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Post by darkangel090260 on Aug 13, 2019 21:40:42 GMT
I am about to kill my husband. So we are having a yard sale this weekend. Sorting through stuff and pulling out junk. I am finding boxes and bags of trash. Nothing but trash. Like he takes them out of the house and just hides them. I am about 20 second from blowing my top. He not even home. Now I know why he did not want me looking in this area😠😡😤🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯😠😡🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬
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Post by roberta on Aug 13, 2019 21:47:26 GMT
Ok, totally support you. Any chance you can ask him in a as close to normal tone: WTFH!
I don’t get it? Is it laziness?
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Post by darkangel090260 on Aug 13, 2019 21:48:46 GMT
I have no clue. But he going to having a fit to night.
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Post by emptyskullz on Aug 13, 2019 21:52:26 GMT
My husband hoards empty bottles, soda and gatorade bottles. I find them every where! Drives me nuts.  |
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Post by librarylady on Aug 13, 2019 22:41:51 GMT
My BIL died very unexpectedly.
My sister found many bags of clothing that she had given him to drop at the Goodwill drop box on his way to work--since he drove by it each morning. ...about 10 years worth of "drop this at Goodwill" bags........
Just no explaining the thought process. (yes, I can comprehend "I forgot", but ...)
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Post by kkrenn on Aug 13, 2019 22:43:31 GMT
I'll hold your earrings! LOL
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Post by belgravia on Aug 13, 2019 23:37:58 GMT
Your husband is hoarding garbage?
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Post by darkangel090260 on Aug 13, 2019 23:38:48 GMT
Yes
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Post by smcast on Aug 13, 2019 23:52:54 GMT
I tell ya! Grrrr!
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Post by johnnysmom on Aug 14, 2019 0:01:26 GMT
I just don't get his thinking here. You say "hey, babe, can you take the trash to the curb/can" (because I"m gonna assume he wouldn't 'see' a full trash bag  ) and he grabs the bag and puts in the closet?? I'm so confused here. I don't even know how I would approach that subject with him beyond losing my ever loving shit the moment he walked in the door. Really hoping I'm misunderstanding something here (and my dh is a bit of a hoarder, fortunately not of actual trash, just of random stuff he thinks can fix or would be useful someday in the very distant/probably won't happen future). |
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Post by Lexica on Aug 14, 2019 0:09:14 GMT
When you say nothing but trash, you aren’t talking about what would have been in your actual trash can with food waste, right? I mean, that would stink something awful. I’m assuming stuff you consider trash that he thinks he will “need that” one day.
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Post by darkangel090260 on Aug 14, 2019 0:28:53 GMT
Not food wast but old boxes, paper ext. Things that should have went out to our recycling.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 14, 2019 0:44:53 GMT
Huge giant hugs. I understand completely.
We are in the 4th 30 cubic yard trash bin at brother’s hovel. We threw out 8 yes the count went up to 8 shopping carts. Hundreds of cat food cans. HUNDREDS. thousand deli trays/cups/milk jugs.
Nip this crap hoarding now and ask him if he needs to see a counselor. It really is a mental illness.
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Post by roberta on Aug 14, 2019 2:26:07 GMT
Please let us know how it goes. Thinking of ya!
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Post by dewryce on Aug 14, 2019 5:47:36 GMT
Huge giant hugs. I understand completely. We are in the 4th 30 cubic yard trash bin at brother’s hovel. We threw out 8 yes the count went up to 8 shopping carts. Hundreds of cat food cans. HUNDREDS. thousand deli trays/cups/milk jugs. Nip this crap hoarding now and ask him if he needs to see a counselor. It really is a mental illness.I agree. I know it’s a vent thread and I support that wholeheartedly. But from the little you posted it seems it could potentially be more serious that that and a calm approach might make him more willing to have an actual discussion with you where you can determine if he needs professional help. Or, you know. You need help burying the body  |
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Post by ddly on Aug 14, 2019 12:40:47 GMT
OMG! I don't even know what I would do, but I'm pretty sure I'd be wild!
Fortunately we have a small house and there isn't anywhere to hide stuff like this.
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Post by ashley on Aug 14, 2019 12:45:06 GMT
Flashbacks!! After I kicked my ex husband out and started doing some deep cleaning and reorganizing I started finding bags of random items stuffed places. It was like he didn’t know what to do with things and just put them in a bag and then crammed it somewhere — back of closet, under piles of linens, behind things. It was annoying af!! It would be something like a random sock and pair of underwear, or like part of a broken toy or game or something. At one point I really thought I was going to have a breakdown if I found one more bag crammed somewhere.
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Post by elaine on Aug 14, 2019 12:46:34 GMT
OMG! I don't even know what I would do, but I'm pretty sure I'd be wild! Fortunately we have a small house and there isn't anywhere to hide stuff like this. I just had this same thought. I usually hate having a smaller house, but I guess it has its upsides!  |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 14, 2019 13:48:41 GMT
I won't stop you, in fact, I'll invite you round to hold my earrings while I rip my husband a new one about his hoarding. I've just opened a box and found a shit ton of unopened mail from when he lived with his parents, he hasn't lived with them for 13 years. He's actually moved this box overseas and to three different addresses in this country.
I do understand his issues with letting things go but it's starting to depress me.
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Post by freebird on Aug 14, 2019 15:08:16 GMT
So what was his excuse??
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Post by workingclassdog on Aug 14, 2019 15:13:44 GMT
Man I have the opposite problem..
I find my stuff IN the trash can if I am lucky. Who knows how much stuff of mine that is perfectly good has gone to the trash.
Latest is a rug that was in front of my stove. All of a sudden it's gone. I get home and ask DH what happened to my rug. He's like 'what rug?' THE ONE IN FRONT OF THE STOVE THAT HAS BEEN THERE AT LEAST A YEAR!!!! He's like "I have no idea" BUT guess what is there now? A freaking BATHROOM mat? I am like 'then WHY is there a bathroom mat there?'... I swear I just want to freaking shake him. He stills says he has no idea what rug I am talking about.. ummm yeah buddy... whatever.
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Post by ladytrisha on Aug 14, 2019 16:03:49 GMT
My husband has been helping our neighbor run errands to get meds and drive her to Dr. appointments, takes her trash cans in and out etc.
Yesterday she asked if he could help her pick up papers that are all over the house (hoarding situation, but luckily has friends who routinely drop in and it forces her to clean up a bit). He found 2 huge totes of unopened mail (both bills and junk). He said "you need to look at these" so she said "can you do it, I don't want to look at tham". So suddenly it morphed into him opening all her bills and trying to get them organized.
She is single, has an awful chronic health condition - neck and back irreversible damage, a reverse mortgage and appears to have been snookered on some solar plan in her house. He said he opened the Edison bill and it was over $1000 - and she has solar in a small house! He said he watched for signs that she was getting tense and as soon as she did, he said "you know, I need to go, so why don't we look at this tomorrow". That way she could relax and not feel so overwhelmed. We both feel so badly for her and I'm hoping that he can help her out. I said I could help organize, but only if she wanted it.
Of course, today she'll probably ask to go to the dollar store and drop $200 on crap!
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Aug 14, 2019 16:16:30 GMT
Not food wast but old boxes, paper ext. Things that should have went out to our recycling. does he perhaps think that some of it has personal info on, and he 'means' to go thru it all at some point and do something with it? Or he thinks you want to recycle stuff that he might still have a use for? My DH has this 'thing' about not letting ANYTHING with our names/address on get into the recycle or trash accidentally. Anything with our name / address on, he feels like he has to take and shred. I don't quite get it, because our names and address are public information, but, whatever. |
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Post by my3freaks on Aug 14, 2019 16:37:42 GMT
My DH has this 'thing' about not letting ANYTHING with our names/address on get into the recycle or trash accidentally. Anything with our name / address on, he feels like he has to take and shred. I don't quite get it, because our names and address are public information, but, whatever. My mom is like this too. She tears names & addresses off all junk mail, magazines, etc before she puts it in recycling and shreds it. I feel like I'm doing a good job if I tear credit card offer junk mail in half before I toss it in the recycle can. |
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Post by darkangel090260 on Aug 14, 2019 17:30:18 GMT
I don't know why he did but tossed all of it this morning
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Post by bdawnb on Aug 14, 2019 20:44:09 GMT
My DH has this 'thing' about not letting ANYTHING with our names/address on get into the recycle or trash accidentally. Anything with our name / address on, he feels like he has to take and shred. I don't quite get it, because our names and address are public information, but, whatever. Is he my husband’s twin? I swear it is insane the way he acts if I throw away an ad with our name and address on it. But at least he does take care of taking it out and having it shredded as well. |
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) and he grabs the bag and puts in the closet?? I'm so confused here. I don't even know how I would approach that subject with him beyond losing my ever loving shit the moment he walked in the door.
