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Post by myboysnme on Jul 2, 2019 11:21:06 GMT
Not photos, which were shit in and of themselves, but at my wedding there are some candid photos outside the church showing my videographer hovering next to us waiting for an opportunity to tell us the camera did not work and he did not get any video footage of the wedding.
The photos were shit because we hired a family member who decided to first, photograph only DH family, and second, try these odd angled shots from the floor pretty much exclusively, and third, she had them developed at a drug store, gave them to MIL to give to us, she rooted through them picking out what she wanted and when we finally got the box of shit photos months later I was furious. I think I bitched about it for months after, and here I am 31 years later still pissed.
As to your corrupt files photographer I would offer to pay whatever it takes to have someone try to get the files off the SD card. Get her to sell you the SD card and go from there.
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Post by jenjie on Jul 2, 2019 11:38:39 GMT
You should try to track down that bride and give her her pictures. Just say that you found them after all these years. I thought about it, but it would have been worse for her to see how awful she looked. She wore an kind of a plain hippie dress , with no bra, a huge wreath on her head ( it was the size of a door wreath) and she didn’t bother to comb her hair ( he actually comb her hair) or wear shoes. Today you would say she looked homeless. My father worked very hard to give her some nice photos, and he didn’t charge her. I don’t know if it would be considered boho, but maybe that was the look she was going for? Who goes to the trouble to hire a top of the line photographer and then just rolls out of bed? @tinyt I’m sorry that happened.
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Post by pierkiss on Jul 2, 2019 12:56:53 GMT
This is from the photographer side. My father “lost” one wedding. Way before digital. He pulled out a few photos and worked like hell to make them look nice. I found the proofs years later and asked him about them. He said that she was the homileliest bride he ever took photos of. He tried everything to get her to at least smile. Nothing work. He said that if he actually gave her the photos it would ruin his reputation as the area’s leading wedding photographer. He could not risk those photos getting out. 😱.
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Post by pierkiss on Jul 2, 2019 13:00:21 GMT
You should try to track down that bride and give her her pictures. Just say that you found them after all these years. I thought about it, but it would have been worse for her to see how awful she looked. She wore an kind of a plain hippie dress , with no bra, a huge wreath on her head ( it was the size of a door wreath) and she didn’t bother to comb her hair ( he actually comb her hair) or wear shoes. Today you would say she looked homeless. My father worked very hard to give her some nice photos, and he didn’t charge her. What? Maybe she likes the way she looked back then? I just...this whole story has me absolutely gobsmacked.
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Post by gsquaredmom on Jul 2, 2019 13:04:43 GMT
I thought about it, but it would have been worse for her to see how awful she looked. She wore an kind of a plain hippie dress , with no bra, a huge wreath on her head ( it was the size of a door wreath) and she didn’t bother to comb her hair ( he actually comb her hair) or wear shoes. Today you would say she looked homeless. My father worked very hard to give her some nice photos, and he didn’t charge her. What? Maybe she likes the way she looked back then? I just...this whole story has me absolutely gobsmacked. Ditto. She looked the way she wanted to on her day. I agree that you should try to track her down and let her know you found her pics in your father’s possessions. His reputation was more important than her WEDDING pictures? Geez. OP try a professional recovery service.
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Post by dewryce on Jul 2, 2019 13:15:37 GMT
I thought about it, but it would have been worse for her to see how awful she looked. She wore an kind of a plain hippie dress , with no bra, a huge wreath on her head ( it was the size of a door wreath) and she didn’t bother to comb her hair ( he actually comb her hair) or wear shoes. Today you would say she looked homeless. My father worked very hard to give her some nice photos, and he didn’t charge her. What? Maybe she likes the way she looked back then? I just...this whole story has me absolutely gobsmacked. Seriously who is your father to judge if she was “worthy” of the photos she paid for on her freaking wedding day. What a horrible thing for him to do. That you’re defending this really bothers me. That you have an opportunity to try and rectify the situation but aren’t because of your judgements on her physical appearance makes it worse. Do the right thing.
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Post by gina on Jul 2, 2019 13:34:48 GMT
This is from the photographer side. My father “lost” one wedding. Way before digital. He pulled out a few photos and worked like hell to make them look nice. I found the proofs years later and asked him about them. He said that she was the homileliest bride he ever took photos of. He tried everything to get her to at least smile. Nothing work. He said that if he actually gave her the photos it would ruin his reputation as the area’s leading wedding photographer. He could not risk those photos getting out. This is the shittiest thing I've ever read. THE BRIDE KNOWS WHAT SHE LOOKS LIKE! Good f*cking grief!
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Post by freebird on Jul 2, 2019 14:15:07 GMT
I wasn't being pissy but thanks.
I've also invested over $10k in equipment to make sure this doesn't happen. I'm not sure how long ago your wedding was, but in today's day and age, a corrupt card is no longer a valid excuse.
Ah, so just being arrogant, then. Gotcha. FTR, my wedding was in 2016, and the photographers also had/have thousands of dollars of equipment too, since they aren't windshield repair shop owners doing photography on the side and do this as a full-time profession. But hey, get your backwoods judgey pants on, if that's what makes you comfortable. When karma comes for you, I hope your customer shows you grace.
*shrug* Think whatever you like. I've been a pro photographer for 12 years. Only one here that has their panties in a bunch seems to be you.
Hope you have a better day.
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Post by dewryce on Jul 2, 2019 14:21:20 GMT
Ah, so just being arrogant, then. Gotcha. FTR, my wedding was in 2016, and the photographers also had/have thousands of dollars of equipment too, since they aren't windshield repair shop owners doing photography on the side and do this as a full-time profession. But hey, get your backwoods judgey pants on, if that's what makes you comfortable. When karma comes for you, I hope your customer shows you grace.
*shrug* Think whatever you like. I've been a pro photographer for 12 years. Only one here that has their panties in a bunch seems to be you.
Hope you have a better day.
We had a cop tell us that once, it was hilarious. What made it even better was that he was a John Malcovich doppelgänger.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2019 14:48:31 GMT
Yes my father gave her an the standard album ( at that time was 12 8 x 20). it took him months to create it. Remember the 79’s. All retouching was done by hand. What she didn’t get were the proofs. This was in the 70’s
My father is dead
My brother now has all his work
The couple is divorced.... I am sure she doesn’t want them now.
And no bride wants to see herself as anything less than bridal on her wedding day. No photographer wants photos out there that are less than bridal.
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Post by dewryce on Jul 2, 2019 14:56:26 GMT
Yes my father gave her an the standard album ( at that time was 12 8 x 20). it took him months to create it. Remember the 79’s. All retouching was done by hand. What she didn’t get were the proofs. This was in the 70’s My father is dead My brother now has all his work The couple is divorced.... I am sure she doesn’t want them now. And no bride wants to see herself as anything less than bridal on her wedding day. No photographer wants photos out there that are less than bridal. This doesn’t match what you said in previous posts. You said he “lost” the wedding. That he gave her a few photos. That to have the photos out there would ruin his reputation. Nothing about not getting proofs. Even if they are divorced they may have children together who would want them. And you are missing the point. It is not your call to make if she is pretty enough or bridal enough. Nor was it your father’s. If they were bad photos from a composition standpoint, there might be a leg to stand on from your father’s POV. But the decisions were made based on your judgement of her lack of attractiveness and dislike of her attire. Not okay.
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Post by myboysnme on Jul 2, 2019 17:39:09 GMT
And no bride wants to see herself as anything less than bridal on her wedding day. No photographer wants photos out there that are less than bridal. Decided to jump into this because I have seen many brides that I think look like absolute crap, but if I was taking their photos I cannot see myself being the decision maker of what looks bridal and what doesn't. As for the photographer, I can't even imagine having a photographer that is so worried about their own reputation that they would consider my homeliness and choices for my day as a reason to keep my proofs from me.
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Post by ginacivey on Jul 2, 2019 18:40:17 GMT
the bride should ask for the corrupt card along with the refund
many cards are able to be recovered
there are several ways to go about it
i wouldn't give up just yet
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Post by birukitty on Jul 2, 2019 19:56:41 GMT
And no bride wants to see herself as anything less than bridal on her wedding day. No photographer wants photos out there that are less than bridal. Decided to jump into this because I have seen many brides that I think look like absolute crap, but if I was taking their photos I cannot see myself being the decision maker of what looks bridal and what doesn't. As for the photographer, I can't even imagine having a photographer that is so worried about their own reputation that they would consider my homeliness and choices for my day as a reason to keep my proofs from me. 100% agree. I was a wedding photographer in the 1990's back during the film days. Later, after I'd given up my business to homeschool DS, I heard a woman telling me about her DH who was also a wedding photographer. She said he would look up the bride's on Google (this was years later) and if they were ugly he'd refuse to do their wedding by saying he was booked that day. She said he didn't want any ugly brides in his portfolio. I was so shocked. The selfishness, the lack of compassion, the utter gall of this guy. What an ahole! When I was in business I photographed all kinds of brides. Short, tall, thin, fat. But you know what? They all shone on their wedding day. Treating them with kindness and talking to them got those smiles I needed because they were happy on their wedding day. It wasn't me making them happy. I just relaxed them enough by acting friendly that the happiness of their wedding day came through. I am shocked beyond belief that a Pea's father took a bride's money, shot the wedding, and then decided to withhold most of her wedding photos because he himself thought she wasn't dressed properly. Those were her photos that she paid for! Yes, Megmc I do think it would be wonderful if you could now track down this bride and offer her the photos. Like another Pea mentioned she might have children who would want them. They are her's.
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Post by birukitty on Jul 2, 2019 19:59:13 GMT
And no bride wants to see herself as anything less than bridal on her wedding day. No photographer wants photos out there that are less than bridal. Decided to jump into this because I have seen many brides that I think look like absolute crap, but if I was taking their photos I cannot see myself being the decision maker of what looks bridal and what doesn't. As for the photographer, I can't even imagine having a photographer that is so worried about their own reputation that they would consider my homeliness and choices for my day as a reason to keep my proofs from me. If a photographer doesn't want photos out there that are less than bridal he/she should be shooting models and not real people. That way all of his/her photos that are out there are of beautiful, perfect people that he/she approves of.
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Post by ddly on Jul 2, 2019 20:06:44 GMT
I’m sorry to hear this!
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Post by dewryce on Jul 2, 2019 20:46:04 GMT
Decided to jump into this because I have seen many brides that I think look like absolute crap, but if I was taking their photos I cannot see myself being the decision maker of what looks bridal and what doesn't. As for the photographer, I can't even imagine having a photographer that is so worried about their own reputation that they would consider my homeliness and choices for my day as a reason to keep my proofs from me. 100% agree. I was a wedding photographer in the 1990's back during the film days. Later, after I'd given up my business to homeschool DS, I heard a woman telling me about her DH who was also a wedding photographer. She said he would look up the bride's on Google (this was years later) and if they were ugly he'd refuse to do their wedding by saying he was booked that day. She said he didn't want any ugly brides in his portfolio. I was so shocked. The selfishness, the lack of compassion, the utter gall of this guy. What an ahole!
When I was in business I photographed all kinds of brides. Short, tall, thin, fat. But you know what? They all shone on their wedding day. Treating them with kindness and talking to them got those smiles I needed because they were happy on their wedding day. It wasn't me making them happy. I just relaxed them enough by acting friendly that the happiness of their wedding day came through. I am shocked beyond belief that a Pea's father took a bride's money, shot the wedding, and then decided to withhold most of her wedding photos because he himself thought she wasn't dressed properly. Those were her photos that she paid for! Yes, Megmc I do think it would be wonderful if you could now track down this bride and offer her the photos. Like another Pea mentioned she might have children who would want them. They are her's. Jerk? Sure. But at least this gives the brides the opportunity to find someone who recognizes that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and provide them with good service for their wedding photos.
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Post by ginacivey on Jul 2, 2019 21:23:28 GMT
100% agree. I was a wedding photographer in the 1990's back during the film days. Later, after I'd given up my business to homeschool DS, I heard a woman telling me about her DH who was also a wedding photographer. She said he would look up the bride's on Google (this was years later) and if they were ugly he'd refuse to do their wedding by saying he was booked that day. She said he didn't want any ugly brides in his portfolio. I was so shocked. The selfishness, the lack of compassion, the utter gall of this guy. What an ahole!
When I was in business I photographed all kinds of brides. Short, tall, thin, fat. But you know what? They all shone on their wedding day. Treating them with kindness and talking to them got those smiles I needed because they were happy on their wedding day. It wasn't me making them happy. I just relaxed them enough by acting friendly that the happiness of their wedding day came through. I am shocked beyond belief that a Pea's father took a bride's money, shot the wedding, and then decided to withhold most of her wedding photos because he himself thought she wasn't dressed properly. Those were her photos that she paid for! Yes, Megmc I do think it would be wonderful if you could now track down this bride and offer her the photos. Like another Pea mentioned she might have children who would want them. They are her's. Jerk? Sure. But at least this gives the brides the opportunity to find someone who recognizes that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and provide them with good service for their wedding photos. i always say if you want to see how good a photographer is - look for people in their portfolio that aren't model material it's not rocket science to make a model-perfect, beautifully coordinated family/couple/bride-groom look good. that's easy it's the family that comes in their own best - having done their own makeup and hair - with two wild ass kids look and see what a photographer does with that and seriously - it's the norm for photogs to be 'booked' if a less than attractive client approaches them it's a brutal, nasty industry tbh gina
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Post by myboysnme on Jul 3, 2019 11:33:37 GMT
and seriously - it's the norm for photogs to be 'booked' if a less than attractive client approaches them it's a brutal, nasty industry tbh I honestly had no idea about this. I am putting this in the things I learn from the peas category. You know even if he refunded her money for whatever reason, he should not withhold her photos from her. My first wedding I had only photos from someone's 110 camera, dark and fuzzy and heads cut off. The photos were all I had and I made due. I can't imagine she didn't want her photos. Ugh it breaks my heart.
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Post by slkmommy on Jul 3, 2019 11:38:37 GMT
I’m so sorry. Photos have such a special place in peoples’ lives
My aunt and uncle ( to whom I was very close) had a 50th anniversary party. It was back in the 90s and before I had a digital camera, so I had a 35mm camera with 36 pics. I had people posing, I had cousins together in photos. I was snapping pics like crazy.
Got home from the party and discovered there was no film in the camera. All those memories just...gone!
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Post by quinlove on Jul 3, 2019 12:03:02 GMT
This is from the photographer side. My father “lost” one wedding. Way before digital. He pulled out a few photos and worked like hell to make them look nice. I found the proofs years later and asked him about them. He said that she was the homileliest bride he ever took photos of. He tried everything to get her to at least smile. Nothing work. He said that if he actually gave her the photos it would ruin his reputation as the area’s leading wedding photographer. He could not risk those photos getting out. This is the shittiest thing I've ever read. THE BRIDE KNOWS WHAT SHE LOOKS LIKE! Good f*cking grief! I agree. This whole topic of photographers refusing to shoot unattractive women sickens me.
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Post by mallie on Jul 3, 2019 12:57:47 GMT
Jerk? Sure. But at least this gives the brides the opportunity to find someone who recognizes that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and provide them with good service for their wedding photos. i always say if you want to see how good a photographer is - look for people in their portfolio that aren't model material it's not rocket science to make a model-perfect, beautifully coordinated family/couple/bride-groom look good. that's easy it's the family that comes in their own best - having done their own makeup and hair - with two wild ass kids look and see what a photographer does with that and seriously - it's the norm for photogs to be 'booked' if a less than attractive client approaches them it's a brutal, nasty industry tbh gina Just like in the bridal industry, one reason in the past bridal shops did not carry large sizes was they owners did not want their reputation for dressing beautiful brides to be "damaged" by having a large bride tell people where she got their dress. The idea was that no large size bride is beautiful, so therefore anyone knowing where the bride got her dress would hurt the bridal shop. And as for a photographer who judged a bride he accepted as a customer and then didn't like her looks or her outfit -- wow, what a freaking asshole. And the judgement continues in the next generation. Lovely. I wish I drove the karma bus so I could make a pick up.
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Post by myboysnme on Jul 3, 2019 15:19:33 GMT
I wish I drove the karma bus so I could make a pick up. I love this!!
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Post by birukitty on Jul 3, 2019 23:48:11 GMT
Jerk? Sure. But at least this gives the brides the opportunity to find someone who recognizes that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and provide them with good service for their wedding photos. i always say if you want to see how good a photographer is - look for people in their portfolio that aren't model material it's not rocket science to make a model-perfect, beautifully coordinated family/couple/bride-groom look good. that's easy it's the family that comes in their own best - having done their own makeup and hair - with two wild ass kids look and see what a photographer does with that and seriously - it's the norm for photogs to be 'booked' if a less than attractive client approaches them it's a brutal, nasty industry tbh gina It is normal for photographers to be "booked" if a less than attractive client approaches them? WTH? Not when I was in the industry. I'm glad I'm out and you've just made my decision to never return much easier. I think that is utterly disgusting. People can't help how they look, they were born that way. Where are all of the plain, ugly people supposed to get their wedding photographer or portrait photographer from if this is normal? Back in my time (the 90's) I don't know any pro photographer that behaved this way. To me this is just another form of racism. Turning away gay people, African American people and now ugly people. Geez, when will it end? Just because they are getting away with it doesn't make it right.
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