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Post by 950nancy on May 30, 2020 22:21:06 GMT
Spouse with toys and games can sell them and put a down payment towards the vacation.
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caangel
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Post by caangel on May 30, 2020 22:59:40 GMT
The money aside, i'm struggling with the fact the vacation part. Is this a guys trip that she's wanting in on, which would be weird...or is this a couples trip that he doesn't want her to attend because she's broke? I suppose he could just be looking for some down time at a cabin by himself, i'm wondering what the dynamics are, who is going? This is the confusing part to me as well. Are men and women/couples going to be there? Is she wanting to go alone without him? Is he wanting to go alone without her? I thought he didn’t have any money to go because he spent it all on fun stuff? Why would she be left home alone broke? Are there jealousy issues here? But if it’s a girl’s trip, why would he want to go hang out by himself with the girls? If it is couples, why would she want to go alone without him? If it’s a guys trip, why does she want to go? This cannot be about the money. There’s something else going on here. None of this makes any sense. I’ve read through this thread twice and I’m still not following, lol. He saved his money, she spent hers on games and toys. He wants to go on vacation (with op and others, sounds like couples but not sure),she doesn't have the money.
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Post by kernriver on May 30, 2020 23:11:43 GMT
There is too much “my money” “your money” going on. Spouse with money should be able to go on vacation as planned. What if spouse whines for a game every time other spouse bought a game. ‘But I want a game too but I can’t because I’m saving my money”
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Post by bigbundt on May 30, 2020 23:35:04 GMT
Had either of them ever saved their fun money for vacation prior to this? For prior vacations, where did the money come from? Did the saver spouse not mention saving for this vacation using fun money? The whole thing is so bizarre.
My DH and I have separate fun money accounts but we don't use them for vacations, it is more for smaller purchases, which can add up. He doesn't say anything when he sees me come in the door with a few bags from the craft store and I don't say anything when he see him playing a new game. Vacations are not not paid out of fun money.
I can't imagine a relationship so nickle and dimed and rigidly 50/50 that my spouse would ever think it is appropriate to leave me at home on vacation because I was "broke". Even if I had spent all my fun money, he wouldn't leave me for not being able to pay my way. He probably wouldn't let me miss out on a girls trip without him if I had spent my fun money already.
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Post by pancakes on May 31, 2020 5:32:04 GMT
The money aside, i'm struggling with the fact the vacation part. Is this a guys trip that she's wanting in on, which would be weird...or is this a couples trip that he doesn't want her to attend because she's broke? I suppose he could just be looking for some down time at a cabin by himself, i'm wondering what the dynamics are, who is going? This is the confusing part to me as well. Are men and women/couples going to be there? Is she wanting to go alone without him? Is he wanting to go alone without her? I thought he didn’t have any money to go because he spent it all on fun stuff? Why would she be left home alone broke? Are there jealousy issues here? But if it’s a girl’s trip, why would he want to go hang out by himself with the girls? If it is couples, why would she want to go alone without him? If it’s a guys trip, why does she want to go? This cannot be about the money. There’s something else going on here. None of this makes any sense. I’ve read through this thread twice and I’m still not following, lol. I think the friend (woman) is the spender, not the saver. I don’t think it’s that they can’t afford it or that he wants to go solo. I think it’s more the principle of the idea that his wife spent all her money and never saves it and now he has to dig into his fun money as a result of her inability to be responsible with money. And the wife is mad that the husband would even entertain the idea of going alone and is probably mad because she knows she’s irresponsible with money. And probably mad that her husband didn’t tell her he was using fun money toward the vacation. So really it’s probably about a lack of communication and being annoyed at the other spouse’s personality/behavior.
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Post by freecharlie on May 31, 2020 15:00:22 GMT
if I was the spouse that dsved, I'd be irritated that the other spouse spent all her money and then wanted me to use my money to fund her
Like I said before, since it is months away. If wife really wants to go, she gives every penny of her fun money to the husband until her half is paid.
I have a feeling they do their money this way because she is bad with money
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