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Post by roundtwo on Oct 31, 2019 2:23:49 GMT
Well done! Enjoy the celebration and the wine and really, really enjoy that weight being gone!
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desertgirl
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Post by desertgirl on Oct 31, 2019 2:31:10 GMT
Hot diggity dog, you rock star! Yay!!!
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Post by kelly316 on Oct 31, 2019 2:37:42 GMT
Today was my DS, my baby, 18th birthday. And my ex-husband called me to talk about the ending of the child support. He wanted to discuss the past and I wasn't having it and he said that he could tell I seemed different. That I wasn't being nice. Truth, I have been holding my shit together with him for a very long time. When DS tried to kill himself and my ex couldn't be bothered that was the nail in the coffin as far as my ability to act with decorum. I've really tried to be pleasant. I have. But today he pushed my buttons just so far. I couldn't take it anymore. And now that DS is 18, I don't have to. I told him I am not his friend and I never will be. I said you were a terrible husband and a terrible father and you need to own it. And then I hung up. And then I cried a bit. And then I celebrated with my kids. And now I'm and unheard of three glasses of wine buzzed. And I'm horrified that I got so ugly. But deep down, I feel like a 100 lb weight has been lifted off my chest. I told him and I got the last word. And I never, ever have to talk to him again. I owe him nothing. But I just shocked the hell out of myself. I’m crying a little bit for you! You deserve this! Sadly, I am counting the days (literally have a countdown on my phone) until DS 18th bday. It’s so sad that I have to wish his childhood away so we can try to find a new normal. Happy Day to you!
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Post by smcast on Oct 31, 2019 2:38:17 GMT
Cheers! I bet that felt great.👍🥂
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Post by kernriver on Oct 31, 2019 2:49:02 GMT
He called you on the exact birthday of your child to discuss child support? What a dick. Stay strong.
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Post by MalleyCat on Oct 31, 2019 3:07:37 GMT
Sounds like the EX needed to hear that! Who calls on their son’s 18th birthday to discuss ending child support. He sounds like a dick!😡
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Post by LisaDV on Oct 31, 2019 3:15:46 GMT
1. Happy Birthday to your son! 2. Way to GO!!! You Rock!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2019 3:20:50 GMT
Good for you! So glad your tongue is no longer held hostage by his support payments.
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Post by scrapmaven on Oct 31, 2019 4:25:37 GMT
You are a rockstar. Good riddance to bad rubbish. It is very healing and empowering isn't it? Be proud of yourself for being in charge of your life.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Oct 31, 2019 6:36:10 GMT
Speaking your mind after years of keeping it in for peace is empowering but shocking. We women have been conditioned to be “nice “. It can be a little scary to let our true feelings out. Good for you.
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Post by joelise on Oct 31, 2019 10:18:54 GMT
Good for you
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Post by jennyap on Oct 31, 2019 10:20:46 GMT
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Post by christine58 on Oct 31, 2019 10:33:55 GMT
You know what??? I think this is GREAT!! AND it might be a HUGE stepping stone to better MH for you too!!
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cakediva
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Post by cakediva on Oct 31, 2019 11:41:50 GMT
Good for you!
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Post by wellway on Oct 31, 2019 11:46:24 GMT
It needed to be said, it needed to be heard.
Good for you. Life will lighter now.
Tell me he actually wished your ds a happy birthday before discussing child support.
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Post by iluvpink on Oct 31, 2019 11:57:06 GMT
I say good for you!
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Post by Skellinton on Oct 31, 2019 12:22:40 GMT
Good for you!!! Your ex is a piece of work. I am glad you had a nice celebration with your son.
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Post by pjynx on Oct 31, 2019 13:02:45 GMT
Good for you! I'll bet that felt great Pam
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Post by leannec on Oct 31, 2019 13:28:03 GMT
Good for you ... some men are POS's You are a strong woman ... I admire you
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2019 13:34:58 GMT
You go girl! So proud of you!
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Post by teddyw on Oct 31, 2019 13:52:02 GMT
Good for you! You deserve the wine.
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Post by mikklynn on Oct 31, 2019 14:22:15 GMT
That was a great move for yourself! I'm singing Alice Cooper's No More Mr Nice Guy over here for you.
Seriously, you should have no regrets. It needed to be said. You are a rock star mama and human being.
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Post by tyra on Oct 31, 2019 14:40:26 GMT
YES! I am SO proud of you!!!!!! Even more reason to celebrate your DSs 18th birthday, to really be done with your ExH.
That had to feel sooooooo good!
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 31, 2019 15:35:57 GMT
Thank you for all the support. He attempted to both call me and text me after I hung up on him. But I didn't answer. And I'm not going to. I took a nice bath and went to bed early.
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Post by katyscrap on Oct 31, 2019 15:55:38 GMT
Good for you!!! I'm glad you were able to let the past go and celebrate the future.
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Oct 31, 2019 16:29:31 GMT
Nice!
You were so supportive when I was frustrated about my ex BSing me on the last measly $286 of child support last month lol I'm glad you're treating yourself well! You deserve it!
I'm so happy for you!!
In the final convo with my ex I told him I have not patience for liars or thieves, especially the kind that I no longer legally have to deal with.
I did something similar, in that the last 3 times he's messaged me about our son (which usually would be a years worth of his interest) and also asked how I am, I've waited exactly 5 hours and responded, "Sorry, busy! But DS's phone number is XXXXX maybe he'll respond." The chances of my kid responding with more than 2 words to his dad (of his own doing) is about one in 20 lol
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2019 16:35:21 GMT
I validate how hard it is to be in generosity all the time. You done good. I hope he heard your words and they caused him to rethink his life and his actions.
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marianne
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Post by marianne on Oct 31, 2019 16:37:51 GMT
And that, my dear, is how it's done! Way to go, it was long overdue! ♫♪ You are strong, you are invincible... you are woman!! ♫♪
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Post by grate on Oct 31, 2019 16:39:03 GMT
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Post by dewryce on Oct 31, 2019 19:53:53 GMT
That is awesome, so happy for you!!!
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