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Post by revirdsuba99 on Mar 19, 2019 22:53:28 GMT
There is no reason she should have to go through what she is. Tell her to hold her head high and know that they were no worth her time any more! She will be off the college sooner then she realizes and meet so many more great people! Merge May your DD find someone to be friendly with for the remainder of the year.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 19, 2019 22:53:37 GMT
So sorry. Others have already said it better. She's well rid of them, though it may take a while for her to see it.
Here's a technique to teach your kids, when the tattlers run up full of glee to spill some sad mean sh#(* teach them to ask "Hmmmm, why did you feel the need to tell me that....." Always put it back on the idiots and maybe some of them will truly begin to see that they have their own part to play in the ugliness of the world.
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Post by Merge on Mar 19, 2019 23:00:53 GMT
Thanks to all who took the time to respond. I appreciate the solidarity and words of encouragement. ❤️❤️
I agree with everything that was said about finding your best friends after high school. The friends I've stayed in contact with are from middle school or college. 😂 But it's cold comfort when you're 17 and worry that you won't have anyone to celebrate with on graduation night, KWIM?
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Post by sassyangel on Mar 19, 2019 23:03:47 GMT
How incredibly hurtful and cruel. I had no answer for this when I was in highschool, and I still really don't. My sister had a group of girls that were just awful to her. Watching what she went though and the disgust I felt for them, made me hell bent resolved to NEVER be that kind of person. I think busy came closest to my thoughts on the matter. They haven't learned that stomping over other people, doesn't change or cure your own insecurities. Some people never learn that, unfortunately. Im so sorry your sweet girl is hurting. I'd cheerfully join you in throttling them.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 19, 2019 23:23:21 GMT
Mean girls suck, it's not just high school. I'd encourage her to find something to volunteer her time with, a different group of people. My daughter has her school friends and then her volunteer group friends. It helps alot for her to have friends not at her school. As for not having girls to hang out with on grad night....plan a small trip with her or a special family dinner. Sometimes those that we think we need in our life are not what matters. Be there to listen, keep your opinions minimal n appropriate (not what you really want to say..moms ready to beat the crap out of them), encourage her to be above the drama, and help her celebrate a great achievement....high school is just about over!!!
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Post by deekaye on Mar 19, 2019 23:37:38 GMT
My oldest daughter went through something similar. I know it sounds cliche' but her best years are ahead of her. My daughter met wonderful friends in college. They were her bridesmaids and even though they are now post-grad scattered across the country, they are all still best friends and make time to see each other often.
Interestingly enough, I recently ran in to the mother of one of the two high school "mean girls". Seems those two, thick-as-thieves, mean girls got in to a fight a year after high school and never talked to each other again. The mom went on to make fun of the other girl and also the other girl's mom..... ummmmm, mean girls don't fall far from the mean mom tree? It was an uncomfortable conversation and I did my "oh my, look at the time, I've got to go" thing....
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Post by christine58 on Mar 19, 2019 23:44:16 GMT
MergeHow is your daughter doing today?
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Post by Merge on Mar 20, 2019 0:06:11 GMT
MergeHow is your daughter doing today? Same day still. 😊 She's at work this evening, texted me earlier, seems in better spirits. She likes her job and it's a good distraction, I think. Thanks so much for asking. 😊
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Post by rickmer on Mar 20, 2019 0:36:05 GMT
other "friends" rushed to gleefully report this to DD this resonated with me... DS had a hard time in elementary school with a couple of boys. to the point i actually ended up pulling him out of the school and transferring him to the neighbourhood school BUT one of his good friends used to do this ALL.THE.TIME. i do believe he felt like he was being "there" for my son by telling him what they were saying behind his back. and it was *his* own insecurity that made him feel it was better to be a conduit than the target. sad to say but i didn't even blame him, as douchy as it was. DD also went thru tough times with friends in grade 12... she is now in first year university and while it hasn't been easy, she is making friends that are her *choice*, not people she grew up with and was forced to be in the same place at the same time as, but people she genuinely likes and respects. funny enough, she spent the day with a couple of these other girls today, went back to her high school because of a tragic situation (suicide of a classmate from high school) and when i asked her how it went she said "surprisingly, it wasn't so bad" (the "friend" part, obviously not the tragic situation which she is reeling from). i think the reason is she has moved on... and that is what happens. hard to explain when they are in the middle of it though. tell her to hang on, it DOES get better. xoxo
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Post by frenchie on Mar 20, 2019 1:24:33 GMT
It's such a terrible feeling when your child is upset. Girls can just be ruthless. Once your daughter graduates, she will be moving on to bigger and better things! Hang in there. It WILL get better!
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Post by freecharlie on Mar 20, 2019 2:11:02 GMT
MergeIs your daughter having more success than they are? S a high school teacher, I've seen the green eyed monster ruin friendships as kids get ready for college. I've also seen kids do it because they know they are splitting up and they are trying to be in control
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Post by Merge on Mar 20, 2019 2:33:42 GMT
Merge Is your daughter having more success than they are? S a high school teacher, I've seen the green eyed monster ruin friendships as kids get ready for college. I've also seen kids do it because they know they are splitting up and they are trying to be in control No, they're all at roughly in the same place as far as grades and college acceptances and stuff. I suspect it's more of the latter. I remember having some friendships dissolve senior year because of the knowledge that we'd all be leaving soon. I just don't remember anyone being so mean about it. It was more a drifting away.
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janeliz
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Post by janeliz on Mar 20, 2019 2:38:06 GMT
I’m sorry. It’s just the worst to see our kids hurting, especially since so many of us have vivid memories of being on the receiving end of that sort of crap.
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Post by mygigiscraps on Mar 20, 2019 3:26:51 GMT
I blame the tattlers just as much as the other girls. People that love to tell others whatever mean thing they hear really suck. I think the tattlers are worse. Your poor DD... Exactly! The only reason to run and blab something like that is to stir the pot. My heart goes out to her. Mean girls suck.
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