Telling your boss you’re pregnant

Male the first time. Told him at 12 weeks due to miscarrying the summer before and needed admin to know in case there were complications.  I needed to plan when I would be out and find a long term sub to start the school year for me. My long term was a student I had many years ago, She subbed in the same room she was a student in.  She is now a teacher in another district.

Female the second and 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th time. I told her early on every time I was pregnant because I had multiple miscarriages and missed work for appointments and procedures- D&C’s, ectopic. My entire staff knew all the details and were crushed right along with me when I miscarried. They also celebrated with me when it stuck. We are a tight knit staff/family and they are part of my support network. Needed to let her know early so I could find a long term sub to finish out the school year. I again had a past student and she subbed in the same room she was a student in. She now teaches 4th grade at my site!

I told when I was around 10-12 weeks. All of my bosses at the time were female and I waited until then to tell to ensure that I was safely near/past the first trimester. With the first I didn't really show until about 5-6 months. With the rest I showed a lot sooner.

I don’t remember how many weeks I was.when I told them, their response was, is that why you keep running for the bathroom? I guess I wasn’t so sneaky after all.

I was early — like maybe 8 weeks but I was in grad school and had meetings and deadlines that needed to be rearranged immediately. I would have waited till at least the first trimester was over if into had been possible.

I was a teacher which is a bit different than other jobs. For both I had female principals. I waited till about 12 weeks to announce. Maybe a bit before with my second because I wanted to say something before summer vacation and not show up the first day 6 months pregnant.

FYI I wasn’t working at the time but with my third kid I had experienced a second trimester loss just prior and was reluctant to share the news with anybody so I likely would have waited until 20 weeks. I did not show with any pregnancy till I was in the third trimester so it would not have been an issue.

Congratulations.

Early. Everyone's breakfast and lunch food making me puke was a pretty good indication.

I had no choice but to tell very early because I had hyperemesis and was repeatedly hospitalized and given a portable IV starting at about the 6th week.

My direct supervisor was male and the big boss was female and my office was fantastic about all of it. I was very fortunate.

I hope all goes well for you...or your friend.

#1 - my first day of a summer internship when I fainted on the job...I was barely into my 2nd semester (male boss)

#2 - really early, 5-6 weeks due to hyperemesis. (female boss - and fwiw she made my life miserable for the rest of my pregnancy)

#3 - I wasn't working (m/c at 13 wks) - friends and family knew pretty early though and then I had to tell about the m/c

#4 - I wasn't working - pretty sure we waited to tell all but my kids until the second semester

#5 - I wasn't working (m/c at 6 weeks) - we hadn't told yet

The first time, I told before I wanted to because my male boss was an asshole and badgered me until I admitted I was pregnant. He had heard me vomiting one morning in the ladies room and just verbally pummeled me the second I came out of the ladies' room until I admitted it. He then went on to be a total asshole about my pregnancy to the point where his female boss reprimanded him, then reported him to HR. I would have never known, I don't think, what an asshole he was if I had not been pregnant while working with him -- he hid it very well and everyone was shocked at his behavior. If he hadn't badgered me, I would have waited until I was past the first trimester. (The only other person at work who knew was my work BFF and I was very upset when I went to tell everyone after the first trimester and found out she had told everyone weeks before. She couldn't understand why I was upset -- which was a big lie on her part because if it was NBD, she would have told me she did it. It had a big impact on our relationship.)

If I could go back and do it over again, I would not tell anyone other than my husband, mom, and sisters until I began to show and could not hide it any longer. Being older and wiser and tougher now, I would have told my boss to back off when he was badgering me.

#1-I told them when I was about 8 weeks. I had been with the company for a long time & was friends with my bosses. My direct supervisor was male & the department head was female.

#2-I was with a different company & I had only been there about 8 months. I knew I would be quitting that job in a few months since we had a military PCS move coming up. I never told them I was pregnant until I gave my notice. I was 20 weeks. I was showing slightly, but not wearing maternity clothes. A few people said they suspected, but no one wanted to ask. There was really no particular reason why I didn’t tell them, I just didn’t think it was necessary.

I told him early on with first pregnancy. But only because we were having mandatory "lunch-training" every friday where the entire office participated in group business improvement type training and they would provide lunch. Their go-to for ordering lunch was pizza and the smell of it (heck, even the sight of a pizza box) had me running to the bathroom every week.

I also told him early on with the 2nd pregnancy because the first pregnancy had been so difficult with many complications (lost 1 twin at 12 weeks and the other at 17 weeks), so with the 2nd, we knew early on there would be a lot more dr appts.

Pam

I told earlier than I would have as I worked in a preschool and one of the kids (in a different room) had German measles

Canadians actually receive up to 50 weeks of paid maternity/parental leave benefits.