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Post by librarylady on Dec 14, 2019 16:03:34 GMT
I've been thinking about this, because of being surprised that OP is upset.
If the grandmother had taken photos of the grands and showed them to her friends when there was an opportunity, would OP be angry? The photo card is no different, IMO. It is just a different way of sharing her family and pride with her friends and family.
No different than a social gathering where a grandparent might say, "Look at the latest photos I have of grands."
As others have said, whoever receives the card will give it a look, put it aside and move on.
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Post by myshelly on Dec 14, 2019 16:12:54 GMT
I can’t imagine going to a family gathering like that without make up on. Of course photos are going to be taken and I’m going to be in them. My family is going to be dressed and coordinated.
My parents always sent out cards with a photo of them and their grandkids, including my kids. Never thought anything odd about it.
They’re just proud of their family and want to share that. That’s not something to be mad about.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2019 16:30:06 GMT
I get that the grandparents are proud of their family and just want to show them off; however, we don’t have much to do with some relatives and I would not be happy if they received a family photo of us.
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Post by kels99 on Dec 14, 2019 18:15:08 GMT
I was thinking about this thread last night as I was looking at some old photos, including one of my grandma that I'm sure she would find very unflattering of herself. However, I just saw the amazing person she was and remembered all the wonderful things she did with us and how much she loved us and vice versa.
That said, no one else is going to be more critical than you of a picture of yourself.
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Post by pierkiss on Dec 14, 2019 18:31:38 GMT
I’m not a fan of them.
My mother in law sent one out this year from the giant vacation we all took together. I hate the way I look in it, and it’s not in focus. My father in law has this expression on his face that’s like, “yep, this is my family” and not in a good way. And we’re all in blue. And not all of her kids/grandkids could be there, so it’s incomplete. We’ve put it towards the back of the cards.
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Post by peasapie on Dec 14, 2019 18:44:10 GMT
It wouldn’t matter to me at all.
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Post by ihaveonly1l on Dec 14, 2019 18:57:00 GMT
It would be weird to be sent out by a sibling, but not weird by the parents. It seems like if it was the oldest people (the parents/grandparents) it is showcasing their family. Sent by a similar age sibling or a younger niece/nephew it would be weird. It seems like the grandparents would be sharing how proud they are of their family.
I don't think I would think it was a big deal either way.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2019 19:37:27 GMT
Seems an odd thing to get your knickers in a knot over. No one is going to give that card a second thought in a couple of weeks.
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Post by refugeepea on Dec 14, 2019 19:52:13 GMT
It wouldn't bother me.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Dec 14, 2019 21:14:02 GMT
The school districts dictates that she can not have a drink in her spare time? Having a drink is legal as far as I know. Perhaps you are merely trying to make a point, but it's pretty clear the policy is about the teacher's social media presence and not about an over-reaching ban on alcohol consumption. |
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Post by pilcas on Dec 14, 2019 21:43:19 GMT
The school districts dictates that she can not have a drink in her spare time? Having a drink is legal as far as I know. Perhaps you are merely trying to make a point, but it's pretty clear the policy is about the teacher's social media presence and not about an over-reaching ban on alcohol consumption. It’s both. What I post in my private Facebook page, which does not include any administrators, students or parents should only be my business. I have plenty of pictures of myself and friends with a glass of wine in our hands. There should be no reason to hide this as I am doing nothing illegal or wrong. |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Dec 14, 2019 22:08:18 GMT
It’s both. What I post in my private Facebook page, which does not include any administrators, students or parents should only be my business. I have plenty of pictures of myself and friends with a glass of wine in our hands. There should be no reason to hide this as I am doing nothing illegal or wrong. I was merely using our friend's request in regards to posting her photo as an example for this thread. Your argument with me is misplaced. I agree with you that what a teacher does legally in her non-work time should not be subject to demands by the school district. However, her district apparently does have a policy regarding this and she chooses to abide by the policy. |
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Post by gina on Dec 14, 2019 22:37:46 GMT
What did you think they would do with the photo? These days I assume that any given photo might show up on social media -- that's where most of us share them. This exactly. I wouldn't be mad they sent it out. My Mom gets a few cards like that where her friends (who are fellow grandparents) send out family cards with everyoneeeee on them (my mom doesn't, but she's not that into pictures). I would probably just be annoyed if I looked bad, 'cause I'm vain like that.  |
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Post by lucyg on Dec 15, 2019 5:17:23 GMT
This is not something it would ever cross my mind to get upset about.
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Post by myboysnme on Dec 15, 2019 6:19:37 GMT
 Slight hijack. Some of you may recall I've been taking a photo of my boys in front of our fireplace for our Christmas cards since they were 1 and 3. Now they are 26 and 28. This is the one I just took for this year with DGD included. Even though they are grown some friends and family tell me they look for the photo every year. Last year DS2 lived in California so we only took a photo for fun of DS1 holding his computer up with DS2 on facetime. Anyway, just chimed in because some people said they still send photos of their grown kids. I'm glad to be in good company! |
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Post by gmcwife1 on Dec 15, 2019 6:52:28 GMT
I'm not sure that I would care much if this was done in my family--I would actually be happy to see a pic of all of us together, since it hasn't happened in such a long time. Same for me  |
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Post by beaglemom on Dec 15, 2019 9:04:21 GMT
I think the biggest issue here is being asked and respecting other's answers - even if it isn't what you would like.
For years my fil would stage us and use a timer to take a family picture of all of us. We were lucky if we ever saw it. Other than really small on their photo collage thingy that they sent out. So a couple of years ago I arranged for us to get our pictures taken professionally, so we could all actually get copies of the photos. --- we asked often for the others no luck, he has been working on "editing" our wedding video for 14.5 years - nothing---
Then one of the years we didn't ask for his opinion on the outfits - he has very strong opinions on what colors are acceptable. He took the professional photo and photoshopped the outfits to be the colors he approved of.
We haven't done family pictures with them since. I am worried because my mil said that she bought all the grandkids pjs for Christmas and shirts for all of the adults to coordinate. I know she doesn't know my children's sizes and I am scared to see what she purchased for me to wear. And I know she is going to want a picture of all of us. But I don't really want a picture of me in pjs being sent out to her 100+ people, if they get around to a christmas card. Thankfully she let the pj thing slip because the company was having a sale and she wanted all of us to buy the matching pants for ourselves. So I bought the correct sizes for my kids and myself.
My parents always ask before including pictures of us in their card. Heck they even ask if we have a picture we would like them to use! My inlaws - never. It is whatever mil deems appropriate, to hell with what anyone else wants. Hopefully this year will be like last and they will never get around to getting it made (since it takes my fil weeks to do it).
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