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Post by leannec on Apr 19, 2020 2:34:46 GMT
Hey ladies! Welcome to the texting, phone call, video call version of being single week  Rob ... met him on Bumble a couple of weeks ago and we text everyday ... he's 39 and sells insurance ... we talk about the places we'll go on dates when this is all over ... yay! someone who plans to have a normal relationship  Jared ... frustrating dude #1 ... I've known him since October but he has ghosted me twice and come back ... now he's back but his texts are so inconsistent ... when I text him I sometimes get a response and sometimes I don't ... I like him but I don't know if he is worth the effort  Justin ... frustrating dude #2 ... I've known him since October and we were in constant contact until the past month ...now he'll go a week or more without contacting me and it's pissing me off ... yes, he probably has a girlfriend right now   Marc ... met him on Bumble ... he's 30 and a lawyer ... he's super nice and will probably turn into a great FWB when this is all over  FWB ... we had a bit of a spat the other day over something stupid and "broke up" but that lasted exactly two days ... whenever we break things off he texts me within a few days and I take him back ... we are addicted to each other I think ... but, for many reasons, we can't be together  We text everyday ... sometimes for hours ... we also speak on the phone and video call  Whew! For a week where I couldn't see anyone in real life I actually had a lot to say I texted and messaged through Bumble with quite a few men with no expectation of meeting which made things interesting. I'm the type of person who gets to the point and doesn't text forever before suggesting we meet so that's been a challenge. I posted this on Facebook the other day ... it's totally for us   How are things going for you? New members, tell us about your week! There were a couple of good updates at the end of last weeks thread ... here it is: Last weeks thread
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Post by alexa11 on Apr 19, 2020 2:53:21 GMT
I just joined Bumble- again- but can't remember how it works. Do you have to match with someone? And then the woman has to message first? Or can I just message whoever I want? Not too many guys my age on there. I just went through them all- ugh. So, I lowered my age requirements...
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Post by kelly316 on Apr 19, 2020 2:57:03 GMT
Hey ladies! Welcome to the texting, phone call, video call version of being single week Rob ... met him on Bumble a couple of weeks ago and we text everyday ... he's 39 and sells insurance ... we talk about the places we'll go on dates when this is all over ... yay! someone who plans to have a normal relationship Jared ... frustrating dude #1 ... I've known him since October but he has ghosted me twice and come back ... now he's back but his texts are so inconsistent ... when I text him I sometimes get a response and sometimes I don't ... I like him but I don't know if he is worth the effort Justin ... frustrating dude #2 ... I've known him since October and we were in constant contact until the past month ...now he'll go a week or more without contacting me and it's pissing me off ... yes, he probably has a girlfriend right now Marc ... met him on Bumble ... he's 30 and a lawyer ... he's super nice and will probably turn into a great FWB when this is all over FWB ... we had a bit of a spat the other day over something stupid and "broke up" but that lasted exactly two days ... whenever we break things off he texts me within a few days and I take him back ... we are addicted to each other I think ... but, for many reasons, we can't be together We text everyday ... sometimes for hours ... we also speak on the phone and video call Whew! For a week where I couldn't see anyone in real life I actually had a lot to say I texted and messaged through Bumble with quite a few men with no expectation of meeting which made things interesting. I'm the type of person who gets to the point and doesn't text forever before suggesting we meet so that's been a challenge. I posted this on Facebook the other day ... it's totally for us How are things going for you? New members, tell us about your week! There were a couple of good updates at the end of last weeks thread ... here it is: Last weeks thread
I forget your age, but I think close to mine. I have a 20 something year old pursuing me hard IRL. Not a dating site. I guess I don’t get it. Have you experienced this?? |
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Post by leannec on Apr 19, 2020 3:02:26 GMT
I just joined Bumble- again- but can't remember how it works. Do you have to match with someone? And then the woman has to message first? Or can I just message whoever I want? Not too many guys my age on there. I just went through them all- ugh. So, I lowered my age requirements... You message the ones you are interested in and they have 24 hours to message you back ... if they don't, they are gone forever I think ... Did you pay for a membership on Bumble? If you do, you can see the men who are interested in you, not just the ones they suggest for you ... it's worth it Yay, for lowering your age requirements |
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Post by alexa11 on Apr 19, 2020 3:10:26 GMT
Did you pay for a membership on Bumble? If you do, you can see the men who are interested in you, not just the ones they suggest for you ... it's worth it No- not yet. I did a month of that on Tinder. Right now I have 273 likes and it's exhausting. Just a quick look through some of them and it's not worth my time. I think I have a problem haha. |
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Post by leannec on Apr 19, 2020 3:17:59 GMT
I forget your age, but I think close to mine. I have a 20 something year old pursuing me hard IRL. Not a dating site. I guess I don’t get it. Have you experienced this?? I'm 53 in a few days ... I have had a 22 year old pursue me IRL because he saw my photo and was given my number by a guy I was dating ... they are related ... he's super cute and super sweet but I just couldn't go there ... I realize that I like them young but 30 is my cutoff We do actually still text from time to time but he understands that there is no future ... I had to be very direct in saying that. Good luck |
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Post by kelly316 on Apr 19, 2020 3:22:22 GMT
I forget your age, but I think close to mine. I have a 20 something year old pursuing me hard IRL. Not a dating site. I guess I don’t get it. Have you experienced this?? I'm 53 in a few days ... I have had a 22 year old pursue me IRL because he saw my photo and was given my number by a guy I was dating ... they are related ... he's super cute and super sweet but I just couldn't go there ... I realize that I like them young but 30 is my cutoff We do actually still text from time to time but he understands that there is no future ... I had to be very direct in saying that. Good luck Okay, the age difference is about the same. It seems like a waste of time. So inexperienced. 😂 boy, I could teach you some things! He is persistent though! |
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Post by socalscrapper on Apr 19, 2020 3:23:36 GMT
I'm 46 and widowed for 14 months. I just joined Match and Bumble. I'm soooo new to all this. I was married for almost 19 years and together for 24 so it's been awhile since I've been "out of the pool." I have no clue what I'm doing. The only thing I do know is that being in lock-down/quarantine/whatever we are calling it has made me realize that I don't want to be alone. I have littles at home (7 yr old twins) so that is going to make it a bit harder. They can go to Grandmas at some point if something becomes serious. I have some babysitters I can use too for dates.
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Post by leannec on Apr 19, 2020 17:26:17 GMT
Sleep is for losers! I started messaging a guy on POF at about 1 am last night and that moved onto texting ... we texted until 4:30 am and then spoke on the phone for a few minutes ... so fun This situation is making people get creative and I kind of like it We've already texted this morning ... he's a nice diversion ... oh, his name is Clayton, he's 40 and a social worker He's the reason I posted the "What's For Dinner?" thread late today ... I slept in  Have you ever stayed up all night talking/texting with someone? |
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Post by Delta Dawn on Apr 19, 2020 17:30:11 GMT
Sleep is for losers! I started messaging a guy on POF at about 1 am last night and that moved onto texting ... we texted until 4:30 am and then spoke on the phone for a few minutes ... so fun This situation is making people get creative and I kind of like it We've already texted this morning ... he's a nice diversion ... oh, his name is Clayton, he's 40 and a social worker He's the reason I posted the "What's For Dinner?" thread late today ... I slept in Have you ever stayed up all night talking/texting with someone? Yes oodles of times. Sleep is a waste of time. |
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Post by luckyexwife on Apr 19, 2020 17:37:10 GMT
I'm considering joining a bumble. The only thing holding me back right now, is my ex is being a huge selfish p****. He won't sign the papers because "he doesn't know what he wants" . Sorry dude, when you decided to have an affair you decided what you want it. I don't want to start a relationship with someone when I'm technically still married, even though it's because my ex won't sign the papers.
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Post by leannec on Apr 19, 2020 17:42:13 GMT
I'm considering joining a bumble. The only thing holding me back right now, is my ex is being a huge selfish p****. He won't sign the papers because "he doesn't know what he wants" . Sorry dude, when you decided to have an affair you decided what you want it. I don't want to start a relationship with someone when I'm technically still married, even though it's because my ex won't sign the papers. My ex and I don't plan to get divorced anytime soon so we're obviously dating while married ... he's actually living with someone already I'm honest with the people I date and no one has had a problem with it ... you really need to give yourself the permission to start your life |
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Post by River on Apr 19, 2020 21:51:32 GMT
Hey girls!!
I've had a few guys from match re-engage with me this week. That seems so weird to me. I've chatted a bit but keeping kind of distant.
Things are still good with John. I've invited him on a kayak trip that me and my friends do every year. It'll be the first time I've brought a guy around my friends.
He has a beach house rented this summer on a private quiet beach. He's invited me AND my kids to join him, his son and granddaughter.
I'm praying my dickhead ex stays away and doesn't screw all this up for me. AGAIN.
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Post by luckyexwife on Apr 20, 2020 2:09:08 GMT
Hey girls!! I've had a few guys from match re-engage with me this week. That seems so weird to me. I've chatted a bit but keeping kind of distant. Things are still good with John. I've invited him on a kayak trip that me and my friends do every year. It'll be the first time I've brought a guy around my friends. He has a beach house rented this summer on a private quiet beach. He's invited me AND my kids to join him, his son and granddaughter. I'm praying my dickhead ex stays away and doesn't screw all this up for me. AGAIN. That is good news about John! |
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Post by kelly316 on Apr 20, 2020 2:20:29 GMT
I'm considering joining a bumble. The only thing holding me back right now, is my ex is being a huge selfish p****. He won't sign the papers because "he doesn't know what he wants" . Sorry dude, when you decided to have an affair you decided what you want it. I don't want to start a relationship with someone when I'm technically still married, even though it's because my ex won't sign the papers. My ex and I don't plan to get divorced anytime soon so we're obviously dating while married ... he's actually living with someone already I'm honest with the people I date and no one has had a problem with it ... you really need to give yourself the permission to start your life You don’t have to say if you do not want to of course, but why do you jot plan to divorce anytime soon? |
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Post by socalscrapper on Apr 20, 2020 2:36:00 GMT
What should I change in my profile? Advice?
I'm an elementary teacher and a mom of twins that keep me busy. I like most kinds of music (except hard rock and rap) but tend to come back to country, especially 80s and 90's country. I don't watch many movies or TV but I have a few shows I keep up on. My hobbies these days include making digital photo books and a few DIY projects. I've spent the last year having my house remodeled and completing projects that had been put off for way too long. I love a good day trip on the weekends. We have so many great places to explore locally. I spent many weekends at Disneyland this year until they closed. I can't wait for the day we can get out and be with others again. Until then, I'm here in quarantine like everyone else just trying to stay safe. I will admit, I make my daily run for "essentials" AKA-- Starbucks espresso. HA HA Looking for friendship first and see where it goes from there.
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Post by alexa11 on Apr 20, 2020 3:20:54 GMT
River- I'm so glad that you're seeing John again!
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Post by leannec on Apr 20, 2020 4:50:48 GMT
What should I change in my profile? Advice? I'm an elementary teacher and a mom of twins that keep me busy. I like most kinds of music (except hard rock and rap) but tend to come back to country, especially 80s and 90's country. I don't watch many movies or TV but I have a few shows I keep up on. My hobbies these days include making digital photo books and a few DIY projects. I've spent the last year having my house remodeled and completing projects that had been put off for way too long. I love a good day trip on the weekends. We have so many great places to explore locally. I spent many weekends at Disneyland this year until they closed. I can't wait for the day we can get out and be with others again. Until then, I'm here in quarantine like everyone else just trying to stay safe. I will admit, I make my daily run for "essentials" AKA-- Starbucks espresso. HA HA Looking for friendship first and see where it goes from there. Let's see ... Don't mention your kids first ... talk about the funny stuff like day trips and Starbucks ... let me try: I'm a teacher who is looking for friendship first ... a Starbucks espresso is an excellent way to make the first move. We live in a place that others would love to be! When this is all over I look forward to visiting Disneyland on the weekends with someone who can appreciate that magic! Other day trips would be a lot of fun too. My interests include country music (and other types of music) and various DIY projects around the house ... I'm pretty handy if I do say so myself! Are you handy? I have a set of twins, aged " " that keep me busy but I'm willing to make time for the right person. **If I knew more about you I could do a better job! |
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Post by socalscrapper on Apr 20, 2020 7:11:00 GMT
What should I change in my profile? Advice? I'm an elementary teacher and a mom of twins that keep me busy. I like most kinds of music (except hard rock and rap) but tend to come back to country, especially 80s and 90's country. I don't watch many movies or TV but I have a few shows I keep up on. My hobbies these days include making digital photo books and a few DIY projects. I've spent the last year having my house remodeled and completing projects that had been put off for way too long. I love a good day trip on the weekends. We have so many great places to explore locally. I spent many weekends at Disneyland this year until they closed. I can't wait for the day we can get out and be with others again. Until then, I'm here in quarantine like everyone else just trying to stay safe. I will admit, I make my daily run for "essentials" AKA-- Starbucks espresso. HA HA Looking for friendship first and see where it goes from there. Let's see ... Don't mention your kids first ... talk about the funny stuff like day trips and Starbucks ... let me try: I'm a teacher who is looking for friendship first ... a Starbucks espresso is an excellent way to make the first move. We live in a place that others would love to be! When this is all over I look forward to visiting Disneyland on the weekends with someone who can appreciate that magic! Other day trips would be a lot of fun too. My interests include country music (and other types of music) and various DIY projects around the house ... I'm pretty handy if I do say so myself! Are you handy? I have a set of twins, aged " " that keep me busy but I'm willing to make time for the right person. **If I knew more about you I could do a better job! THANK YOU!!! I used what you wrote and combined it with what I had and added a few details. |
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Post by leannec on Apr 20, 2020 13:41:42 GMT
Let's see ... Don't mention your kids first ... talk about the funny stuff like day trips and Starbucks ... let me try: I'm a teacher who is looking for friendship first ... a Starbucks espresso is an excellent way to make the first move. We live in a place that others would love to be! When this is all over I look forward to visiting Disneyland on the weekends with someone who can appreciate that magic! Other day trips would be a lot of fun too. My interests include country music (and other types of music) and various DIY projects around the house ... I'm pretty handy if I do say so myself! Are you handy? I have a set of twins, aged " " that keep me busy but I'm willing to make time for the right person. **If I knew more about you I could do a better job! THANK YOU!!! I used what you wrote and combined it with what I had and added a few details. You are welcome! I wish you the best of luck  |
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Post by sharlag on Apr 20, 2020 16:03:08 GMT
Good job on the rewrite, leannec !!
I use a lot of self-deprecating humor on my profiles, and get a good response rate. If a guy isn't attracted to the humor part of my personality, good to wave him off from the start. "Once, when I was pregnant, I ate a Frito that I found on the floor of my car" is usually my opening or closing line. If that sounds familiar, it started a thread on the old website years ago.
I NEVER feel so boring as I do when answering the "what do you do for fun?" question on dating sites, or new online contacts. It's the bane of my dating site experience! I don't have anything exotic or remotely interesting to answer.
I've gotten off all of the sites and am just talking to the one guy that I like. I feel like the cliche person who is stringing along a handful of other guys, in case this one doesn't work out. But I'm not really talking to anyone else, I'm just not telling them why.
The guy I *AM* talking to has jokingly pointed out that I actually blew him off a few months ago on Match.com I looked back at our chat history, and we really DID get along right from the start, but another guy was more 'aggressive' and advanced to texting, and IRL meeting. I don't enjoy juggling people at that point. I know it's not efficient, but those are my limitations.
I'm 56, and I don't mind at all if the texting and phone calls get dragged out a while. I do understand though, from experience, that chemistry on the phone/text can be a TOTAL flop IRL. I'm just slower to do that than I think a lot of y'all in these threads.
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Post by melanieg on Apr 20, 2020 16:57:06 GMT
If you are bored and want to rework my profile, have at it. (I know its boring...lol)
I am loyal, honest and caring. I have a full time job. I own my own place and car. I travel when I can. I am quiet until I get to know someone. I am funny and a bit sarcastic at times.
I enjoy photography, travelling, going to the gym, movies, music, art (painting), hanging out w friends and family.
I know I may not be perfect for everyone, but I am for someone as they are for me. If you want to know more, message me. Let's chat.
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Post by sasha on Apr 20, 2020 17:25:59 GMT
Good job on the rewrite, leannec !!
I use a lot of self-deprecating humor on my profiles, and get a good response rate. If a guy isn't attracted to the humor part of my personality, good to wave him off from the start. "Once, when I was pregnant, I ate a Frito that I found on the floor of my car" is usually my opening or closing line. If that sounds familiar, it started a thread on the old website years ago.
I NEVER feel so boring as I do when answering the "what do you do for fun?" question on dating sites, or new online contacts. It's the bane of my dating site experience! I don't have anything exotic or remotely interesting to answer.
I've gotten off all of the sites and am just talking to the one guy that I like. I feel like the cliche person who is stringing along a handful of other guys, in case this one doesn't work out. But I'm not really talking to anyone else, I'm just not telling them why.
The guy I *AM* talking to has jokingly pointed out that I actually blew him off a few months ago on Match.com I looked back at our chat history, and we really DID get along right from the start, but another guy was more 'aggressive' and advanced to texting, and IRL meeting. I don't enjoy juggling people at that point. I know it's not efficient, but those are my limitations.
I'm 56, and I don't mind at all if the texting and phone calls get dragged out a while. I do understand though, from experience, that chemistry on the phone/text can be a TOTAL flop IRL. I'm just slower to do that than I think a lot of y'all in these threads.
This is so damn funny, Sharlag! I'm not married but I've dated my high school crush now for 2 1/2 years with a small break in between where I dated someone on my coed team who was 37. I'm 52. I never did online dating but have a friend who did. She had some really interesting stories! So I'm going to have to follow this thread because it's definitely interesting. And good for you all -- if FWB or booty calls are all you want and need, that's awesome. I don't think I could just b/c I don't really know if it's possible to only be FWB and be female, esp. if not getting responses to texts bother you. I think feelings come into it more than you realize! But that's my personal thought/observation from every woman I've ever known who has what they call a FWB! |
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Post by sharlag on Apr 20, 2020 17:46:16 GMT
I think feelings come into it more than you realize! I concur. |
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Post by leannec on Apr 21, 2020 3:19:54 GMT
If you are bored and want to rework my profile, have at it. (I know its boring...lol) I am loyal, honest and caring. I have a full time job. I own my own place and car. I travel when I can. I am quiet until I get to know someone. I am funny and a bit sarcastic at times. I enjoy photography, travelling, going to the gym, movies, music, art (painting), hanging out w friends and family. I know I may not be perfect for everyone, but I am for someone as they are for me. If you want to know more, message me. Let's chat. OK, lets give it a shot I'm looking for someone who is loyal, honest, caring and intelligent. I hope you have a sense of humour because I'm told that I am funny and a bit sarcastic at times! I may come across as quiet at first but that soon melts away. I am not looking for someone to take care of me! I want someone who owns (or hopes to own) a house and a car and has a good job because I have all of those things and I believe they are important at this point in life. Really, it's not too much to ask. My favourite things to do are spend time with family (hard to do right now!), travel (LOVE IT!), photography (I can always use a new model!), movies, music and art (painting). I also enjoy going to the gym and would love to have someone to go there with. In the end, I am just wanting someone who is willing to take a chance on me because I think I am pretty interesting! ***How's that? |
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Post by melanieg on Apr 21, 2020 4:22:59 GMT
You are pretty good at this Leanne!
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Post by socalscrapper on Apr 21, 2020 4:46:57 GMT
You are pretty good at this Leanne! I think it's a calling! You are REALLY good!!! |
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Post by leannec on Apr 21, 2020 5:10:03 GMT
You are pretty good at this Leanne! I think it's a calling! You are REALLY good!!! Thanks ladies ... glad I could help! I'm a decent writer because I'm a Humanities teacher and I write decent profiles because I know what men are looking for |
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Post by luckyexwife on Apr 21, 2020 11:26:31 GMT
I think it's a calling! You are REALLY good!!! Thanks ladies ... glad I could help! I'm a decent writer because I'm a Humanities teacher and I write decent profiles because I know what men are looking for When I'm ready, I'll post mine here too! |
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Post by leannec on Apr 21, 2020 14:24:59 GMT
Thanks ladies ... glad I could help! I'm a decent writer because I'm a Humanities teacher and I write decent profiles because I know what men are looking for  When I'm ready, I'll post mine here too! Yes! Please do! Give me as much info as you can and I'll write it for you  |
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