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Post by tallgirl on Oct 15, 2014 16:42:48 GMT
I am captivated by the story of Brittany Maynard, the 29 year old with terminal brain cancer who is planning her assisted suicide. If you haven't seen it yet, here is a really compelling video that tells her story. VideoJust curious to know what others think about her situation. I knew someone from my public and early high school days who died of the same cancer a few years ago. His wife chronicled his illness on Caring Bridge and from what I read, it was a terrible way to die. I can't help but think that I would do the same thing as her, and yet I wonder if I would have the courage to go through with it - or would I keep clinging to the hope that tomorrow might be better than today, until I reach the point that I'm incapacitated and my window of opportunity has slipped by, so to speak? At any rate, I think the option should be open to everyone, everywhere.
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Oct 15, 2014 16:44:42 GMT
The story breaks my heart. From what I've read, it is a terrible way to die (is there really a good way?). I think she should be afforded the option to do it on her own terms. I feel bad that she had to uproot and move in order to do so. Not everyone has that option.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2014 16:46:04 GMT
I think it is absolutely her right and should be in every state. It is sad that we give our pets more dignity than humans in dying.
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Post by redshoes on Oct 15, 2014 16:47:36 GMT
It's incredibly sad. I don't agree with her plan, but it is her life, her choice and the option is available to her.
I feel that no matter how many days we have left, we can still strive to make a difference to someone else, spend time with our family and friends, love them and let them love us.
I pray that she will change her mind and her perspective.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2014 16:52:25 GMT
It's incredibly sad. I don't agree with her plan, but it is her life, her choice and the option is available to her. I feel that no matter how many days we have left, we can still strive to make a difference to someone else, spend time with our family and friends, love them and let them love us. I pray that she will change her mind and her perspective. You really think she should suffer those horrible things that are going up happen? I don't understand this at all. There is no stopping it. It will happen and she will suffer.
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Post by liya on Oct 15, 2014 16:56:08 GMT
I saw a snippet of an interview where she said there are days she looks at her husbands face but cannot remember his name; I cried. I believe in a persons right to choose. And I agree it is unfortunate they had to move to do so.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Oct 15, 2014 16:56:26 GMT
I have read up on this and watched her video. I 100% support her. I don't think it's my place or anyone else's place to look at a dying person (who is or will be in pain during the end) and say "nope you must tuff it out and let yourself go naturally". This is her choice..how she wants to handle it. I think this girl is entitled to live her days as she wants and end it when she sees fit. I for one think she is very brave..I just can't even imagine.
On a side note: anyone know why she picked Nov 1st I haven't read why that specific date. I know her DH bday is a few days before I believe. Just curious is all.
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Post by padresfan619 on Oct 15, 2014 16:57:39 GMT
I find her strength and courage to be amazing. How terrifying it must be to go into the unknown like that. I am also so impressed with her family and their support for her decision.
I had a classmate who's mother passed away from the same cancer. It was a horrible way to die. I actually found out about this story through that classmate sharing an article on FB.
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Post by kandie on Oct 15, 2014 16:58:04 GMT
I totally support where she is coming from, despite the fact that I would suffer, I am not sure I would have the courage to end my life but being in her situation I may change my mind.
We put our cats adn dogs down when suffering...humans deserve the same.
I am in awe of her and hope her final weeks are pretty much free of symptoms and very much enjoyable
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Post by tallgirl on Oct 15, 2014 17:00:27 GMT
I have read up on this and watched her video. I 100% support her. I don't think it's my place or anyone else's place to look at a dying person (who is or will be in pain during the end) and say "nope you must tuff it out and let yourself go naturally". This is her choice..how she wants to handle it. I think this girl is entitled to live her days as she wants and end it when she sees fit. I for one think she is very brave..I just can't even imagine. On a side note: anyone know why she picked Nov 1st I haven't read why that specific date. I know her DH bday is a few days before I believe. Just curious is all. I think the only significance is her husband's birthday. She wants to make it through that, which I think is on the 26th. The only part of her plan that I disagree with is having predetermined a date. What if she wakes up on the 27th and the pain is unbearable? Or what if she makes it to November 1 and she actually feels good? I would leave it as saying - I am going to try to make it to my husband's birthday - anything after that is just a bonus.
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Post by mellowyellow on Oct 15, 2014 17:01:33 GMT
My uncle died from this when I was about 11 years old and it was awful to watch him go through that. He was in so much pain and at the end he was in a morphine induced coma until he finally passed.
If I were in her shoes.....my concern would be for my family after I was gone. Would the insurance company look at it as suicide and not pay out my life insurance policy? I am sure she has a lot of medical bills and I would not want my family left with all of that and not get the money.
I do think she should be able to handle it as she sees fit. Either way you look at it...it's just so sad. There is no upside to it.
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Post by grinningcat on Oct 15, 2014 17:02:41 GMT
She should have the right to die with dignity. Who am I (or anyone else) to demand that someone die after suffering long term illness? That is the epitome of selfishness. It really disgusts me that people are not giving the choice to die with dignity but instead are forced to die in ways that completely degrade them. No one should be made to feel guilty because other people want them around for longer. But you know what? My body, my life, my choice. Your body, your life, your choice.
I wish her well and totally agree that she needs to do what is right for her well being instead of the selfishness of other people or the state.
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Post by redshoes on Oct 15, 2014 17:05:49 GMT
It's incredibly sad. I don't agree with her plan, but it is her life, her choice and the option is available to her. I feel that no matter how many days we have left, we can still strive to make a difference to someone else, spend time with our family and friends, love them and let them love us. I pray that she will change her mind and her perspective. You really think she should suffer those horrible things that are going up happen? I don't understand this at all. There is no stopping it. It will happen and she will suffer. No I don't feel she should suffer. I disagree with suicide, which is what she is planning. I understand why she's doing it, I understand that having the meds has brought her peace and a sense of control in her situation. As a Christ-follower, I just disagree with it. I don't feel it is up to me to decide my days on this Earth.
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Post by SabrinaM on Oct 15, 2014 17:10:00 GMT
I was up late last night and saw an interview she did. I lost it when she said that she is most sad about missing out on having children. For as long as I can remember my dream has always been to be a wife and mother. My heart breaks for her knowing she will miss outon that. I consider myself a Christian. I support her right to choose when she dies.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2014 17:10:44 GMT
You really think she should suffer those horrible things that are going up happen? I don't understand this at all. There is no stopping it. It will happen and she will suffer. No I don't feel she should suffer. I disagree with suicide, which is what she is planning. I understand why she's doing it, I understand that having the meds has brought her peace and a sense of control in her situation. As a Christ-follower, I just disagree with it. I don't feel it is up to me to decide my days on this Earth. Thank goodness my God doesn't agree. I could never believe in a god with such little compassion. Ever.
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Post by papersilly on Oct 15, 2014 17:10:45 GMT
I'm glad she is doing it on her terms. she owns the illness, the illness won't own her. good for her and for Oregon for having those laws.
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Post by grinningcat on Oct 15, 2014 17:10:54 GMT
You really think she should suffer those horrible things that are going up happen? I don't understand this at all. There is no stopping it. It will happen and she will suffer. No I don't feel she should suffer. I disagree with suicide, which is what she is planning. I understand why she's doing it, I understand that having the meds has brought her peace and a sense of control in her situation. As a Christ-follower, I just disagree with it. I don't feel it is up to me to decide my days on this Earth. I don't know how to phrase this properly, so I will probably piss someone off but my question is "how can you foist your beliefs on someone else and expect them to do what your religion tells you is "right""? I don't really know how to say it but that's all I get from your post that you expect everyone to be the same as you and that you pray she "sees the light" and comes to your side. As I said, I probably pissed someone off by even asking this.
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Post by peasquared on Oct 15, 2014 17:15:49 GMT
I am in total agreement with her decision. And it is her decision to make, in my opinion. November 1st is All Saint's Day, maybe that figured in to it?
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Post by redshoes on Oct 15, 2014 17:20:19 GMT
No I don't feel she should suffer. I disagree with suicide, which is what she is planning. I understand why she's doing it, I understand that having the meds has brought her peace and a sense of control in her situation. As a Christ-follower, I just disagree with it. I don't feel it is up to me to decide my days on this Earth. I don't know how to phrase this properly, so I will probably piss someone off but my question is "how can you foist your beliefs on someone else and expect them to do what your religion tells you is "right""? I don't really know how to say it but that's all I get from your post that you expect everyone to be the same as you and that you pray she "sees the light" and comes to your side. As I said, I probably pissed someone off by even asking this. I don't expect everyone to be the same as me...I fully understand that everyone has different opinions and foundations for their life. I was simply explaining the basis for why I disagreed with her.
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Post by melanell on Oct 15, 2014 17:21:42 GMT
I have read up on this and watched her video. I 100% support her. I don't think it's my place or anyone else's place to look at a dying person (who is or will be in pain during the end) and say "nope you must tuff it out and let yourself go naturally". This is her choice..how she wants to handle it. I think this girl is entitled to live her days as she wants and end it when she sees fit. I for one think she is very brave..I just can't even imagine. On a side note: anyone know why she picked Nov 1st I haven't read why that specific date. I know her DH bday is a few days before I believe. Just curious is all. I think the only significance is her husband's birthday. She wants to make it through that, which I think is on the 26th. The only part of her plan that I disagree with is having predetermined a date. What if she wakes up on the 27th and the pain is unbearable? Or what if she makes it to November 1 and she actually feels good? I would leave it as saying - I am going to try to make it to my husband's birthday - anything after that is just a bonus. I don't know, but I wonder, if she chose a date to try to make it easier for her family and loved ones. They wouldn't be faced with the dread of worrying all day every day if this would be the last day. Afraid to leave home, afraid to answer the phone, etc. By saying Nov. 1st she can let them all plan in their own way how to come to grips with this the best that anyone ever could. They know they have this many days to cram in as much time being with her as possible. I imagine that she chose a date she felt would fall before the very worst of the suffering began. That way no one would have to see her go through that and no one would have to fear that she might decide to take the medication early due to increased suffering. I'm guessing that she she has chosen to trade a small amount of additional time for the promise that the time left will be the best quality time she can hope for. My heart goes out to her and to all of her family and friends.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 15, 2014 17:27:22 GMT
I think everyone should have the right to make this decision for themselves. I can't say I, personally, would make the same decision but I think it definitely is a courageous one.
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Post by grinningcat on Oct 15, 2014 17:32:31 GMT
I don't know how to phrase this properly, so I will probably piss someone off but my question is "how can you foist your beliefs on someone else and expect them to do what your religion tells you is "right""? I don't really know how to say it but that's all I get from your post that you expect everyone to be the same as you and that you pray she "sees the light" and comes to your side. As I said, I probably pissed someone off by even asking this. I don't expect everyone to be the same as me...I fully understand that everyone has different opinions and foundations for their life. I was simply explaining the basis for why I disagreed with her. I see. That was not how I was interpreting it. My apologies for thinking so.
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Post by pierkiss on Oct 15, 2014 17:41:30 GMT
I think it is her decision, and she should be able to make it. She is of sound mind, and she knows what the future has in store for her. I would not hold it against anyone for choosing to exit on their own terms in this situation.
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Post by happymomma on Oct 15, 2014 17:41:51 GMT
I'm behind her 100%.
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Post by tallgirl on Oct 15, 2014 17:45:29 GMT
I think the only significance is her husband's birthday. She wants to make it through that, which I think is on the 26th. The only part of her plan that I disagree with is having predetermined a date. What if she wakes up on the 27th and the pain is unbearable? Or what if she makes it to November 1 and she actually feels good? I would leave it as saying - I am going to try to make it to my husband's birthday - anything after that is just a bonus. I don't know, but I wonder, if she chose a date to try to make it easier for her family and loved ones. They wouldn't be faced with the dread of worrying all day every day if this would be the last day. Afraid to leave home, afraid to answer the phone, etc. By saying Nov. 1st she can let them all plan in their own way how to come to grips with this the best that anyone ever could. They know they have this many days to cram in as much time being with her as possible. I imagine that she chose a date she felt would fall before the very worst of the suffering began. That way no one would have to see her go through that and no one would have to fear that she might decide to take the medication early due to increased suffering. I'm guessing that she she has chosen to trade a small amount of additional time for the promise that the time left will be the best quality time she can hope for. My heart goes out to her and to all of her family and friends. That's an interesting perspective. I hadn't thought of it that way. Thanks.
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Post by MsKnit on Oct 15, 2014 17:54:36 GMT
I support her decision 100%. She is putting a face and story to this issue. It's been long overdue. Hopefully, more will come forward with their stories. This is needed so that other states will follow Oregon's footsteps.
People should have the option to die with dignity.
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Oct 15, 2014 18:03:22 GMT
I'm not sure how I feel. I support her decision to choose, but I think I would have a hard time selecting a particular day and letting the world know and question my decision.
I find the discussion of why that day was chosen to be interesting. Sometime before the pain is unbearable, but not hitting on any major events. Far enough from Thanksgiving and Christmas so that those holidays aren't forever associated with her death. All Saints Day seems like an appropriate day. Or maybe she loves Halloween.
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Post by monicad on Oct 15, 2014 18:46:37 GMT
I think it is absolutely her right and should be in every state. It is sad that we give our pets more dignity than humans in dying. I just used her story as an assignment in my communications class. I also agree that the Death with Dignity Act should be an option for terminally ill adult patients in every state.
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Post by monicad on Oct 15, 2014 18:49:00 GMT
You really think she should suffer those horrible things that are going up happen? I don't understand this at all. There is no stopping it. It will happen and she will suffer. No I don't feel she should suffer. I disagree with suicide, which is what she is planning. I understand why she's doing it, I understand that having the meds has brought her peace and a sense of control in her situation. As a Christ-follower, I just disagree with it. I don't feel it is up to me to decide my days on this Earth. If this were legal, you certainly have the right not to choose that option.
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Post by naby64 on Oct 15, 2014 19:00:38 GMT
I support her decision to do this. I am not really sure what I would do. I know my dad died of cancer and it had reached his brain in the last few months. He was in tremendous pain. I would have done anything to help his escape that. I am also a Christian. I guess I would have to deal with the outcome once I made it to Heaven on whether I was right or wrong in helping him.
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