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Post by leannec on May 23, 2020 15:00:07 GMT
Hey ladies! Not much has changed for me this week ... damn pandemic  I still text and speak on the phone with FWB everyday ... one day he phoned me four times  We had a quick get together the other day which was nice since it has been awhile ... I'm hoping to see him again on Wednesday  Rob and I still text everyday too ... I really need to meet this dude in person ... we've been texting for weeks and it really is time ... my city is planning to start opening up some restaurants next week I think so fingers crossed  I hear from Jared a couple of times a week ... no change there ... another one where I just have to wait for the city to open up ... so freaking frustrating  I actually started texting and phoning with a new guy out of the blue earlier this week ... 99.9% of the guys who message me on POF are duds but I liked him so I started talking to him ... his name is James, he's 39 and works for the government ... he's really cute and seems nice ... we'll see where that goes ... probably nowhere  A number of you updated your situations on last weeks thread today ... why don't you copy and paste them onto this thread as well? Are your communities opening up a bit now? Are you looking forward to going on real dates? Link to last weeks thread |
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Post by alexa11 on May 23, 2020 17:20:04 GMT
Here that's code for scammer haha. |
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Post by leannec on May 23, 2020 17:34:54 GMT
Here that's code for scammer haha. Hahahaha!!!! Well, I've texted and talked on the phone with him ... we'll see |
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Post by melanieg on May 23, 2020 22:53:09 GMT
Engineer or Army/Military here is code for scammer
Oh what i would do for a good military man.
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Post by leannec on May 23, 2020 22:58:19 GMT
Engineer or Army/Military here is code for scammer Oh what i would do for a good military man. Yup, I've had a few "military" men try to scam me ... I don't want to send money for your daughter in Prague |
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Post by socalscrapper on May 24, 2020 1:47:07 GMT
Nothing had really changed here either. Was going to just do it and try to meet up with Brad at least to say hi in person but his work schedule ramped up with things opening back up. He told me the next few weeks were going to be busy but dang I didn’t think he’d just disappear. So I sent him a text yesterday asking if he was working, sleeping, sick or just done. Well he responded almost right away apologizing. He’s been working 2 counties covering for someone else who is quarantined. Said both phones had been going off nonstop and that we would talk soon. So here we are. Hoping soon means soon and not another week. Time will tell. It doesn’t help that I’m not really ‘busy’ so I’ve got time on my hands and time is just creeping along these days. Grrrrr
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Post by leannec on May 24, 2020 4:28:32 GMT
Time will tell. It doesn’t help that I’m not really ‘busy’ so I’ve got time on my hands and time is just creeping along these days. Grrrrr I know how you feel ... waiting around royally sucks  |
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Post by gryroagain on May 24, 2020 10:13:38 GMT
I kind of want to be scammed just to mess with someone, is that odd?😂
Once a guy (super attractive) had “surgeon doctor” on his profile so I swiped solely to see if I’d get catfished.I messaged him it was cool he was a surgeon doctor and I had a canine dog. He messaged that I liked word games and blocked me, assuming he was indeed a scammer.
But that’s it. I want a good old back and forth mystery with hilarious hyperbole and shit.
Wow, I really need a job.
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Post by ashley on May 24, 2020 15:00:32 GMT
Today I’m feeling super lonely for another adult who cares about me as a person. And I miss even more having another adult to care about and be excited about.
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Post by ashley on May 24, 2020 15:01:49 GMT
I kind of want to be scammed just to mess with someone, is that odd?😂 Once a guy (super attractive) had “surgeon doctor” on his profile so I swiped solely to see if I’d get catfished.I messaged him it was cool he was a surgeon doctor and I had a canine dog. He messaged that I liked word games and blocked me, assuming he was indeed a scammer. But that’s it. I want a good old back and forth mystery with hilarious hyperbole and shit. Wow, I really need a job. Are you on Instagram? I’ve had four scammers in two days approach me there, they must be getting bored too. |
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Post by leannec on May 24, 2020 15:38:11 GMT
Today I’m feeling super lonely for another adult who cares about me as a person. And I miss even more having another adult to care about and be excited about. I'm sorry! I hope you find someone who deserves the amazing person you are |
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Post by socalscrapper on May 24, 2020 16:24:34 GMT
Today I’m feeling super lonely for another adult who cares about me as a person. And I miss even more having another adult to care about and be excited about. This! |
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Post by rickmer on May 24, 2020 16:37:41 GMT
my guy (A) has been saying and doing all the right things. his DD (my DD's best friend) seems to be getting more comfortable with the idea of "us" and my DD was really mad at her dad and actually had a chat with A about her feelings about her dad.
after it was over he turned to me and said "did i go too far? do you think that went well?". i said she is 19 and if she wasn't happy, you would know, she would politely beg off and not continue the conversation. the next day she came to me and she really enjoyed speaking to him as an adult (not her friend's dad) and found his views very empowering to her. so i think we are making headway there.
dating was way easier when i was 19 (the age i was when i met my ex).... lol!!
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Post by melanieg on May 24, 2020 16:47:44 GMT
Today I’m feeling super lonely for another adult who cares about me as a person. And I miss even more having another adult to care about and be excited about. This. Then i go exact opposite and enjoy my independence too much. I think i fear getting hurt again like my last major relationship. |
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Post by melanieg on May 24, 2020 16:52:25 GMT
I kind of want to be scammed just to mess with someone, is that odd?😂 Once a guy (super attractive) had “surgeon doctor” on his profile so I swiped solely to see if I’d get catfished.I messaged him it was cool he was a surgeon doctor and I had a canine dog. He messaged that I liked word games and blocked me, assuming he was indeed a scammer. But that’s it. I want a good old back and forth mystery with hilarious hyperbole and shit. Wow, I really need a job. Its not odd at all. Those are the only messages i get on pof. I guess my profile and/or pictures scream 'scam me!' and 'easy target!' I mess w them all the time. Sometimes they get right pissy and angry. Its so funny. Too much fun to mess w them. |
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Post by ashley on May 24, 2020 17:05:26 GMT
Today I’m feeling super lonely for another adult who cares about me as a person. And I miss even more having another adult to care about and be excited about. This. Then i go exact opposite and enjoy my independence too much. I think i fear getting hurt again like my last major relationship. I too really love my independence! I loved being able to just buy concert tickets for myself without having to clear someone else’s schedule and interests. I have grown to love travelling alone. So it’s not that I need someone in those respects — I really do like myself (mostly!) and enjoy my life. |
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Post by leannec on May 24, 2020 17:41:10 GMT
Today I’m feeling super lonely for another adult who cares about me as a person. And I miss even more having another adult to care about and be excited about. This! Hugs to both of you!  If I didn't have FWB I would be going crazy ... he's not a real relationship but during this crazy time he's keeping me occupied which is a good thing I have Rob on the line for when things open up which makes me excited  |
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Post by leannec on May 24, 2020 17:46:10 GMT
Today I’m feeling super lonely for another adult who cares about me as a person. And I miss even more having another adult to care about and be excited about. This. Then i go exact opposite and enjoy my independence too much. I think i fear getting hurt again like my last major relationship. You can have both! I fear getting hurt too ... I've already been burned by a couple of guys since I've been single ... it sucks ... but you move on to better things right? I'm just trying to have fun right now |
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Post by arrow on May 24, 2020 21:00:13 GMT
Today I’m feeling super lonely for another adult who cares about me as a person. And I miss even more having another adult to care about and be excited about. This is me right now. I’m thinking about joining a dating site, then I think of all the drama it may entail. I like my own company, I love not having to account for what I do or don’t do for the day. I took off on Saturday for a hike with a new group that’s started up locally and I didn’t have to check or justify that decision with anyone. And then I think it would be nice to have someone to relax and chill with.......... but then I don’t want to put myself through what I went through when my XH checked out. So undecided! |
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Post by Jessica on May 24, 2020 21:35:39 GMT
It's a mixed bag, isn't it? I've been reconnecting with someone during this and it's been lovely, but at the same time, I'm a bit more cautious and reading into things more than I normally would because I want to make sure it's just not out of convenience for either of us.
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Post by leannec on May 25, 2020 19:04:22 GMT
So FWB came to see me last night ... I sooooo needed it He even brought pizza so we ate pizza between round one and round two I'm hoping to see him on Wednesday as well ... we'll see |
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Post by Enna on May 26, 2020 7:48:09 GMT
Picking myself after bad experiences is getting harder and harder. I did end up trying some online sites out again, not really looking for anything. Haven't had much luck in the past either.
I did meet someone and just clicked, or so I thought. We messaged daily for three weeks and I started to think that I should plan a trip to see him. Sure there was too much distance, but I did like him a lot.
Well, it turned out that he's married. And I do feel stupid and bit defeated now.
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Post by leannec on May 26, 2020 9:08:07 GMT
Well, it turned out that he's married. And I do feel stupid and bit defeated now. I've been in your exact position ... not that long ago in fact ... it hurt because I was really into him I just picked myself up and moved on ... and I've met a couple of great guys since then ... who I will hopefully date once things open up here a bit more Don't be too hard on yourself ... and be open to meeting new people ... hugs to you |
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Post by ashley on May 26, 2020 12:34:43 GMT
Picking myself after bad experiences is getting harder and harder. I did end up trying some online sites out again, not really looking for anything. Haven't had much luck in the past either. I did meet someone and just clicked, or so I thought. We messaged daily for three weeks and I started to think that I should plan a trip to see him. Sure there was too much distance, but I did like him a lot. Well, it turned out that he's married. And I do feel stupid and bit defeated now. Please don’t feel stupid or defeated... liars LIE and they’re great at deception. There are honest men out there. |
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Post by gryroagain on May 26, 2020 12:51:21 GMT
Enna you are NOT responsible for a lying liar who lies. No one is psychic- the man was trash but a good liar. And good men are out there.
I have a really good flow of a FWB and Mr Optimistic is over almost every night...but...family chaos and it’s back to the US I go. So quarantine and all that and just the general uncertainty...I haven’t spoken to either in a few days. I have only so much emotional energy. So I feel like I’ll be gone and quarantine times an indeterminate amount of time and have to start all over 😔
(Mr Optimistic knows about FWB and vice versus. I’d explain but it’s TMI so y’all can just wonder 😜)
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Post by leannec on May 26, 2020 13:34:27 GMT
.but...family chaos and it’s back to the US I go. So quarantine and all that and just the general uncertainty. How long do you expect to be in the US? Best of luck to you! |
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Post by sharlag on May 26, 2020 21:15:01 GMT
Here that's code for scammer haha. When I first started online dating, I remember actually believing some of the stuff guys told me. Looking back-- pretty hilarious. |
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Post by ashley on May 26, 2020 21:19:33 GMT
FWB asked again to see me... this is difficult.
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Post by sharlag on May 26, 2020 21:24:37 GMT
FWB asked again to see me... this is difficult. Difficult to wait? |
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Post by River on May 26, 2020 21:40:25 GMT
I had a very different weekend than what was planned and I think it actually turned out for the better. Friday, John and I were to head out for a camping/Kayaking 4 day weekend with some friends of mine. I was really really looking forward to seeing how John interacts with my friends and to see how he likes Kayaking.
Well Wednesday I came down with horrible pain and knew right away it was a kidney stone. It didn't seem to pass and the pain was just way worse than I usually have with a stone. Got into my doctor that I see for stones and had a CT scan. He called late Wednesday night and said not only was it too big to pass but I had two, one on each side and both were stuck. I needed surgery the next morning to break them up and have stints put in. He told me I'd really want to cancel my up coming trip. Bummer on all accounts.
I end up with no one to take me to the hospital Thursday so John says he'll take off work and take me, then asks me to come stay at his place for the whole weekend while I recover. He wasn't at all upset about me having to cancel our trip, either. Wow, I'm certainly not used to that!
He drives me an hour to the hospital and has to stay in the truck the whole 5 hours I'm in there. He texted me funny stuff and kept my spirits up the whole time. I went back home with him after and did decide to stay till Monday. He was a great host, took wonderful care of me and really went above and beyond. He ummm, even used the "L" word. Gulp! All this and no sex could be had because of the darn stints.
It was a great weekend despite being in pain a good portion of it.
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We had a quick get together the other day which was nice since it has been awhile ... I'm hoping to see him again on Wednesday 
