teach her how to say, "Let me get back to you..." or "No" with ease.
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rickmer
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Jul 1, 2014 20:20:18 GMT
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Post by rickmer on Jan 5, 2019 0:40:22 GMT
don't waste time hoping things will change. make things change.
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