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Post by merry27 on Apr 7, 2019 13:55:59 GMT
My daughter turns 16 in the Fall and we are trying to decide what to do about a car for her. DH and I both had to buy our own car and pay for insurance and gas. We both worked while in high school. While we wish our parents could have helped us out, we were both responsible and took pride in our first cars.
DD does not have a job- we want school to be her job. We are in the position to buy her a car and are trying to decide how much to spend and if it should be new or used.
Did you buy your teen a car? Did you give them a budget? Did you have a contract with them regarding grades and behavior tied to the use of the car? Were they expected to pay gas or insurance?
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Kerri W
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Post by Kerri W on Apr 7, 2019 14:06:48 GMT
We bought our teens cars. They had a budget and it was important to DH to teach them how to shop for and negotiate buying a car. We paid for insurance and they paid for gas for the most part. We didn’t have a need for a contract but they have always known the car belongs to us and if they aren’t using it appropriately, maintaining grades, etc, it will be parked.
We live in an area where there is no public transportation. We live apart from family or grandparents and DH travels significantly for work so having another driver was very helpful. We also don’t have a huge market for jobs for people under 18 and sports/activities were a huge time commitment. All things considered, it was a huge convenience for US to buy them cars.
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Post by Suziee2 on Apr 7, 2019 14:11:32 GMT
Yes, we helped DD's and DS buy their first used cars. They had to save a certain amount of money, and then we paid a certain amount on top of that. They had to pay for gas and minor upkeep, we paid for insurance. They were a part of the purchasing process.
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Post by ellen on Apr 7, 2019 14:16:09 GMT
We bought our teens cars. They had a budget and it was important to DH to teach them how to shop for and negotiate buying a car. We paid for insurance and they paid for gas for the most part. We didn’t have a need for a contract but they have always known the car belongs to us and if they aren’t using it appropriately, maintaining grades, etc, it will be parked. We live in an area where there is no public transportation. We live apart from family or grandparents and DH travels significantly for work so having another driver was very helpful. We also don’t have a huge market for jobs for people under 18 and sports/activities were a huge time commitment. All things considered, it was a huge convenience for US to buy them cars. This is pretty much how we did it. When our oldest went to college we had her contribute to insurance & she paid for licensing. She recently bought her own car and the car she was using was passed onto her 16 year old sister. When she goes to college we will probably get her a car with less miles on it, but right now it's perfect for her to get to her school activities.
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Post by johnnysmom on Apr 7, 2019 14:25:36 GMT
Yes we did. We also pay for gas up to a certain amount, we figured 2 tanks a month would get him back and forth to school/practice plus a small amount for going out, anything above that he's responsible for. We cover the insurance as long as he maintains a B average, if it's lower he has to pay the difference. We didn't want him to have to work; though he does do some work for his friend's dad's landscape company so he's putting in a lot of hours over spring break and he works some occasional afternoons/weekends in the spring/fall (when he doesn't have sports stuff), school is his priority. He just got into an accident (long story) due to that he increased some of his car expenses: he had to pay for the ticket, deductible and however much his insurance will go up at next renewal.
ETA: the car is ours (it's in my name), it's well known that we can and will take the keys at any time.
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Post by birdy on Apr 7, 2019 14:31:59 GMT
DS had a nice savings account going since he was a baby. When he was 15 1/2 we started looking at cars with him. For his 16th bday, we gave him $1000 toward a down payment when he found one. He was responsible for the rest. He ended up with a really nice Ford Escape for about $10,000. He does have a job (started 1 week shy of 16). He is responsible for his car payments, insurance, gas and upkeep. For his 1st round of insurance $900 for 1/2 a year - crazy! We paid 1/2 for him. FOr the 2nd round, my parents paid 1/2, just to get him going.
We felt that if he purchased himself, that maybe he'd be more careful with driving since it was his $. So far, so good. He's even paid to have 2 major repairs done.
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Post by used2scrap on Apr 7, 2019 14:49:25 GMT
To help encourage our teens to save, when they turned 13 we told them we would match whatever they had saved towards a car when they were 16. Their income stream is limited to lawn mowing and gifts, as they don’t work between being straight A students and 3 sport varsity athletes and volunteering however. We pay insurance and gas, and they will run minor errands for me and not having to constantly drive them to school, practice etc is very helpful.
Oldest saved and was able to get a very reliable older Honda Civic, and while it doesn’t look like much, gets great gas mileage and he has a lot of pride in having scraped to save for it. He’s currently doing extra yard chores to pay off new tires. Dd is about to turn 15 and not doing well saving, so I’m not sure what is going to happen next year.
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Post by psiluvu on Apr 7, 2019 14:51:14 GMT
No we have a second that our kids have full use of when they are old enough to drive. We pay for insurance, repairs and about half of the gas We want them to save their money for school. With the money they have saved and our contribution they should be able to graduate from a 4 year program debt free.
DD is away at school and the expense of a having a car at school is too much to justify when public transportation is "free" with your tuition.
DS is turning 16 on the 19th and we are shopping for a second car this summer, once he is able to drive by himself he will have full use of our older car. If he stays here to go to university, which he is leaning to we will continue to pay all the expenses for a car.
I didn't get my first car until I was 28 and working full time.
ETA both kids worked while in high school part time during school and full time during the summers and managed to save quite a bit
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Post by Gennifer on Apr 7, 2019 14:58:49 GMT
We bought a car that our teens can drive. We pay the insurance and maintenance on it, but they are responsible for gas.
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Post by idahomom on Apr 7, 2019 15:12:39 GMT
We bought our kids their cars and cover all expenses while they are/were full-time students.
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Post by hannahruth on Apr 7, 2019 15:23:53 GMT
We bought our teens cars. They had a budget and it was important to DH to teach them how to shop for and negotiate buying a car. We paid for insurance and they paid for gas for the most part. We didn’t have a need for a contract but they have always known the car belongs to us and if they aren’t using it appropriately, maintaining grades, etc, it will be parked. We live in an area where there is no public transportation. We live apart from family or grandparents and DH travels significantly for work so having another driver was very helpful. We also don’t have a huge market for jobs for people under 18 and sports/activities were a huge time commitment. All things considered, it was a huge convenience for US to buy them cars. This I could have written myself. Both DS and DD had after school type jobs so they had income to pay running costs themselves. They both upgraded when they could afford to do so.
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Post by seaexplore on Apr 7, 2019 15:27:43 GMT
I do not plan to purchase a car for either of my kids.. if we are in a position to purchase cars at that point, they can buy ours used from us. They will be responsible for their insurance and gas.
My parents did not purchase for any of the 4 of us. My DH’s parents bought new for his sister (wrecked a month later, bought ANOTHER new) and bought him a gutted truck at 14 that he built himself. DH is older than his sister.
I worked, and to get to work I rode my bike or roller blades or parents took me and picked me up. When I had enough money, I bought my great grandmothers car (1970 Buick in 1992) from her and paid my insurance and gas. (Got about 10 mpg). Same for my siblings....work, save up, buy car, pay gas and insurance.
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Post by leannec on Apr 7, 2019 15:31:36 GMT
We have a third car that dd#1 has the use of ... she considers it her car but will have to share it with her sister when dd#2 gets her license ... that will be interesting Dd#1 goes to University and has a part-time job so she pays for her own gas but we pay for everything else ...
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Post by freecharlie on Apr 7, 2019 16:08:25 GMT
We bought ds's. He played varsity football, basketball, and baseball, so working wasn't really an option. We also pay insurance and gas. He drives his brother to school
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Post by mellyw on Apr 7, 2019 16:14:22 GMT
We bought our kids their cars and cover all expenses while they are/were full-time students. This is what we did for our DD. Her high school workload was crazy, and she attended Washington University on campus classes in the summer. She graduated high school with over half her college credits done, the cost savings on that alone made buying her a car worth it. As others have posted, she learned how to shop and negotiate for a vehicle. That’s an invaluable tool to have.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Apr 7, 2019 16:25:09 GMT
We bought a car that our teens can drive. We pay the insurance and maintenance on it, but they are responsible for gas. This. We helped our girls out. We live in the boonies, so not many job opportunities. We also wanted them to get good grades. We helped them all the way thru college. Now they are both on their own.
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Post by littlemama on Apr 7, 2019 16:32:01 GMT
We bought ds his first car (used). His second car was a hand me down from dh that he is still driving and will for the foreseeable future. Some parents lease a car for their new driver because it is cheaper. We wanted to make sure ds had a decent car that wasnt going to be breaking down all the time. We pay for the insurance. I cannot imagine a young teen being able to afford insurance in our state- ds' insurance at 16 was 1800/year, if not more.
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Post by stittsygirl on Apr 7, 2019 16:33:31 GMT
Yes, we bought our oldest two a used Honda. My son drives it though (DDs not driving yet - long story). We paid for it and he pays his part of the insurance. It really has been a good thing for me, especially while my husband has been away and I work full-time. My son can take his siblings places for me, and pick up things at the store and such, as well as drive himself and his sister to their college classes. So it’s been completely worth it. He can buy it from us if he wants when he’s finished with school and/or working full time. We’ll also be there to help any of our children buy a car on their own when they are in a position to do so.
We’ll probably get another economic used vehicle this year for my youngest two to share. My youngest DD should be driving within a year and has a busy extracurricular and social life, so it will be easier on all of us if we have another vehicle to use.
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Post by gar on Apr 7, 2019 16:35:40 GMT
It worked out nicely both times that the girls had Dh's car (high miles but well maintained) as he was getting a new one. I think we paid insurance initially and they paid for petrol until they were earning properly.
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Post by jewelie121 on Apr 7, 2019 16:51:55 GMT
We gave DS1 my old car when I bought a new one (planned that way). It was 3 yrs old when he got it and will be the only car we give him. We pay for insurance and from time to time we’ll fill his tank, but he mostly pays for gas. He’s in college and the car will last until he graduates and probably longer.
DS2 is 15, and is hoping we’ll do the same for him. I’m trying to pay off my car ASAP, so we can give it to him when the time comes. If not, he’ll wait.
Both boys are straight A students, and DS2 has a lot of extra curricular activities, so having him drive himself will be a huge help to us.
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Post by kristi11 on Apr 7, 2019 17:34:17 GMT
We bought our daughter a used car when she was 16 and she used it through high school, college and grad school. We covered the insurance and maintenance and she paid for gas while she was in high school but then she took on the maintenance costs when she was in college. In grad school she got a better rate if she bundled her renter's insurance with car insurance so she took over that too.
We didn't have a written contract with her but she knew our rules about passengers, etc. when she was a younger driver. We didn't tie anything to her grades or behavior because she was a good student and had already shown responsibility before we bought the car and we knew she could handle it. Had she been a different kind of kid though we would have.
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Post by mom on Apr 7, 2019 17:40:02 GMT
We bought both of our boys their first car (used). We pay all of maintenance and they pay 1/2 insurance. We give them gas money but if they need more, they need to pay for it.
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Post by shannoots on Apr 7, 2019 17:47:27 GMT
We bought our son his car. We gave him a budget and he found the car (with our approval). We pay his insurance and we spilt the gas.
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Post by utmr on Apr 7, 2019 18:00:36 GMT
We provide a car to drive (our vehicle, in our names) we pay for the car and insurance and for gas. They are in school and need to focus on school. They are not fancy cars - one is a 1998 Toyota and the other is a 2007 Jeep (side note, never buy a Jeep. It is the worst car ever). when they graduate college we will buy them a new-to-them car, a two or three year old sedan with low mileage and a good reliability record, Honda, Toyota, or similar. After that they are on their own. We figure that should get them 7-10 years down the road (pun intended) and out of the nest.
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Post by amom23 on Apr 7, 2019 18:06:51 GMT
We bought our kids their cars and cover all expenses while they are/were full-time students. This was us through college for our kids.
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 7, 2019 18:21:07 GMT
We are paying (most) of our kids' expenses through college. My oldest saved enough to put a good chunk down on a house. As long as they were earning and saving while they went through school, I didn't have a problem. Thankfully both of my boys have been very responsible in spite of their parents paying for things.
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Post by kels99 on Apr 7, 2019 18:33:18 GMT
My grandpa was finished driving right about the time DD turned 16 so he gifted us his car. It is our 3rd car and DD(now 19) drove it while in high school. Now DS(17) drives it. We pay for insurance, gas, and maintenance. Although DS has been buying gas using his debit card and we haven't paid him back yet. I'm sure we'll owe him hundreds by the time we do it. He doesn't seem too concerned about it. lol
DD had an opportunity to buy my parents car last year at a good 'grandparent' discount and we paid for half of it. It is in her name and she pays gas, tabs, an minor maintenance (oil change, new windshield wipers, etc). We pay for insurance and big things like tires.
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Post by lancermom on Apr 7, 2019 18:41:34 GMT
We bought our kids a decent car their senior year in high school. The goal was that it would last u til they were done with college, or beyond. The car was in our name, and we paid insurance. My oldest just used it as a trade yesterday for her first car. She graduated in December so it did what we wanted. She had it over five years. And cried when she left it in the lot!
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Post by peaname on Apr 7, 2019 18:41:58 GMT
We bought a third car and if he’s living his life in the way we prefer he gets to drive it.
I don’t think there’s a blanket answer. I’ve met some teens who have a real sense of entitlement and I’ve met some that you could gift them a luxury car and they’d be grateful and appreciative. You have to figure out what works for your family and your child.
Good luck! It’s a fun and scary time when they start to earn real independence.
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Post by trixiecat on Apr 7, 2019 18:58:30 GMT
We bought both of our kids used cars. They pay their insurance and gas. We pay the maintenance on our daughter's car and did for my son while he is in high school. Now that he is working he will be responsible for the maintenance.
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