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Post by Patter on Aug 25, 2019 10:09:23 GMT
In 6 months I will be 70! Now that feels so old. I wasted over 15 years weighing over 200+ pounds and being in a toxic relationship. Now I am alone, have lost 138# and am living my best life ever. I just wish I had those 15 years back. Congrats on the new you! I can "hear" the excitement in your post. You are encouraging to us all!
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RedSquirrelUK
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Aug 25, 2019 10:29:11 GMT
Turning 50 this year was probably the one that I was least at ease with, but none have bothered me unduly. Age is only a number. I think getting a new dramatic haircut at 50 helped a lot because everyone tells me how much younger it makes me look - and nobody believed I was my real age before.
The part I hate most is having attention drawn to it, as with any birthday. I managed to avoid too much attention except for a big 30th party, but this year MIL turned 75, FIL turned 80 and I turned 50 in the same week (same day as MIL) and I had to sit through a meal with the whole family, with balloons above our heads advertising our ages to the whole town. My town too, not even their town. I endured it all with a big smile whilst writhing with embarrassment and wishing it was over. I loathed it.
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Post by malibou on Aug 25, 2019 13:53:01 GMT
I feel like I normally handle birthdays well. I'm not mad keen on them, but I'm not miserable. However, I didn't like the one that just passed. Turning 55 felt so old.
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Post by yivit on Aug 25, 2019 14:01:23 GMT
I feel like I normally handle birthdays well. I'm not mad keen on them, but I'm not miserable. However, I didn't like the one that just passed. Turning 55 felt so old. I wasn't terribly thrilled about 55 either until I remembered that was another round of "senior discounts" including Goodwill.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Aug 25, 2019 14:01:59 GMT
I think 30 was the tough one for me...only because it SOUNDS old when you're in your 20's. Turned 50 last year and was looking forward to it really... Age 49 was tough, had a couple of medical issues pop up and spent a lot of time in the MD's office and undergoing a few procedures.
As my 50th birthday approached I had my first of 2 surgery dates scheduled. I think I was more grateful than anything else turning 50 because I knew i'd be soon have the medical issues behind me and I was really grateful because they could have been so much worse. I guess a nice wake up call to make you appreciate what you have.
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Post by Gravity on Aug 25, 2019 14:28:21 GMT
55 was hard for me because I now qualify for some senior citizen discounts. I never use the discounts because I don’t want to admit to almost being a senior citizen.
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Post by artbabe on Aug 25, 2019 14:34:54 GMT
Forty was bad. I wanted to get married and have kids. When I turned 40 I knew my biological clock was about up, so I just gave up. Didn't date anyone for eight years after that.
Fifty was great. I don't mind being 53.
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Post by malibou on Aug 25, 2019 14:37:50 GMT
I feel like I normally handle birthdays well. I'm not mad keen on them, but I'm not miserable. However, I didn't like the one that just passed. Turning 55 felt so old. I wasn't terribly thrilled about 55 either until I remembered that was another round of "senior discounts" including Goodwill. So funny you should mention this, yesterday at the Do It Center we were picking up some plants. At checkout the girl asked if we had any coupons or discounts. Dh asks what kind of discounts and she says You get a senior discount if you are 55 and older! The look on his face was priceless as he realized he was getting a senior discount. When I laughed out loud and asked her if she could make an announcement, I was shocked when she obliged with Hey shoppers, Do It Center offers a senior discount to those 55 and older. Just ask the guy at register 4. I absolutely howled as dh stood there with his mouth hanging open. Checkout girl was early 20s. Dh just came in hereto see what I was giggling about. He is giving me a side eye. Lol
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Post by cakediva on Aug 25, 2019 15:00:42 GMT
I don't know that I've struggled with turning any age really. 40 was big -- like MichyM I got a tattoo that year, my one and only. Although I have plans for another if I can quit burning my forearm by touching baking pans! LOL 50 was just in March, and didn't really phase me. I'm excited for this phase of our lives - DS is 18 and doing a victory lap at high school, so next year he will be off to college. Both girls have a significant other and seem settled in their life plan. DH is 52 and I'm 50, we just did some financial re-arranging and have made our weekly cash a bit more free, so we can start saving more. We have the freedom to travel and see the places we want to see, so long as we follow our rule and never use credit to travel, only money saved. So I'm not dreading any upcoming number yet!
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Post by crazy4scraps on Aug 25, 2019 15:19:06 GMT
The only age that really bothered me was 21 and that was because that was the age my older brother was when he died. I’m sure 55/56 will give me pause too because that was the age my dad was when he died of cancer. I take more after his side of the family than my mom’s, and virtually all of my dad’s family members died fairly young. I’m 52 now, and it’s sobering to think that when my dad was my age now, he likely had no clue that he would be dead just short of four years later.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Aug 25, 2019 15:19:45 GMT
Birthdays have never been a big deal. I’m not a person who celebrates milestones like that. DH and I both forgot our anniversary last week. The year I turned 51 it wasn’t the birthday, but I reflected more on how much time I DON’T have left. I’m always the glass half full person. This has been a hard realization for me. I’m now 54 and still struggling with counting those years left. They don’t add up to a big enough number for me. Like our anniversary. We’ve been married 29 years. No way we have 29 more. That’s the thing that I can’t come to terms with.
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Post by ceepea on Aug 25, 2019 17:29:58 GMT
50, definitely. It seems like it really snuck up on me. I still can’t believe I’m 53. It feels like I’m talking about someone else.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Aug 25, 2019 18:29:41 GMT
Think it will be turning sixty. I don’t feel closer to 60 than 50 even though I am.
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Post by scrappinmama on Aug 25, 2019 18:46:18 GMT
30 was hard for me. I freaked out a little when it approached, and I don't even know why. But ever since then, I take every birthday in stride and I recognize how lucky I am to have another year in the books. I will turn 50 in May and it doesn't even bother me.
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Post by Linda on Aug 25, 2019 22:21:13 GMT
none really so far - except maybe 21 - I was exactly 2 months (to the day) away from delivering my firstborn as a singel mum still in college.
30 - I had just had #2 less than 4 months before and it was a non-event
40 - #3 was a toddler and we were still hoping to add to the family so didn't really feel old yet
50 - is a few days more than a year away and it's really no big deal.
I suspect 60 or 65 will be the ones that get me - Dad died shortly after my 19th birthay at 64...
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Post by LisaDV on Aug 25, 2019 22:53:41 GMT
45/46 - I was busy with my kids being little at 40, at 45/46 they're tween/teen. I just expected to be at a different point in my life at that age - but various moves for jobs and various layouts for my husband meant we're not where we should have been. This year I turn 50. I'm not doing any better this year. Although I did finally take steps to start losing the extra weight.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Aug 26, 2019 0:14:36 GMT
The birthday that bothered me was the end of the year I was 47. I realized that when I hit 48 I would have been married for twenty-four years... half my life. And I came to the realization that I didn't want another substantial chunk of my life to be spent in that marriage. I asked for a separation/divorce a month before I turned 48. My 50th birthday became a celebration of reclaiming 'me.'
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 26, 2019 1:07:01 GMT
I made sure that my two milestone birthdays had awesome events. When I turned forty, I took the family to Europe. Had dreamed of it for years. When I turned fifty, I retired two days later.
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Post by jenjie on Aug 26, 2019 1:39:43 GMT
Oh dang this is discouraging. I remember people saying how at 40 it’s all downhill after that, but I felt great physically and was comfortable being me. Now I’m 51 and I have aches and pains, I’m always second guessing myself, and life is not as I envisioned.
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Post by scraphappy0501 on Aug 26, 2019 1:48:29 GMT
30 was hard for me. It felt "old". Also that year I got sick, lost a lot of weight and felt generally horrible for 6 months.
40 wasn't too bad, and I didn't feel mentally bad turning 50 (I'm 54 now) but physically the aches and pains started big time and my metabolism went to Hell and I gained 30 pounds. Getting rid of that extra weight has been like a millstone around my neck - it just won't move. I used to be able to lose weight by watching my diet but that doesn't work like it used to. I've been adding exercise and am starting to see a little progress!
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Post by pattyraindrops on Aug 26, 2019 2:23:15 GMT
This year - 51. I just had so many plans for the big 50 that didn't happen. On top of that numbers are my thing and 51 just feels so odd and awkward.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Aug 26, 2019 9:27:21 GMT
For me personally, it wasn't a specific age. It was my 20's in general.
A horrendous abusive marriage. Pride kept me from calling it quits (didn't want to hear the proverbial "told you so", not surprised, etc..). I was 18 and I knew everything about living life. In my mind, if I were married that would make me be a for real grown up. I got married a week or so after turning 20. In reality, I was young and dumb. I knew nothing about living life and had no life experience.
Thank goodness, with time came maturity and divorce.
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Post by shaniam on Aug 26, 2019 13:00:39 GMT
Mine was this year- 50. I’ve struggled with birthdays for a few years and have found them depressing. I explained this to my husband and told him I anticipated it being a bad one. I wanted to do some kind of memorable trip or something to take my mind off getting older. He bought the city pass and took me to some things around Houston that I wasn’t really interested in and they were super crowded because it was spring break. It was hard to see all my friends turn 50 and see how they were celebrated and I felt like my crew phoned it in. I think going forward I will plan a girls trip or do something on my own. oh no! that sounds sort of like me. My dh is horrible at presents and thinking what I want. Half the time, I'm like. do you KNOW me? noooo. He's usually way way off. It's probably my fault for not telling him what I want. Not saying it's yours. I'm sorry your's wasn't great. I specifically told my husband I wanted to do something major to take my mind off getting older. We talked about a budget and possibilities. He wimped out. He said he didn’t want to plan something and me be disappointed plus I was tagging along on a work trip over the summer to Singapore. Singapore was great but not exactly what I would have picked or as a tagalong on a work trip. I even asked him about doing something with a girlfriend and he said no he would do something. I was disappointed.
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Post by gizzy on Aug 26, 2019 13:03:34 GMT
50 was the hardest so far. It seemed as if that was my expiration date or something. Everything seemed to go wrong. Blood pressure, weight, joints, muscles. Even my eyesight. I have a cataract which makes everything appear to be smudged and dim. My eye Dr says I can't have surgery yet, that I'm too young. I'm supposed to live like this? I need to find a new Dr.
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Post by psiluvu on Aug 26, 2019 14:46:24 GMT
Usually birthdays are no big deal to me. I will be 52 in November. Turning 30 was hard on me because I was married, still going to school, no kids in a rented apartment and I thought I would have my shit more together by 30. I had pictured myself with 2.5 kids, white picket fence and a kick ass career by 30. It turns out I was just a late bloomer LOL
I loved turning 50 because I was at a place in my life where I could afford the time and money to be able to celebrate with my childhood friends. We ended up booking a 5 day trip to Florida which was a ton of fun. I am in better shape and take better care of myself than I have since I was in my early 20's. I just did a Mud Run this weekend to celebrate a friends 55th birthday. The thought of doing that in my 30's would have never crossed my mind which is good as I wouldn't have been able to do it then anyways.
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Aug 26, 2019 15:41:00 GMT
30 was weird. Leaving my 20's felt like the end of "youth". Even though I'd been married for years and had a 4yo DD. I turned 50 earlier this year and it really wasn't a big deal. I'm beginning to settle into this phase of life and so far I think I like it. Our youngest DD is at college and our oldest DD is getting married next month so starting in Oct. we'll have a true empty nest. DH and I had a very rough few years but we are in a very good place right now and we're both looking forward to having the nest all to ourselves. I feel good physically, I'm running a few times a week, eating well and overall life is very good. Financially isn't great but I have all of the other good stuff in my life so I'm not worrying about it.
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Post by ~Susan~ on Aug 26, 2019 16:33:00 GMT
Turning 30 wasn't too bad. I was 7 months pregnant with my youngest and still felt pretty good. Turning 40 was really hard for me. I had been married for half my life and felt like I hadn't accomplished anything important...I didn't finish college and I didn't have a career. I chose to be a SAHM. Then my body started doing crazy stuff. I had to have an uterine ablation, then hysterectomy. I developed a bone spur on my heel and got tendinitis in both of my Achilles. I was the heaviest I have ever been. The harder I tried to get into shape, the more my body reminded me that I wasn't 25 anymore. I had finally had enough and did a deep dive into trying to heal my body. I found low carb eating and intermittent fasting. I started losing weight, my feet got better, and I felt like a new person. At 48 I was diagnosed with breast cancer, had surgery, did radiation, and 4 rounds of chemo. I get through that and I now feel better than I have in years. I know exactly what the phrase, " I have a new lease on life" means. I look at a lot of things differently. I didn't "waste" my life being a SAHM. I raised two beautiful, intelligent, independent women. I am married to one of the best men that God put on this Earth and he loves me...wholly and fully. Everyday is truly a gift and looking very forward to turning 50 next year
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Post by lisae on Aug 26, 2019 17:11:40 GMT
One of the benefits of a husband several years older is that you are always young! Really, no birthday has bothered me much yet. I start thinking about my new age several months before my birthday so I get used to it. I never thought I'd look forward to my 65th birthday but I am because my insurance should be vastly cheaper. Of course that is 10 years away so it is easy to say it doesn't bother me yet.
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Post by cme37 on Aug 26, 2019 17:58:08 GMT
For some reason, 25 bothered me. I kept thinking I am a quarter of a century old.
30 and 40 didn't bother me.
50 wasn't bothering me. I was looking forward to it. Dh and I were both turning 50 the same year, so we planned a trip to Paris. I was so excited. We had never been there. Then two weeks before I turned 50 found out I had breast cancer. Had to cancel the entire trip. On my 50th birthday, I was on the phone with the hospital scheduling my mastectomy. Let's just say that day sucked. Luckily it was caught super early and all I had to have was surgery. I had 5 of them in total, but at least no chemo or radiation. I'm grateful to be here and super grateful it was caught so early, but that birthday still sucked.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 26, 2019 18:59:06 GMT
This year is the hardest for both of us. We went from being the babies of the family, with no responsible adult family obligations to being the head of a family that we just dislike intensely.
Just like the other brothers, we are waiting for dad to pass away....so we never have to have anything to do with these brothers again. If I could only get dad to sell up his stuff and move in with us.....
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