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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 30, 2019 23:46:41 GMT
Today was my DS, my baby, 18th birthday. And my ex-husband called me to talk about the ending of the child support. He wanted to discuss the past and I wasn't having it and he said that he could tell I seemed different. That I wasn't being nice. Truth, I have been holding my shit together with him for a very long time. When DS tried to kill himself and my ex couldn't be bothered that was the nail in the coffin as far as my ability to act with decorum. I've really tried to be pleasant. I have.
But today he pushed my buttons just so far. I couldn't take it anymore. And now that DS is 18, I don't have to. I told him I am not his friend and I never will be. I said you were a terrible husband and a terrible father and you need to own it. And then I hung up.
And then I cried a bit. And then I celebrated with my kids. And now I'm and unheard of three glasses of wine buzzed. And I'm horrified that I got so ugly. But deep down, I feel like a 100 lb weight has been lifted off my chest. I told him and I got the last word. And I never, ever have to talk to him again. I owe him nothing.
But I just shocked the hell out of myself.
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Post by Horse scrap on Oct 30, 2019 23:48:40 GMT
You go girl!!!!!!! Proud of you for holding it in that long!!!!!
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Post by AussieMeg on Oct 30, 2019 23:48:54 GMT
Woohoo, good for you!!  I can only imagine how good that must have felt, to get that off your chest. |
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Post by gar on Oct 30, 2019 23:52:58 GMT
That must have been incredibly satisfying! Go you!!
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Post by quinlove on Oct 30, 2019 23:53:05 GMT
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Post by RosieKat on Oct 30, 2019 23:55:46 GMT
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Oct 31, 2019 0:04:14 GMT
I'm so proud of you! 👍😁
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Post by alexa11 on Oct 31, 2019 0:08:34 GMT
Sometimes you just have to unload. Good Job!
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Oct 31, 2019 0:09:53 GMT
 And then I celebrated with my kids. You have done well! |
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Post by rickmer on Oct 31, 2019 0:29:27 GMT
And I'm horrified that I got so ugly. nope, don't be horrified at all. be proud you kept it together all those years when he was being a selfish ass. they reap what they sow, jeremysgirl and only *he* will have to deal with the fallout from his choices. good for you - and enjoy the buzz!! |
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Post by Jili on Oct 31, 2019 0:34:21 GMT
I’m glad for you. Drink up— you deserve it!
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Post by pierkiss on Oct 31, 2019 0:36:10 GMT
Yes girl!!!!! Good for you for standing up for yourself and speaking your truth about your marriage to him!! I am proud of you!
I am also proud of you for keeping it in while your youngest was still a child.
But yep. You’ve raised those kids to adulthood and now you are officially done with your ex husband. Definitely time to celebrate!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2019 0:48:16 GMT
Girl you rock!!!!
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Post by seaexplore on Oct 31, 2019 0:49:21 GMT
YES! So proud of you! Way to go! No more need to play nice. I'm so glad you went off on him.
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Post by mom on Oct 31, 2019 0:51:42 GMT
I am so proud of you!!
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Oct 31, 2019 1:04:43 GMT
That declaration of freedom from him for once and all seems to be just what you needed. Good for you. You served your "sentence" -- time to put a period on it.
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 31, 2019 1:12:45 GMT
Perfect timing. Since you waited, there won't really be consequences. Have another drink and smile.
I wouldn't be horrified. He needed to hear what you were saying and if you had been nice, well, he wouldn't have heard it. Wonder what is going through his head tonight.
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Post by purplebee on Oct 31, 2019 1:13:11 GMT
Congratulations on having the strength to hold it in all these years - not sure I could have. You have every right to tell him the truth! Good for you!!
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Post by scrapngranny on Oct 31, 2019 1:13:55 GMT
I hope this is extremely freeing for you.
I guess your ex feels your DS will no longer need, food, clothing or medication, simply because he is now 18. Father of the year!
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Post by tentoes on Oct 31, 2019 1:20:28 GMT
That would have been the end of decorum for me too. You have done well to keep it together so long! ((HUGS))
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Post by laurasw on Oct 31, 2019 1:20:54 GMT
Good.For.You!!!!
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Post by scrappintoee on Oct 31, 2019 1:23:00 GMT
To use a very antiquated expression: you GO, girrrrrl !!!!!!!!!!!  You are an awesome mother that has experienced many heartbreaking, extremely stressful times! You MORE THAN deserve to ENJOY that wine and that buzz !!!!!!This adora-bull critter is toasting you!  (not my photo)  |
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Post by bc2ca on Oct 31, 2019 1:25:12 GMT
You have done right by your kids every step of the way. I'm glad you had a chance to tell him he hasn't.  |
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Post by scrappintoee on Oct 31, 2019 1:28:26 GMT
Good for you! Now give me his address and we'll go TP his house, too! Yassssss, Queen !!!!!! |
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Post by peasapie on Oct 31, 2019 1:29:36 GMT
I know that feeling!!! Congrats to you!
Hope your ex steps up and starts acting like a parent or he will soon find his kids have no use for him.
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Post by PolarGreen12 on Oct 31, 2019 1:32:21 GMT
Yaaaaassssss Quueeeeeeen!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2019 2:17:15 GMT
Ditto ^^^^
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Post by Sanibel on Oct 31, 2019 2:21:49 GMT
That immense pressure has been lifted! Sleep well tonight. :-)
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Post by MaryMary on Oct 31, 2019 2:23:38 GMT
Good for you. Don’t feel bad. You didn’t say anything that wasn’t true.
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Post by StephDRebel on Oct 31, 2019 2:23:40 GMT
I hope you feel like wonder woman after standing up for yourself. That is a power move, very impressive.
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I can only imagine how good that must have felt, to get that off your chest. 
