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Post by busy on Jul 16, 2019 17:42:57 GMT
I usually don't call my sister-in-law's husband anything besides his name, or collectively, "my sister-in-law and her family."
But then today, I was talking to my BFF and for some reason said, "My brother-in-law is stopping by later today," and she said "WHAT?‽ Did <my brother> and <his boyfriend> get married??"
So... do you refer to your spouse's sibling's spouse your brother- or sister-in-law?
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Post by deekaye on Jul 16, 2019 17:46:51 GMT
I refer to my brother's spouse as my sister-in-law. I also refer to my husband's brother's spouse as my sister-in-law. I refer to my soon-to-be ex-brother-in-law by a whole bunch of other names but that's for a different thread!  |
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Post by jenjie on Jul 16, 2019 17:47:04 GMT
Yes they are bil and sil
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Post by beepdave on Jul 16, 2019 17:48:03 GMT
Yes. Or when we're being punchy we call each other sisters-OUT-law! Hahaha!
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Post by disneypal on Jul 16, 2019 17:50:02 GMT
I refer to my brother's wife as my Sister-In-Law
I refer to my husband's sister and her husband as my Sister-In-Law and Brother-In-Law
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Post by Kerri W on Jul 16, 2019 17:53:31 GMT
I refer to my siblings spouses as my brother-in-laws and sister-in-laws.
I refer to my DH's siblings spouses as my brother-in-law's wife.
I do the same with nieces and nephews. My side, they're my nieces and nephews. DH's family I refer to as DH's niece or nephew.
I guess probably for clarification on which side of the family they're from?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2019 17:55:18 GMT
Yes I refer to DH's sister's husband as brother in law, same as I do to my sister's DH. DH does the same in reverse.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Jul 16, 2019 18:04:41 GMT
No we call him Older Brother. Names aren’t used for family really. To his face I would call him Niichan and when I refer to hi I would call him Giri no Oniisan which means older brother by obligation. It’s polite. If the brother were younger I would just call him hey you.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jul 16, 2019 18:04:41 GMT
I refer to my husband's sibling's spouse as my inlaws and their children as my nieces and nephews
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Post by busy on Jul 16, 2019 18:07:36 GMT
I refer to my husband's sibling's spouse as my inlaws and their children as my nieces and nephews I definitely refer to their son has my nephew... I'd never really noticed I don't call the husband my brother-in-law until today, when I did and it was weird lol |
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Post by jennc on Jul 16, 2019 18:31:33 GMT
Sister in law's husband
He is my husband's brother in law but not mine
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Post by cropelf on Jul 16, 2019 18:33:32 GMT
The spouse of my husband's sister (who is my sister-in-law) has no relation to me. He is my sister-in-law's husband, whom I would refer to by his first name. I believe that's how it works for family trees, etc., that I learned way back when along with the once and twice removed cousins.
Our family also uses the phrase, "the Outlaws", when referencing the collective spouse's of us siblings. It's a running joke that all of the in-laws are considered out-laws among themselves.
HTH
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Post by papersilly on Jul 16, 2019 18:34:03 GMT
all the time. DH's sister are my sister-in-laws. my sister's ex husband is still my brother in law.
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Post by just PEAchy on Jul 16, 2019 18:35:28 GMT
I refer to my husband’s siblings’ spouses as my in-laws. All the kids on both sides are called our nieces & nephews.
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Post by mustlovecats on Jul 16, 2019 18:39:05 GMT
My brother’s wife is my sister in law.
My husband’s sister’s husband is my husband’s brother in law, or my sister in law’s husband.
Those are just the terms I personally use.
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Post by peabrain on Jul 16, 2019 18:44:22 GMT
Just Steve.
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Post by KikiPea on Jul 16, 2019 18:46:35 GMT
I have 2 SIL and 1 BIL. I call both SIL’s sisters, or SIL, and my BIL by his name, or rarely BIL when clarification is needed.
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Post by Skellinton on Jul 16, 2019 19:10:56 GMT
Normally just BIL or SIL, but sometimes for explanation I will say my sister in law’s husband or call him my in in law law. (Kind of like the outlaw term above, I just like saying in in law law better).
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Post by joelise on Jul 16, 2019 19:15:05 GMT
Has this thread sent anyone else’s brain crazy? I’ve spent the last 5 minutes trying to work out whose brother in law or sister in law is called what!
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Post by milocat on Jul 16, 2019 19:16:00 GMT
I would call them BIL or SIL. If I needed to clarify then I'd say he's married to my DH's sister.
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Post by Peamac on Jul 16, 2019 19:19:13 GMT
Sometimes BIL, sometimes SIL's husband, and sometimes Brother-in-law-in-law.
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Post by jemmls4 on Jul 16, 2019 19:22:19 GMT
I call my SIL’s
husband a LOT of things that I shall not repeat here. But in general polite society I call him my BIL.
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Post by craftedbys on Jul 16, 2019 19:44:51 GMT
My one brother's wife is SIL.
The other brother's wife is "That bitch that is married to my brother". Of course, that is on my good days. There has been a time or two that I referred to her as the "Tuesday that is married to my brother" ; as in C you next.
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Post by likescarrots on Jul 16, 2019 19:59:12 GMT
I refer to my brother-in-laws spouses as sister-in-law.
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Post by librarylady on Jul 16, 2019 20:13:05 GMT
I refer to my brother's wife as my Sister-In-Law I refer to my husband's sister and her husband as my Sister-In-Law and Brother-In-Law  |
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Post by Linda on Jul 16, 2019 20:14:49 GMT
my sister's spouse is my brother-in-law. My husband's siblings are brother-in-law or sister-in-law. If they were married, their spouse would also be brother-in-law or sister-in-law.
all of the various children/grandchildren/stepchildren/step-grandchildren are 'nieces and nephews' - I will sometimes clarify as grand-niece/grand-nephew
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Post by littlemama on Jul 16, 2019 20:16:40 GMT
Yes, I don't know what else they would be called
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Post by librarylady on Jul 16, 2019 20:16:48 GMT
Has this thread sent anyone else’s brain crazy? I’ve spent the last 5 minutes trying to work out whose brother in law or sister in law is called what! Yes, and I'm not sure I understand for certain.
My brother A is married to P. I call P my sister in law.
My husband's sister S is married to L. I call S sister in law and L brother in law.
If P (see above) has a sibling who is in the conversation, I just say sister in law's sibling.
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Post by bc2ca on Jul 16, 2019 20:23:54 GMT
My DH's brother is my BIL, his sisters are my SILs and his sister's husband is Bob. My sisters' DHs are all my BILs as well. I'm pretty sure my DH never identifies them as his BILs. My brother and Bob are his only BILs. Clear as mud?  |
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Post by busy on Jul 16, 2019 21:19:41 GMT
Has this thread sent anyone else’s brain crazy? I’ve spent the last 5 minutes trying to work out whose brother in law or sister in law is called what! If you're talking about my OP... "my sister-in-law's husband" is my DH's sister's husband. Otherwise I would have called him my brother  On my side of the family, I have three brothers. Two are married to women, my sisters-in-law. The third has a long-term boyfriend. When I said "my brother-in-law" to my BFF, she automatically thought I was referring to my brother's boyfriend, thinking they got married. Because she doesn't think of my DH's sister's husband as my brother-in-law. He's DH's brother-in-law (as are my brothers). And I realized that I pretty much think of it the same way and that's why I don't refer to him as my BIL. |
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