How much freakin' longer before I can just be done with ex?

I am very sorry for what you've been out througb, and I hope the IRS issue gets straightened out.

I say this with only kindness, but you're not doing yourself any favors by having access to his financial records and emails. Particularly a year after the divorce. Tell him to change his passwords if you can't stop yourself from looking at the info. That way after the tax return problem is resolved, you'll truly be done with him.

100 times ^^that^^

You don't want to be done with him. A year later and you are apparently still reading his emails, looking at his credit card statements etc. If you really wanted free and clear of him you would of blocked those emails from coming to your phone or removed the app all together.

It's normal a year down the road I think to be tying up some loose ends like old taxes. But you know WAY to much about his personal life at this point and from what you said you are the one keeping yourself informed.

Understand that on a joint return, there legally is no HIS portion and MY portion.

You are each jointly and severally liable, meaning if they can't get anything from him, you will have to pay it all.

Get help with this.

I responded below, but first, I wanted to post your OP with indented paragraphs:  


I swear. Every time I think I am finally free and done with him, something pops up.
We divorced after a 37 year marriage. He has a number of medical issues, including Parkinsons....but his medical issues were not the reason for the divorce.
His stupidity was....and his feeling that he had the right to have everything catered to him because he was "disabled"....with no regard to my sacrifices or needs.


The final straw was when he felt he was perfectly within his rights to have "friends" come to the house while I was at work to "entertain" him because he was bored.
Like I wasn't going to question where $400.00 a week was disappearing to? and why he was getting Viagra prescriptions? lol....stupid....


Anyways....we have been divorced for a year now. He married one of the "entertainers" over summer.
He is 65 (looks much older) and confined to a wheelchair. He is on so many drugs he can barely talk and make sense. She is 27 years old, undocumented from Honduras, has two young children, and works as a stripper.


She must be very desperate.....They have not yet moved in together because his lease on his greatly overpriced ($2000.00/mo) one bedroom apartment in a seniors only complex was not up till now.
They arranged to rent a mighty fine house starting next week....so he did not renew his lease...and now they cannot come up with the first months rent and deposit. Poor things....I have no idea where he will be living next week.


I know this because the stupid man never changed the password on his email account and I still get his emails streamed on my phone app. He didn't change passwords on anything...so stupid! I can still log into all of his credit card accounts online if I want. (They are all maxed out...)


He does not pay for any of our daughters expenses while she is in college. He says he doesn't have enough money to contribute. I handle all of her insurance, rent, car expenses, food....everything. She is working two part time jobs while taking a full course load so she can help with the rent at least. We are so fortunate that she now qualifies for grants and scholarships that have covered her tuition completely since the divorce.


I thought I was finally done with him.
But no.
Last night he calls me to tell me that he received a letter from the IRS regarding our 2017 tax return.
They think there is unreported income and that we owe nearly $4800.00 by Nov. 28th.
Of course, he is unable to handle it so he is dumping it on me.
I do not have any of the paperwork nor a copy of the letter.


He couldn't figure out how to scan it to me.....but he had someone do that for him today.
I still need to go meet him now and get all the paperwork and medical receipts and everything else he used to compile the tax return so that I can have a professional redo it and figure out exactly what went wrong.....before the 28th.
Which means I will have to take off some time from work....
What a mess this is going to be.


And I know he can't afford to pay 50% of the amount they say we owe if we do, indeed, owe it.
I can scrape together my half but it will drain my savings. I don't know where or how he will come up with his portion. I suppose it will benefit me to try and scrape his half up as well and get him to agree that the repayment will come out of the next quarterly payment I owe him for his part of the house and assets that I kept and am obligated to pay him for.
I just want to be done with him once and for all. I keep hoping his new, young, sexy wife will just straight up f*** him to death one night.....

(THAT actually made me giggle !!!)

------------------------------------------------------I am truly sorry for ALL that you have been / are going through !!!
I am NOT doing this to be rude, but I copied and indented your paragraphs to make
your post easier to read.


I hope all of this gets straightened out, and that your stress levels go WAY down!
I feel bad for your daughter, working 2 jobs, and that you might have to drain your savings
account!!! (( Hugs !!)))

Stop looking at his emails and credit card account.

You're divorced. It doesn't matter who or how old is girlfriend is, what nationality she is, or where he is living.

Unfortunately, when it comes to jointly filed tax returns there is no his and hers portion. Contact your lawyer first thing Monday morning to give you guidance on how to proceed.