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Post by SockMonkey on Aug 10, 2019 22:35:59 GMT
Sorry but I don't think it's inappropriate. Assault? That's a freakin' stretch and a half. It's supposed to b a fun dinner show. Our hibachi-type places flip the shrimp into your mouth. Yes you miss sometimes and it's hits your hair or your face. lol If you don't like it, it's not the type of restaurant for you. Fine. The little volcano is like, one of the most fun parts about that dinner. Last time we had a huge group of 12 and we all had the best time! Guests ranged from my 65 year old parents down to my 3 year old nephew. I'm surprised I'm in the minority here and might regretting posting my reply. Ah well...! I'm also the same girl who took the saki shots right into the mouth last time and out-drank my husband, much to the delight of my children. haha (Yes they squirt the bottle right into our mouths. The horror!) Here's the thing. It's about CONSENT. You consented. This child did not. There is a difference. What do we teach children about permission and our bodies when we tell them stuff like this is no big deal? It's fine that you're cool with it. Not everyone is, and that's why consent matters.
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Post by Bridget in MD on Aug 10, 2019 23:33:19 GMT
I enjoy going to these restaurants, but sometimes I am just not in the mood for the show. I decline to participate. however, because you are seated with other parties that may WANT to participate, it's hard to refuse for the whole table or even for a single person (peer pressure, hard to hear, etc).
When I am not interested in the show, we have the ability to sit at a table not around the grill and order the hibachi without the show, but you have to know to ask.
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Post by myshelly on Aug 10, 2019 23:45:33 GMT
Sorry but I don't think it's inappropriate. Assault? That's a freakin' stretch and a half. It's supposed to b a fun dinner show. Our hibachi-type places flip the shrimp into your mouth. Yes you miss sometimes and it's hits your hair or your face. lol If you don't like it, it's not the type of restaurant for you. Fine. The little volcano is like, one of the most fun parts about that dinner. Last time we had a huge group of 12 and we all had the best time! Guests ranged from my 65 year old parents down to my 3 year old nephew. I'm surprised I'm in the minority here and might regretting posting my reply. Ah well...! I'm also the same girl who took the saki shots right into the mouth last time and out-drank my husband, much to the delight of my children. haha (Yes they squirt the bottle right into our mouths. The horror!) Here's the thing. It's about CONSENT. You consented. This child did not. There is a difference. What do we teach children about permission and our bodies when we tell them stuff like this is no big deal? It's fine that you're cool with it. Not everyone is, and that's why consent matters. But if you KNOW they do this and you continue to go there, how is that not consent?
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Post by mustlovecats on Aug 10, 2019 23:50:41 GMT
Here's the thing. It's about CONSENT. You consented. This child did not. There is a difference. What do we teach children about permission and our bodies when we tell them stuff like this is no big deal? It's fine that you're cool with it. Not everyone is, and that's why consent matters. But if you KNOW they do this and you continue to go there, how is that not consent? I know the perfume salesperson at Macy’s is spraying samples, I don’t consent to being sprayed with a perfume sample. When a person indicates they aren’t okay with what’s happening and the other person continues on, that’s when something like this becomes inappropriate. It’s like I tell my kids about April fools pranks, it doesn’t matter if it seems harmless to you, if someone else isn’t into it then don’t do it or else that’s disrespectful of that person.
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Post by pierkiss on Aug 10, 2019 23:59:58 GMT
What is this little boy peeing thing? I have never seen this at hibachi. I’ve been to several, in different states. All of the ones I’ve been to when they squirt things they just come out of a standard clear plastic squirt bottle. Like the red ketchup bottles but clear. I would not be happy if something that looked like a boy peeing were squired on my food, my drink, or my kid. Highly inappropriate.
If part of the show made you or your kid uncomfortable you were right to complain.
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Post by refugeepea on Aug 11, 2019 0:09:44 GMT
I don’t understand any of this. By hibachi restaurant, you mean a Benihana-type place, right? They’re very popular around here and my boys love them. I’ve never seen anything weird or inappropriate at any of ours, including actual Benihana or any of the local knock-off places. They put on a show, but it’s never intrusive in any way. They do the volcano thing, but it involves a regular squirt bottle, not a little boy peeing?? I’ve never seen them squirt a customer or their drink, or toss anything at them or flip food into their mouths. They do flip shrimp directly into the customer’s plate. I would be freaked out about the whole getting-in-your-face thing, but if that’s how they do it at your local places, I wouldn’t be pissed off that they were doing it. I just wouldn’t go. Ick. I've never been to a hibachi restaurant, but I appreciate your comment! I was trying to figure why this was a funny thing. My thought was ick as well.
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Post by gina on Aug 11, 2019 0:55:03 GMT
Peeing boy used to put out some flaming onion volcanoes
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Post by myshelly on Aug 11, 2019 1:02:32 GMT
Peeing boy used to put out some flaming onion volcanoes I think it’s funny and my kids would think it’s HYSTERICAL. I don’t know why the OP needs to screw up the show for everyone else. Stop going to the restaurant if you know you don’t like what they do 🤷🏻♀️
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Post by littlemama on Aug 11, 2019 1:17:07 GMT
I've never seen a pee bottle or flipping food at people at a hibachi place in my area. Weird, without the other details. I've been to like 3 different hibachi/teppanyaki places but never experienced the pee bottle. The knife/spatula dancing & volcano stuff, yes. Never the spraying. Update. There was a pee bottle 😂😂😂 It's dumb, but harmless
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Post by refugeepea on Aug 11, 2019 1:33:42 GMT
Peeing boy used to put out some flaming onion volcanoes Looks like a juvenile lawn jockey.
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Post by pierkiss on Aug 11, 2019 2:08:50 GMT
Peeing boy used to put out some flaming onion volcanoes What in the hell? I wouldn’t (don’t) find this funny. I am positive my children would find this hysterical. They are under the age of ten, and bodily functions are the height of humor around here. 🙄😄
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Post by johnnysmom on Aug 11, 2019 2:12:59 GMT
Sorry but I don't think it's inappropriate. Assault? That's a freakin' stretch and a half. It's supposed to b a fun dinner show. Our hibachi-type places flip the shrimp into your mouth. Yes you miss sometimes and it's hits your hair or your face. lol If you don't like it, it's not the type of restaurant for you. Fine. The little volcano is like, one of the most fun parts about that dinner. Last time we had a huge group of 12 and we all had the best time! Guests ranged from my 65 year old parents down to my 3 year old nephew. I'm surprised I'm in the minority here and might regretting posting my reply. Ah well...! I'm also the same girl who took the saki shots right into the mouth last time and out-drank my husband, much to the delight of my children. haha (Yes they squirt the bottle right into our mouths. The horror!) Also don’t see the big deal. Sometimes we’re not in the modd for the show so we sit at a regular table, sometimes we are but I’m not in the mood to catch flying shrimp in my mouth (I always miss and hate it landing in me) so I just kinda put my hand up and say no thanks when it’s my turn. The peeing guy usually puts out the onion volcano fire (which my boys think is hilarious) though I don’t recall him ever peeing on anyone. I’d have no problem simply putting my hand up and saying “no thanks” to that as well. I think your conversation should be with your DD, OP, she needs to know it’s ok to say no if she feels uncomfortable.
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Post by Lexica on Aug 11, 2019 4:17:23 GMT
Ok, I have to ask, what is in this squirt thing? And how clean is it? I would have stopped the guy from squirting at my daughter if I could immediately pick up on the fact that it was upsetting her. I personally don’t want my food or water messed with at all and I would have let my irritation be known. I hope you got your daughter a fresh glass of water.
The hibachi places that I’ve been to do a lot of entertaining things, but I have never seen the bottle with the penis and I’ve never seen a chef squirt anyone with anything else. I do remember one chef tossing a small piece of chicken up for a teenager to catch, which the kid was happy about, but all I could think of was that he had better not choke on it. I vaguely remember another time that the chef tossed something up and caught it in his own mouth. That didn’t bother me.
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Post by papersilly on Aug 11, 2019 4:25:12 GMT
To me, it's like raunchy Japanese game show humor. I don't think it's funny but, hey, it's their shtick. If you don't like it, stop going there. I'm sure it's not the only hibachi place in town. If it offends you, just take your business elsewhere.
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 11, 2019 5:07:17 GMT
I’d have no problem simply putting my hand up and saying “no thanks” to that as well. I think your conversation should be with your DD, OP, she needs to know it’s ok to say no if she feels uncomfortable. I agree. ETA: And since you knew it was coming and you find it uncomfortable, you should have asked the cook not to do that part when he came out and double checked your order.
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Post by Basket1lady on Aug 11, 2019 5:33:35 GMT
I had no idea what it was, so I googled. THIS story popped up about a lady claiming to be sexually assaulted by what is essentially a non-anitomical water gun. I wouldn't want to be shot with a water gun of any kind at a restaurant. This is what I was picturing and what I’ve found common in the Asian countries I’ve visited. I get that someone may not want to be sprayed with water. But to call that a sexual assault is silly. Like the manager said, the kids think it’s funny. It’s likely that’s why the water was squirted at the OP’s daughter. I wouldn’t want to be squirted in the face, but that has nothing to do with the squirt toy itself.
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Post by keknj on Aug 11, 2019 5:40:42 GMT
Sorry that I didn't get back sooner, unexpectedly busy day! They have never squirted anyone with the water before, just pretend to put out the volcano. I don't like it, but I don't care that others do, I just don't watch. I was surprised when he squirted it at her. The non-family members at the table thought it was hysterical. I don't think it was assault, just not appropriate.
All of the not Benihana places around here do it. I put up with the pee boy bottle because Benihana is 3 times the price. If we go again and some Chef squirts one of us with pee boy, I will object again. Maybe they will stop doing it! It just appeared about 10 years ago, hopefully it will disappear soon.
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Post by gina on Aug 11, 2019 5:54:33 GMT
Peeing boy used to put out some flaming onion volcanoes Looks like a juvenile lawn jockey. You are not wrong.
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Post by roberta on Aug 11, 2019 6:35:34 GMT
Having ANYTHING thrown on you is technically assault. (Unless the laws have changed since I was made aware of this but I doubt it). Doing this to a minor is worse. You did the right thing complaining to the manager. Obviously I don’t think this warrants legal action but it is wrong in my opinion. I don’t mind them flipping and tossing around the food while cooking but would definitely not like water sprayed on me. I would find the peeing boy to be tacky and low-class. If you like the food and want to go back perhaps you could let them know ahead of time you don’t like the pee part . I personally would have no interest in returning. Clarification in case some only read part of above: Anything thrown on someone is TECHNICALLY assault and Obviously I DON’T think this deserves legal action
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 11, 2019 12:06:46 GMT
DH favorite restaurant is hibachi. We go often. They do use the peeing boy to put out the flaming onion volcano. I've never seen them squirt anything else with it. And the do throw food for you to catch in your mouth but ask first. And they do the saki bottle but they ask first.
Me and my crew love the show. And that's part of the reason we go. If we found it offensive, we wouldn't go. And I think that's the proper course of action here.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Aug 11, 2019 13:22:55 GMT
I thought people generally went to that type of restaurant FOR the antics that are included as part of the 'show' of the food preparation. My boys thought it was all great fun when they were little. I don't think any of us have been to one since they grew up and out grew it.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 11, 2019 13:41:57 GMT
I thought people generally went to that type of restaurant FOR the antics that are included as part of the 'show' of the food preparation. My boys thought it was all great fun when they were little. I don't think any of us have been to one since they grew up and out grew it. Can you please let me know at what age I can expect Jeremy to outgrow it?!?!?!? LMAO!
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Post by SockMonkey on Aug 11, 2019 13:46:58 GMT
The OP never said anything about legal action or anything.
Her daughter was uncomfortable. Her daughter is 13. She said something to her mom.
Y'all need to consider how you will/did listen to a 13 year old girl who feels uncomfortable about something a man (in this case an older man) did to her and sit with that for a hot minute.
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Post by Basket1lady on Aug 11, 2019 14:26:46 GMT
The OP never said anything about legal action or anything. Her daughter was uncomfortable. Her daughter is 13. She said something to her mom. Y'all need to consider how you will/did listen to a 13 year old girl who feels uncomfortable about something a man (in this case an older man) did to her and sit with that for a hot minute. I think the DD had the right to be uncomfortable and to say something to her mom. That is completely appropriate. I thought the jist of the OP was asking if she should ask the restaurant to stop using the peeing boy. In my mind, it’s part of that restaurants entertainment and while crude, is part of the culture. I do think it’s appropriate for mom to mention it to the owner and suggest that the chef asks before spraying people. But if they find the whole show offensive, they may want to find another restaurant.
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 11, 2019 15:12:28 GMT
Sorry that I didn't get back sooner, unexpectedly busy day! They have never squirted anyone with the water before, just pretend to put out the volcano. I don't like it, but I don't care that others do, I just don't watch. I was surprised when he squirted it at her. The non-family members at the table thought it was hysterical. I don't think it was assault, just not appropriate. All of the not Benihana places around here do it. I put up with the pee boy bottle because Benihana is 3 times the price. If we go again and some Chef squirts one of us with pee boy, I will object again. Maybe they will stop doing it! It just appeared about 10 years ago, hopefully it will disappear soon. why not be proactive and ask that it not be used?
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Post by marimoose on Aug 11, 2019 15:42:17 GMT
Sorry that I didn't get back sooner, unexpectedly busy day! They have never squirted anyone with the water before, just pretend to put out the volcano. I don't like it, but I don't care that others do, I just don't watch. I was surprised when he squirted it at her. The non-family members at the table thought it was hysterical. I don't think it was assault, just not appropriate. All of the not Benihana places around here do it. I put up with the pee boy bottle because Benihana is 3 times the price. If we go again and some Chef squirts one of us with pee boy, I will object again. Maybe they will stop doing it! It just appeared about 10 years ago, hopefully it will disappear soon. why not be proactive and ask that it not be used? You beat me to this . The OP says they have been there before and is aware of the show, so why not stop it before it starts. Or why even visit the restaurant if it makes you that uncomfortable. My kids loved this kind of stuff and as adults love it even more. I go for the show more than the food As for the person who calls it assault - seriously?!?! That is really pushing the line. We are entitled to our own opinions but that seems like a snowflake moment in that sentence.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2019 15:49:14 GMT
All of the not Benihana places around here do it. I put up with the pee boy bottle because Benihana is 3 times the price. If we go again and some Chef squirts one of us with pee boy, I will object again. Maybe they will stop doing it! It just appeared about 10 years ago, hopefully it will disappear soon. Why on earth would you go back to a place that makes you feel so uncomfortable you can't bear to look and that treats your daughter inappropriately?
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Aug 11, 2019 17:07:03 GMT
Can you please let me know at what age I can expect Jeremy to outgrow it?!?!?!? LMAO! Haha. Sometimes silly fun is just called for in life. Tell Jeremy to keep living his best life!
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