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Post by cindyupnorth on Nov 30, 2019 15:43:49 GMT
Honestly. I have a 22 yr old dd. If she was dating an man that much older I would be leary, but I would have to meet him and see them together. It would give me pause though. So if a mom is expressing some reserves towards her dd dating a man that much older I would not judge her.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 30, 2019 15:46:28 GMT
I've mentioned many, many times that my husband is 16 years younger than me so, no I don't think it's odd or an issue.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 30, 2019 15:52:59 GMT
I don't think that is much of a gap really. DH is 8 years older than I am and it's worked out fine for the last 21 years I don't notice the difference at all in our ages.
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Post by Nanner on Nov 30, 2019 16:12:00 GMT
Thanks everyone!!!
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Post by freecharlie on Nov 30, 2019 16:42:55 GMT
If it was my kids, I might raise an eyebrow/worry but not for anybody else.
And that would be in a fictional sense because an individual is different than a scenario
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Post by annie on Nov 30, 2019 18:01:57 GMT
My kid is 21 and dating a 29 year old! I'm OK with it cuz he's a very nice guy and treats her VERY well.
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Post by ~summer~ on Nov 30, 2019 18:13:04 GMT
When I was 21 I went on a couple dates with a 33 year old - I remember I thought it was odd bc my parents didn’t even care. Our first date I was still living at home bc I had just graduated. Maybe they didn’t care because he was a good looking engineer I met at the lab I was interning at? 🤷♀️
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Post by gmcwife1 on Nov 30, 2019 18:47:51 GMT
I know you’ve already gotten a lot of answers but still thought I would add mine I don’t think it’s too large of a difference in general. I wouldn’t say anything or judge, but I would be observant just like any family relationships. My ds has been with his gf for 12 yrs. She is 10+ years older than he is and came into the relationship with five kids. My ds’s oldest step son is 30, my ds is 38. My ds has no biological children of his own but helped raise his gf’s two youngest children. And he is a very involved grandpa to his 8 yr old dgs. I’m glad I didn’t judge or say anything about their relationship, her children or their age difference. I do remember being surprised about how many children she had when I first met her. I remember not knowing what to say and just blurting out that I’m one of five kids
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Post by cadoodlebug on Nov 30, 2019 19:00:01 GMT
When I was 30 I dated a 23 year-old man and we dated for 6 years. Interestingly enough, most people didn't know our ages were that far apart. So, to answer your question, no but it depends entirely on the two people in question.
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Post by chlerbie on Nov 30, 2019 19:53:04 GMT
We have an 11 year difference, but we started seeing each other when I was 31 and he was 42 and have been together for 21 years.
I wouldn't think much of that difference at that age.
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Post by Sparki on Nov 30, 2019 22:02:58 GMT
When I was 18, I married a 43 year old man. We were very happily married for 13 years until he passed away with cancer. I'm now 43 and married to a man with a slightly larger age gap than my first husband and I. We have been married five years now. So....
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Post by bc2ca on Nov 30, 2019 22:26:36 GMT
It depends more on "life stage" than age, I think. The sister of DD's friend broke up with her older, long term (2 year?) boyfriend this year because as soon as she graduated he wanted to buy a house in the suburbs and settle down. It was heartbreaking to watch, but she really wants to see where her career takes her and prioritize that for a few years and he really wants to start a family.
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