samantha25
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Post by samantha25 on Sept 2, 2019 1:46:39 GMT
I'm not comfortable with my 10 YO participating in a sleep over. What's your age that is safe/reasonable?
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Post by monklady123 on Sept 2, 2019 2:11:41 GMT
Well... my dd slept over at her best friend's when she was 8 or so....
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Post by busy on Sept 2, 2019 2:14:20 GMT
My son has been having sleepovers with good friends since he was about 8. Ten seems plenty old to me.
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Post by julie5 on Sept 2, 2019 2:14:20 GMT
None. My kids were never interested and I’ve never been interested either.
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Post by mustlovecats on Sept 2, 2019 2:17:10 GMT
We started sleepovers around 7-8 but we currently aren’t really doing sleepovers because they are too disruptive to everyone’s well being. We do lateovers for now.
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Post by MichyM on Sept 2, 2019 2:17:28 GMT
My son was doing sleepovers at my sister's with my nephew (11 months older) at age 4, with his 2 preschool best friends at maybe just turned 5. As far as slumber type parties with several kids... I think maybe 7.
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Post by MichyM on Sept 2, 2019 2:19:39 GMT
I should add, that these were always families we knew pretty well, socialized with, had over for parties and the like. Not some random kid from gymnastics house.
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Post by freecharlie on Sept 2, 2019 2:24:04 GMT
2nd gradeish so around 7ish.
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Post by pierkiss on Sept 2, 2019 2:36:32 GMT
We did my daughter’s first sleepover in 2nd grade, around age 7 I think. And then we took a break from them for about 6 months because it was ridiculous. She has been to several at various friends houses. This coming weekend we will have 3 over for another sleepover for my daughter’s 10th bday party. All the girls are 10, and have been having sleepovers at each other’s houses for several years now.
I will add that me and the other moms are very close. So I tend not to worry so much when my kid is over at one of their houses.
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Post by maryland on Sept 2, 2019 2:41:08 GMT
My daughters started going to/having sleepovers around age 8. They had a lot of fun! Sometimes just with one friend, but sleepover parties as well. They never sleep well at friends houses, because they are used to sleeping with a fan for white noise. My girls had no medical issues or allergies, so no big worries for us when they were away from home.
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Post by kelly8875 on Sept 2, 2019 2:44:04 GMT
I think my kids were both in 1st grade or so. They loved them. They’d go to friends or friends would come over. We knew the parents well, and never felt uncomfortable.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Sept 2, 2019 2:47:52 GMT
I don't think it is so much an age thing as a know how your kid will respond to being away from you, and most importantly knowing the family you are sending your kid to.
My younger kids (under 10) haven't been on a sleep over, and I'm fine with that. I do not feel comfortable with their friends families to send over my kid.
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Post by seaexplore on Sept 2, 2019 2:55:08 GMT
I’m not a fan of sleep overs. I value my sleep too much!
There is ONE family friend I would consider my kid going over night. All family (cousins) is fine.
That said, my kids (8 and 3) have never slept over anywhere other than here and we’ve never had anyone but cousins here,
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Post by smcast on Sept 2, 2019 2:55:27 GMT
Since kindergarten.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2019 3:10:56 GMT
I'm not comfortable with my 10 YO participating in a sleep over. What's your age that is safe/reasonable?
When I was growing up sleep over ages were about 7-11. Ages where staying up later was fun; but we really weren't able to attempt to stay awake all night. I grew up in a really small farming community were my parents knew every one. My kids sleep over years were 9- 11 or 12. Then it just sort of faded out. I didn't want to encourage it past that age as then kids are able to stay up all night and I felt like an adult needed to be awake with an ear out for what they were up to. By the teen years there seemed to be attempts to leave the house for excitement instead of playing games at home. So, I'd say it is either now or never. But if you feel like you don't know their friends families too well I don't see anything wrong with "never" |
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Post by Linda on Sept 2, 2019 3:37:55 GMT
my oldest never did sleepovers - he did do sleepaway camp starting at 12 and Boy Scout camping wknds starting at 14.
D19 - she occasionally had a friend sleepover as a middle schooler but that was 1 of 2 Girl Scout friends (also leader's daughters) and more of a convenience thing for their mum (aka they needed someone to watch the kid overnight) than a sleepover per se. Sleeping over at a friend's house - I think she was 16/17. But she did Girl Scout camping weekends starting at 6 and sleepaway camp starting at 11.
DD12 - she has slept over exactly once - it was a GS friend's birthay party and mum is a coworker of DH's (we've known the family since before she was born). She's never had a friend sleep over here and I don't see that changing. She's done Girl Scout camping weekends since she was 5 and sleepaway camp since she was 9.
I run lock-ins every other month for middle/high school girls - that's plenty of overnight supervision and lack of sleep for me - I don't esp. care to have other people's kids sleeping over at my house....we don't have space really anyway.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Sept 2, 2019 3:41:28 GMT
My DD9 has never slept at a friend’s house and the only kids who have slept at our house are her cousins and even that didn’t go over too well. One of her friends invited her to stay over last spring but we had a bunch of other stuff going on and the timing wasn’t good. Also, this particular family has a bunch of much older kids that are a little rough around the edges so I wouldn’t put it past them to try to scare the living crap out of the younger kids based on previous experience.
I’m thinking this will probably be the year when she starts getting invited to more stuff like that. Since she still sleeps with her lovies and her blankie every night I don’t know if she would want to go or not.
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Post by flanz on Sept 2, 2019 3:46:04 GMT
We started sleepovers around 7-8 but we currently aren’t really doing sleepovers because they are too disruptive to everyone’s well being. We do lateovers for now. I hated them with a passion. Our kids were probably 8 or so when they went to their first sleepovers. I hated having them go and be little exhausted monsters the next day, and I hated hosting them. We didn't do it much. If I were deciding about them today, I might not let them go and I wouldn't host any. There was, and prob. still is, a lot of peer pressure around them, though. |
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Post by 950nancy on Sept 2, 2019 3:49:16 GMT
By 7 or 8.
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Post by PEAcan pie on Sept 2, 2019 3:55:41 GMT
about 8 years old son and daughter and they have them at least once or more a month.
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Post by freecharlie on Sept 2, 2019 4:01:51 GMT
I'm not comfortable with my 10 YO participating in a sleep over. What's your age that is safe/reasonable?
When I was growing up sleep over ages were about 7-11. Ages where staying up later was fun; but we really weren't able to attempt to stay awake all night. I grew up in a really small farming community were my parents knew every one. My kids sleep over years were 9- 11 or 12. Then it just sort of faded out.
I didn't want to encourage it past that age as then kids are able to stay up all night and I felt like an adult needed to be awake with an ear out for what they were up to. By the teen years there seemed to be attempts to leave the house for excitement instead of playing games at home. So, I'd say it is either now or never. But if you feel like you don't know their friends families too well I don't see anything wrong with "never" hell, just before ds's friend left for college a couple of weeks ago, he stayed here twice. The boys liked to be in the same house. Yds is 15 and during the school year we joke that we split custody with a friend of his. He is either at their house or their boy is at ours. I don't stay awake. They can stay up as late as they want and sleep in as late as they want until their parents get them. I don't worry about them sneaking out. The group of about 5 of them have stayed at each other's houses for year, at least 5 year, but probably more. |
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Post by paigepea on Sept 2, 2019 5:47:37 GMT
Older dd started around 8
Younger dd started around 7 with BFF
We were at a faith based school and grew up with most of the families so we felt comfortable with sleepovers pretty early on because we knew everyone involved.
My teenager still has sleepovers with her besties. She always gets enough sleep and makes sure her homework is done beforehand. My pre teen has trouble recovering from a sleepover so I’m selective and careful about timing / booking them for her.
The kids have SO MUCH FUN on sleepovers. Why sleeping in bed with a friend and staying up late and watching movies and eating junk food is fun I’ll never understand. Ha! They’re not my fav but I can see why the kids enjoy them.
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Post by Legacy Girl on Sept 2, 2019 5:48:23 GMT
We did several in late elementary school and middle school, and I've really never been a fan. That being said, I've also put my foot down a few times. One, when I didn't know the parents and the dad's FB profile pic had him standing behind his daughter with a huge gun (as if warning young men to stay away). Not funny in this day and age, IMHO. A few weeks ago, DD went to a sleepover with several other girls and the mom/hostess was drinking to excess throughout the night. Thankfully, her SO refused to drink because "someone needs to be sober with a house full of kids." Yeah, sorry...that's the last time she'll be sleeping over there (though I'm grateful to the SO for being responsible, for sure).
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Post by jlynnbarth on Sept 2, 2019 6:46:25 GMT
My kids started doing sleepovers at about age 4. Our best friends lived across the street and our kids were the same age. Our dd’s were best friends or ds’s were close friends and they were all only a grade apart once they started school. It would usually start as dinner together with both families, then we’d throw a Disney movie in the VCR for the kids to watch while we adults played cards or some other game. The kids would fall asleep and rather than wake them we’d let them sleep over on the living room floor. That lasted about 5 years until we moved out of state.
Once we moved the sleepovers were usually for birthday parties through middle school. In high school my ds never did sleepovers. He was too busy with sports and didn’t want to do them anymore. My dd had tons of sleepovers at our house. My dh was a sticker about us knowing the parents very well before dd could stay with a friend at their house. That’s why most of them were at our house. Other parents didn’t even care if they met us before their dd’s stayed over. We had no issues with staying up too late. They usually had sports practice or tournaments on Saturday. They were pretty disciplined about it. They knew better than to try and sneak out. My kids were rule followers thankfully.
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Post by AussieMeg on Sept 2, 2019 8:33:16 GMT
My daughter was about 4 when she went to a friend’s house for a sleepover. Her friend came for a sleepover at our house even younger. 10 is plenty old enough IMO. But if you’re not comfortable with it, then that’s all that matters.
My son was having sleepovers from about the age of 2, but that was with cousins.
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Post by darkangel090260 on Sept 2, 2019 8:33:44 GMT
We just don't do them. We do late night thing untill midnight for DD. but everyone goes home to sleep. Plus if Morgan does not sleep we all pay the next day. DD know she not allowed to stay over. So she does not ask.
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Post by gar on Sept 2, 2019 9:04:55 GMT
I purposely started my girls sleeping over with family at quite an early age and Dh ran hotels so we quite often slept in different rooms and I would put them to bed and go downstairs from about age 3 or 4. Sleepovers with school friends or family friends from when they were about 6 with close people, 8 or so with houses they weren’t so familiar with.
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Post by johnnysmom on Sept 2, 2019 11:01:54 GMT
Depends on the kid.
Ds18 has been having/attending sleepovers since about 7 or 8 until as recently as Saturday night (though they’re becoming more rare, he’s learned his bed is more comfortable). I disagree that the sleepover window ends early. He was still having them occasionally until his driving restrictions were lifted at 17 and he could be on the road after 10.
Ds9 is no where near ready. The only time he’s ever slept over anywhere was, I think once, at grandparents and ods was there too (this was years ago).
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Post by jackie on Sept 2, 2019 11:29:20 GMT
I think for me (like the majority here), age 7 or 8 was the age for beginning sleepovers. My dd, who just turned 20 still has her two besties over for sleepovers when she’s home from college. These girls are like surrogate daughters to me and I love that my house is and has been the destination for most sleepovers. Yes, it interferes with my sleep sometimes, but I can deal with that on occasion. I can’t imagine not allowing them. They were some of my favorite memories growing up and I know they’re some of my kids favorite memories as well.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 2, 2019 11:29:32 GMT
With cousins and close friends with children of the same age about 3/4 years old. With friends from school about 7, both one to one and for slumber parties for birthdays. They've regularly stayed at grandparents/my sister's house since they were babies so sleeping somewhere other than home has never really bothered them.I encouraged them to do so as I always thought there might be an emergency one day and it might prove a problem if that child had never slept anywhere apart from home. DD2 (15) still has friends over quite often to sleepover, one in particular.....she calls me her 2nd Mum and out house her second home  DD2 also goes to hers and other friends too. They've never been a problem and they're all very sensible. They don't get up to much, they only watch movies/listen to music and eat snacks and usually go to sleep at their usual time. |
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DD2 also goes to hers and other friends too. They've never been a problem and they're all very sensible. They don't get up to much, they only watch movies/listen to music and eat snacks and usually go to sleep at their usual time.