Anyone else a bit sad with Mother’s Day coming?

Sorry that you're feeling blue around Mother's Day. Hopefully it will get better over time as you get some distance and perspective from the divorce.

It's been 17 years since my Mom passed away and I still miss her, especially on Mother's Day! We didn't usually see each other on that day, but always talked on the phone. She had moved several states away (a 16 hour drive) after she retired, and we usually visited in the summer when the kids (then small) were out of school. So I also miss her a lot in July/August (when we would typically visit), and in April. The latter because her birthday was in April and she also collected bunnies (ceramic/glass/brass, not furry, LOL) so the association with her around Easter time is very strong. I usually put some of her bunnies on display around Easter and it helps ease my ache for her (a little). I talk about her with DH & the kids (now young adults) to keep her memory alive especially with my youngest since he was only 2 when she passed and does not have many actual memories of her.

So, yes - I hear you - Mother's Day can be a little bit hard.

My mum passed away the week before Mother's Day, 4 years next week. We always got together for a Mother's Day lunch at our home or my sisters.

We couldn't face lunch a few days after her funeral and we kind of haven't really gone back to our family tradition since then.

My sister did ring yesterday and we are meeting for a casual dinner at a trendy outdoor eatery place the Friday night before Mothers Day- very different from our home lunches. But you know, it will be a nice evening and I am quite happy to have a low key Mothers Day at home. 

I miss my mum, but am glad she is no longer living in a nursing home with dementia. She knew us right up until the end, when she basically just slipped away. It was a life she had always dreaded and we really believe she just had enough- refused to eat and passed away a few days later. 

We were so lucky to have her as our mum and have so many funny, treasured memories of our life together. So Mothers day is more bittersweet than sad for me.


Corinne

My mother passed away 42 years ago.  I was 16 years old and still miss her everyday.  My sister and I get together for breakfast with our families on Mothers Day.

Feeling beyond sad! My mom passed away recently, so this is the first Mother's Day without her

My mom passed away on Mother's Day 10 years ago this year. Doesn't matter the date was May 10th that year, it will always be Mother's Day.  She was diagnosed with stage 4 liver cancer the Wednesday after Easter and 28 days later she was gone.  This time between Easter and Mother's Day is always the hardest, remembering the short time we had and how quickly she declined.  I prefer to fast forward through this time but I do know others who are Mothers and deserve a nice day so I push through it.

Hugs to all the other's who have lost their Mom and I hope for you, this day will bring some happy memories.


tracyarts - I am so sorry, you are validated to be angry.  Big hugs to you.

Hugs to all who are feeling sad. My mom has been gone almost 8 years now and I can’t believe how quickly the time has flown by. I miss her. She had Alzheimer’s so she was technically “gone” for a while before that, at least the fun, smart, creative, wonderful mom I knew growing up. I’ll be forever grateful to her for showing me unconditional love and how to be that kind of mom to my kid.

Every year something comes up and I end up doing nothing really. This year my kids and mom are hundreds of miles away and I will be working, so it's just another day for me.

I will probably force my cat to pose for a selfie with me and grab McDonald's on my way in for another 12 hour shift. I don't even mind, actually.

I’m sorry. This is the second Mother’s Day for me without my mom. It’s painful and sad. I wish you peace and hope you have good memories you can look back on as you remember her.

Mothers Day is always sad for me. My mum, while alive, lives in another country, so I don’t get to spend any time with her, and my MIL passed before I met my husband. 😕

We both try and do something though, to distract ourselves from it.

{{{hugs}}} 

It was 1969/1970. Adoption regulations and requirements were a lot different back then. Same with attitudes towards smoking.

I’m sorry Tracy, that’s really awful. 😕 I’d be angry too.

This will be our second mother's day without my mom. It will be a bittersweet day because it will also be my oldest son's 6th birthday.