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Post by scrapmaven on May 7, 2019 15:27:38 GMT
It's not my favorite day. Once I lost my mom it was never happy. This is my first year as an empty nester, but my kids are thriving and that is what matters most. I just wish I could dote on my mom. That would mean the world to me.
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Post by krcrafts on May 7, 2019 15:43:57 GMT
It’s the first one since my mom died in January plus I won’t be at home to spend the day with my (adult) kids, so I’m kind of dreading the day. My dad wants to go to the cemetery (he’s out of town for me and she’s buried in a national cemetery out of town from all of us) and can’t drive, so I’m going there for a few days.
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Post by 950nancy on May 7, 2019 16:40:59 GMT
This will be my 29th year without a mom. It doesn't get easier on the having no mother side of this holiday. FB is hard for me that day. I don't begrudge a single person for having a mom, but it does remind me a little too much of the lovely person who left my life much too early.
My kids usually get me a goofy ass card and some kind of flowers or plant for outside (perfect gift for me). I am so thankful to be a mom and that surely helps.
This MD I will be with one of my kids in Vegas. I love that.
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Post by Deleted on May 7, 2019 17:37:31 GMT
Yes, I am dreading it. It is the most dreaded day of the year. I never got to have a family and my mom is gone. It is an empty, meaningless day for me.
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 7, 2019 18:41:57 GMT
Yes, I am dreading it. It is the most dreaded day of the year. I never got to have a family and my mom is gone. It is an empty, meaningless day for me. I’m sorry you never got to realize your dream of becoming a mother. I went through fertility treatments and had that pain for years while others around me got pregnant easily. I hope you can find some source to use those nurturing qualities eventually. Hugs to you.
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Post by chlerbie on May 7, 2019 18:55:56 GMT
Yes, always tough for me as well. I've been without my mother since 1996 and MIL for about five years and don't have children of my own, which mainly doesn't bother me as much anymore in general, but always stings on Mother's Day. I do have a beautiful DSD that I love dearly, but Mother's Day is for HER mom, particularly this year, as she is dealing with cancer.
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Post by MerryMom on May 8, 2019 1:41:58 GMT
When I read the thread title, it hit me that this is probably my last Mother’s Day with Mom. My Mom’s health is declining.
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 8, 2019 8:47:51 GMT
When I read the thread title, it hit me that this is probably my last Mother’s Day with Mom. My Mom’s health is declining. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that and hope you can enjoy Sunday with your mother anyway. We thought my former mother-in-law was near the end at Christmas time and everyone said goodbye on Christmas Eve (her birthday) but yet she is hanging in there. I hope your mother continues to do so also. Hugs to you.
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Post by candygurl on May 8, 2019 13:23:15 GMT
I’m sad for my mom since this will be her first since my sister passed away in October. Thinking of doing something special or giving her a special item but not sure of what yet. Same with Father’s Day but with my dad.
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Post by destined2bmom on May 8, 2019 14:23:49 GMT
It has been 3 years since my mom passed and 10 years (How is this possible?) that I my sister passed. It is getting easier but still hurts.
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Post by jeremysgirl on May 8, 2019 15:19:29 GMT
I love my kids and I still have my mom. But really, I'm up to my eyeballs in mom stress right now. I feel like I'm fighting and trying and bending over backwards to raise these kids. And it is just so hard. I feel guilt for even feeling like I don't want cards or candy or anything. I just want to be treated nice, everyday. I just want all the chaos around me to stop.
I'm sorry for those of you who are hurting because your mothers are gone, your children are gone, or you never got to be a mother. Hugs for everyone.
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Post by 950nancy on May 8, 2019 17:06:56 GMT
I love my kids and I still have my mom. But really, I'm up to my eyeballs in mom stress right now. I feel like I'm fighting and trying and bending over backwards to raise these kids. And it is just so hard. I feel guilt for even feeling like I don't want cards or candy or anything. I just want to be treated nice, everyday. I just want all the chaos around me to stop. I'm sorry for those of you who are hurting because your mothers are gone, your children are gone, or you never got to be a mother. Hugs for everyone. Hugs to you. There were crazy days I felt like this and I had nowhere near your level of stress. Nowhere. Parenting is hard. Don't feel guilty. Feel human.
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 8, 2019 17:11:44 GMT
I love my kids and I still have my mom. But really, I'm up to my eyeballs in mom stress right now. I feel like I'm fighting and trying and bending over backwards to raise these kids. And it is just so hard. I feel guilt for even feeling like I don't want cards or candy or anything. I just want to be treated nice, everyday. I just want all the chaos around me to stop. I'm sorry for those of you who are hurting because your mothers are gone, your children are gone, or you never got to be a mother. Hugs for everyone. Hugs to you. There were crazy days I felt like this and I had nowhere near your level of stress. Nowhere. Parenting is hard. Don't feel guilty. Feel human. I felt the same way many days with my kids. I have posted about my son and there were some days where it simply wasn’t fun. We are often like oil and water. I told them is all I want this year is a card and for them to get along because last year, they got in a huge fight when we tried to go frisbee golfing. It makes it even more frustrating now because it was my last Mother’s Day living near them. Take care of yourself and treat yourself kindly.
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Post by teri on May 8, 2019 18:20:47 GMT
yup. This is my first Mother's Day without my Mom. She passed in November. The last time I saw her before she passed was Mother's Day weekend.
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Post by anniefb on May 8, 2019 18:27:16 GMT
Yes. My Mum passed away 7 years ago and I find Mother's day very hard.
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Post by azredhead on May 8, 2019 18:31:11 GMT
We don't have kids and I don't have either mothers or MIL all have passed in the last five years and Mom in the last two. That one is still raw. However my views on it have changed a little bit. I try to be there for neices and nephews. And our dog. I know that sounds silly, but with the losses you have to count who's still here and important. It doesn't mean i don't miss them any less. It's soo hard doing stuff without her. My mom also hated Mothers Day also and her birthday. So I try to not make it as depressing as she did. lol!
For all those who are mourning their moms HUGS!! it's hard too..I feel for you all.
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Post by valincal on May 8, 2019 19:06:58 GMT
Big hugs to all who struggle with this day. My heart goes out to you. Take care.
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Post by Tearisci on May 8, 2019 19:18:20 GMT
I suspect this will be a tough Mother's Day for me. I'm halfway across the country from my son and my mom. I'm in the middle of a horrendous divorce, cancer and other medical issues not to mention the fact that we got engaged on Mother's Day weekend 23 years ago. My DS who is 26 idolizes my STB ex (his stepdad) and is going to see him at the end of the month. He was here about a month ago with me but it was not a good visit because of my health issues and his lack of help or caring. So yeah...pretty much going to binge Vikings that day and watch some hot men and lots of killing
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Post by inkedup on May 8, 2019 19:19:36 GMT
I love my kids and I still have my mom. But really, I'm up to my eyeballs in mom stress right now. I feel like I'm fighting and trying and bending over backwards to raise these kids. And it is just so hard. I feel guilt for even feeling like I don't want cards or candy or anything. I just want to be treated nice, everyday. I just want all the chaos around me to stop. I'm sorry for those of you who are hurting because your mothers are gone, your children are gone, or you never got to be a mother. Hugs for everyone. Hugs to you, too. ❤❤❤
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Post by DEX on May 8, 2019 20:12:11 GMT
No, actually. The year was 1970 and I was in the USAF in TX. I had gone on a road trip with my boyfriend to OK. When I got back to my apartment about 7:00 at night, I called but no answer. The next day I called and she ripped me a new asshole because I hadn’t called earlier in the day on Mother’s Day. Such a sad, petty individual.
Since I became a Mom I try not to get hung up on dates on a calendar.
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Post by gracieplusthree on May 8, 2019 21:26:34 GMT
I hope you find a way to have a great day .. I've not got sadness around this *holiday*, I think many people expect me to though being that I don't know my biological mother and never have, and am estranged from my step-mother, and no living grandparents(well I only had that on one side anyway) and no living mother in law. I have great children though, so maybe that buffers it some but even if I were spending the day alone I'd be fine with it as I always have-and I mostly will be alone on actual Mothers Day as I will work til 3,then come home and likely be here alone that evening unless 2nd shift boy has day off, I have plans to go eat with daughter and son in law on Saturday. Both my boys work 50+hours a week and one works 2nds,the other works 3rds and I work days lol so we often go days and not see each other even though they live here. I don't know, it's just not a holiday I get sad over,I do get a little weepy over Fathers day as I miss my Dad so much,and my husband died when my kids were all still quite young so I mourn their losses.
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Post by msdintz on May 9, 2019 3:48:46 GMT
Lost my mom in March unexpectedly and I don’t think I’ll ever recover:( not looking forward to this Sunday.
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 9, 2019 4:37:44 GMT
Lost my mom in March unexpectedly and I don’t think I’ll ever recover:( not looking forward to this Sunday. Hugs to you. That’s very fresh. It will take time but it will get better. The pain doesn’t ever go away entirely though. I lost my dad in 2000 and some days I still miss him terribly.
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 9, 2019 4:41:06 GMT
No, actually. The year was 1970 and I was in the USAF in TX. I had gone on a road trip with my boyfriend to OK. When I got back to my apartment about 7:00 at night, I called but no answer. The next day I called and she ripped me a new asshole because I hadn’t called earlier in the day on Mother’s Day. Such a sad, petty individual. Since I became a Mom I try not to get hung up on dates on a calendar. Sorry that your mother treated you that way.
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 9, 2019 4:43:23 GMT
I suspect this will be a tough Mother's Day for me. I'm halfway across the country from my son and my mom. I'm in the middle of a horrendous divorce, cancer and other medical issues not to mention the fact that we got engaged on Mother's Day weekend 23 years ago. My DS who is 26 idolizes my STB ex (his stepdad) and is going to see him at the end of the month. He was here about a month ago with me but it was not a good visit because of my health issues and his lack of help or caring. So yeah...pretty much going to binge Vikings that day and watch some hot men and lots of killing I’m sorry you’re dealing with so much and those in your life are disappointing you. I can somewhat relate since I got married on Mother’s Day originally and our divorce is still on-going and getting into the thick of things finally. My son also is not acting all that caring and it’s very disappointing. I am pretty much resigned to the fact that he will ignore Mother’s Day. I plan to go to brunch and binge watch Friends and read my new book.
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Post by scrappintoee on May 12, 2019 20:26:17 GMT
(( hugs )) to everyone for whom this day is painful (I wonder how lainey is doing?)
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Post by refugeepea on May 12, 2019 20:37:22 GMT
I love my mom, but hate the holiday for myself. It's not been a good year and it hasn't been for a long time. I do not deserve to be celebrated. I want to be ignored. We are having my mom for dinner and I'm focusing on her.
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Post by eversograceful1 on May 13, 2019 1:00:12 GMT
Yep, My mom does three years ago this month. So this whole month kinda sucks. My birthday is also this month.
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Post by lbrock44 on May 13, 2019 4:43:05 GMT
It's been 11 years since Mom passed, but it's still hard. Love and miss you Mom!
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Post by Deleted on May 13, 2019 9:59:45 GMT
(( hugs )) to everyone for whom this day is painful (I wonder how lainey is doing?) Bless you for thinking about me Mothers day was in March here in the UK so today hasn't been difficult in that sense. I'm doing ok, I think I've been so busy that I haven't really had time to be anything else.
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