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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jan 14, 2019 0:17:24 GMT
Does this happen at your house? It seems that every time dh and I both get sick, he gets sick first and then I end up being the one who has to suck it up and take care of the kids while he is in bed.
Dh has been throwing up and has diarrhea. He left ds basketball tournament this morning and has been in bed all day. I’ve been mildly nauseous all day as well but manageable, until about two hours ago. Now I feel tired, feverish and achy. I would love to just go to bed but Kids need to have baths, read, two need to get to and from practice, etc. Ugh.
Thanks for letting me whine.
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Post by busy on Jan 14, 2019 0:19:48 GMT
Ugh, that stinks. Can't you call any other team parents and get them rides to/from practice? I hope you feel better soon! I don't think DH and I have ever been sick at the same time, but I am sure I would be the one who'd end up soldiering on and getting shit done while he died of his man cold.  |
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Post by christine58 on Jan 14, 2019 0:20:00 GMT
Find someone to take the kids to and from or keep them home. I've had that stomach issue for 3 going on 4 days. If you have older kids, let them help with the kids getting baths...skip the reading and put them to bed
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Post by freecharlie on Jan 14, 2019 0:21:07 GMT
This is when I would use the tv as a babysitter as needed. Make it a treat.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jan 14, 2019 0:22:24 GMT
I just found a ride for one but the other one says he doesn’t know who will be there. It’s an optional hitting so I might just have to keep him home. I’m so cold and shivery now that the last thing I want to do is go back outside.
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Post by busy on Jan 14, 2019 0:24:18 GMT
I'm with christine58 - I'd skip the reading tonight, get the older kids to help the youngers with baths and do the absolute minimum. Order in dinner for them. Let them play on devices/watch TV. Keep them alive; you don't have to do everything you usually do. Everyone else gets to rest and get well when they're sick yet we moms are terrible at doing it ourselves (definitely including myself in that). |
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Post by stacmac on Jan 14, 2019 0:25:55 GMT
I'd just keep the kids home. Can anyone skip a bath or shower in the morning? My kids would be upset without books but see if they can read to each other and go to bed you poor thing  stomach bugs are the worst. Just thinking, I'd let them have ipad time or tv time as a treat instead of books. I agree woth post above - you don't have to do everything. |
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Post by scrappinmama on Jan 14, 2019 0:32:36 GMT
If this is a pattern with your Dh, it's time to talk this through. When you are both sick, both of you should be pitching in. Only do what is essential though. Everything else can wait. Remember you don't have to do everything yourself. Speak up. It would be a different story if he was the only sick person in the house. But you're both sick.
I hope you feel better soon!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2019 0:33:00 GMT
Older kids get younger ones ready for bed
They can fix sandwiches for their dinner.
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Post by bc2ca on Jan 14, 2019 0:33:32 GMT
I'm not sure we've ever been sick at the same time. We always seem to tag team and avoid completely shutting down on obligations. That doesn't mean we haven't had to miss a practice for one kid because we can't be in two places at the same time though.
IME, kids respond really well to sick parents and manage to help each other through the bedtime routine. I wouldn't be dragging myself out to an optional practice.
Hope both you and DH are feeling better tomorrow.
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Post by Belle on Jan 14, 2019 0:36:21 GMT
I hope you feel better soon. That is the worst when you “can’t” be sick.
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Post by grammadee on Jan 14, 2019 0:41:03 GMT
One huge lesson I learned from almost dying: it is perfectly okay to ask for help. Older kids are more capable than you think they are. Go to bed. I had to, and my kids survived: a missed bath or a bedtime story is not an emergency. And it is surprising not only what they CAN do, but how PROUD they are of themselves for doing it.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jan 14, 2019 0:41:43 GMT
I'm sorry you're sick!
Dinner can be anything easy. Take out. Frozen dinners. Cereal. Sandwich.
Skip baths unless they are filthy.
Skip practices entirely.
Our library offers Tumblebooks online. They are kids books, animated, and read aloud, with words on the screen. Easy peasy, kids are read to. Use a tablet, phone, laptop, etc.
Do the bare minimum. You need to Take care of you, and your kids need to learn that you are important too. It will make them adults who put their own well being as a priority.
(((Hugs))) Feel better.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jan 14, 2019 0:43:48 GMT
Thanks. Ds found a ride and I ordered pizza. I’m going to find a few more blankets and make some tea and hope I can get warm.
I did tell dh that I’m. It feeling well and he offered to drop ds off at practice if needed.
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Post by Basket1lady on Jan 14, 2019 3:20:48 GMT
I'm with christine58 - I'd skip the reading tonight, get the older kids to help the youngers with baths and do the absolute minimum. Order in dinner for them. Let them play on devices/watch TV. Keep them alive; you don't have to do everything you usually do. Everyone else gets to rest and get well when they're sick yet we moms are terrible at doing it ourselves (definitely including myself in that). This. Keep them alive. They aren’t babies. Your oldest can hold down the fort. Call in sick for tomorrow. Have your oldest get the younger kids off to school in the morning. Or, if he leaves first, have him get the younger kids up. #3 is old enough to pour cereal and milk. It’s one day. They can do it! |
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Post by dald222 on Jan 14, 2019 3:23:05 GMT
I am sorry that you are sick.
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Post by rickmer on Jan 14, 2019 3:25:34 GMT
ugh. flashback to my 40th bday. kids had been sick the week up to my bday. day before, my husband came down with same stomach bug. after taking care of 4 other people for a week, on the day of my 40th, i started to feel horrible. spent the entire rest of the day/night throwing up and miserable.
well, it was certainly unforgettable.... it's been almost 8 years and i still say every year "at least it's not like my 40th bday"!
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jan 14, 2019 4:44:44 GMT
I’m sorry you’re feeling so awful! We’ve been there where EVERYBODY was sick all at once, ugh, on Christmas no less when DD was a year and a half old. It sucked! At least it was at a time when none of us needed to be anywhere so we could all just lay low. I agree with everyone else who said that you scale down to the bare minimum and let the kids help each other or help themselves as much as possible.
My 8yo can make herself eggs, microwave mac and cheese or a bowl of cereal, or she is perfectly capable of foraging in the fridge for herself if she had to. Getting herself ready for school totally on her own would be a lot harder, but when I’m really sick I appeal to her sense of pity, LOL, and tell her point blank, “Come on, help me out here. I feel like crap and you cooperating with me would really go a long way.” She usually is pretty compliant after that.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jan 14, 2019 14:56:52 GMT
I’m sorry you’re feeling so awful! We’ve been there where EVERYBODY was sick all at once, ugh, on Christmas no less when DD was a year and a half old. It sucked! At least it was at a time when none of us needed to be anywhere so we could all just lay low. I agree with everyone else who said that you scale down to the bare minimum and let the kids help each other or help themselves as much as possible. My 8yo can make herself eggs, microwave mac and cheese or a bowl of cereal, or she is perfectly capable of foraging in the fridge for herself if she had to. Getting herself ready for school totally on her own would be a lot harder, but when I’m really sick I appeal to her sense of pity, LOL, and tell her point blank, “Come on, help me out here. I feel like crap and you cooperating with me would really go a long way.” She usually is pretty compliant after that. My 7 year old was really not very cooperative last night. Maybe I was just being more impatient due to not feeling well but I said those exact words last night and he acted like I was being so mean. 10yo DS said last night that he had a sore throat, and this morning barely has a voice. So he is home sick with me. 7yo again was being a little uncooperative this morning. Makes me wonder if he is getting sick as well. Overall, I feel better than last night. Last night I couldn't get warm, but today I am sweating up a storm. Headache, backache and feeling weak but my nausea seems to be getting better. DH went to work. |
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Post by mikklynn on Jan 14, 2019 15:16:37 GMT
This is when the older kids have to step up. If both parents are sick, cereal is good enough for a meal.
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 14, 2019 15:34:47 GMT
This is when the older kids have to step up. If both parents are sick, cereal is good enough for a meal. And even when you aren't.  |
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Post by scrapmaven on Jan 14, 2019 16:38:33 GMT
It's perfectly OK not to do normal activities when you're ill. Continue to rest. Takeout or cereal will be fine for dinner tonight. Hope you're feeling much better quickly.
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 14, 2019 19:59:12 GMT
It's perfectly OK not to do normal activities when you're ill. Continue to rest. Takeout or cereal will be fine for dinner tonight. Hope you're feeling much better quickly. I am thinking that my boys would have loved to have both us sick at 7 and 10. They were pretty darn independent by then and would have loved to have had some time to feel large and in charge. Feeding themselves cereal, hot pockets, frozen pizza, and sandwiches would have been their dream. |
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stomach bugs are the worst.
