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Post by Horse scrap on Aug 15, 2019 14:01:27 GMT
One year ago today-
I woke up with my dad in ICU, still fighting to live.
At 2:30, we made the most difficult decision of our life- comfort care
At 4:59pm, my life was changing forever.
At 5:00pm my daddy died, as we held his hands.
At 5:01pm my life was shattered.
I am 50 years old, but when it comes to my dad, I’m a 7 yr old little girl. I just need to get thru this day.
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Post by disneypal on Aug 15, 2019 14:07:33 GMT
I'm sorry - days like this are so hard. I was a daddy's girl too - my dad passed away when I was 50, and like you - I'm still the 7 year old who wants and misses her dad
((HUGS))
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Post by PenandInk on Aug 15, 2019 14:11:21 GMT
I’m so sorry. This is one of the hardest things we ever do. It sounds like he was a great dad, and you have wonderful memories of him. May his memory be eternal.
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Post by kiera on Aug 15, 2019 14:22:06 GMT
I'm so sorry. Sending you so much love <3
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Post by JoP on Aug 15, 2019 14:22:33 GMT
Sending you (((Hugs)))
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Post by luckyexwife on Aug 15, 2019 14:23:02 GMT
I'm sorry. Sending prayers.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 15, 2019 14:35:13 GMT
(((HUGS)))
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Post by Skellinton on Aug 15, 2019 14:38:21 GMT
I am very sorry. Something we do to celebrate people we love in my family is have their favorite meal on their birthday or other anniversary. It seems like a silly thing, but makes us feel closer to them and often brings up happy memories.
I hope soon your memories of your father will bring more smiles then tears.
Hugs to you today.
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Post by mom on Aug 15, 2019 14:44:35 GMT
Im really sorry. Losing a parent is just so hard. I hope you can find some peace today.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Aug 15, 2019 14:47:06 GMT
 Hugs to you. I'm also 50 and for me, losing my dad was the most painful 2 weeks of my life, 19 years and 2 weeks ago, on our first wedding anniversary. I will never forget the agony of saying goodbye in hospital, and then the idiocy of having to leave him there, but imploring the nurse not to leave him alone. She promised too, both of us knowing that she wouldn't be able to keep that promise. Pain does strange things to us. Damn. Now you've got me crying. I'd like to be able to tell you that it gets easier but I'm not sure it really does. But you do get better at it. Look after yourself, OK?  |
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Post by KikiPea on Aug 15, 2019 14:53:24 GMT
Days like this are so tough. Prayers for peace and comfort today.
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Post by jenjie on Aug 15, 2019 14:54:40 GMT
It’s so hard. I’m so sorry. Gentle hugs. Praying God’s comfort.
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Post by koontz on Aug 15, 2019 14:56:09 GMT
These days are so hard - hugs to you. Please take care of yourself.
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Post by andreasmom on Aug 15, 2019 14:56:25 GMT
((((Hugs)))))
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Post by Menjiness on Aug 15, 2019 14:57:06 GMT
Many hugs to you today. Be gentle with yourself today!
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Post by stampnscrap1128 on Aug 15, 2019 15:03:05 GMT
I'm so sorry. The one year anniversary of my father's death is coming up next month. Seems like yesterday. Seems like forever.
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Post by ddly on Aug 15, 2019 15:08:18 GMT
I'm so sorry. Sending up prayers that you'll make it through the day.
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Post by malibou on Aug 15, 2019 15:14:06 GMT
Hugs.
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Post by auntkelly on Aug 15, 2019 15:16:08 GMT
I'm sorry.
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Post by gizzy on Aug 15, 2019 15:24:53 GMT
Losing a parent is hard. (((hugs)))
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Post by TXMary on Aug 15, 2019 15:47:21 GMT
I'm so sorry. My dad died 25 years ago and I still miss him and think of him every day. Be gentle with yourself. This will be a hard day so just get through it the best you can. (((hugs)))
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Aug 15, 2019 16:14:34 GMT
*hugs* I’m sorry.
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Post by Horse scrap on Aug 15, 2019 20:43:27 GMT
I'm so sorry. The one year anniversary of my father's death is coming up next month. Seems like yesterday. Seems like forever. I hope that you treat yourself gently on the day of the anniversary. I went to lunch w/my son, had a session w/my therapist, and will go to the cemetery then to dinner with my family tonight. I wish there were magic words someone could say to minimize the pain. But we work our way through the grief. My new word is Adjust. I’m learning to adjust to life without my daddy. |
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Post by Horse scrap on Aug 15, 2019 20:44:32 GMT
Thanks to everyone for the kind words and support.
This just sucks.
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Post by AussieMeg on Aug 16, 2019 0:00:19 GMT
Oh, I'm so sorry.  I'm sure this sad anniversary is extra hard, being the first. Damn. Now you've got me crying. Yeah me too - and I still have my dad. Just the thought of it...... |
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Post by Horse scrap on Aug 16, 2019 0:38:53 GMT
So I went out and balled my eyes out at the cemetery. Got my self together, went and got some sunflowers, went to my therapist appointment then at 5pm (the time he died), met my mom back out at the cemetery. Lots of crying, hugging, talking and a little bit of Xanax. I’m wiped out, emotionally spent, and glad it’s over. Again, thank you for the kind words, shared stories and friendship.
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Post by RosieKat on Aug 16, 2019 0:39:27 GMT
Love and hugs to you.
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Post by gritzi on Aug 16, 2019 2:14:16 GMT
I'm so very sorry, and understand your loss! Those dates suck, no other way to describe. The 17th will be one year when we received the shocking diagnosis that my mom's tumor was stage 4/terminal. The dates hit hard, and on those days I remind myself that "it's okay I'm not okay". I cry hours a day, and am survive each hour. Be gentle with yourself. I'm so sorry!
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 16, 2019 3:11:04 GMT
I'm sorry for your loss and the difficulty of this day.
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Post by seaexplore on Aug 16, 2019 3:22:15 GMT
Oh, I'm so sorry.  I'm sure this sad anniversary is extra hard, being the first. Damn. Now you've got me crying. Yeah me too - and I still have my dad. Just the thought of it...... You girls aren’t alone. I’m all teary eyed too. |
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I'm sure this sad anniversary is extra hard, being the first. 
