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Post by Nanner on Nov 30, 2019 5:36:55 GMT
Do you think a 22 year old woman is too young for a 29 year old man to date? I know that at some point ages don't matter, but do you think it does at these ages?
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Post by ~summer~ on Nov 30, 2019 5:37:36 GMT
no
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Post by crazy4scraps on Nov 30, 2019 5:44:47 GMT
Not really. I think it depends on the individuals involved. Once people are over 21 and both legal adults, it matters a lot less.
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Post by mrssmith on Nov 30, 2019 5:50:39 GMT
I think it would depend more on personality like is it a more naive 22 year-old fresh out of college and a more experienced 29 who might take advantage of that.
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Post by lucyg on Nov 30, 2019 5:50:40 GMT
If you’re the parents of the 22yo woman, than yeah, 29 might feel too old. Otherwise, no.  |
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Post by Nanner on Nov 30, 2019 6:02:41 GMT
I'm the parent of the 29 year old man, lol.
Thanks for the responses. I don't think it's too much of an age difference, but I was wondering what others thought.
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Post by MaryMary on Nov 30, 2019 6:16:58 GMT
If it was my 22 year old, maybe. But, really... it’s not that big a deal.
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Post by snyder on Nov 30, 2019 6:21:47 GMT
Or the other way around. My brother was 21, last year of college when he announced his engagement to a 28 year old woman. My parents about died. They just knew she would cause him to not finish school, yada, yada, yada. They married and she worked while he did finish school. Had 2 wonderful children and he was married to her until she passed away. So it really does depend on the people in general, maturity is a biggie. |
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Post by sunnyd on Nov 30, 2019 6:57:25 GMT
Not at all! Those were our ages when dh & I got married. I've teased him at times about a generation gap because he references different movies, music, etc. from his childhood than mine. But the 7 year age difference has been perfect for us for the past 29 years. |
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Post by roberta on Nov 30, 2019 7:07:18 GMT
No problem unless the 22 yo is immature.
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Post by betty on Nov 30, 2019 7:07:22 GMT
I think it is fine. Two people in their twenties.
Dh is almost 8 yrs older than I am. We've been married 20 yrs. My sister and her husband had a 25 yr age difference but it worked for them.
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Post by malibou on Nov 30, 2019 7:56:04 GMT
I see no issue.
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Post by nlwilkins on Nov 30, 2019 8:51:37 GMT
I was 19 and hubby 28 when we got married and I was a very young, naive 19. In February we will have our 50th anniversary. So it worked out just fine!
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Post by joelise on Nov 30, 2019 8:55:25 GMT
I don’t think there is any problem with that age difference.
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Post by mustlovecats on Nov 30, 2019 9:42:00 GMT
There might be some life experience differences if he’s been out of college for 6-7 years and she is just finishing undergrad, otherwise no this doesn’t seem undue at all to me.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Nov 30, 2019 10:03:18 GMT
I think that is for them to find out. Everybody is different. For some it will work and others it won't. As the parent of either of them, your job is to support them while they learn to be together, and to help them pick up the pieces if it doesn't work.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Nov 30, 2019 11:55:04 GMT
That wouldn't cause me to raise an eyebrow given that the younger person is fully adult age.
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Post by AussieMeg on Nov 30, 2019 11:55:39 GMT
If you’re the parents of the 22yo woman, than yeah, 29 might feel too old. As the mother of a just-turned-22-today daughter..... it does seem a little old to me. But probably because I'm used to her dating boys her own age. A friend of mine was 19 when she started dating her husband, who was 29. She says that she thought it was pretty cool to be dating a man 10 years older when she was 19. Now that she is late 40s and he is nearly 60 - not so much!  |
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Post by KelleeM on Nov 30, 2019 12:01:07 GMT
I don’t think it is. After 21 I don’t think 8-10 years older is a huge deal, depending on the people. My dd is 29 and if she had a 22 year old boyfriend I may give it a second thought I’d keep it to myself. People mature differently, especially men and women, I think.
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Nov 30, 2019 12:08:48 GMT
DH is 10 years older than me. We met and started dating when I was 19 and he was 29. We have been together almost 24 years and married 18.5 years.
I think maturity has a lot to do with it. Let's face it, not all 19 year olds are the same. Heck not all 29 year olds are the same. My only thing if I had to do it over again, is I would live on my own first. I moved straight from my mom's house to dh's house. I was going to school local, so no living away.
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Post by KikiPea on Nov 30, 2019 12:32:54 GMT
No. That wouldn’t even pop up on my radar.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Nov 30, 2019 14:04:16 GMT
DH is 10 years older than me. We met and started dating when I was 19 and he was 29. We have been together almost 24 years and married 18.5 years.
I think maturity has a lot to do with it. Let's face it, not all 19 year olds are the same. Heck not all 29 year olds are the same. My only thing if I had to do it over again, is I would live on my own first. I moved straight from my mom's house to dh's house. I was going to school local, so no living away.
I agree with this completely. We have a friend whose divorced 45yo brother met a 19 year old girl and ended up marrying her a year or two later. We all thought that was nuts for both of them, but they’ve been married now for probably 15 years and so far so good. She seemed really mature for her age and he was pretty immature for his, so I guess it all evened out, LOL. I had another friend who married a guy who was 25 years older than she was, and it didn’t work out long term. She was 20 when they met and he was 45. He already had a 10yo daughter when they married and by the time my friend was ready to have kids he was starting to think about retiring and the DD was in her late teens. They ended up getting divorced and she ended up marrying a much younger guy. |
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Post by lisacharlotte on Nov 30, 2019 14:18:32 GMT
Normal age difference to me. DH and I are 7 years apart. I was 25 and he was 32 when we married. Been married 29 years. At 22 I was out exploring the world and wouldn’t have been ready for settling down at all. But I was definitely dating. I always preferred older guys. Guys my age always seemed like boys, not men.
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Post by carhoch on Nov 30, 2019 14:32:08 GMT
I started dating my future husband when I was 18 and he was 25 ,we are married for 33 years  |
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Post by ashley on Nov 30, 2019 14:48:21 GMT
No, that seems fine to me.
When I hear about men in their 40s dating women in their early 20s, I do judge.
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Post by grammadee on Nov 30, 2019 14:52:34 GMT
My brother married a woman ten years younger than he was and they were happy together for 25 years until he passed away. She had just finished university when they were married. The same with my sister in law whose dh was ten years older than she was. They actually were married before she was 20.
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Post by grammadee on Nov 30, 2019 14:53:28 GMT
No, that seems fine to me. When I hear about men in their 40s dating women in their early 20s, I do judge. My dad was 25 years older than my mom. |
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Post by paigepea on Nov 30, 2019 14:59:51 GMT
No.
I think if I was still in my early 20s I’d think there was something odd about it but now that I’m older and have perspective I don’t think there is anything wrong with it. 7 years difference is no big deal.
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Post by alexa11 on Nov 30, 2019 15:04:52 GMT
I think it's fine.
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Post by kate on Nov 30, 2019 15:40:46 GMT
It depends more on "life stage" than age, I think. Also, dating is different from marrying. A 22-yr-old who's still in college might find her "adulting" bf to be exotic and cool, but her attitude about what she wants might change drastically over the next couple of years. That's no big deal for dating.
I was 24 when I met my DH who is more than 10 years older than me. We were living similar lifestyles, though - no kids, freelance musicians, etc.
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