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Post by kelly316 on Jun 7, 2019 0:30:48 GMT
My nephew is adamant he doesn’t want a party. His mother is insisting. Would you have one anyway or offer something else?
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Post by wonderwoman on Jun 7, 2019 0:32:23 GMT
No.. Most likely he would like cash... I wouldn't force a party on anyone
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 7, 2019 0:34:52 GMT
Absolutely not. Why would you force a party on someone?
My friend's son did not want the big open house his brother had. He agreed to dinner with the grandparents and a few close friends.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 7, 2019 0:35:31 GMT
My son wanted to go out for pizza. That’s what we did.
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NoWomanNoCry
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Jun 7, 2019 0:36:37 GMT
No. I would offer him something else like a trip somewhere or money. I don’t see the point in forcing something on someone.
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Post by colleen on Jun 7, 2019 0:36:39 GMT
Nope. What a waste of money. I understand why she wants to mark this milestone, but a nice dinner should do it.
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Post by salem on Jun 7, 2019 0:39:04 GMT
No. Why would anyone do that? I get wanting to celebrate your kid’s graduation, but if the kid is not interested I wouldn’t bother.
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Post by sharlag on Jun 7, 2019 0:40:44 GMT
No. I look for reasons to not throw parties.
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Post by RosieKat on Jun 7, 2019 0:47:31 GMT
No way. A small family recognition dinner or something is a fair balance, I think.
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Post by PLurker on Jun 7, 2019 1:02:46 GMT
No. I didn't. Neither wanted one and I got them something they wanted with the money that would have been wasted on them. DD a weekend in Door County with a few friends, DS computer (desk top/gaming) and stuff to go with. Much easier on me, too. Because what sharlag said. ^^^ |
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Post by pierkiss on Jun 7, 2019 1:06:00 GMT
No.
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Post by KikiPea on Jun 7, 2019 1:07:45 GMT
No. I’d do what HE wanted to do.
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Post by Sarah*H on Jun 7, 2019 1:17:16 GMT
No. It's the kid's achievement to celebrate one way or another.
I'm in the opposite boat because my kid kinda wants one (kinda iffy wishy washy) but our family is tiny. I'm really concerned that we're going to plan this party and 3 people will come - like one of those sad birthday party stories you read about. He actually went to a grad party like this a few years ago so I know it's entirely possible. :/
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Post by seaexplore on Jun 7, 2019 1:24:10 GMT
nope. Give him the cash that would be spent on the party.
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Post by flanz on Jun 7, 2019 1:27:57 GMT
No. I’d do what HE wanted to do. THIS!!! |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 7, 2019 1:27:59 GMT
Heck no!
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Post by Basket1lady on Jun 7, 2019 1:29:34 GMT
I did. DH and I decided that we were going to throw a party. We had family in town (all staying with us) and honestly? We worked darn hard to get DS to the point of graduating with honors and going away to college. With a kid with Asperger’s, it was a big accomplishment for the whole family. So I made a deal with DS for two hours of his time and to have Famous Dave’s cater (his favorite—meat!) and DS was happy. They ended up playing Risk until late, so he had fun in spite of himself. It was all easy and relaxed and in the end it was the right decision for us.
He graduated with his BS last week and we just went out for lunch (Famous Dave’s again!) He went to college out of state and we hosted a group of us for lunch. It worked out nicely.
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Post by eastcoastpea on Jun 7, 2019 1:29:54 GMT
Not if they didn't want it.
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Post by Merge on Jun 7, 2019 1:32:06 GMT
Nope. Mine didn't want it and we didn't have one. We have a similar situation to Sarah, too ... our families are not large and all live far away. Would likely have been a small party. But regardless, DD didn't want one. We're taking her on a trip instead.
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Post by MichyM on Jun 7, 2019 1:37:14 GMT
Absolutely not. My now 29 YO son didn't want one. We did a family dinner for 8 or 10 (however many tix we had for the ceremony) before the graduation ceremony, that was it. That said, IME grad parties are not a huge deal here in the PNW compared to some areas of the country.
There are some people who don't want to be the center of attention at events like birthdays, etc. I resspect that.
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Post by teddyw on Jun 7, 2019 1:37:43 GMT
I wouldn’t. 1 out of 3 didn’t want one. She went to Europe.
My bff wouldn’t have them for her first 2 kids and the last one just had his with 4 other boys at a restaurant. Her first 2 kids wanted them but she gave them the money she would have spent.
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Post by SallyPA on Jun 7, 2019 1:42:29 GMT
I have a couple more years but I hope mine don’t want a party. I’d much rather give them money or do a trip.
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Post by refugeepea on Jun 7, 2019 1:50:14 GMT
No, but they've never been a thing here anyway. It wouldn't hurt my feelings like it was some long family tradition or something.
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Post by yodutchess on Jun 7, 2019 1:52:16 GMT
No, my children did not want parties so I did not have any.
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Post by refugeepea on Jun 7, 2019 1:53:09 GMT
There are some people who don't want to be the center of attention at events like birthdays, etc. I resspect that. Thank you! I also did not make my kids attend their graduation ceremonies. They had no desire to go up in front of a bunch of people, dress up, and sit through boring speeches. I was forced into mine and I would have been happy not going. |
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Post by peano on Jun 7, 2019 2:31:39 GMT
DS didn't want one and so we didn't have one. He hates to be the center of attention and I respect that.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jun 7, 2019 2:36:03 GMT
Nope. Not everyone is extroverted enough to want to be the center of attention and I would respect that.
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Post by J u l e e on Jun 7, 2019 2:40:31 GMT
No way! My daughter graduates next year and already said she doesn't want a party. We're taking a celebration trip instead.
My family is a bunch of forcers. They do not respect wishes. I asked to not have a baby shower. I was given one anyway. I worked so hard to be gracious that day.
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Post by scrapngranny on Jun 7, 2019 2:45:14 GMT
No. There is nothing worse than dealing with a sullen teen. I would rather do whatever he would like to do.
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Post by freecharlie on Jun 7, 2019 2:48:01 GMT
Maybe. But the kid came out of the party with $2400 dollars in his pocket, so you know he was glad he had one
Eta most of our family is close. If family traveled for ceremony, there would be a party
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