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Post by Deleted on Aug 26, 2019 16:20:20 GMT
Yeah, my six weeks was at partial pay (60%) after I’d used all my sick and vacation time. It felt pretty inhumane - especially as it was really only five weeks after DD was born. I stopped working a week before she was born because my feet were too swollen to put any shoes on. It was actually a relief when they let me go because I could be home with my baby on unemployment - at their expense. 🤪 And some companies DO offer paid parental leave. But it's up to the whims of each company. NO PAID TIME OFF FOR PARENTAL LEAVE IS MANDATED BY US LAW.ALSO TOO - FOCUS ON THE FAMILY, FAMILY VALUES, FAMILY FIRST Y'ALL!!!
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sueg
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Post by sueg on Aug 26, 2019 16:22:24 GMT
I told my school principal at about 13 weeks. I had told my dad - also a school principal, amd mates with my boss - and then realised that there was a Principal's conference the next week, and dad was sure to say something about his new grandchild. By then, a few other people at school knew - my mentor and office mate had asked me just as I was beginning to suspect it, if I was pregnant. She was one of those people who could just pick the early signs. My union rep also knew, as I had asked him about leave entitlements and how much notice I had to give befoe telling the principal.
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Post by aleighl55 on Aug 26, 2019 17:16:11 GMT
I was 8 weeks with my first. I had to tell my female boss that I had an emergency and needed to be seen by my doctor and had to leave. It was a month after I got married so she knew and was telling a coworker before I walked down the hall and out the door. When I told everybody else at our main office, all management knew because she had told them at their annual retreat.
With my second, I had several miscarriages and my female boss knew without me saying. She left and we had a few replacements that I never told but when I was 5-6 months pregnant no amount of flowy blouses was going to hide it and I finally told her and everybody. The next day when I dressed more comfortable you'd think I had eaten a watermelon with the looks in the office. The girls at the maternity store did a great job when I told them I wanted clothes that would hide the fact that I was 4 months pregnant.
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Post by tommygirl on Aug 26, 2019 17:59:01 GMT
I told my female boss very early as it impacted what I was able to do in my job. My dh told all family and close friend as soon as we found out (after first missed period) he was so excited!
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Post by pancakes on Aug 26, 2019 18:04:24 GMT
I'm fully aware, since I work for a startup and get no benefits. So, so excited.
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peabrain
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Post by peabrain on Aug 26, 2019 18:05:05 GMT
I was hired on from a grant. It wasn’t renewed after a few years. They were trying to find money in the budget to keep me. When I found out I was pregnant, I didn’t want to work full time after the baby. They could afford me part time so I spoke to them about that when it was time to do the budget.
It worked out great until she was in elementary school.
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Post by chedanemi on Aug 26, 2019 18:07:18 GMT
I told my boss (male both times) as soon as I found out. I worked in a prison.
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Post by ladytrisha on Aug 26, 2019 18:27:23 GMT
worked for 2 male lawyers - partners in the firm.
Told them the day after we found out - they were great and supportive.
THEN I saw the other side when my OB Dr. "forgot" to tell me to stop working as I was high risk and when I went to an appointment, she gave me a note and said "effective NOW you're to stop working". So then I got to go to work and say it was an emergency (seriously I could only wear slippers to work because my feet were so swollen and I was having to be careful because I was overweight). I saw a dark side to one partner who slammed the door and didn't speak to me until well after my son was born. He was nasty when I went back and I never looked at him the same way. Fast forward 20 years to when they laid me off - and I watched him again make excuses and do everything except man up and look me in the eye - after 31 years you'd think he could.
Funny enough the other partner was supportive, came to my son's christening, always let me have time off for school things - he was a tool for laying me off how he did, but I do miss him because when he was fun, he was very fun.
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Post by tc on Aug 26, 2019 18:34:34 GMT
#1 - female boss. Didn't tell her before m/c #2 - female boss. Waited until I had the sonogram picture because of the result of pregnancy #1. She was excited, but my DH is also in her dept. Then our assistant announced she was pregnant within three days. We were due a couple of months apart, but I think it struck panic in to everyone that we were going to be out at the same time. It all worked out though. #3 - female boss, but I was mostly working under the direction of a male superior at that point. I told him on Friday - around week 11 because they were putting together an attendee list for a conference coming up at the time I was due and I didn't want to take someone's spot on the list since I knew I wasn't going to be able to go. I went in for some tests on the following Monday and they couldn't find the heartbeat. I had a D/C on Wednesday and I never did tell him outright. I think he talked to my female boss - who I had told what was going on - and put the pieces together without having to ask me outright what was going on. I got added back on the conference list. But I was miserable at the conference knowing what I would have otherwise been doing if things had worked out. Not professional - but emotions sometimes get the better of us.
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Post by missmcd on Aug 26, 2019 18:51:02 GMT
First pregnancy - had a male boss and told him as well as a female I "reported" to at 24 weeks. I still wasn't showing so I could have held out longer but it was getting weird keeping such a big secret.
Second pregnancy - female boss, told her around 20 weeks I believe?
Third pregnancy - same female boss, told her at 21 weeks after our gender reveal party, just in case she saw something on social media. Just a note, at this job I receive zero paid leave of any amount.
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Post by workingclassdog on Aug 26, 2019 19:05:32 GMT
It was probably pretty early on, small close knit company, like 15 employees. My boss was a male but that didn't make any difference to me.
My last pregnancy they all guessed before I knew (they were joking but ended up I was really pregnant)... I thought it was just weird female problems.
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kelly8875
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Post by kelly8875 on Aug 26, 2019 20:26:36 GMT
My boss found out at about 5-6 weeks. At the time, my boss was my Mom. (Family business, lol)
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Post by LisaDV on Aug 26, 2019 20:38:14 GMT
I found out around 8 weeks and told my boss (male) and everyone else at 12 weeks.
Congratulations!
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Post by Karene on Aug 27, 2019 3:32:56 GMT
Yes, that list for the countries is out of date since Canadians get 50 paid maternity weeks. They can take more but it is unpaid.
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Post by jemmls4 on Aug 27, 2019 3:44:34 GMT
I worked in a hospital laboratory during my pregnancies, so I pretty much had to speak up right away. There were certain things in lab I needed to stay away from plus any patients with contagious illnesses.
also with my first pregnancy at second docctor’s visit, he couldn’t hear heartbeat and did a sonogram. News was not good. I had to go to work and my co-workers ran my bloodwork, so I knew before doctor that I was most likely miscarrying.
With my my second pregnancy I told my co-workers as soon as pregnancy test was positive (I was at work and did my own test). I was really nervous and had a scare at almost the same mark when I lost the first one, but now she’s almost 26.
My my last one again, told almost immediately because my ulcerative colitis flared up and I ended up in the emergency room sicker than a dog. I was in the hospital on the maternity floor for four days.
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Post by PNWMom on Aug 27, 2019 4:33:26 GMT
Well, we did IVF and were fairly open about it so I told everyone when we were doing our embryo transfer (it was unsuccessful); then I got pregnant 'naturally' a few weeks after the failed IVF--I found out I was pregnant at 7 weeks and told my whole workgroup within a few days.
With baby #2, they knew when I was having the embryo transfer ahead of time, so it was never a thing to really 'announce'.
Female bosses both times.
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