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Post by keknj on Aug 10, 2019 15:58:08 GMT
We went to a hibachi place for dinner last night for DH's birthday. It comes to the onion volcano time and the chef pulls out the little boy peeing squirt bottle. I hate this part, but they all do it around here. He proceeds to squirt this thing at my 13 year old DD and when she turned her face away squirted it all in her water glass. I was looking down because I don't like watching that part and always look away. I looked up as he was stopping. Of course, after the fact I thought about putting my hand out to stop him. There were 3 grown men, 3 grown women and a teenage boy at the table. He did not squirt it at anyone else.
DD complained to me about it and I complained to the manager. I told her I didn't think it was appropriate. She said she would speak to him. I'm considering never going there again, not that we go often, 2 or 3 times a year.
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Post by nysparkle on Aug 10, 2019 16:08:44 GMT
I agree with you that it is inappropriate. I have a 12 yr old granddaughter that would be very uncomfortable with that sort of display. The Chef should keep his antics towards the adults only.
*Edited to add, I would have not liked it either.
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Post by mustlovecats on Aug 10, 2019 16:09:07 GMT
I think the peeing bottle by itself is inappropriate and the “joke” of making it pee in someone’s glass is extra inappropriate.
She was not a willing participwnt in this gag, he should have stopped.
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Post by librarylady on Aug 10, 2019 16:10:29 GMT
I think the peeing bottle by itself is inappropriate and the “joke” of making it pee in someone’s glass is extra inappropriate. She was not a willing participwnt in this gag, he should have stopped.  |
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Post by Skellinton on Aug 10, 2019 16:13:46 GMT
I have never seen a little boy peeing bottle, here they just use a squirt bottle.
I don’t think the boy peeing bottle is appropriate or funny in any event, and I do think squirting at a customer is not ok, no matter the bottle. I am an adult and would not like a squirt bottle sprayed at me in a restaurant. I can get pretending to spray, but not actually spraying. I wouldn’t necessarily think anything of the fact it was directed at a teenage girl, meaning I wouldn’t assume the chef was targeting her because she was a young girl as a opposed to a young boy or an adult.
I wouldn’t make a big fuss, but I would have said something too after dinner.
If I went back it would depend on the response of the manager. If she just seemed to brush it off I wouldn’t go back. If she said she understood that it could make customers uncomfortable and apologized and assured me she would talk to the chefs I would go back.
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Post by used2scrap on Aug 10, 2019 16:29:56 GMT
I would think the chef probably thought the youngest person at the table would find it the funniest? I don’t know, never been to a hibachi place because I’m not one for antics with my meal though.
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Post by scrappinmama on Aug 10, 2019 16:32:28 GMT
I think the peeing bottle by itself is inappropriate and the “joke” of making it pee in someone’s glass is extra inappropriate. She was not a willing participwnt in this gag, he should have stopped. I agree. I would not step foot in that place again. Good for you for saying something to the manager. |
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Post by just PEAchy on Aug 10, 2019 16:32:45 GMT
It wouldn’t have bothered me. The hibachi places around here do the same thing, but I’m not sure if it’s a regular bottle or the little boy one. I don’t like or dislike it, never thought if it as inappropriate. But since it did bother you, I don’t see a problem with mentioning it to the manager. They probably won’t stop since it’s a pretty standard part of what they do, so I guess it’s up to you whether you go again.
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Post by SockMonkey on Aug 10, 2019 16:38:21 GMT
Yeah, don't spray shit at me when I'm at a restaurant. Ever.
I wouldn't go back.
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Post by peabay on Aug 10, 2019 16:59:38 GMT
It wouldn’t have bothered me. The hibachi places around here do the same thing, but I’m not sure if it’s a regular bottle or the little boy one. I don’t like or dislike it, never thought if it as inappropriate. But since it did bother you, I don’t see a problem with mentioning it to the manager. They probably won’t stop since it’s a pretty standard part of what they do, so I guess it’s up to you whether you go again. I agree. I don't participate in the drinking sake out of the squirt bottle or having food tossed in my mouth stuff. My family does and they think it's funny. I'm just not interested. The hibachi chefs around here seem to respect that and I've never felt like they were out to embarrass me or make fun of me. I wouldn't be thrilled if I felt they were doing that to my kid. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2019 17:09:43 GMT
Do you think he singled her out because she was the youngest and turned away whereas the boy kept watching? I don't get squirting anything in anyone's water glass, but if that's typical of what they do, then I wouldn't automatically think he targeted her simply because she's a girl.
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Post by LeaP on Aug 10, 2019 17:21:02 GMT
I've only been to a place like this once in Missouri. (Actually twice the first and last time ; ) I hate the jokes, the stereotypes of Asians, all of it. Insofar as your daughter, unless she was an enthusiastic participant, it was wrong single her out. But take my opinion with a grain of salt because I hate those place. As an alternative, try a Korean BBQ place. You cook your own meat at your own pace.
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Post by jenjie on Aug 10, 2019 17:54:54 GMT
I think the peeing bottle by itself is inappropriate and the “joke” of making it pee in someone’s glass is extra inappropriate. She was not a willing participwnt in this gag, he should have stopped. This. And regardless of the cleanliness of the water, having a foreign object added to my glass like that would have me asking for a new glass. Was she able to enjoy the rest of the evening? |
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Post by roberta on Aug 10, 2019 18:23:19 GMT
Having ANYTHING thrown on you is technically assault. (Unless the laws have changed since I was made aware of this but I doubt it). Doing this to a minor is worse.
You did the right thing complaining to the manager. Obviously I don’t think this warrants legal action but it is wrong in my opinion. I don’t mind them flipping and tossing around the food while cooking but would definitely not like water sprayed on me. I would find the peeing boy to be tacky and low-class.
If you like the food and want to go back perhaps you could let them know ahead of time you don’t like the pee part . I personally would have no interest in returning.
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Aug 10, 2019 18:37:20 GMT
Inappropriate. He should be able to read his audience and know who would enjoy that. I’m guessing he knew she wouldn’t and he probably thought that would be funnier than anyone else at the table and didn’t think/care about how she would feel. It’s assholian behavior and not entertainment.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2019 18:40:27 GMT
Having ANYTHING thrown on you is technically assault. (Unless the laws have changed since I was made aware of this but I doubt it). Doing this to a minor is worse. Did he actually squirt it on her?  I'd be pissed if someone did that to anyone in our party. I had to google to get an idea of what they do and wondering if this is what the chef was attempting to do as part of the "show" (2:04 mark)? At least the chef in the video was courteous enough to ask those at the table if they wanted any. www.youtube.com/watch?v=BsUJJOlyNv4 |
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Aug 10, 2019 18:45:59 GMT
I'm not sure how I feel about this. I'm not familiar with hibachi restaurants, but that kind of place is evidently well known for interacting with diners. You have to weigh up the quality of the food against how you feel about the entertainment. If you object that much, why did you go? I would have thought that the chef would be more likely to include youngsters than adults because kids are often more up for a bit of fun.
I would probably have got her another glass of water, but calling it assault and reporting a restaurant for the gimmick that they are known for seems way over the top to me.
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Post by Basket1lady on Aug 10, 2019 19:06:22 GMT
If this was an ethnic place, I think you kind of have to go with the culture.
I think that the bottle is a cultural thing. When we were in Beijing, there was a little ceramic peeing boy that was part of the tea ceremony. When we lived in Seoul, there was a portrait of a baby boy with his boy parts showing. When you walked by, people would pat the boy bits for luck. Same thing if there was a baby in a carrier. Before disposable diapers, a baby wasn’t covered in that area to keep the clothes from being too soiled. I think it’s a holdover from that.
As far as the appropriateness of the squirt bottle, it’s hard to tell unless I could see it. For the ones I’ve seen, the boy part is little more than a bump. It’s ok for your DD to have been annoyed and to have asked for a new glass of water, though.
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Post by lucyg on Aug 10, 2019 19:08:33 GMT
I don’t understand any of this. By hibachi restaurant, you mean a Benihana-type place, right? They’re very popular around here and my boys love them.
I’ve never seen anything weird or inappropriate at any of ours, including actual Benihana or any of the local knock-off places. They put on a show, but it’s never intrusive in any way.
They do the volcano thing, but it involves a regular squirt bottle, not a little boy peeing?? I’ve never seen them squirt a customer or their drink, or toss anything at them or flip food into their mouths. They do flip shrimp directly into the customer’s plate.
I would be freaked out about the whole getting-in-your-face thing, but if that’s how they do it at your local places, I wouldn’t be pissed off that they were doing it. I just wouldn’t go. Ick.
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Post by mustlovecats on Aug 10, 2019 19:15:51 GMT
If this was an ethnic place, I think you kind of have to go with the culture. I think that the bottle is a cultural thing. When we were in Beijing, there was a little ceramic peeing boy that was part of the tea ceremony. When we lived in Seoul, there was a portrait of a baby boy with his boy parts showing. When you walked by, people would pat the boy bits for luck. Same thing if there was a baby in a carrier. Before disposable diapers, a baby wasn’t covered in that area to keep the clothes from being too soiled. I think it’s a holdover from that. As far as the appropriateness of the squirt bottle, it’s hard to tell unless I could see it. For the ones I’ve seen, the boy part is little more than a bump. It’s ok for your DD to have been annoyed and to have asked for a new glass of water, though. Wait. Can I clarify? If there was a real live baby boy in a carrier, people would reach out and pat his genitals for good luck? Like, strangers? Just people in public would do this? Also I think Benihana is ethnic in the way that Chipotle is ethnic, but that’s a thread for a different day. |
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Post by oaksong on Aug 10, 2019 19:27:50 GMT
They don’t do it at the one near us anymore. We always ask, just to tease the chef, and they always grin and tell us “no more.” Someone must have complained. It’s inappropriate, especially if it’s directed to someone. If enough people complain, maybe they’ll stop at yours too.
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Post by snyder on Aug 10, 2019 19:37:30 GMT
In these days, I do think it is a bit inappropriate, especially aiming and a female. I did a little google, but what is the history behind this? Just something weird someone dreamed up and they started doing it at the restaurants, or is there a meaning or something to go along with it?
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Post by littlemama on Aug 10, 2019 20:44:18 GMT
I don’t understand any of this. By hibachi restaurant, you mean a Benihana-type place, right? They’re very popular around here and my boys love them. I’ve never seen anything weird or inappropriate at any of ours, including actual Benihana or any of the local knock-off places. They put on a show, but it’s never intrusive in any way. They do the volcano thing, but it involves a regular squirt bottle, not a little boy peeing?? I’ve never seen them squirt a customer or their drink, or toss anything at them or flip food into their mouths. They do flip shrimp directly into the customer’s plate. I would be freaked out about the whole getting-in-your-face thing, but if that’s how they do it at your local places, I wouldn’t be pissed off that they were doing it. I just wouldn’t go. Ick. I've never seen a pee bottle or flipping food at people at a hibachi place in my area. Weird, without the other details. |
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Post by myshelly on Aug 10, 2019 20:53:18 GMT
If you dislike this bottle so much that you physically turn away when it comes out, why do you keep going to this restaurant?
And no, I don’t think it’s inappropriate.
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Post by SockMonkey on Aug 10, 2019 20:56:17 GMT
I don’t understand any of this. By hibachi restaurant, you mean a Benihana-type place, right? They’re very popular around here and my boys love them. I’ve never seen anything weird or inappropriate at any of ours, including actual Benihana or any of the local knock-off places. They put on a show, but it’s never intrusive in any way. They do the volcano thing, but it involves a regular squirt bottle, not a little boy peeing?? I’ve never seen them squirt a customer or their drink, or toss anything at them or flip food into their mouths. They do flip shrimp directly into the customer’s plate. I would be freaked out about the whole getting-in-your-face thing, but if that’s how they do it at your local places, I wouldn’t be pissed off that they were doing it. I just wouldn’t go. Ick. I've never seen a pee bottle or flipping food at people at a hibachi place in my area. Weird, without the other details. I've been to like 3 different hibachi/teppanyaki places but never experienced the pee bottle. The knife/spatula dancing & volcano stuff, yes. Never the spraying. |
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Post by Basket1lady on Aug 10, 2019 21:09:05 GMT
If this was an ethnic place, I think you kind of have to go with the culture. I think that the bottle is a cultural thing. When we were in Beijing, there was a little ceramic peeing boy that was part of the tea ceremony. When we lived in Seoul, there was a portrait of a baby boy with his boy parts showing. When you walked by, people would pat the boy bits for luck. Same thing if there was a baby in a carrier. Before disposable diapers, a baby wasn’t covered in that area to keep the clothes from being too soiled. I think it’s a holdover from that. As far as the appropriateness of the squirt bottle, it’s hard to tell unless I could see it. For the ones I’ve seen, the boy part is little more than a bump. It’s ok for your DD to have been annoyed and to have asked for a new glass of water, though. Wait. Can I clarify? If there was a real live baby boy in a carrier, people would reach out and pat his genitals for good luck? Like, strangers? Just people in public would do this? Also I think Benihana is ethnic in the way that Chipotle is ethnic, but that’s a thread for a different day. Oh yeah. Real live baby. Baby portrait (in the shopping area outside Osan). Naked little boys playing in the park. The Koreans are proud of their boys! The Korean’s have a different idea of personal space. I have red curly hair and would regularly feel people petting it when I was on the subway. My kids were blonde and I used to put a hat on them anytime we went out in public. DS especially hated being petted. We took taxis or we driven when we were in Beijing, so I can’t say if they petted people on the subways there. The OP didn’t say this was Benihana’s. I agree with you there! For a chain, I wouldn’t expect this. But if it’s a mom and pop restaurant, not much surprises me anymore. Not after the baby-boy-bits patting! |
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Post by gina on Aug 10, 2019 21:16:36 GMT
Sorry but I don't think it's inappropriate. Assault? That's a freakin' stretch and a half. It's supposed to b a fun dinner show. Our hibachi-type places flip the shrimp into your mouth. Yes you miss sometimes and it's hits your hair or your face. lol If you don't like it, it's not the type of restaurant for you. Fine. The little volcano is like, one of the most fun parts about that dinner. Last time we had a huge group of 12 and we all had the best time! Guests ranged from my 65 year old parents down to my 3 year old nephew. I'm surprised I'm in the minority here and might regretting posting my reply. Ah well...! I'm also the same girl who took the saki shots right into the mouth last time and out-drank my husband, much to the delight of my children. haha (Yes they squirt the bottle right into our mouths. The horror!)
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Aug 10, 2019 21:26:11 GMT
Sorry but I don't think it's inappropriate. Assault? That's a freakin' stretch and a half. It's supposed to b a fun dinner show. Our hibachi-type places flip the shrimp into your mouth. Yes you miss sometimes and it's hits your hair or your face. lol If you don't like it, it's not the type of restaurant for you. Fine. The little volcano is like, one of the most fun parts about that dinner. Last time we had a huge group of 12 and we all had the best time! Guests ranged from my 65 year old parents down to my 3 year old nephew. I'm surprised I'm in the minority here and might regretting posting my reply. Ah well...! I'm also the same girl who took the saki shots right into the mouth last time and out-drank my husband, much to the delight of my children. haha (Yes they squirt the bottle right into our mouths. The horror!) I agree...I don’t see the big deal. |
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Post by sunnyd on Aug 10, 2019 21:43:37 GMT
I had no idea what it was, so I googled. THIS story popped up about a lady claiming to be sexually assaulted by what is essentially a non-anitomical water gun. I wouldn't want to be shot with a water gun of any kind at a restaurant. |
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Post by lisacharlotte on Aug 10, 2019 21:48:20 GMT
I've been to the hibachi type of restaurants all over the country. I don't know what this peeing boy thing is. Everyone I'v been to stacks up the onion, lights it on fire and pushes it along while doing the train whistle. No peeing boy bottle. They also do the shrimp flip, but it's always voluntary, not everyone participates, and it's never been a big deal to say no and move on to the next guest.
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