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Post by twinks on May 1, 2019 18:36:10 GMT
My heart breaks for your DD and for you. I think you are on the right path and have been given great advise. Big hugs to your DD and to you.
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Post by J u l e e on May 1, 2019 18:48:52 GMT
I echo so much of what everyone else has already posted above. I have tears in my eyes, this is so heartbreaking.
I always go to books to help kids process things. Two of my favorite books to inspire kids to embrace their own genius are by Patricia Polacco - Thank You, Mr. Falker and Junkyard Wonders. I have not ever read either book with dry eyes. There's also a book called Never Judge a Fish on its Ability to Climb a Tree: How Everyone Has an Ability by Michael Evans Jr. that would be great for her to read. I'll keep looking for other titles and come back to post them.
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Post by Deleted on May 1, 2019 20:49:28 GMT
I echo so much of what everyone else has already posted above. I have tears in my eyes, this is so heartbreaking. I always go to books to help kids process things. Two of my favorite books to inspire kids to embrace their own genius are by Patricia Polacco - Thank You, Mr. Falker and Junkyard Wonders. I have not ever read either book with dry eyes. There's also a book called Never Judge a Fish on its Ability to Climb a Tree: How Everyone Has an Ability by Michael Evans Jr. that would be great for her to read. I'll keep looking for other titles and come back to post them. Thank you for the suggestions. I was able to find the first two a the library today!
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Post by workingclassdog on May 1, 2019 20:50:59 GMT
I think all of us pea moms (and not moms) need to give @littleblueberry's daughter a huge hug and a trip to Disney! This post really hit me hard...
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2019 1:57:01 GMT
Tiny tiny update in OP
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Post by snyder on May 2, 2019 2:33:26 GMT
It is very heartbreaking when you see this type of thing happening to our precious children. I experienced a few in my life time as a student, a parent and a grandparent. We try to reinforce that not everyone has the same skills and some are better at certain things than others. We excel and pursue the skills we are good at and get assistance with those we find more difficult. If we have a hard time with reading, we follow audio books, if we are color blind, we have someone help us pick out our clothing, if we are dyslexic, we have a proof reader check our work. {{{{Hugs}}} to your daughter!
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2019 23:16:48 GMT
Update in OP
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Post by revirdsuba99 on May 4, 2019 1:14:34 GMT
Glad you were able to see the principal quickly. Hopefully it has been brought to the teacher's attention so that it will be understood that grades really should NOT be read out in class. But you also need to keep track too!
I missed your update about buying your DD art supplies! BRAVO!!
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Post by Skellinton on May 4, 2019 1:35:08 GMT
Did you find out about what an alternative could be to your daughter missing recess to correct work? I hope your school year is almost over and your daughter gets an awesome teacher next year. I would not be happy with the principal being so blasé about it. If your daughter has an IEP was the special ed teacher there?
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Post by freebird on May 4, 2019 1:45:02 GMT
Your update pisses me off. Want me to go mamma bear on them? I'm good at it.
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Post by mikklynn on May 4, 2019 13:09:27 GMT
I am so disappointed by your update.
Teachers should never announce grades, good or bad.
I also object to your DD missing recess to retake the test. She needs to get outside and run around.
Have you shown your DD the test results that indicate she is smart, just learns differently? I would sit down with her and explain it.
Does she have an IEP? That would be my next step.
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Post by Deleted on May 4, 2019 14:49:50 GMT
I am so disappointed by your update. Teachers should never announce grades, good or bad. I also object to your DD missing recess to retake the test. She needs to get outside and run around. Have you shown your DD the test results that indicate she is smart, just learns differently? I would sit down with her and explain it. Does she have an IEP? That would be my next step. She does have an IEP and just got into special ED. We had to personally request testing even though the teacher could see she was struggling and you could most defiantly tell by her speech something was amidst. We had to wait months to get another hearing test and that is when the doctor referred her for auditory processing testing. What the Sub failed to understand is regardless of how many times she has to retake a test it will come out the same unless you help her understand how to do some things. Her special ED testing showed she has very bad short term memory, so multiple step instructions she is unable to remember. It says ALOT that even with these disabilities she is still on grade level showing how much effort and struggling she has endured to just keep in the parameters of passing. Also the fact she doesn’t “catch on” to things quickly it shows that it was not just one or two instances that she was pointed out her “bad” grades to form the opinion of herself. She is a very hard worker, a people pleaser and very much enjoys “rules” and order because it helps her cope with not having to figure out what to do. Very much like me in this aspect. We homeschooled her 1st and second and we understand where she struggles. We also know that with lots of repetition on the same thing she can retain and apply. The new way of teaching they do by cycling thru different thing only spending small amounts of time on each is not the way she can learn. But it is what it is and in the future we may go back to homeschooling. That is ALOT of work and we spent hundreds trying different curriculums each subject to find the ones the suited each of our children. Our son who is 12 is finally reading books on his own, this is a HUGE accomplishment on his part due to his dyslexia.
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Post by mikklynn on May 5, 2019 1:49:13 GMT
@littleblueberry I admire how you have advocated for your children. They are so lucky!
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Post by miominmio on May 5, 2019 6:06:57 GMT
I just can’t wrap my head around the fact that you have grades for so young children.
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 5, 2019 16:19:52 GMT
I just can’t wrap my head around the fact that you have grades for so young children. For my kid’s school they don’t do letter grades the way it used to be done when I was a kid. It’s basically defined as: the student is not yet demonstrating standards, is progressing toward standards, is meeting standard, and is advancing beyond standard. For individual tests and quizzes though the teacher will grade them with -0 if there aren’t any wrong, etc. If the kid has anything wrong they are to go back and work through those parts again and correct them. I don’t think any kid has to stay in from recess if they had to redo a test. I think the only thing that my kid has ever mentioned the teacher commenting on publicly in class is if a kid got a perfect score on a spelling test or something, and that’s usually only if one or two kids got them all right. There are several SPED kids in her class.
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Post by Deleted on May 5, 2019 16:20:17 GMT
As a mama with a daughter who graduates from high school this year after struggling with visual spatial processing disorder I completely understand where you are and how your DD feels. It is heart breaking as a parent and angers you as a mother to see your child being treated this way.
I have spent the last twelve years advocating for my daughter and other students just like her where their disabilities are not bad enough to require full-on SPED classes but fly under the radar in mainstream classes. There were LOTS of meetings, lots of letters, and I finally had to resort to working with our school board to make them aware that something was amiss in early interventions because our district central administration (assistant and head superintendents) wouldn't hear of it.
As for your DD you are doing the right things - finding someone who is on her side, meeting with the principal, etc. Find outlets where your DD can succeed. The art tools are a wonderful first start. Expose her to everything you can - dance, gymnastics, soccer, baseball, drama - to help her explore outside academics. Don't push homework on her. She will learn on her own time with the tools that work for her.
You got this!
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