2Peas Refugees Single Ladies Thread ... 05/09 ... share!

Oh a new scammer for me today From Red Deer this time. I cant figure out why that is all i get.

I get dumpster divers, scammers or losers with multiple ex-wives. Multiple. Worse than Ross.

I’ll trade you my toothless admirer for a scammer with a great smile. 😂

I am super lonely, and sad.

Oh I hate that! My youngest daughter is back in the US and it’s hard with the lockdown for her. I’m in Korea and they closed schools but not a lockdown like the US, we can go places. So I can’t imagine what it’s like to be confined to home mostly and alone, very hard. I’m so sorry and sending you guys hugs from way over here...hang in there!

I mess w the scammers all the time.

I think the pool around here is too small.

Im ok w a distance relationship. I dated a guy for 2 years who lived 1.5 hrs away and worked up north in oil and gas 2 weeks at a time. It worked goid for my independent life lol i cant deal w a clinger.

I’m still chatting a couple of hours almost every night with my widower. I was concerned at first because it hasn’t been but 8-9 months since his wife passed. Then after talking a while I’ve found out that she had been ill for years. Just from our talks I think he spent quite a while mourning the loss of her while she was so ill. He seems like a very nice genuine man. It will be interesting to finally meet when the shelter in place is over. I guess I’ll have to whip up a sexy new mask. 😂

I am doing better than I thought I would. I am lonely and I am sad, and when I picture the longterm prospects of trying to meet someone during this time it does seem pretty hopeless.

I was really surprised that when I lost my job, several men I'd been texting regularly for weeks and had tentative plans to meet up from 6 ft apart to say hi and see each other in person, all stopped talking to me. An extra hurt during a hurtful time.

Last night I talked on the phone for over two hours to a guy named Blake that I actually went on a date with a few years ago (about three years ago). That first date is one I've told lots of people about since, because not only did he tell me I reminded him a lot of his Ukranian grandmother, but after he walked me home and said goodnight, he texted me after HE got home and said that he sure wished he'd bought a bag of chips on his way home, and then I just never ever heard from him again! It was just such a hilarious way to end things. And also he was part of a rash of men that all told me I reminded them of their Ukrainian mothers/grandmothers, and it was starting to get weird. Anyway, he apologized several times, and I laughed a bit over it.
I don't know what kind of relationship he'd be, but he's interesting and we have so much in common (vintage tastes, music, other interests like cooking and baking and gardening), and he's sort of the old man equivalent of my inner old lady.

Do you ever meet someone and think you'd rather just have him as a friend because that seems more valuable than a sexual partner?
I recall distinctly feeling that way about my ex-boyfriend.. when we met I just felt so "at home" with him, I remember thinking I didn't want to ruin anything by having sex with him and that we should consider just being friends.

cindyupnorth, I’m still holding out for both — best friend and epic lover. I’ve had that once before so I feel like it’s definitely possible to have again. My marriage was so dull and repressive sexually I know I don’t want to live like that again... but shared interests and overlapping tastes are also important to me. Especially someone that I can talk to. I just need to franken a man out of a few potentials! lol.

It's the pandemic, but also more. It's overwhelming to think about, but I am responsible for so much right now, my ex has checked out, other then to drop a few cruel comments to me, and he also won't sign the papers so we can be done and move on. I just want to lay in bed and cry, but I have to be the responsible one. Thank you for asking.

Four hour video date with the guy I've been talking to. I think that was also video date #4? He's smart and funny and kind. Then we usually text during the day and sometimes call in the evening (when my kids aren't with me). He told me we've known each other for a month. It both seems longer (seems like we've known each other forever) but also not very long at all (because it still seems fresh & new).

Thank you.