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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Oct 27, 2014 0:50:04 GMT
My daughter was invited to a friends to play today, they do this almost every Sunday and it has been a few weeks.
She is better friends with the younger of the two sisters but she has been friends with the older sister for about 4 years. They all three generally hang out when she is there.
I go to pick her up and the older sister says... quite perkily, " I have Mono!" I was quite surprised because she was working the haunted house at her school yesterday and out about at the Halloween festival all day.
She then told me she had a fever today, and can't go back to school until Tuesday at the earliest.
She was diagnosed on Thursday! I am annoyed that the Mom didn't give me a heads up so that I could decide if my daughter would go there or not.
I do realize she has been exposed before today, she was with the older sister on Wed. and Thursday at rehearsals, but it is quite different being in her house.
If it was your child who had Mono would you have other children over to play?
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Ugh... just got a text from the Mom that the OTHER child, my daughters friend has Mono! I am officially pissed off!!
Not only was my kid exposed but the older daughter was working at the bake sale booth at the Fall Festival on Saturday. Way to think of ANYONE other than yourself Mom!
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Post by scrappinmama on Oct 27, 2014 0:54:17 GMT
I had mono in college, and was very sick for about a month. I mean couldn't get out of bed, put on steroids kind of sick. I don't remember how long someone is contagious. But I would not invite people over if someone in my house had mono.
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Post by freecharlie on Oct 27, 2014 1:58:20 GMT
I'd be pissed at the mom, but I honestly don't know how contagious mono is.
I got it in high school and was out for a week and not 100% for another week.
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Post by caro on Oct 27, 2014 2:06:48 GMT
Mono definitely hits each kid differently. My DD had it and was out of school for 6 weeks. My DS#2 had it and was out of school less than a week.
I was told it was only contagious by drinking after or kissing the infected person. DD and DS#2 had it years apart. No one else got it in our household when they were sick.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Oct 27, 2014 2:42:53 GMT
Mono definitely hits each kid differently. My DD had it and was out of school for 6 weeks. My DS#2 had it and was out of school less than a week. I was told it was only contagious by drinking after or kissing the infected person. DD and DS#2 had it years apart. No one else got it in our household when they were sick. That's good to know!!! The Mom is an ER doctor and I have to say I don't think she generally makes good decisions about her own girls... I would always tell someone if I had a sick and potentially contagious person in the house. |
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Post by padresfan619 on Oct 27, 2014 3:07:52 GMT
I had mono in high school. Unless you're swapping spit (kissing or sharing drinks) you're fine.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Oct 27, 2014 3:37:49 GMT
Did you actually talk to the mom? I am curious if she really DOES have mono? I can't imagine a kid "perkily" saying they have mono!! Usually they are pretty sick. ??!
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Post by scrapulous on Oct 27, 2014 4:01:15 GMT
I had it for five months. That's not a typo, lol. I had to get blood work every couple weeks to check my liver, and they verified each time that the virus was still in my system. I was a newlywed, and my dh never got it although we didn't refrain from kissing. Or anything. But I didn't let anyone else drink after me. I also didn't quarantine myself. I had to go places still. I didn't mention to everyone that I had contact with that I had Mono, I just didn't sneeze on them or share drinks. No one got it from me that I know of.
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Post by scrapulous on Oct 27, 2014 4:02:21 GMT
I mean all my friends and family knew, I just didn't announce it when I was out in public.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Oct 27, 2014 4:05:50 GMT
Did you actually talk to the mom? I am curious if she really DOES have mono? I can't imagine a kid "perkily" saying they have mono!! Usually they are pretty sick. ??! No I didn't see the Mom... but the kid is a pretty straight shooter. My daughter said she didn't know she was sick or had a fever but she did keep sneezing. UGH! |
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Post by marimoose on Oct 27, 2014 5:07:19 GMT
It isn't that easy to catch as others have mentioned. My boys shared a room and the younger one got it. The older one has never had it. The younger son missed a week of school and was really weak when it first hit. He was in 6th grade and didn't know anyone else who had mono. My older daughter hd it at age 7, 2 weeks after I gave birth to my youngest daughter. Again, no idea where it came from and she was hit pretty hard, missing about a week and a half of school. In college my boyfriend got it and was so sick that he had to drop out of school. He had all kinds of complications, involved his liver. It was that bad. I didn't get it because I had it at age 7. Generally speaking, once you have it you can't get it again.
Maybe the girl has it but the mom isn"t too concerned because she knows how low the chance of catching it is. I do think you should be made aware but I wouldn't be too worried. Oh, I don't recall sneezing associated with mono.
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Post by kels99 on Oct 27, 2014 5:36:32 GMT
DD had it a couple of years ago and, if I remember correctly, it's contagious starting whenever a person gets the virus and has an incubation period of up to 180 days and can be contagious for months after symptoms are gone. Also, once a person has had mono, they are always a carrier and it may occasionally "flare up" and they'll be contagious again for up to a year and a half, but they'll have no symptoms.
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Post by my.unquiet.mind on Oct 27, 2014 6:00:02 GMT
I had mono when I was 18. Upon diagnosis, my doctor cleared me to continue attending school. I didn't miss a single day of school that entire year.
Like others have already said, mono isn't nearly as tcontagious as most people think it is. I had relatively few symptoms--a sore throat and fatigue were the only noticeable ones--and I was old enough to use common sense when it came preventative measures.
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Post by krispin41 on Oct 27, 2014 6:15:40 GMT
I had mono in college, and was very sick for about a month. I mean couldn't get out of bed, put on steroids kind of sick. I don't remember how long someone is contagious. But I would not invite people over if someone in my house had mono. This was my experience too. I initially thought I had strep... When I was cleared to go back to work, I worked for about a week and then had a relapse. My throat almost closed up and I had to have steroids. |
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Post by gar on Oct 27, 2014 8:24:57 GMT
I have found that medical people tend to under-react to things like this and treat it almost casually. She may have supervised the kids enough to ensure they didn't share cups etc but knowing it can be quite hard to pass on, not worried too much.
My DD was in bed for about 3 - 4 weeks and tok a good couple of months of taking it easy to be properly well again.
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Post by scrapulous on Oct 27, 2014 13:41:21 GMT
No, sneezing is not associated with Mono. But I sneeze randomly all the time, even when I'm not sick, if I get a tickle in my nose. If you have Mono and you sneeze in someone's face, they can get a droplet of your saliva in their eyes/nose/mouth.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 27, 2014 13:43:38 GMT
I had mono in college, and was very sick for about a month. I mean couldn't get out of bed, put on steroids kind of sick. I don't remember how long someone is contagious. But I would not invite people over if someone in my house had mono. This was my daughter's exact experience when she had mono in college. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 27, 2014 14:21:59 GMT
My understanding is that Epstein Barr (the virus that causes mono) is pretty common and most of us have been exposed even without knowing it. Maybe that was her perspective. Still, I'm a person who errs on the side of caution. If I have a cold, I let people know before they come over, and I appreciate people who do the same, so I at least have a choice. ETA: I would absolutely have let someone know about mono before visiting.
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Post by utmr on Oct 27, 2014 14:59:17 GMT
Unless you are sharing bodily fluids, it's not that contagious. IDD had it last year and none of us got sick. And the sick kid can totally be perky. DD went in cycles, felt lousy a couple of days, stayed home and rested up, felt good, went back to school, overdid, felt bad again.
Civer your mouth when you sneeze, wash your hands, and don't touch other peoples fluids. Good rules for all things.
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Post by moveablefeast on Oct 27, 2014 15:45:45 GMT
I was told to assume I was contagious as long as I had a fever, but that extensive precaution was not necessary. Wash hands, wipe down surfaces, don't share glasses or forks.
My family did not get it from me.
I was also told that I should do activities as I felt able.
If a friends child was diagnosed on Thursday, I think I would give it a week before I had play dates with them. I would have appreciated a heads up.
I have chronic EBV. I don't usually tell people and I don't alter my activities any more than necessary during a flare. I'm medically clear to work and work with kids as much as I feel able even during a flare unless I have a fever.
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Post by bc2ca on Oct 27, 2014 15:57:45 GMT
Mono is something that hits everyone differently. One friend in high school missed a whole semester because she was so fatigued/sick. No one else in our group of friends was sick.
One of my sisters had it a year or so after that and no one else in the family got sick. She didn't miss much school, but was off a day here and there for 6-8 weeks.
ETA If my sister was up to it, she went to school and participated in after school activities, had friends over and went to friends houses. All her friends knew she had Mono, but I'm not sure if my mom contacted the other parents.
Even if the other parent didn't think there was a high risk of spreading the Mono, she should have let you know IMO.
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Post by scrappinmama on Oct 27, 2014 18:45:44 GMT
Unless you are sharing bodily fluids, it's not that contagious. IDD had it last year and none of us got sick. And the sick kid can totally be perky. DD went in cycles, felt lousy a couple of days, stayed home and rested up, felt good, went back to school, overdid, felt bad again. Civer your mouth when you sneeze, wash your hands, and don't touch other peoples fluids. Good rules for all things. I never shared a glass or kissed anyone when I caught it. Since it is spread through nose or throat fluids, I know it is spread by kissing or sharing glasses. But that was not the case with me. I suppose someone could have spit when they talked, and it flew into my mouth (ewwwww!). I really have no idea how I caught it. |
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Post by purplebee on Oct 27, 2014 19:07:46 GMT
DS had it last summer. He was sick for about a week, tired, sore throat, low grade fever, achy and just felt bad. Had what I thought was a flare up a couple of weeks ago. Low grade fever again, missed a couple of days od work, but after about 5 days, was fine.
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Post by blue tulip on Oct 27, 2014 19:22:38 GMT
i had mono sophmore yr of college. worst symptoms resolved in about 2-3 mos, but i didn't feel "right" for almost 8.  as for contagiousness, i can only say i "made out" with about 4 boys during that time (hey, i'd just gotten out of a long term relationship, don't judge) and no one else got it. yes, i warned them, but they didn't care lol.  |
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Post by Dori~Mama~Bear on Oct 27, 2014 20:12:30 GMT
Mon is the kissing disease. You ave to be close to the person but it is highly contagious. My daughter had it in the 7th grade was out of school for 2 weeks. I had to go to the school and get her work for her. She also was told to not let anybody drink of eat from her cups or plates. not to hug or kiss any body. She was really sick she was in bed for most of the 2 weeks. meds do not make it not contagious. when you have the symptoms you are contagious.
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Post by scrapulous on Oct 28, 2014 22:53:01 GMT
In my case I'm pretty sure I got it while on vacation with three other women. We spent a week together, and shared drinks during that time. Then I didn't see them again for years. But three of us came down with Mono within a few weeks of each other, six months after our vacation. The fourth woman never got it at all. This was 19 years ago. I don't know if there is scientific evidence to back this up, but I've heard it's a virus that you can acquire but not have any symptoms for months or years, until you get run down from running yourself ragged, or for some other reason find yourself with a weakened immune system. Then it can develop into infectious mononucleosis. That would seem to be the case with the three of us, who lived in different countries at the time we became symptomatic.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Oct 29, 2014 16:55:36 GMT
Updated. Grrrr!!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 29, 2014 17:01:57 GMT
She really should have let you know. I would be pissed, too!! However, to reiterate what the others are saying, your daughter will most likely not catch it. I really hope she doesn't! Ugh.
BTW - I had mono in college and it was one of the most sick times I have ever had in my life. Truly miserable.
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Post by mikklynn on Oct 29, 2014 17:42:52 GMT
My son had it in high school. We have no idea how he got it. No one else in the house got it. I do take steps to prevent the spread of illness, like Clorox wipes on all surfaces and isolating person to one bathroom. ETA - not sharing, I didn't mean they have to stay there!
I wouldn't worry too much. I will agree the mom was inconsiderate.
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as for contagiousness, i can only say i "made out" with about 4 boys during that time (hey, i'd just gotten out of a long term relationship, don't judge) and no one else got it. yes, i warned them, but they didn't care lol. 
