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Post by LisaDV on Dec 12, 2019 14:12:20 GMT
My family is a huge huggy and kiss on the cheek family. But the kiss was reserved for only family or those thought of like family. I moved to Switzerland for a few years, it was common practice for 1 hug and a kiss on both cheeks. However, friends from other countries (like France) you might have to kiss 4 times, alternating each kiss. My Italian friend always kissed 3 times, I think.
My DH came from a family of 4 boys on the south side of Chicago. They punched each other to show affection - their brothers, their friends... Luckily they've found women who could tolerate them and now most of the boys and most of the friends all hug. DH says I've ruined him as he is now super huggy as well.
My DS isn't a big hugger. He will allow me to hug and will occasionally give a kiss (usually on the top of my head) and will allow a kiss or two per day to be given to the top of his head or cheek. Usually he just pats my head or whoever he wants to show affection to. I'm okay with it. My nephew is also uncomfortable with shows of affection. So he gets just the hug at the beginning of a visit and the end like I'd do with a friend. Family can get hugs at any moment, just because you're there.
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Post by cannmom on Dec 12, 2019 14:43:26 GMT
Generally, no. I like most people to stay on the outside of my bubble. But I will hug and kiss DH and DD, and I will hug my closest friends and the handful of my family members that I like. With the exception of DH’s aunt and uncle, I will not hug any of my remaining in-laws. I will readily cuddle any dog that will accept it. I hug, not always completely comfortable with it. I absolutely will give loveys to any and all dogs I see, though. 😁
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Post by littlemama on Dec 12, 2019 14:54:15 GMT
I had a pretty small family growing up, but I think we hugged our grandparents and maybe kissed the grandmother who lived in the same state on the cheek. That seems weird that we would have because she was a pretty cold person overall.
I hug friends and family. I try to make it a point to kiss my mom and MIL most times we see them. Part of DH's family are mouth kissers, which was very weird to me for quite a while, but now I don't mind because they are some of my favorite people.
Even in the softball world, everybody hugs - takes us forever to arrive and leave anyplace LOL. I have one close (male) friend who I kiss on the lips. Doesn't bother DH, but damn other people have a lot to say about it. I kiss some other friends on the cheek occasionally.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 12, 2019 15:31:49 GMT
Hug. As a friend says hug them tight, the knife goes in easier. A hug is a strangle you haven’t finished yet.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 12, 2019 15:33:32 GMT
I hug family and friends but we aren’t big kissers. The only time I can remember someone doing the cheek kiss was a friend of DH's. Honestly it took me by surprise and creeped me out a little. I don’t know him very well and I wasn’t expecting it. I am pretty free with saying I love you. DH used to say it to his dad at the end of every phone call. FIL would never say it back. He would just say, "okay." Made DH crazy. One day I was talking to his dad and at the end of the call, I told him that I loved him and he said, "Love you too, babe." DH was so pissed that he would say it to me but not to him. Since our mom passed away several years ago, now my brothers all end phone calls with I Love You. I say it back but think it’s a little weird because I’m so not used to that.
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rickmer
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Post by rickmer on Dec 13, 2019 12:23:03 GMT
no, i wasn't raised to hug or kiss when seeing or leaving people.
my friend married an italian guy and i always got nervous about the double cheek kiss! lol! which side first?!
however, i have a group of mainly gay friends from my 20s/30s that we always hugged/often with a kiss on the cheek. we don't get together as nearly as often any more in our late 40s as we have scattered around the world and gotten busy with our separate lives, but yes, still always big hugs and sometimes cheek kiss.
because i am used to it - it doesn't make me feel uncomfortable at all. yet, it seems weird to hug my mom's partner of 30 years?!
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Nanner
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Post by Nanner on Dec 13, 2019 13:07:28 GMT
We all hug each other. It's just automatic, we don't even think about it.
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Post by mnmloveli on Dec 13, 2019 17:38:01 GMT
Definitely more of a hugger; not a kisser.
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Marina
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Post by Marina on Dec 13, 2019 19:17:34 GMT
Having a Mom from Italy hugs and cheek kisses or cheek on cheek kissing air is normal for me. I typically hug when seeing or departing. I have one in-law who insists on shaking hands and will only offer hugs to their kids or nieces and nephews. I did ask if there is an expiration date for that but apparently not.
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